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| Help by Nobody: 1:39pm On May 04, 2009 |
My boyfriend is helping me get a job n he is maltreating me,resently I was robbed in my huose so I packed out n nw I'm staying with him,do I give up everything n leave him considering the fat that he has all d connections n with his help I can get a job,I want to leave him desperatly but I'm thinking I should just wait till I get the job n leave him or I should just pull out cuz I'm loosing my patience,pls wot do I do? |
| Re: Help by Nobody: 1:43pm On May 04, 2009 |
When you say 'maltreating', please be a bit more specific, if you don't mind of course  |
| Re: Help by amebono13: 1:44pm On May 04, 2009 |
how is he maltreating you? |
| Re: Help by Secretz(f): 1:49pm On May 04, 2009 |
Oh pleeeees! If you wanna leave then just leave especially as you claim that he's 'maltreating' you! Even if you stay for the job, its still something you got through him, so to cut all ties, just go! Get a job on your own or through someone else. Otherwise you will still be connected to him! Simple. |
| Re: Help by izeek(m): 1:52pm On May 04, 2009 |
his demanding for , morning, afetrnoon and night. |
| Re: Help by ikamefa(f): 2:01pm On May 04, 2009 |
amebo no1.: yes oh! maltreating you how?  1. he constantly panel beats you 24/7  2. verbally abusive? 3. emotionally abusive? how? |
| Re: Help by Nobody: 2:02pm On May 04, 2009 |
Maltreating,u cnt imagine,beats me,sumtyms wen we argue,he tell me to sleep out.I'm just in a terrible relationship n I love him,he is so caring but sometimes he feels he is doing too much for me,he want to marry me but I told him no cuz of is attitude,I'm still young so marriage is d last tin on my mind(dunno if 22 is young 4 oda ppl)but I want to have my own b4 I get married.I'm so confused.I moved all my tins to his place.geting a job in nigeria is really dificult if u don't have the right connections, |
| Re: Help by Nobody: 2:07pm On May 04, 2009 |
Verbally n emotionally abusive,he beats,cudnt fight back but recently iv just developed sum strenghts n I fight back(never done it in my life,cuz in my past relationship,hav neva bin bitn,so nw he doesn't touch me but does oda annoying tins. |
| Re: Help by amebono13: 2:09pm On May 04, 2009 |
does other annoying things like wat?rape you, or have sex with you? leave did guy,even if u get a job and leave him, with his connections he can still take it from you |
| Re: Help by Secretz(f): 2:13pm On May 04, 2009 |
jackie.: Please, abeg, grow some brain cells! How can he be sooo caring but do all of that  No matter how desperate you are for a job, you shouldn't have to accept this kind rubbish!!! Where is your dignity?YES 22 is young! and that's coming from me who is older than you by some years! It's too young to go through all this crap. Where are your friends and family?? It's up to you sha, but the writing is on the wall! wharreva you do ma dear, DO NOT MARRY HIM!  |
| Re: Help by amebono13: 2:15pm On May 04, 2009 |
jackie.: where are your parents? your family? what kind of job are u looking for? |
| Re: Help by Nobody: 2:15pm On May 04, 2009 |
I don't think will do dat,I have broken up with him several times but he comes back begging and crying,he says dat even if we break up he'll still help me get a job but I don't want to take any risk I'm waiting cuz everyday he is following up on the job for me.pls just tell me wot to do.who knows I myt get help frm here |
| Re: Help by Secretz(f): 2:19pm On May 04, 2009 |
jackie.: *sighs* Jackie, Do wharreva you like my dear. But to be honest, most guys who do the things your guy does to you, always come back crying and begging until it happens again and again, and my dear, again. It's called a viscious cycle, but I would advise that you use some common sense! |
| Re: Help by ikamefa(f): 2:22pm On May 04, 2009 |
@jackie did you just post that he is caring?but then he beats you? @ 22 years of age what are you doing in a mans house? when you aint legally married to him wey yah papa and mama? and the rest of your family? so c o s of work connections, you've turned your self into a punching bag for a man? am finding it very hard to believe you |
| Re: Help by patwhizkid(f): 2:25pm On May 04, 2009 |
Story story! |
| Re: Help by Secretz(f): 2:26pm On May 04, 2009 |
ikamefa: abiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii! |
| Re: Help by amebono13: 2:28pm On May 04, 2009 |
@ 22 i wasnt thinking like a dullard jackie |
| Re: Help by Nobody: 2:28pm On May 04, 2009 |
My friends don't like him,they think iv broken up with him cuz iv bin liein to them,my family is in ph n they don't knw abt him,they kill me if they find out,I'm thinking of going back home cuz I'm tru with wot I'm doing in lag which is nysc.he makes me cry everyday. I'll just do as u say n leave him there r other men that want a serious relatnshp. |
| Re: Help by Feelitx(m): 2:30pm On May 04, 2009 |
@Jackie? What serious relationship are you talking about? I thought you said you are not yet ready for marriage. |
| Re: Help by presido1: 2:37pm On May 04, 2009 |
ikamefa:Maybe she is an orphan, even if do that house looks like an orphanage? Why kan't this lil gyls plan for the future first b4 thinking of Boys/Men. Becareful and move to parents house b4 i post this post or |
| Re: Help by Igwe9(m): 2:44pm On May 04, 2009 |
Feelitx:Before i say jackie Robinson, will you go back to your parents and reaccess your life and know what to do with it. |
| Re: Help by Epi: 3:02pm On May 04, 2009 |
sometimes i wonder if women are programmed to feel dependent on men. Its better to be independent just in case your "boyfriend or husband mistreats/maltreating you so you can leave him and be able to cope on your own. See, that's the problem with some of us women, we sit our asses waiting for the men to throw $$$ in our laps, buy us this, buy us that, money for hairstyles, dinner etc, and then we feel trapped. Learn to be independent - bake a cookie or two and sell them. And if he is beating up on you, have you heard of the Po-Po (POLICE) or 911?  I am a female and I am not afraid to say this "some Women are stupid you nuh- mmm". I swear they lose their senses when they are awake, so the best way to communicate with them is when they are sleeping. Women!! You can't live with them, you can't live without them. We are full of dramas, mon |
| Re: Help by dae(f): 3:07pm On May 04, 2009 |
My friend, u berra pack out of that Lions den and carry go to mummy and daddys house! because of money you let one yeye man turn you into a punching bag, i sorry for u o! |
| Re: Help by maray(f): 3:18pm On May 04, 2009 |
Casually moving in wit a guy u are not married to is wrong,is a pointless waste of time,if at d end of d day,he refuse 2 marry u.I think u are in d best position 2 know what is good 4 u,maybe to endure till u get d job and later move on wit ur life. |
| Re: Help by Pataki: 3:33pm On May 04, 2009 |
Some women are naturally born to be mumu all in the name of love! Keep living with him until you are six feet under the ground! @ maray, Is that you in your profile?  Nice! |
| Re: Help by Oxone(m): 3:34pm On May 04, 2009 |
Igwe.: run lyk hell babe & stop fooling yourself. dont sell yourself short for some lame job. ur better than that |
| Re: Help by yme1(f): 3:35pm On May 04, 2009 |
@poster what on earth are you waiting for, till he kills you abi!!!!!!!!!!!!! pls fu-ck the job and move out of his house women self when on earth are we gonna learn |
| Re: Help by Nobody: 3:46pm On May 04, 2009 |
Tnk u guys,ul hear frm me wit my suces story. |
| Re: Help by Igwe9(m): 11:15pm On May 06, 2009 |
jackie.:still waiting jackie |
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