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Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 2:28pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Especially if they're girls and the age gap between them is just a year |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Moana(f): 2:46pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
The mother is meant to resolve the dispute in a fair manner thats all 1 Like |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 3:12pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Moana: There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right? |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Moana(f): 3:15pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:to be fair and not side with a child because she is younger or older. |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 3:17pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 3:40pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Suigeneris93: that mother isnt raising her children properly, she should only side with the child that she believe is RIGHT, and explain the reason why to the other child |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by GraceBestowed(f): 3:53pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
I've seen this happen a lot where a parent takes the side of one sibling over the other. This is very wrong practice because even the children can, and will, see that the parent is wrong. Doing so will also create a disconnect between the parent and her children. Always stand for what is right, remain fair and consistent. You can never go wrong by doing that! 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Teespice(f): 4:19pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
all shades of wrong. what happened to her being fair and neutral. taking sides in an argument comes with slow consequences, one of which is the seed of discord that would be planted among the siblings. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 5:51pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: Should she even be seen taking sides with anyone of them whether they're right or wrong? |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 5:52pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Teespice: True, it couldn't have been said better |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by pet4ril(f): 5:52pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
No!!! Just be fair to both of them |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 5:52pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Teespice: Hmmmmmn...nice point |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 6:03pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Suigeneris93: OF COURSE!!!! she must teach her kids to ALWAYS side with righteousness, at all cost. teach her kids that there is no reward for doing what is wrong and that she will never stand by wrong. as much as we all love our kid, standing (aka taking side) by a child who is right doesnt mean we are abandoning a child who do wrong, it just means that we stand by what we believe is RIGHT..... always. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 6:10pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Teespice: how can you be fair to the child who is RIGHT, if you dont stand by his actions?! why should you be neutral, if a child is RIGHT and the other is WRONG?! every actions in life (whether RIGHT or WRONG) have consequences, and a parent siding by a child who done right is appropriate have we lost the meaning of RIGHT and WRONG that we cant even stand by what we (parents) believe is RIGHT?! 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 6:40pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: Alright cool. But I've seen cases where mothers don't correct the older child(whether right or wrong) before the younger to save the older child's face and retain the respect and distance of one for the other |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Teespice(f): 6:53pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: You have a point. |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by MRBrownJ: 9:12pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
Suigeneris93: these parents have lost the plot on raising children properly (like so many out there), over respect between siblings. respect and righteousness are 2 different things, and shouldnt be mixed. you should always "try" to respect your elders, but you certainly shouldnt stand for anything wrong, ever.... because someday "respect" and "righteousness" may clash, and your kids MUST/SHOULD always make the right decision. RIGHTEOUSNESS over RESPECT, always! whether older or youngest, what is right is RIGHT, and nothing can/should change that. parents certainly wont be fair if they instill some kind of immunity of the older child, whether he/she does right or, most importantly, WRONG. there should be only one authority in family, and thats YOU (aka parents), but even at that, you are not immune from being reprimanded if you do wrong. teach your kids the value of right and wrong, so you dont have to worry about respect as they will always act RIGHT. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 9:17pm On Jan 03, 2016 |
MRBrownJ: You have a really nice point, thanks for ur contribution |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by coldsummer: 7:30am On Jan 04, 2016 |
If the child is right and not supporting the child will affect the child's self-esteem, then I will support that child. Adults can be wrong and the are most times wrong but would want to oppress the younger generation. |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 9:29am On Jan 04, 2016 |
coldsummer: Okay, so if the child is right and supporting the child will affect the other child's esteem, you won't? |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Blizzy9ja: 12:33am On Jan 12, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:Mother is fuelling sibling conflict which might result to serious hatred |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 12:36am On Jan 12, 2016 |
Blizzy9ja: Yea, what I tot too |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Exponental(m): 7:18am On Jan 12, 2016 |
fair judgements should prevail irrespective of who's guilty. after all, they are both legitimate children. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 8:19am On Jan 12, 2016 |
Exponental: Does anyone of them being illegitimate negate fair judgement? |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by mozele(m): 10:45am On Jan 12, 2016 |
Suigeneris93: the genesis of corruption, nepotism and division in the family. One silly mistake parents do that makes the ones always being prosecuted to lose confidence and hope in them. |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by SAMBARRY: 11:05am On Jan 12, 2016 |
The behaviour of the mother is usually the genesis of sibling rivalry and sibling resentment, jealousy and unhealthy competition. Wait till one of them marries before the other or one earns higher salary than the other that is when she will see the seed that she planted germinate. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by kristen12(f): 1:59pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
It is wrong. But sometimes, it is necessary. |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 4:09pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
kristen12: Hmmmmn @what times? |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 4:10pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
mozele: Yea, you have a point |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by kristen12(f): 4:24pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
Suigeneris93:The older child might be wrong and the younger right. |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by Nobody: 4:29pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
Re: Is It Good For A Mother To Support Her Younger Child Over D Elder In An Argument by tpiah2: 5:47pm On Jan 12, 2016 |
if that is their family dynamics, outsiders should not get involved. I'm sure it doesnt happen all the time and neither do we know the actual story. you have another mother for them, @ op? why not let them resolve their issues however they are used to. |
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