The closer you are to someone, the more likely you are to step on their toes. And being in a relationship with someone certainly puts you in close quarters. So the chances are good that you and your spouse have sore feet.

Okay, enough of the smelly metaphor. The point is that it's NORMAL for you and your spouse to be to err and for those "misses" to cause hurt...sometimes serious hurt.

Did your spouse hurt you? Have you made mistakes that hurt your spouse?

Except in the case of physical abuse, you can "move on" from anything. In fact, your relationship can end up even BETTER!

I know...you're probably thinking, "Better? How could it be better than before we screwed up?"

It CAN be better, but you have to do one thing first. You have to forgive.

What does it REALLY mean to forgive?

Many people will say, "I forgive you," but continue to harbor anger in their heart. Some people say the words, but it's obvious from their actions that nothing's changed.

Other people will say "I forgive you" but what they really mean is, "I don't want to talk about this. I can't deal with this. I'm turning you off." And so the 3 magic words come out and form a wall that shuts out their spouse. True, they're not angry, but that's because they've shut down all emotion and refuse to reconnect.

Saying "I forgive you" is an entirely different ball game than truly forgiving.

Look carefully at the word "forgive." It tells you what it means. "For-Give"...in other words, to GIVE as you did beFORE.

That's true forgiveness. When you GIVE of yourself like you did beFORE you were hurt, then you know you've forgiven. When you stand as close to your spouse as you stood the day your feet got stepped on...that's forgiveness.

That's not easy to do. But it is possible. You can forgive each other and move on.

And once you forgive, you'll see that your relationship will be BETTER than it was before. You'll be happy that the mistake was made (in a strange way) because you'll realize that you would never have achieved the love you finally did without that mistake as your catalyst.

Did you know that when a broken bone heals it's stronger than it was before it was broken? You too can be STRONGER than before things broke down between you and your spouse.

Did you ever make love after a big fight? Did you ever think after you made-up, "Hey, this is great? We should fight more often." (Ha Ha) Sometimes the highest-highs follow the lowest-lows.

But you have to know how to reconcile. You have to know how to get to a place of sincere forgiveness.


Have a forgiving heart and enjoy your relationship!
#peaceOut
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falconey:
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Think it well dude!

is this why some men or ladies initiate a fight out of the blues its such a lame excuse. respect peoples feelings and treat them the way you would want to be treated- simple.

Wen u want someone to knw dah u"v forgiven the person already, u do things dat amaze dem.. Like maybe honorin their invitations, not speakin bad about them.. Etc. The bible says wen u do all these, u mount heaps of coals on their head.

Heaps of coals doesn't generally mean literally buh the all the wondering and guessing will make dem shocked.


So its a lot more satisfyn to let things go...

F22RAPTOR:
is this why some men or ladies initiate a fight out of the blues its such a lame excuse. respect peoples feelings and treat them the way you would want to be treated- simple.

Tke it or leave it, even when the respect is so higher than the highest mountain, the quarell, fight, misunderstanding will still come. We are bound and created to have our differences. The question should be..."if such or any of these happens, how are we gonna make up for it?"

Cutehector:
Wen u want someone to knw dah u"v forgiven the person already, u do things dat amaze dem.. Like maybe honorin their invitations, not speakin bad about them.. Etc. The bible says wen u do all these, u mount heaps of coals on their head.

Heaps of coals doesn't generally mean literally buh the all the wondering and guessing will make dem shocked.


So its a lot more satisfyn to let things go...

Exactly... preach it and let em know!

I forgive but i seldomly forget...




what then is forgiveness when you see the wrong doings of the person anytime you are with them

Maybe i dnt even know how to forgive

but most times one ought to let go just to have peace

okay

Jollyjoy:
I forgive but i seldomly forget...




what then is forgiveness when you see the wrong doings of the person anytime you are with them

Maybe i dnt even know how to forgive

but most times one ought to let go just to have peace

Thats why you should have to let go. It can be learnt and worked upon, with the grace of God.
Its not always easy, but its achievable.
For a better courtship and marriage, after trust and love..forgiveness should be next...cos, we will always offfend ourselves.!

its quite easy to forgive than to forget.

damilareoye:
its quite easy to forgive than to forget.

If there isnt a tangible thing to hold on to to make us forget, the peace of mind should be enough!

For the sake of peace of mind, we should learn and tend to forgive and forget!

donTbone:

If there isnt a tangible thing to hold on to to make us forget, the peace of mind should be enough!

For the sake of peace of mind, we should learn and tend to forgive and forget!

Nice one bro.. You really made a point here