Hello guys, I have something I am thinking about and I want some of you to tell give me a candid advise about it. I have a girl friend which I have been dating for about four years now before I left Nigeria. I do love her and she loves me too, at least based on my assessment. The real issue now is, she lost her job recently because she refused to sleep with he randy boss. I felt so bad about it. I am thinking of giving her some amount of money as a means of allowance monthly to sustain herself before she gets another job. I have doubts about it though because some people will say she has parents and I am not yet her husband and all. That is exactly why I am asking to know if it's is a good idea to go on with. Though I am yet to tell her anything about it. Thanks

cum ..u b her papa?

"Forced kindness deserves no thanks"... juz do whatever ur heart desires...

i think you can place her on monthly allowance
don't let any broke a** tell you anything less
if you love and deem it fit to spend your time and emotion with her alongside all the bull sh** and drama that comes with relationships - monthly funds won't be a factor

Please go ahead and place the funds my friend

Oye50:
Hello guys, I have something I am thinking about and I want some of you to tell give me a candid advise about it. I have a girl friend which I have been dating for about four years now before I left Nigeria. I do love her and she loves me too, at least based on my assessment. The real issue now is, she lost her job recently because she refused to sleep with he randy boss. I felt so bad about it. I am thinking of giving her some amount of money as a means of allowance monthly to sustain herself before she gets another job. I have doubts about it though because some people will say she has parents and I am not yet her husband and all. That is exactly why I am asking to know if it's is a good idea to go on with. Though I am yet to tell her anything about it. Thanks

your nairaland profile says your location is .........


what if she is scamming you by saying she lost her job? how are you sure she will find a job by the time the money you give her run out? will she ask for more money because she hasn't found a job? when do you plan to marry her since you have been dating for 4 long years? whats the exchange rate of the money you want to send her? by the way when was the last time you saw her in person?

She hasn't asked u to give her any money so keep it.

OP, that Girl must be a graduate of "Gold digging"!!

Keep your money ooo... Because you wouldn't want to hear that she used your money to sponsor her "real" boyfriend!!

A word is enough for a wise!!

That's if you are wise!

follow ur instinct

omega25red:
your nairaland profile says your location is .........


what if she is scamming you by saying she lost her job? how are you sure she will find a job by the time the money you give her run out? will she ask for more money because she hasn't found a job? when do you plan to marry her since you have been dating for 4 long years? whats the exchange rate of the money you want to send her? by the way when was the last time you saw her in person?

This your questions self, I think I need textbooks to answer them. Lol.
I left Nigeria somewhat September last year and that was the last time we saw. I was dating her since University, so I couldn't have married her then. Exchange rate should be Euro to Naira
I don't think she is a gold digger cos she knew me even when all I had was the 10k I get from home. LOL
And as to when I want to marry her, I love her and she loves me. The marriage time can happen when we both feel it's best
I just want to know if decisions like this is right

Mr op do you have any evidence to prove she was really sacked it might be a trick to make you pity her and release some cash.

It's not a bad idea but don't make it a monthly allowance because If she gets used to it, it will be difficult to stop.

Oye50:

This your questions self, I think I need textbooks to answer them. Lol.
I left Nigeria somewhat September last year and that was the last time we saw. I was dating her since University, so I couldn't have married her then. Exchange rate should be Euro to Naira
I don't think she is a gold digger cos she knew me even when all I had was the 10k I get from home. LOL
And as to when I want to marry her, I love her and she loves me. The marriage time can happen when we both feel it's best
I just want to know if decisions like this is right

okay since you've known her for a while then hook her up with some cash but make sure you don't make it seem like you want to make this a monthly allowance thing. just let her know that you wanted to help as best as you can while she is looking for work.

Ok assuming you start giving her monthly allowee and she later got a job, my question now is, would you still be giving her the allowance?

as ur gf, u should be able to give some cash as assistance
This doesnt mean it should be monthly

Oye50:
Hello guys, I have something I am thinking about and I want some of you to tell give me a candid advise about it. I have a girl friend which I have been dating for about four years now before I left Nigeria. I do love her and she loves me too, at least based on my assessment. The real issue now is, she lost her job recently because she refused to sleep with he randy boss. I felt so bad about it. I am thinking of giving her some amount of money as a means of allowance monthly to sustain herself before she gets another job. I have doubts about it though because some people will say she has parents and I am not yet her husband and all. That is exactly why I am asking to know if it's is a good idea to go on with. Though I am yet to tell her anything about it. Thanks

rather than giving her monthly up keep, why don't you ask her if she has any business idea she can venture into and see if you can help in raising her some of it, if not all the cash to start up the business.

who cares

Confirm the veracity of her story first before doing anything.
Is not a crime if you assist her once in a while when she is
broke, But placing her on monthly salary is not ideal bro.

Give any assistance you can bro,I just hope she will be smart enough to see you are as a supportive guy and not her Maga as some idiotic Nigerian girls have come to think.