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Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 9:25pm On Feb 22, 2016
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream!
What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big,than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one.Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".Another irony ofour time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who
possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.

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Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Burnnotice(m): 9:28pm On Feb 22, 2016
good write-up
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 9:31pm On Feb 22, 2016
Thanks @Burnnotice,its our duty to make them understand the danger ahead of them.Please put this on the front page OP

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Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by sirugos(m): 9:45pm On Feb 22, 2016
GOD BLESS YOU WITH THIS GOOD WRITE UP
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by CivilzedTyger(m): 9:46pm On Feb 22, 2016
You just put me in a state of laconic lacuna but you know what? I will not koto in your poho, I refuse to koto in your poho.. thank you cheesy
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Burnnotice(m): 9:47pm On Feb 22, 2016
CivilzedTyger:
You just put me in a state of laconic lacuna but you know what? I will not koto in your poho, I refuse to koto in your poho.. thank you cheesy
WTF!!!
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Nobody: 9:47pm On Feb 22, 2016
Really?

Im just looking at you op with a 'telescope'
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Lilimax(f): 10:01pm On Feb 22, 2016
Nice write up! I like that aspect of Marriage is not a Poverty Alleviation Programme. smiley Mynd44 and Lalasticlala, this is very educative ...
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by missdebs(f): 10:19pm On Feb 22, 2016
I personally think this topic has been overflogged next pls

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Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by skywalker240(m): 12:17am On Feb 23, 2016
Good write up
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 7:52am On Feb 23, 2016
missdebs:
I personally think this topic has been overflogged next pls
.
How has it been over flogged?
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 7:53am On Feb 23, 2016
skywalker240:
Good write up

@skywalker,Thanks

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Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 10:45am On Feb 23, 2016
sirugos:
GOD BLESS YOU WITH THIS GOOD WRITE UP



@Sirugos amen
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by IZZIFLOW(m): 11:14am On Feb 23, 2016
lanregbade:
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream!
What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big,than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one.Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".Another irony ofour time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who
possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by IZZIFLOW(m): 11:15am On Feb 23, 2016
lanregbade:
HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream!
What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big,than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one.Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".Another irony ofour time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who
possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it
may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent.
This post is worth sharing, let it go as far as it can.
My best Write ~up of the month......FP pls
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 7:25pm On Feb 23, 2016
I know OP won't put this on the front page,but if its the yeyebrity news now,it will make front page !!!
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Nobody: 9:09pm On Feb 23, 2016
Nice one Op. Hope we will learn from this..
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by cruzita(f): 9:22pm On Feb 23, 2016
I think its because men have decided not to marry because they think all Girls are gold diggers
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 7:36pm On Feb 24, 2016
akinsal:
Nice one Op. Hope we will learn from this..

OP front page pls
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by ourchoice(m): 9:06pm On Feb 24, 2016
Mhen, this article ought to win the best article for the year 2016, kudos to the op!!

And we need to print this article and paste in every church entrance.

On every company gate or main entrance!

At every fast food restaurant!

At every higher institution lecture hall entrance and in fact on billboards all over Nigeria!


Someone should push for this agenda, well done writersmiley
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Nobody: 9:17pm On Feb 24, 2016
"HUSBAND SCARCITY'........ loool grin this a funny opener loool.
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by pharmagba: 9:45pm On Feb 24, 2016
Husband scarcity? NO! No!
Rather wife and wifely materials scacity? Yes! Yes!
When lady dress sexy, she get those looking for sex
When lady lacks courtesy, she cannot be courted
When ladies believe that it's is only her body that can hold down a man, then every body compete for her man
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by Nobody: 9:52pm On Feb 24, 2016
Preach the gospel to the brah
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by nanauju(f): 10:29pm On Feb 24, 2016
Nice write up
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 11:18am On Feb 25, 2016
pharmagba:
Husband scarcity? NO! No!
Rather wife and wifely materials scacity? Yes! Yes!
When lady dress sexy, she get those looking for sex
When lady lacks courtesy, she cannot be courted
When ladies believe that it's is only her body that can hold down a man, then every body compete for her man

That's why those sets of ladies need to read this in order to change their mentality for good

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Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by sexymoma(f): 11:23am On Feb 25, 2016
IZZIFLOW:

My best Write ~up of the month......FP pls
Must you quote everything...na your type dem dey talk
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 8:10pm On Feb 26, 2016
sexymoma:
Must you quote everything...na your type dem dey talk

Yes ooo he must quote it
Re: Why So Many Ladies Still Remain Single Out Of Ignorance!!! by lanregbade(m): 8:12pm On Feb 26, 2016
ourchoice:
Mhen, this article ought to win the best article for the year 2016, kudos to the op!!

And we need to print this article and paste in every church entrance.

On every company gate or main entrance!

At every fast food restaurant!

At every higher institution lecture hall entrance and in fact on billboards all over Nigeria!


Someone should push for this agenda, well done writersmiley

NOTED!!! Something will be done on this soon

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