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Ok i boarded a bus going to Abuja,the passenger sitting beside is a mother of 3 but she bought a ticket 4 one,she carried d smallest one & told d remaining 2 kids to sit on bags placed inside d bus...Ok,as d bus was going,the 2 kids started sleeping & it was obvious dat they ain't comfortable...The Thing is dat d mum asked me to please carry one & dismally told her no with no remorse dat am carrying my school bag which contains my laptop & some documents & dats y i can't drop it 4 anything...Now she is sayin dat am wicked & not helpful...Asin Nl peeps is my actions wicked afterall she was suppose to no dat d kids would need seats b4 d journey started...judge this case

it will cost u if u had assisted in carrying one of her kinds

My brother look, sometimes in life, we need to try to be accomodative wherever we find ourselves. Though d woman didn't do well in tryn to make her kids confortable buh hey, we just need to urm let room for others u knw..


I believe she begged u to help her...

Dats one thing i"v observed in buses.. people turn to selfish mode once there is any opportunity Dat calls for assistance.

To the extent, wen d driver wants to stop to carry someone who is stranded on d highway, everyone shouts, no space oo, no space. Just because we don't knw the person..


At d end of d day, we go to church and ask God to bless us.

Well, I won't say anythn. We all should learn to be accomodating, no matter d situation

BreadandBeans:
what you did is not good.. Karma will tell on your own wife too, when you don marry. that day ur wife and ur pickin go enter bus, maybe that day na this woman pickin go do am for ur own wife

well u won't understand,firstly d bus is tight,am already carrying something & y d hell would my future wife board a bus wit 3kids & pay 4 1

Cutehector:
My brother look, sometimes in life, we need to try to be accomodative wherever we find ourselves. Though d woman didn't do well in tryn to make her kids confortable buh hey, we just need to urm let room for others u knw..


I believe she begged u to help her...

Dats one thing i"v observed in buses.. people turn to selfish mode once there is any opportunity Dat calls for assistance.

To the extent, wen d driver wants to stop to carry someone who is stranded on d highway, everyone shouts, no space oo, no space. Just because we don't knw the person..


At d end of d day, we go to church and ask God to bless us.

Well, I won't say anythn. We all should learn to be accomodating, no matter d situation

There is nothing to accommodate here,Abuja is a very distant place & i won't want to discomfort myself 4 almost 7hours of drive cos am trying to b nice...Buses obviously don't av large boots so most of d luggages were placed inside making everywhere tight & inconvenient

Big4wig:
There is nothing to accommodate here,Abuja is a very distant place & i won't want to discomfort myself 4 almost 7hours of drive cos am trying to b nice...Buses obviously don't av large boots so most of d luggages were placed inside making everywhere tight & inconvenient

alright bro. So tell me, why did u create dis thread den?

Seems ur conscience was prickin u Dat much

You should have assisted her to carry the child that was sleeping
Maybe she didn't have money possibly she would have taken a taxi....

Since you are defending yourself right, left and center I wonder why your conscience forced you to come here for approval

BreadandBeans:
what you did is not good.. Karma will tell on your own wife too, when you don marry. that day ur wife and ur pickin go enter bus, maybe that day na this woman pickin go do am for ur own wife

to hell with you....

This is just a Classic case of Guilty conscience. Cz if your mind is clear, then you won't be here asking if you did the right thing or not.
What would it cost you to drop your bag and help the woman carry her child till she/you get to your respective destination? OP you were just Selfish and self cantered

I would rather not use the word "wicked" on you, but you lack two things in your life judging from the way you responede to her, and that's..





You are not hospitable



You are not accomodating..



If i where in your position, i 'll help her out, laptop is not my life.

I don't know why u guys are blaming the OP.
Frankly the op's decision is optional....It doesn't make him worse if he decides not to carry any of the woman's child (not withstanding that he has his reasons for not accommodating any of the child). The woman is more at fault for calling the OP wicked. How can you pay for a ticket where as you re with two children. I think that's insanity and please nobody should tell me that the woman don't have money for another ticket.
That's one of the major problem we have here in Africa..we always love to attract pity whereas we Can take care of the situations befalling us...

What you did shows that you are not always kind to people. https://m.youtube.com/watch?sns=tw&v=0iq_pkXsMv8

mentorken05:
I don't know why u guys are blaming the OP.
Frankly the op's decision is optional....It doesn't make him worse if he decides not to carry any of the woman's child (not withstanding that he has his reasons for not accommodating any of the child). The woman is more at fault for calling the OP wicked. How can you pay for a ticket where as you re with two children. I think that's insanity and please nobody should tell me that the woman don't have money for another ticket.
That's one of the major problem we have here in Africa..we always love to attract pity whereas we Can take care of the situations befalling us...

finally some1 speaking 4rm my own perspective..funny Thing about d whole scenario is dat wen we finally got to abuja,there were hold up around maramba area so we spent almost 3hrs on d way,imagine if i had carried d baby 4 dat long minus d 7 hours drive,won't i faint...I sincerely didn't regret my actions

ettaetta:
What you did shows that you are not always kind to people. https://m.youtube.com/watch?sns=tw&v=0iq_pkXsMv8

d woman wasn't kind enough to consider d welfare of her kids b4 d journey abeg

Big4wig:
well u won't understand,firstly d bus is tight,am already carrying something & y d hell would my future wife board a bus wit 3kids & pay 4 1

Taa! Anything can happen

Sentiments aside, OP did no wrong. What if the person who sat beside her also had two children and paid for a ticket?

The fact that she blames the OP shows she was expecting whoever sits by her side to help her with her kids. Such mentality is wrong in itself.

Having said that, the fact that the OP seem disturbed could be because his conscience told him he was wrong.

Our conscience is our best judge. Based on OP's story, they spent 10 hours on the road. And he didn't try to assist the woman and her kids... Hope he sleeps well tonight

OP. you were not under any obligation to carry the woman's children.
so there is no need for you to go on a guilt trip for anyone.
free your mind abeg.

[quote author=player007 post=44006360]This is just a Classic case of Guilty conscience. Cz if your mind is clear, then you won't be here asking if you did the right thing or not.
What would it cost you to drop your bag and help the woman carry her child till she/you get to your respective destination? OP you were just Selfish and self cantered[/quote]

Why should he drop his bag? He said his laptop and other documents are there. Those are important to him naa. So if he was your bro and he comes home to gist you of how his laptop screen got broken because he was acting nice you'd give him a pat on the back right? Abegi jare.

Even the woman was selfish and self centered. She expected the OP to assist her child and got mad that he refused. What sort of mentality is that? Is 'No' not an answer? Why should she feel entitled to being helped?

The woman is the wicked one here ,wicked to her own children . if you drop your bag for her kid and the content of your bag bag got stolen she will feed you with sorry then jejely go home with her kids and sleep soundly.

Cutehector:
My brother look, sometimes in life, we need to try to be accomodative wherever we find ourselves. Though d woman didn't do well in tryn to make her kids confortable buh hey, we just need to urm let room for others u knw..


I believe she begged u to help her...

Dats one thing i"v observed in buses.. people turn to selfish mode once there is any opportunity Dat calls for assistance.

To the extent, wen d driver wants to stop to carry someone who is stranded on d highway, everyone shouts, no space oo, no space. Just because we don't knw the person..


At d end of d day, we go to church and ask God to bless us.

Well, I won't say anythn. We all should learn to be accomodating, no matter d situation

U re right in your own way ooh,no doubt.

Must we always say yes to every request?


If we can, do u know how many girls I would have fùcked by now?

The woman was wrong for calling him wicked, we must not accept all requests,no matter the situation.

Whoever wrote this thread must be a very wicked person. How can you not carry a child that is sleeping in the same bus with you, do you know the financial situation of the mother of those children, do you know if she was able to afford for 2 seats rather than 1 she bought. In fact you should be ashamed of yourself.

chigoizie7:




U re right in your own way ooh,no doubt.

Must we always say yes to every request?


If we can, do u know how many girls I would have fùcked by now?

The woman was wrong for calling him wicked, we must not accept all requests,no matter the situation.

pls my friend go and read my words inbetween lines before u quote another rubbish.

Let me reiterate to u what I wrote

I wrote that yes the woman was wrong with wat she said. Meaning Dat she had no right to say Dat and Dat she ought to have made her children comfortable.


Secondly, I nw told the op Dat irrespective of the situations we find ourselves in, sometimes, let it not be because they want us to help, Buh out of our good minds, we just feel like assisting. Dats all.

Op it's your choice to help or not to help , the fact that she called you wicked for not helping , shows you took the right decision.

Cutehector:
pls my friend go and read my words inbetween lines before u quote another rubbish.

Let me reiterate to u what I wrote

I wrote that yes the woman was wrong with wat she said. Meaning Dat she had no right to say Dat and Dat she ought to have made her children comfortable.


Secondly, I nw told the op Dat irrespective of the situations we find ourselves in, sometimes, let it not be because they want us to help, Buh out of our good minds, we just feel like assisting. Dats all.

Hmmm





Do u always think we quote people to counter them?







Most times, it is in support of what the person said.





Did I in anyway said, "u are/were wrong"?



I even made it clear in my 1st sentence.

"You are right in your own way ooh, no doubt"


And den added my points to support yours.







Well, let's just say it's a case of individual differences here, maybe u don't like people quoting you for whatever reason, u would have been blunt about it. I would have also understood it better that way.

boxer022:
Whoever wrote this thread must be a very wicked person. How can you not carry a child that is sleeping in the same bus with you, do you know the financial situation of the mother of those children, do you know if she was able to afford for 2 seats rather than 1 she bought. In fact you should be ashamed of yourself.

The woman is more at fault for calling the OP wicked. How can you pay for a ticket where as you re with two children. I think that's insanity and please nobody should tell me that the woman don't have money for another ticket.
That's one of the major problem we have here in Africa..we always love to attract pity whereas we Can take care of the situations befalling us...

Big4wig:
well u won't understand,firstly d bus is tight,am already carrying something & y d hell would my future wife board a bus wit 3kids & pay 4 1

Don't mind the guy. She had no right to say such rubbish when you refused. She wanted a favour and you turned her down simple. People get turned down everyday. Why did she make it such a big deal because she didn't have her way? Don't be bothered jor.

Big4wig:
Mods pls take this to d right section...

Ok i boarded a bus going to Abuja,the passenger sitting beside is a mother of 3 but she bought a ticket 4 one,she carried d smallest one & told d remaining 2 kids to sit on bags placed inside d bus...Ok,as d bus was going,the 2 kids started sleeping & it was obvious dat they ain't comfortable...The Thing is dat d mum asked me to please carry one & dismally told her no with no remorse dat am carrying my school bag which contains my laptop & some documents & dats y i can't drop it 4 anything...Now she is sayin dat am wicked & not helpful...Asin Nl peeps is my actions wicked afterall she was suppose to no dat d kids would need seats b4 d journey started...judge this case

don't mind her, women and their problem

boxer022:
Whoever wrote this thread must be a very wicked person. How can you not carry a child that is sleeping in the same bus with you, do you know the financial situation of the mother of those children, do you know if she was able to afford for 2 seats rather than 1 she bought. In fact you should be ashamed of yourself.

he did the right thing, i can defend him anywhere

dharmie:
Sentiments aside, OP did no wrong. What if the person who sat beside her also had two children and paid for a ticket?

The fact that she blames the OP shows she was expecting whoever sits by her side to help her with her kids. Such mentality is wrong in itself.

Having said that, the fact that the OP seem disturbed could be because his conscience told him he was wrong.

Our conscience is our best judge. Based on OP's story, they spent 10 hours on the road. And he didn't try to assist the woman and her kids... Hope he sleeps well tonight

gulible nature of Nigerian, not his fault