crackhaus:



What's confusing you?

The angry face.

I don't care if it is right or wrong, I promise my kids, my parents did the same. It didn't affect us in anyway, there is nothing wrong with rewarding a brilliant child, felt very cool getting more than just a sheet of paper for ones academic excellence.

A bottle of ribena isn't too much nah, haba!but it brings this priceless glee to the child's face .

Alubosa:
My nephew is presently with me to spend the mid-term brake. We were having breakfast this morning and I decided to engage him in a little conversation about his academics, peer pressure, grades and school generally. Minutes into our conversation the li'l man told me his dad has promised to take him to Disneyland (Orlando FL, USA) if he comes top of his class this session. . Is this necessary? Ain't we supposed to make our wards understand the fact that it is their sole responsibilty to excel in their academics? My wife is however against my stand on this. Pls I need your opinions.

I actually don't see anything wrong with it, especially if the end justifies the means.

However, the "rewarder" should always factor in the child's age and ensure the reward and is age-appropriate. Someone touched on the timing and that's another factor to consider. The younger the child, the shorter the timeframe they can wait. Nevertheless, it's all about actions and consequences. Least I forget, the frequency with which this approach is adopted shouldn't be excessive otherwise the child will always expect a reward / develop an entitlement mentality even to get the basics done. Moderation is the key - but nice concept nonetheless. A little "bribery" can be motivational.