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Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by yemstok(m): 4:50am On Jan 24, 2016
A man says

"I don't love my wife because she is not. submissive perhaps, if she were submissive i would have loved her"

A woman says

"I am not submissive to my husband because he doesn't love me, if he had shown love to me, I would have been submissive"

The bible made mention of these things but didn't tell which should come first.

Ephesians 5:22

"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church,his body, of which he is the Savior"



Ephesians 5:25

"Husbands, love your wives,just as Christ lovedthe church and gave himself up for her"






Now, my question is, Which should come first? "Love" or "Submission"

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by yemstok(m): 4:52am On Jan 24, 2016
cc: lalasticlala
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 5:24am On Jan 24, 2016
When you love someone, you'll learn to submit to that person simple.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by wordbank(m): 5:56am On Jan 24, 2016
It's more like u r asking husband or wife who comes first?

22 came before 25

There must be a reason why a woman is loved by her husband which in ds case, submission is the reason.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by kilode100(f): 6:09am On Jan 24, 2016
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by jcflex(m): 6:12am On Jan 24, 2016
From your bible verse, 22 comes before 25.

Submission and Love come hand in hand.

a wife need to summit to her husband, and see how the husband will be all over her, evertime, like a baby around her mother, then it even easier for the wife to remote control the husband. because the husband will see ntin wrong there.

even if the husband love the wife, without the wife been submissive, the love will grow wary, and die.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Tallesty1(m): 6:26am On Jan 24, 2016
The man needs brain allowance fah.


Why did he marry her in the first place if he doesn't love her?


You love her first - you go for her - you profess your love and state your mission.



If she likes them then she will love you back and "sub" to your "mission".

No just carry useless mission like our 2016 budget to a woman and expect her to "sub" to it because you're a man.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 6:28am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.
1. It's only when you've not really got papers stacked up that you might think it anwereth everything dear, no pls it doesn't at all.
2. Love is the most important thing in relationships let alone marriage and my dear try to concentrate on the love aspect dear and submission wouldn't be a thing. Any real guy out there would tear the heavens open for a woman who's so loving and submisive.
3. Try to love more and submit a little dear it doesn't alwys have to be your way dear, this life is more about giving and sharing and you would feel better and enjoy life better. Rethink yyour line about "i can never love or submit to any man" dear, i guess you were hutrt so bad but you have to move on and for you to do that you have to let go of your pains and forgive the guy that hurt you. remain blessed.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Ab025(m): 6:31am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.

Are u that poor?

We could contribute for you over here on NL, u know... Maybe u will begin to reason well after that...

Pele.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 6:34am On Jan 24, 2016
Tallesty1:
The man needs brain allowance.



Why did he marry her in the first place?
hahahahaha yeah i thought that too, ifonly females knows the power they have and how much they can influence their partners by just being submissive they will start studying how to submit and practice it too. No "MAN" will ever like a challenger as a partner or someone who opposes him and can't be submissive at times noo not me.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by kilode100(f): 6:36am On Jan 24, 2016
Ab025:


Are u that poor?

We could contribute for you over here on NL, u know... Maybe u will begin to reason well after that...

Pele.

I could use some contributions o..

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by kilode100(f): 6:37am On Jan 24, 2016
icedbeatz:
1. It's only when you've not really got papers stacked up that you might think it anwereth everything dear, no pls it doesn't at all.
2. Love is the most important thing in relationships let alone marriage and my dear try to concentrate on the love aspect dear and submission wouldn't be a thing. Any real guy out there would tear the heavens open for a woman who's so loving and submisive.
3. Try to love more and submit a little dear it doesn't alwys have to be your way dear, this life is more about giving and sharing and you would feel better and enjoy life better. Rethink yyour line about "i can never love or submit to any man" dear, i guess you were hutrt so bad but you have to move on and for you to do that you have to let go of your pains and forgive the guy that hurt you. remain blessed.

I'm touched!

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Tallesty1(m): 6:40am On Jan 24, 2016
icedbeatz:
hahahahaha yeah i thought that too, ifonly females knows the power they have and how much they can influence their partners by just being submissive they will start studying how to submit and practice it too. No "MAN" will ever like a challenger as a partner or someone who opposes him and can't be submissive at times noo not me.
I once told a woman that a submissive wife is the head of the home but she didn't believe me.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Tallesty1(m): 6:42am On Jan 24, 2016
Lalasticlala come and learn something oo
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Cpumping(m): 6:42am On Jan 24, 2016
depends

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Cpumping(m): 6:43am On Jan 24, 2016
Tallesty1:
I once told a woman that a submissive wife is the head of the home but she didn't believe me.


1 million likes.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 6:57am On Jan 24, 2016
Tallesty1:
I once told a woman that a submissive wife is the head of the home but she didn't believe me.
guess she's not smart if she were she would have asked you to explain it to her for her to understand and she might be thinking she has to confront, challenge or manipulate her partner to get what she want not knowing by just being loving and submissive she can get whatever she wants. Few ladies knows this and they are enjoying their splendid relationship. The thing there is we know when we're being manipulated and it keeps piling up untill bursting day, we despise when our partner challenges us or cares or thinks everytime she ought to have her ways, IMO kick this kind of females out of your life asap, the best is when a man knows how loving, caring and submissive his gf or wife has been to him he can't wait to do anything she wants, needs, desires just to make her happy bc she's his queen most ladies don't know this and they keep asking themselves why is it that he doesn't love me llike he use to? 80percent of the time they're the architect of their misfortune.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Ab025(m): 7:10am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:


I could use some contributions o..

U better Invite seen for ur matter o...
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Cutehector(m): 7:26am On Jan 24, 2016
A woman can't submit herself to someone who doesn't love her.

And a man can't love someone who doesn't submit herself to him.

So if u ask me, i"d say love comes first, before submission.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by yemstok(m): 7:44am On Jan 24, 2016
wordbank:
It's more like u r asking husband or wife who comes first?

22 came before 25

There must be a reason why a woman is loved by her husband which in ds case, submission is the reason.

God bless you!
I thought of that too o!

that's btw, i'd share my opinion soon. brb

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by yemstok(m): 7:47am On Jan 24, 2016
wordbank:
It's more like u r asking husband or wife who comes first?

[/b]22 came before 25[b]

There must be a reason why a woman is loved by her husband which in ds case, submission is the reason.

God bless you!


Submission should come first, let us not forget that by accepting to date you is an act of submission and there is no way two people will go to the next without first submitting to each other.
No matter the infatuation, nobody(sane person) will propose marriage to somebody that isn't submissive even in courtship.
Submission is that glue that holds two people together, be it in friendship or marriage.
also, submission is a two way thing of give and take and not mono-directional.
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by tomdon(m): 10:07am On Jan 24, 2016
pari passu

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by notjohndoe: 10:07am On Jan 24, 2016
jcflex:
From your bible verse, 22 comes before 25.

Submission and Love come hand in hand.

a wife need to summit to her husband, and see how the husband will be all over her, evertime, like a baby around her mother, then it even easier for the wife to remote control the husband. because the husband will see ntin wrong there.

even if the husband love the wife, without the wife been submissive, the love will grow wary, and die.

My story. And it only took 3 years
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Nobody: 10:08am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.


That's serious... What have u been through in life?
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by SPG4U(m): 10:08am On Jan 24, 2016
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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by frank043(m): 10:08am On Jan 24, 2016
Is that suppose to be a question!!!!... How can one submit without first loving the person whom he/she is to submit to? In the Nigerian context, the reverse is the case.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by tomdon(m): 10:10am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.

who's this lunatic
Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by natasha: 10:10am On Jan 24, 2016
You don't submit 2 a stranger....you fall in love with each other and naturally, mutual respect follows which in turn births submission.
Men often fail to realise that women love to please a man whom they know loves and treats them well.
Even the bible says "Men love it wives AS YOURSELF" So what u know that u can't tolerate as a man, do NOT subject ur wife to.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by RedCapChief(m): 10:11am On Jan 24, 2016
The question should not arise because:

A man should not marry a woman he doesn't love.

A woman should not marry a man she can't submit to.

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by Justicealh3(m): 10:11am On Jan 24, 2016
cheesycheesycheesy Whatever comesup I de Love my Wife. )coolcool8

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by AmaechiLinus(m): 10:11am On Jan 24, 2016
LET LOVE LEAD

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Re: Love Or Submission....which Should Come First In Marriage? by ElFenomeno1: 10:12am On Jan 24, 2016
kilode100:
Money answereth all things.

I can never submit/love a love man.

If age has passed me by, I can manage a good looking poor man to marry, but, submitting to him is out of the question.

Loud mouth
Your type are the ones whose submission is way out of hand and love hopelessly
Oniranu jatijati

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