@poster,
my advice , never rush a man cos he might simply feel u have motives.
2. believe mii, he will obviously introduce u to his folk once the time is rite, ( i went out with my woman 4 over a year before intoducing her to my parents, and believe mii we were 5years 2gether last weekend). still courting tough.
3. you guys re just 3month , he might simply be watching u ,not all guys rush in a relationship, once u rush in-u simply rush out. take my words.

Girlfriend, i do understand how are feeling, your bf has refused to meet your parents and would'nt introduce you to his as well.

It's just a cultural thing, maybe he feels 3months is quite early for the introduction game, but it all depends on individual and the family. My fiancee took me home to meet his family after 3months of our courting and it was great, but such early introduction is not common. I guess he is taking his time and you should take yours too.

You are not being desperate, you just want your relationship to be formal and open. Talk to him about it (try to avoid heated arguement), let him know how you feel and then maybe you guys will then understand and see each others perspective to this issue. Wish you good luck.

MRbrownJAY:

that is exactly what i am saying. its all down to cultures and therefore people saying that this girl is desperate are wrong for thinking that introducing your bf within 3months shows desperation. in her culture/world introducing your new bf is not seen as a sign of "lets get married".
the more old fashion parents you got, the less you would introduce your new bf.
back in our parents days, the person you dated had to marry you before you could even walk down the street with her let alone date her. nowadays it is different. like i said, its all down to how comfortable you are with your parents, would you expect to see all your children's dates or Just see one of them and make him hide all his dates his entire teenage/early adult life. if my child is comfortable with dating someone then he should be comfortable being seen with her and not hide.
in Asia, the problem is completely different because meeting the parents is like signing a marriage license, even worst than 9ja!
ps, i have lived in Asia(Japan, China) as i told you before. when it comes to dating, asia aint the real world.

Thats right Thank God say you know well well. Una tell em oo. I warned the people here about Asia. Nobody deybelieve sha!

Thank you so much guys for your comments.

I want to add that i'm not desperate, not at all. I think the mistake that i made or that we both made is not talking enough about the differences in our cultures. I guess since we both are here in the U.S we assumed that in part we could forget about the values and principles that we enquired while growing up in our contries. The good news is that i texted him last night and apologize, still waiting for him to call me though ugh.

ayde:



You are not being desperate, you just want your relationship to be formal and open.

This is exactly what i want for my relationship to be formal and open. You have to understand i'm not talking about marriage here (it's been 3 months only and i won't get married until i'm done with school). Yes i do love him but i'm not in love with him,not yet. So i'm not rushing anything.

I have to admit that my parents , specially my mom, aren't thrilled with me dating him. They have nothing personally against him beside that is an african. You know the famous stereotype about african men in general, that they are all polygamous. Therefore i had to explain to them that he's not and that mostly muslims are polygamous and that he's a christian.

@ Poster,

Dont listen to anybody tellng u to leave this guy. The fact is that Nigerian guys doestnt introduce ladies to their parents just like that. He might be studying u and needs some time to do that. Three months courtship is too short for him to know u,and the stuff u were made of. Give him some time and see hw it goes.

You've dated this guy for more than 3 three months and yet his parents don't know you exist, that's pretty bad it simply means he doesn't like you, Baby Girl I think the guy is not really interested in you, or he could be seeking a way out of the relation.

Just get ready for the unexpected,

3 months is too small

my sister i feel u but i most tell u d truth,u guy has sumone esle on line whom his perants approval dats y he can not talk 2 dem about u.if u r my direct sister i will truly as u 2 walk

the truth is he wants sthg from you, without any commitment

follow your heart girl

PC busayo:

follow your heart girl

no she should use her head