OK, I am definitely using an alternate account for this and kinda edited the story... I know too many peeps on NL. Had to make this short.

I met this girl about two years ago,we became best of friends and I started having this 'feeling' for her. I couldn't tell her cause I didn't want to spoil what we spent two years building, but I really started loving her.

I 'wasted time' and a new guy came into the picture, I felt heartbroken as I intended asking her out prior to the discovery. I then tried to distance myself from her as I couldn't handle the 'jealousy' but the more I push her away the closer she comes. Truth is, I really love this girl but she seems happy with this guy and I don't want to ruin that happiness.

I don't really want her gone forever but I just need space to heal...

NB: we are currently not in the same state, but she chats me up and calls like every minute

It's good to follow your heart at times and it's also advisable to leg go of imaginations.

She calls you doesn't mean she loves you.

But if you think she do love you, ask her out and hear from her because if she do love and want to be with you, she will break up with the new guy (e dey happen wella)

cesspit:
OK, I am definitely using an alternate account for this and kinda edited the story... I know too many peeps on NL. Had to make this short.

I met this girl about two years ago,we became best of friends and I started having this 'feeling' for her. I couldn't tell her cause I didn't want to spoil what we spent two years building, but I really started loving her.

I 'wasted time' and a new guy came into the picture, I felt heartbroken as I intended asking her out prior to the discovery. I then tried to distance myself from her as I couldn't handle the 'jealousy' but the more I push her away the closer she comes. Truth is, I really love this girl but she seems happy with this guy and I don't want to ruin that happiness.

I don't really want her gone forever but I just need space to heal...

NB: we are currently not in the same state, but she chats me up and calls like every minute

SHE HAS 'FRIEND-ZONED' YOU BRO..... STOP TAKING HER CALLS, STOP REPLYING HER TEXTS, THEN AFTER 3 OR 7 DAYS, PICK HER CALLS AND BE VERY COLD, THEN SHE WOULD WANNA KNOW WHATSAPP, SIMPLY TELL HER YOU WILL EXPLAIN ON WHATSAPP... AND DROP THE BOMB LIKE ITS HOT ON HER... TELL HER YOU HAD TO TAKE TIME OFF TO PUT YOUR MIND IN ORDER CAUSE YOU HAVE ALWAYS HAD FEELINGS OF TRUE LOVE FOR HER BUT YOU SACRIFICED IT TO MAKE HER HAPPY WITH HER NEW MAN, SO YOU HAD TO GIVE SPACE SO AS TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE YOUR HEART CAN LOVE AGAIN, SINCE SHE IS ALREADY TAKEN.::::::
ONCE YOU USE THIS FORMAT, SHE WILL BE ON A ROLLER COASTER AND SHE WILL OPEN UP TO YOU.... IF AT ALL SHE HAS A SLIGHT ISH WITH HER CURRENT GUY, SHE WILL GIVE HER LOVE TO YOU IN A D.H.L PACKAGE ....CHEERS BRO

Were you single when you met her? You wasted time? More like you're a dumb-sufferer. She seems happy with the guy and still wants you around. It's obvious she likes you as a friend. Don't ruin what she's having. Stop bein' pansy and move on.

Thanks a lot bosses, think I will have to go with tripplephi on this one

Bless u two.

Mchew. Excuse

Faced same thing a while ago
Guess wah I did,?
I hardened my heart and pushed her away. .ditto

I think u should do same

tripplephi:

SHE HAS 'FRIEND-ZONED' YOU BRO..... STOP TAKING HER CALLS, STOP REPLYING HER TEXTS, THEN AFTER 3 OR 7 DAYS, PICK HER CALLS AND BE VERY COLD, THEN SHE WOULD WANNA KNOW WHATSAPP, SIMPLY TELL HER YOU WILL EXPLAIN ON WHATSAPP... AND DROP THE BOMB LIKE ITS HOT ON HER... TELL HER YOU HAD TO TAKE TIME OFF TO PUT YOUR MIND IN ORDER CAUSE YOU HAVE ALWAYS HAD FEELINGS OF TRUE LOVE FOR HER BUT YOU SACRIFICED IT TO MAKE HER HAPPY WITH HER NEW MAN, SO YOU HAD TO GIVE SPACE SO AS TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE YOUR HEART CAN LOVE AGAIN, SINCE SHE IS ALREADY TAKEN.::::::
ONCE YOU USE THIS FORMAT, SHE WILL BE ON A ROLLER COASTER AND SHE WILL OPEN UP TO YOU.... IF AT ALL SHE HAS A SLIGHT ISH WITH HER CURRENT GUY, SHE WILL GIVE HER LOVE TO YOU IN A D.H.L PACKAGE ....CHEERS BRO

Op this guy is talking sense

Matthew 7:7

Ask and ye shall be given...



Why not ask her out?? You never can tell, she might be having feelings for you...

tripplephi:

, SIMPLY EXPLAIN ON WHATSAPP... AND DROP THE BOMB ... TELL HER YOU HAD TO TAKE TIME OFF TO PUT YOUR MIND IN ORDER CAUSE YOU HAVE ALWAYS HAD FEELINGS OF TRUE LOVE FOR HER BUT YOU SACRIFICED IT TO MAKE HER HAPPY WITH HER NEW MAN, SO YOU HAD TO GIVE SPACE SO AS TO MOVE ON AND FIND SOMEONE YOUR HEART CAN LOVE AGAIN, SINCE SHE IS ALREADY TAKEN.::::::
ONCE YOU USE THIS FORMAT, SHE WILL BE ON A ROLLER COASTER AND SHE WILL OPEN UP TO YOU.... IF AT ALL SHE HAS A SLIGHT ISH WITH HER CURRENT GUY, SHE WILL GIVE HER LOVE TO YOU IN A D.H.L PACKAGE ....CHEERS BRO

better

oP make up your mind on what you want.She's taken and in another state ..can you handle that?

Free the girl jare..it will be a back and forth love.

cesspit:
OK, I am definitely using an alternate account for this and kinda edited the story... I know too many peeps on NL. Had to make this short.

I met this girl about two years ago,we became best of friends and I started having this 'feeling' for her. I couldn't tell her cause I didn't want to spoil what we spent two years building, but I really started loving her.

I 'wasted time' and a new guy came into the picture, I felt heartbroken as I intended asking her out prior to the discovery. I then tried to distance myself from her as I couldn't handle the 'jealousy' but the more I push her away the closer she comes. Truth is, I really love this girl but she seems happy with this guy and I don't want to ruin that happiness.

I don't really want her gone forever but I just need space to heal...

NB: we are currently not in the same state, but she chats me up and calls like every minute

So you're willing to give up a girl you love because you're not "willing to ruin that happiness". Noble.

And FOOLISH.

If she felt something for you, she would have shown it, nothing can keep a woman away from showing affection to a man she loves.

The fact she has someone shows you that your not a priority for her in that regard. Most likely friendship is all she cares to give.

It up to you if you want to pursue her, just ask yourself why she never made any move on you first, in those two years?

Truth hurts but it can also free you of any illusions.

Hmm what's happening today? Everyone seems to want to move on...https://www.nairaland.com/2738065/need-advice-how-break-up.

My man, if you love something go for it, nor dull or waste time. If it's yours, its yours. Don't be considerate, if that guy were to be in your shoes do you think he'll consider you? In fact when you are dating the girl, he won't even consider you and will try to take her from you. Smh, the sooner you are realize we are in a jungle full of lions, the better.