Especially if they're girls and the age gap between them is just a year

The mother is meant to resolve the dispute in a fair manner thats all

Moana:
The mother is meant to resolve the dispute in a fair manner thats all

There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right?

Suigeneris93:



There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right?

to be fair and not side with a child because she is younger or older.

Moana:
to be fair and not side with a child because she is younger or older.

Okay...

Suigeneris93:

There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right?

that mother isnt raising her children properly, she should only side with the child that she believe is RIGHT, and explain the reason why to the other child

all shades of wrong.

what happened to her being fair and neutral. taking sides in an argument comes with slow consequences, one of which is the seed of discord that would be planted among the siblings.

MRBrownJ:


that mother isnt raising her children properly, she should only side with the child that she believe is RIGHT, and explain the reason why to the other child

Should she even be seen taking sides with anyone of them whether they're right or wrong?

Teespice:
all shades of wrong.

what happened to her being fair and neutral. taking sides in an argument comes with slow consequences, one of which is the seed of discord that would be planted among the siblings.

True, it couldn't have been said better

No!!! Just be fair to both of them

Teespice:
all shades of wrong.

what happened to her being fair and neutral. taking sides in an argument comes with slow consequences, one of which is the seed of discord that would be planted among the siblings.

Hmmmmmn...nice point

Suigeneris93:


Should she even be seen taking sides with anyone of them whether they're right or wrong?

OF COURSE!!!! she must teach her kids to ALWAYS side with righteousness, at all cost. teach her kids that there is no reward for doing what is wrong and that she will never stand by wrong. as much as we all love our kid, standing (aka taking side) by a child who is right doesnt mean we are abandoning a child who do wrong, it just means that we stand by what we believe is RIGHT..... always.

Teespice:
all shades of wrong.

what happened to her being fair and neutral. taking sides in an argument comes with slow consequences, one of which is the seed of discord that would be planted among the siblings.

how can you be fair to the child who is RIGHT, if you dont stand by his actions?!
why should you be neutral, if a child is RIGHT and the other is WRONG?!
every actions in life (whether RIGHT or WRONG) have consequences, and a parent siding by a child who done right is appropriate
have we lost the meaning of RIGHT and WRONG that we cant even stand by what we (parents) believe is RIGHT?!

MRBrownJ:


OF COURSE!!!! she must teach her kids to ALWAYS side with righteousness, at all cost. teach her kids that there is no reward for doing what is wrong and that she will never stand by wrong. as much as we all love our kid, standing (aka taking side) by a child who is right doesnt mean we are abandoning a child who do wrong, it just means that we stand by what we believe is RIGHT..... always.

Alright cool. But I've seen cases where mothers don't correct the older child(whether right or wrong) before the younger to save the older child's face and retain the respect and distance of one for the other

MRBrownJ:


how can you be fair to the child who is RIGHT, if you dont stand by his actions?!
why should you be neutral, if a child is RIGHT and the other is WRONG?!
every actions in life (whether RIGHT or WRONG) have consequences, and a parent siding by a child who done right is appropriate
have we lost the meaning of RIGHT and WRONG that we cant even stand by what we (parents) believe is RIGHT?!

You have a point.

Suigeneris93:

Alright cool. But I've seen cases where mothers don't correct the older child(whether right or wrong) before the younger to save the older child's face and retain the respect and distance of one for the other

these parents have lost the plot on raising children properly (like so many out there), over respect between siblings. respect and righteousness are 2 different things, and shouldnt be mixed. you should always "try" to respect your elders, but you certainly shouldnt stand for anything wrong, ever.... because someday "respect" and "righteousness" may clash, and your kids MUST/SHOULD always make the right decision. RIGHTEOUSNESS over RESPECT, always!

whether older or youngest, what is right is RIGHT, and nothing can/should change that. parents certainly wont be fair if they instill some kind of immunity of the older child, whether he/she does right or, most importantly, WRONG. there should be only one authority in family, and thats YOU (aka parents), but even at that, you are not immune from being reprimanded if you do wrong.

teach your kids the value of right and wrong, so you dont have to worry about respect as they will always act RIGHT.

MRBrownJ:


these parents have lost the plot on raising children properly (like so many out there), over respect between siblings. respect and righteousness are 2 different things, and shouldnt be mixed. you should always "try" to respect your elders, but you certainly shouldnt stand for anything wrong, ever.... because someday "respect" and "righteousness" may clash, and your kids MUST/SHOULD always make the right decision. RIGHTEOUSNESS over RESPECT, always!

whether older or youngest, what is right is RIGHT, and nothing can/should change that. parents certainly wont be fair if they instill some kind of immunity of the older child, whether he/she does right or, most importantly, WRONG. there should be only one authority in family, and thats YOU (aka parents), but even at that, you are not immune from being reprimanded if you do wrong.

teach your kids the value of right and wrong, so you dont have to worry about respect as they will always act RIGHT.

You have a really nice point, thanks for ur contribution

If the child is right and not supporting the child will affect the child's self-esteem, then I will support that child.

Adults can be wrong and the are most times wrong but would want to oppress the younger generation.

coldsummer:
If the child is right and not supporting the child will affect the child's self-esteem, then I will support that child.

Adults can be wrong and the are most times wrong but would want to oppress the younger generation.

Okay, so if the child is right and supporting the child will affect the other child's esteem, you won't?

Suigeneris93:



There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right?

Mother is fuelling sibling conflict which might result to serious hatred

Blizzy9ja:
Mother is fuelling sibling conflict which might result to serious hatred

Yea, what I tot too

fair judgements should prevail irrespective of who's guilty. after all, they are both legitimate children.

Exponental:
fair judgements should prevail irrespective of who's guilty. after all, they are both legitimate children.

Does anyone of them being illegitimate negate fair judgement?

Suigeneris93:



There's this family I know that the mother always invariably takes the side of the younger child in a dispute because she believes the younger child is quite harmless and angelic but the girls have just a year difference btw them, in that scenario is it right?

the genesis of corruption, nepotism and division in the family.

One silly mistake parents do that makes the ones always being prosecuted to lose confidence and hope in them.

The behaviour of the mother is usually the genesis of sibling rivalry and sibling resentment, jealousy and unhealthy competition. Wait till one of them marries before the other or one earns higher salary than the other that is when she will see the seed that she planted germinate.

It is wrong. But sometimes, it is necessary.

kristen12:
It is wrong. But sometimes, it is necessary.

Hmmmmn @what times?

mozele:


the genesis of corruption, nepotism and division in the family.

One silly mistake parents do that makes the ones always being prosecuted to lose confidence and hope in them.

Yea, you have a point

Suigeneris93:


Hmmmmn @what times?

The older child might be wrong and the younger right.

kristen12:

The older child might be wrong and the younger right.

Okay, I get now

if that is their family dynamics, outsiders should not get involved.

I'm sure it doesnt happen all the time and neither do we know the actual story.

you have another mother for them, @ op?

why not let them resolve their issues however they are used to.