HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! by Habiba Bashir
This may not be the best time for me to write
on this because of misinterpretations, but I
can no longer resist the push. "Husband
Scarcity" has become one of the challenges
faced by many young girls today. If you go to
prayer houses, majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life partner. And this calls for
concern. Casting our minds back to the time
of our mothers and grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than women
then, or there was an adequate corresponding
numbers of both genders. I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values and were
prepared to build a home and not park into a
built home. Then, once a young man comes of
age and can at least feed himself and his wife,
he goes out in search of a wife and the
woman really appreciates him and helps him
to build a future. What am I really trying to
say? We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the
reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to
define her dream husband; you get things like
"he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich,
own a house at least, and be presentable" and
then she adds "God fearing" in order not to
sound so worldly. Then, check the number of
girls around you and the number of men that
meet that standard, and you will see the
problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in
my father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you have
everything you want and there is no suffering,
and later in the marriage, the table turns
around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is
good to start small and end big, than start
big and end small. The problem is that the
description majority of girls give of their ideal
man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want
the same kind of man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1 man, and the man
can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49
others? They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time
is that it is hard, due to the face of our
economy to find a man who is of marriage age
who possesses all those things these ladies
want, legally (except those involved in Internet
fraud); even the number of those in Internet
fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands. If you
look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are
ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for making him,
without a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt complete
and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of
building the family of God here on earth. For
those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS...
DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS
DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a
route to where God has destined him to be
tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE
THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am
not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage, not all
men are husband materials. What I am saying
is that you should stop setting your standard
on material acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT
WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS
WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he
is made of is, most times, not seen with the
physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is
seen is temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer.
God did not just make Eve for making sake;
He made her for Adam's need to be

So on point!....... Educative!

Good people are like ripe fruits not visible to bats.
They are hard to find.

Nicely written and deeply thought out I must say. Too deep for any discountenance. Respect to whoever authored this.

cant read ,,too long and no spacing...

the next generation coming will go thru hell to find a responsible man and a decent lady

joliyp:
the next generation coming will go thru hell to find a responsible man and a decent lady

Not the next generation. Even this generation is going through hell to find a responsible man and a lady that is not money and material driven.

Seyibabalola:


Not the next generation. Even this generation is going through hell to find a responsible man and a lady that is not money and material driven.

you are right I wonder wen all these will stop

sexymoma:
Pomo Men Everywhere

hungry women everywhere

sexymoma:
Pomo Men Everywhere

hungry women everywhere

octopusfreaky:
cant read ,,too long and no spacing...

No offence I guess you are one of them



#Team notice you

when demand is over supply.

How many times will this story appear hear.
Anyways, its meant for the ladies.

Unfortunately, this writter forgot to add those that want it BIG, STRONG & LONG.
Na dem dey complain pass diz days.

we are not looking for husbands we are looking for clay to mould our dream man

There's no husband scarcity... Wey men plenty for Naija pass women. Abegi na money..

The way men write... like they don't expect anything from their wives...

Like a man who likes big butts will settle for a flattie

Or a big boobz guy will settle for flat chest...

Or a sucker for intelligent conversations will marry a materialistic "dumbo"...

Btw, I know my post is a little shallow(yes, I know so no need to tell me) but ya'll really have to stop crying...

I'm sure you see girls who don't mind starting from scratch with u but your big eyes are on that tall, fine, round ass n boobs sisi ...

Only come to make noise if you don't desire vain things yourself.

Leave the crying for husband scarcity to us mbok...

sexymoma:
E pain you so tey you quote me twice.....well pomo men will always see hungry women..So all ya life you never see better woman wey get quality... u be correct pomo man

I mistakenly posted twice dear. I even tried to delete one of them but I could find where to do that. so don't get me wrong. it didn't pain me ooo. I even enjoyed your comment. Also am not one of the POMO MEN. You may try me. So where do we start from?

sexymoma:
E pain you so tey you quote me twice.....well pomo men will always see hungry women..So all ya life you never see better woman wey get quality... u be correct pomo man

I mistakenly posted twice dear. I even tried to delete one of them but I could find where to do that. so don't get me wrong. it didn't pain me ooo. I even enjoyed your comment. Also am not one of the POMO MEN. You may try me. So where do we start from?

Adaeze003:
The way men write... like they don't expect anything from their wives...

Like a man who likes big butts will settle for a flattie

Or a big boobz guy will settle for flat chest...

Or a sucker for intelligent conversations will marry a materialistic "dumbo"...

Btw, I know my post is a little shallow(yes, I know so no need to tell me) but ya'll really have to stop crying...

I'm sure you see girls who don't mind starting from scratch with u but your big eyes are on that tall, fine, round ass n boobs sisi ...

Only come to make noise if you don't desire vain things yourself.

Leave the crying for husband scarcity to us mbok...

Vain things but they are necessary too dear. Na only dull man no go like or want such features ooo.

Adaeze003:
The way men write... like they don't expect anything from their wives...

Like a man who likes big butts will settle for a flattie

Or a big boobz guy will settle for flat chest...

Or a sucker for intelligent conversations will marry a materialistic "dumbo"...

Btw, I know my post is a little shallow(yes, I know so no need to tell me) but ya'll really have to stop crying...

I'm sure you see girls who don't mind starting from scratch with u but your big eyes are on that tall, fine, round ass n boobs sisi ...

Only come to make noise if you don't desire vain things yourself.

Leave the crying for husband scarcity to us mbok...

Vain things but they are necessary too dear. Na only dull man no go like or want such features ooo.

Seyibabalola:


Vain things but they are necessary too dear. Na only dull man no go like or want such features ooo.

Vain things but they are necessary too dear. Na only dull man no go like or want such features ooo.

Eh na then stop to cry abeg... go for what you want, let the ladies do same. Abi na water she wan take package boobs and behind well??

Adaeze003:


Eh na then stop to cry abeg... go for what you want, let the ladies do same. Abi na water she wan take package boobs and behind well??

Am not crying dear. did you see water in my eyes?

Adaeze003:


Eh na then stop to cry abeg... go for what you want, let the ladies do same. Abi na water she wan take package boobs and behind well??

Am not crying dear. did you see water in my eyes? God will provide. Rome is not built in a day. Every wealthy man today had a struggling or rough past. No condition is permanent

cruzita:
we are not looking for husbands we are looking for clay to mould our dream man

why u nor go sambisa go mould your dream man from dia..

Seyibabalola:


I mistakenly posted twice dear. I even tried to delete one of them but I could find where to do that. so don't get me wrong. it didn't pain me ooo. I even enjoyed your comment. Also am not one of the POMO MEN. You may try me. So where do we start from?

I mistakenly posted twice dear. I even tried to delete one of them but I could find where to do that. so don't get me wrong. it didn't pain me ooo. I even enjoyed your comment. Also am not one of the POMO MEN. You may try me. So where do we start from?

awon team virgin till marriage... Una doh ooo

sexymoma:
awon team virgin till marriage... Una doh ooo

Thanks dear. Am feeling you