I have been with this guy for close to 7yrs in a long distance relationship and he respects my wish of no se..x before marriage but he wants romance.But I am frigid & tongue tied when I see him. He's been patient all along but he snapped today.I feel the chemistry between us when he's not around but whenever i see him i feel too shy to make a move & when he makes the move, i usually hold back from responding. I don't want to lose him. How do i make the move that will interest him & make him know i'm serious but naive? I want mature comments please. Haters & immature minds should please take their comments elsewhere.

Sister Aishat.... i'll be blunt. You don't want sex before marriage but you want romance? Enlighten this honorable audience exactly what you mean. Wait did you say 7 years? And not even a kiss? Sister Aishat. You've starved my guy for 7 yrs. You've not made a move in 7 years so I don't see you implementing any move I tell you now. So just allow your guy do his thing. You will respond involuntarily. Amd don't deceive thyself...it'll most likely culminate in sex. "I like garri but I don't like swallowing it" said no one ever. In summary....if your stand on sex before marriage is still the same...then you should keep it at just kissing. Or watch urself get bleeped mercilessly by a starved stallion. 7 yrs Aunty...7 yrs.

Just be ya self b ya self!!!!!!!

halfricanadian:
Just be ya self b ya self!!!!!!!

By that you mean .............?

He wants romane like kissing, hugging and I think touching. NB: I'm not the one that wants it, he is and I don't mind.

glimpse33:
Open Your Legs Sis Or.. You Will Loose Him!!!

. Read thoroughly, he doesn't mind me not opening my legs.

well im not a relationship expert so all I can say is *be careful don't be pressured into doing what u don't want to do *

PiccoloBrunelli:
Sister Aishat.... i'll be blunt. You don't want sex before marriage but you want romance? Enlighten this honorable audience exactly what you mean. Wait did you say 7 years? And not even a kiss? Sister Aishat. You've starved my guy for 7 yrs. You've not made a move in 7 years so I don't see you implementing any move I tell you now. So just allow your guy do his thing. You will respond involuntarily. Amd don't deceive thyself...it'll most likely culminate in sex. "I like garri but I don't like swallowing it" said no one ever. In summary....if your stand on sex before marriage is still the same...then you should keep it at just kissing. Or watch urself get bleeped mercilessly by a starved stallion. 7 yrs Aunty...7 yrs.

. Lol. Thanks, that's why I'm holding back. What if I'm the one that lose control cos i don't think guys' control is that strong

cruzita:
well im not a relationship expert so all I can say is *be careful don't be pressured into doing what u don't want to do *

Thanks dear

No sex should include no kissing and smooching that will lead to sex. But why date a man for 7years? How old are you? Abeg quit dating until you meet someone mature enough and ready for marriage. Haba 7years and still counting. Some women strong sha.

halfricanadian:
Just be ya self b ya self!!!!!!!

Thanks

aishatopeyemi:
. Lol. Thanks, that's why I'm holding back. What if I'm the one that lose control cos i don't think guys' control is that strong

In the end it comes down to two things:
1. His satisfaction
2. Your purity

Which is more important to you?

I want mature comments please. Hater & immature minds should please take their comments elsewhere.

Nawa o. Wch mature comment u dey find again. Maturity dey ya post so?. U no fit make move, he decides to make move, wetin u need again than to allow him start d move and finish it

Infact u don't need to do anything special, just allow him to do. That's all. If he kiss u, smile. If he off ur button, smile. If he press ya breaasts, smile. If he off ur blouse, followed by ur skirt, followed by ur pant, just dey smile. If he remove him penis and chuk it inside ur hole, smile. If he release finish, smile. Simple. All u need do is smile..dats d approval he needs. U no need to say anything. Just dey smile.

delishpot:
No sex should include no kissing and smooching that will lead to sex. But why date a man for 7years? How old are you? Abeg quit dating until you meet someone mature enough and ready for marriage. Haba 7years and still counting. Some women strong sha.

. Lol. We started dating when i was eighteen. He's ready for marriage but my parents are the ones not ready to give me away.

RadicallyBlunt:

Nawa o. Wch mature comment u dey find again. Maturity dey ya post so?. U no fit make move, he decides to make move, wetin u need again than to allow him start d move and finish it

Infact u don't need to do anything special, just allow him to do. That's all. If he kiss u, smile. If he off ur button, smile. If he press ya breaasts, smile. If he off ur blouse, followed by ur skirt, followed by ur pant, just dey smile. If he remove him penis and chuk it inside ur hole, smile. If he release finish, smile. Simple. All u need do is smile..dats d approval he needs. U no need to say anything. Just dey smile.

. Thanks for the radically explicit bluntness

PiccoloBrunelli:


In the end it comes down to two things:
1. His satisfaction
2. Your purity

Which is more important to you?

Both but my purity ranks highest always

aishatopeyemi:
. Thanks for the radically explicit bluntness

Hehehe. U're wellingcome

aishatopeyemi:
Both but my purity ranks highest always

Then tell Uncle Ayo that you can't go down that lane with him. It's that trick we use on chicks. "I promise...no sex. Just allow me touch you." And by the time we're thru they'll be begging us to off their panties. And we'll do with maximum pleasure. By the time you know it...you're already a statistic...from Virgin Atlantic to Sosoliso Airlines. Even if it's just kiss, make im use dey hold body. I probably don't deserve an answer but...when are you guys marrying?

PiccoloBrunelli:


Then tell Uncle Ayo that you can't go down that lane with him. It's that trick we use on chicks. "I promise...no sex. Just allow me touch you." And by the time we're thru they'll be begging us to off their panties. And we'll do with maximum pleasure. By the time you know it...you're already a statistic...from Virgin Atlantic to Sosoliso Airlines. Even if it's just kiss, make im use dey hold body. I probably don't deserve an answer but...when are you guys marrying?

. Smile, don't know but as soon as my parents say yes.

aishatopeyemi:
. Smile, don't know but as soon as my parents say yes.

Well hurry. Even the best of guys can't say yes.

And I think you're a very respectful person Aishat. Some of our comments have been raw and kinda insulting but you didn't blow your cool. #respect

PiccoloBrunelli:


Well hurry. Even the best of guys can't say yes.

And I think you're a very respectful person Aishat. Some of our comments have been raw and kinda insulting but you didn't blow your cool. #respect

Thank you

aishatopeyemi:
. Lol. We started dating when i was eighteen. He's ready for marriage but my parents are the ones not ready to give me away.

Oh, ok. Then keep telling him No. Do not make it be like you are shy or holding back. Say No and make it firm. But I hope you won't disappoint him on the wedding night o. If he is God fearing like you, he will hold on till you are both ready because even he as a man is supposed to keep his body chaste too. This problem you face is because religion these days does not teach men that they have a role to play in chastity too. They make it look like it's the woman's duty to keep a man clean and Holly. If you do it now, he will turn around d to blame you for falling so easily. Remind him that heavenly race is for men and women to run.

Feelings!! Feelings!! ! Sucks!!

delishpot:



Oh, ok. Then keep telling him No. Do not make it be like you are shy or holding back. Say No and make it firm. But I hope you won't disappoint him on the wedding night o. If he is God fearing like you, he will hold on till you are both ready because even he as a man is supposed to keep his body chaste too. This problem you face is because religion these days does not teach men that they have a role to play in chastity too. They make it look like it's the woman's duty to keep a man clean and Holly. If you do it now, he will turn around d to blame you for falling so easily. Remind him that heavenly race is for men and women to run.

Thanks i really appreciate it.

zanebaddo:
Feelings!! Feelings!! ! Sucks!!

I don't understand your comment