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Deeply Confused About This Relationship. Please Kindly Advise. / Pls How Do I Save This Relationship As Our Sexual Life Is in a Total Mess / Should I End This Relationship. (2) (3) (4)
| Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by MYDEBBY(m): 4:00pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Dear Nairalanders compliment of the season,I just came back from dubai where I reconciled with my wife and kids.before this reconciliation,I had already gone into a serious relationship with a girl here in Nigeria.The family of this girl had known me and my intention of getting married to this girl without any of them knowing am married already which I concealed from them intentionally so I can marry this girl.Having gained the trust of both the girl and her parents,she became pregnant for me and is delivered of a baby girl.But now am reconciled with my wife.and don't want to have a second wife again.how do I go about with this girl am into a relationship with without hurting any party? thanks in anticipation of your advice. |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Jeggings: 4:09pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
MYDEBBY: Are you sure you fathered the child? With your condition, that is near impossible. What do you people gain cooking up boring stories? 2 Likes |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Miami11: 5:13pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Congratulations you have a second wife, welcome to the world of polygamy. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by lilmax(m): 7:15pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
MODS please lock this thread |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by ivyT(f): 7:48pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
lilmax:Exactly.. Op can think 4 himself.u dont DERSERVE our advice.. |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by DonTim1: 8:45pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Thrs no happy/okay ending Someone at least MUST get hurt! |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by yvelchstores(f): 11:55pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
I am trying so hard not to use an insulting word on you. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Ayomel(m): 2:28am On Dec 20, 2015 |
You are the kind of man that give other men bad name. Don't worry you pay for this evil when it's time 2 Likes |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by fav444(f): 11:37am On Dec 20, 2015 |
I know d part of the country where you came from. Secret wife toooo much there. SMH...... Am not totally against having a second wife cos Most patriarchs in d Bible had two wives. Instead of adultery get a second wife. Christianity encourages only one wife just to make life simpler for us. But my offence is this. WHY MUST U HIDE THE EXISTENCE OF THE FIRST WIFE FROM THE SECOND? Simply, tell her d TRUTH FROM DAY ONE. If she wants to stay, she will stay otherwise let her go. Thats why I like our brothers from d north. The first wife is FULLY aware of d coming of d second. |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by prettychick: 1:00pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Useless Man, y did u hide d fact that u were married from the lady and her family.This is pure wickedness and selfishness at its peak.May God judge you |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by byvan03: 1:33pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
You are a very wicked man, see what you did to a young lady. You have dented her life. Why tell a lie of such magnitude? hurting another 's future for your selfish reasons. 2 Likes |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by eyinjuege: 2:27pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Troll   |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Nobody: 4:15pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
MYDEBBY: You are a foolish mad man!. See how you have destroyed a girls like. Disgusting vermin! 1 Like |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Gozye(m): 5:07pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
All of you raining insult on this man who is sincerely seeking a positive way forward are you better off? Dont you have your own flaws? even Jesus said we should not call him good master except God.did you all know the parts played by the other parties that had led this guy into this? Please if you don't have any good advice better park one cornercorner.cos I perceive this guy is sincerely trying to confront his challenge positively. |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Gozye(m): 5:43pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Young man I salute your courage for seeking the way forward my candid advice to you at this critical point of your life is to be very careful cos your ability to overcome this challenge will catapult you to a greater success in life otherwise it will mar you.do the following: 1.Ask God for forgiveness and commit everything into His hand 2.He that covereth his/her sins shall not prosper but whoso confesseth and forsaketh shall have mercy.So Start by letting your real wife know and then apologize to her. 3.Tell the other lady you have a woman in your life which you never told her.Apologize to her and promise to take care of her and the baby now on a neutral ground not as intimate.In order words free her gradually.But please don't abandon her at this time to cater for the child alone 4.Ask her of the necessity of letting her parents know of this development.she may give you a very good guide on how to go about this with her parents 4.If you must see her parents at this time go with a member of your family. 5.All the same through God you shall do valiantly.He forgives and helps no matter the gravity of our sin. I wish you all the best |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Richy4(m): 8:33pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Hmm!!!! I just feel really sad reading this. What do you take relationship to be sir? An electronic gadget you can buy and later decide you do not want it anymore and sent it back to the seller? Some times when people die unexpectedly or bad things happen to some people , many will be like oh!! such a good person, very innocent, upright, cannot hurt a fly bla bla bla. But many do not know how wicked the heart of that person was..... mtcewwwwwh!!!!!Let me just take a walk out of this thread and slam the door behind me before I say something that is not dignifying here.... 4 Likes |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Richy4(m): 8:50pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Gozye: Bro please when you see evil condemn it. and it shall be well with you and your family. Yes every one got flaws and flaws got grade. and this is just the height of it... This is wickedness from the pit of hell. just imagine that girl in question was your sister? I suppose you won't be preaching this. He managed to conceal the fact that she got a wife and kids somewhere and did not even tell them. he has been leading the girl and her family on all this while and even got her pregnant. then all of a sudden, he does not want her anymore. You know the mentality of Nigerian men and how they feel about a single parent right? how many men dates single mothers this days.... I don't know how to say this but he has succeeded in ruining the girl's future of having an eligible single man except divine intervention... 6 Likes |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by dspecialist(m): 12:45am On Dec 21, 2015 |
It's unfortunate cos this similar scenario happened to a close female friend of mine. I know the pains she went through to recover. The poster is an eediot. While you are reconciling with your wife, your mouths were tied and you could not tell her you have a pregnant lady else where? You didnt know you would reconcile with your wife before impregnating another lady and keeping her in the dark that you aint married? See... For any grief / pains you put these ladies in whenever / whichever / however you choose to let them know, or they somehow find out. May that grief / pains be in multiple folds for you. |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by austine4real(m): 7:43am On Dec 21, 2015 |
This pass my pawa o. Just ask 4 4givenez. Man u wicked o. Gudluck 2 u |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by austine4real(m): 7:43am On Dec 21, 2015 |
This pass my pawa o. Just ask 4 4givenez. Man u wicked o. Gudluck 2 u |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by chisunday(m): 8:06am On Dec 21, 2015 |
Thank you all for your contribution,no matter what.I have told my wife and she has forgiven me even tho what she did forced me into this other lady.I have also told the lady and she understood how genuine I was before coming to her just that she had to forgive me for not telling her initially.I have also ask God for his mercies and also promised to take care of my baby and the girls school. However the girl told me not to open up to her parents for fear of my being hurt. She also told me how I would present it to her parents for the sake of peace. Contrary to what you might be thinking my sister passed through this in the hand of a warrior guy,which my family never did any hurtful thing to the guy and now my sister is happily married.I bet you by the help of God and my effort her life is not and cannot be ruined. |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Lalaity: 4:13pm On Dec 21, 2015 |
chisunday: CORK AND BULL PLEASE LET US KNOW WHEN YOU ARE AWAKE. 1 Like |
| Re: Help With Your Advice Am In Dilema Over This Relationship by Naavah(f): 9:21pm On Dec 21, 2015 |
Hehehe. Someone is about to become a single mother or have a junior wife. Men 1 Like |
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