Hello,I don't know if this is the right section to post this but am really confused and need matured advice.My story goes thus;after the joy of gaining admission,although I was not given my dream course I wanted English and was given Linguistics while i picked law in my UTME.I sound like a confused fellow right?Am actually not confused I know what I want,but due to circumstances am going to explain I chose law.
Lemme try to explain a bit,am from a broken home and my mom has been doing basically doing everything from finance to feeding,clothing and all.I have a dad but an irresponsible one.At times he sends money to me,but not every time and his inconsistent coupled with the fact that he fails to keep to his promise.So my mum wants me to study law by fire by force,just few days ago she has called that she is no longer concerned about my school and I should not call her because have failed to study law.I was once a science student,an unhappy one as at that because I was pushed by my mom to study science,in fact I was promised I will study medicine in any university in the world by my step-dad.The truth is that I was not thrilled a bit and crossed to art.Hell almost let loose and she told me after my 'o levels' when I come to meet her in abroad I will still go back to science.The plan failed and she wanted me to pick law for my UTME,I was left with no choice but to do that and now she has disowned me or I don't know if it is a threat.
Am planning my traveling process to go and meet her.Its almost through self and one of the condition is that,I have to deny my biological father at the interview because my step dad filed for me.I don't know if I will drop my surname,but she has been talking about putting me in medical school and I have to learn a trade i don't like because it will help me.I can not do what i like it is forbidden!Am being silenced in fear.I don't feel like traveling that is the truth.She doesn't even want me to accept the admission in the first place because it is not law and am traveling soon.Have decided to stand on my own but its impossible without financial support.I called my dad and he sent my fees promising to see me through.For the fact that my dad is irresponsible I have to have something I can fall back on if he fails me and I don't even trust him.The question is what can I do to sustain myself as a student?At times I have this fear of running back to my mum,which she knows I might later when I run out of cash.But a voice keeps telling me in my head 'to stand up for what i believe in' am so passionate about my dreams.Please am I making a mistake here or am on the right part? Everybody I know told me to go and beg my mum so I wont end up ON the street.If I finally gather the balls to stand alone what can i do to survive as a student?My dad is an option B,his inconsistent.So please help me.SORRY FOR THE LONG EPISTLE....CC lalastical please do the needful,am so confused right now I need my post to be pushed to F.P Thanks....

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Dear pls listen to ur mum.

She wants the best for u- she may sound harsh only becos she is emotional.


In the future, u will understand wat she means n u will be forever grateful that u listened to her.


.....My God n my mum are the brain behind my success.

#i owe them my life.

Travel to see ur mum, let her knw dat if u study law, u may not hav good grades and u dnt want her money to b wasted cuz its not ur passion...

Follow ur heart, dont do something just because ur mum is insisting, its your life not hers. Since your dad has decided to pay your fees, just study what you will be happy and fulfilled in. What kind of parent disowns his/her own child because of a course of study. Happiness is the most important thing in life my dear. Goodluck

@OP, listen to your mum, obey her.

I can't travel I don't have a visa.My mom won't listen so talking is out of it.She will shut me up and won't pick my calls.If talking will do it we would have been over that now...So talking its a no no no...

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Hello,I don't know if this is the right section to post this but am really confused and need matured advice.My story goes thus;after the joy of gaining admission,although I was not given my dream course I wanted English and was given Linguistics while i picked law in my UTME.I sound like a confused fellow right?Am actually not confused I know what I want,but due to circumstances am going to explain I chose law.
Lemme try to explain a bit,am from a broken home and my mom has been doing basically doing everything from finance to feeding,clothing and all.I have a dad but an irresponsible one.At times he sends money to me,but not every time and his inconsistent coupled with the fact that he fails to keep to his promise.So my mum wants me to study law by fire by force,just few days ago she has called that she is no longer concerned about my school and I should not call her because have failed to study law.I was once a science student,an unhappy one as at that because I was pushed by my mom to study science,in fact I was promised I will study medicine in any university in the world by my step-dad.The truth is that I was not thrilled a bit and crossed to art.Hell almost let loose and she told me after my 'o levels' when I come to meet her in abroad I will still go back to science.The plan failed and she wanted me to pick law for my UTME,I was left with no choice but to do that and now she has disowned me or I don't know if it is a threat.
Am planning my traveling process to go and meet her.Its almost through self and one of the condition is that,I have to deny my biological father at the interview because my step dad filed for me.I don't know if I will drop my surname,but she has been talking about putting me in medical school and I have to learn a trade i don't like because it will help me.I can not do what i like it is forbidden!Am being silenced in fear.I don't feel like traveling that is the truth.She doesn't even want me to accept the admission in the first place because it is not law and am traveling soon.Have decided to stand on my own but its impossible without financial support.I called my dad and he sent my fees promising to see me through.For the fact that my dad is irresponsible I have to have something I can fall back on if he fails me and I don't even trust him.The question is what can I do to sustain myself as a student?At times I have this fear of running back to my mum,which she knows I might later when I run out of cash.But a voice keeps telling me in my head 'to stand up for what i believe in' am so passionate about my dreams.Please am I making a mistake here or am on the right part? Everybody I know told me to go and beg my mum so I wont end up ON the street.If I finally gather the balls to stand alone what can i do to survive as a student?My dad is an option B,his inconsistent.So please help me.SORRY FOR THE LONG EPISTLE....CC LALASTICLAL PLEASE DO THE NEEDFUL, AM SO CONFUSED RIGHT NOW I NEED MY POST TO BE PUSHED TO F.P Thanks....

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What has this last bolded part of your post got to do with anything? Will it provide you with a final solution, fame or the answers you seek?

Answer it yourself and attain some clarity!

What exactly are your career plans?

Study law to make her proud, then while working as a lawyer sponsor yourself through what yoh want with evening classes

Your story is not coordinated and neither does it make sense.

what exactly are your dreams?