I met this guy and fell in love with him
After a year of dating I fell pregnant for him.

Fast forward 5 years later after initially making some efforts and changing his mind about marriage. He just stopped calling and asking about our child
I come from a wealthy family and I work myself so I am doing ok without his financial help.
But I don't want my child to suffer because the dad is neglecting him
We have had so many conversations about this subject. We made a promise to each other that no matter what we will make the child's well being a priority.
I have begged that if he ever has negative feeling for me he should not report in on our child.
I have asked him to regurlary call or skype or facetime our child who often asks for him because I am in america and he is in Nigeria ,to no avail.
I dont't know what to do anymore.
I ask for very little from him and even that little he can't do it.

Its possible he's having problems of his own, that's distracting him

I think he doing fine and he is healthy. He even has a fiancée.
He has the right to move n with his life but why hurt his child im the process.
I speak to his mother often and she avoids the subject

Too bad

Plenty fells:
Fell in love
Fell in pregnant

Abeg stand this time
Cos u are now a single mom
And the child's welfare solely your responsibility

But is it a male or female child? Cos

Male: he is coming back
Female: he is gone for real

There must be a reason why he is acting this way, and it is a pity that he can't tell u why. From the look of things, he don't need u anymore and his mother is in support of this. Just don't let it bother u too much. He have a child with u, and when the time comes, he must come back for it. For now, just move on with your life.

OP I think u shud let him go...for me it's better if u cud cut off all the ties between u and this guy..it's very obvious he is not willing to do his obligations with his child..never beg someone who never even care about his child's well being..

it's normal for a child to ask but if u let him understand the situations, believe me one day he will stop asking abt him..help ur child as well to convert his attentions to some other things & if u can let his father out in the picture asap so u & ur child can move on & live in a peaceful life

He's in Nigeria right?



My sister, the economy is bad, change is dealing with him.

KashyBaby:
OP I think u shud let him go...for me it's better if u cud cut off all the ties between u and this guy..it's very obvious he is not willing to do his obligations with his child..never beg someone who never even care about his child's well being..

it's normal for a child to ask but if u let him understand the situations, believe me one day he will stop asking abt him..help ur child as well to convert his attentions to some other things & if u can let his father out in the picture asap so u & ur child can move on & live in a peaceful life

KashyBaby jumping to premature conclusion since her 4th birthday.

This is a just the lady's side of the story so it is wrong to draw your conclusion from her side alone.

Why not take care of the child yourself?, since you are financially well to do and forget about the ingrate?, cos i know in due time he 'll come asking for the child then from there you can do warreva you wanna do with him.

Tallesty1:
KashyBaby jumping to premature conclusion since her 4th birthday.

This is a just the lady's side of the story so it is wrong to draw your conclusion from her side alone.

Don't quote me I'm not talking to u & if ur on t he shoes of that woman I bet u r even worst...so stay in ur lane if u can't contribute to make life bearable...


Nonsense!

I feel bad for my child I try my best and I really thought communication would help but it doesn't seems too

firstking01:
Why not take care of the child yourself?, since you are financially well to do and forget about the ingrate?, cos i know in due time he 'll come asking for the child then from there you can do warreva you wanna do with him.

I think the op was juz asking for a little time from her dead beat husband to have a communication with their child...

Why some men are like this?

op take care of ur child ursef with ur family assistance

Dis is one of d pains single mother usually face

Most fathers are no where to b found especially if dey arent married to d lady in question

take care of ur lovely child ok pls nd pls ok.

Hmmm...




This lady no be 9ja breed at all. Money dey, pikin dey well, 9ja babe for no even send the guy.



Anyways, good morning everyone

KashyBaby:




I think the op was juz asking for a little time from her dead beat husband to have a communication with their child...

Why some men are like this?

to be frank with you it beats my imagination why a man will dump a lady he worked sooo had to get...but i know for a typical nigerian man, he must come looking for his child someday, esp if it's a boy.

firstking01:
to be frank with you it beats my imagination why a man will dump a lady he worked sooo had to get...but i know for a typical nigerian man, he must come looking for his child someday, esp if it's a boy.

I shud find someone to give me a boy jk

KashyBaby:





I shud find someone to give me a boy jk

and dnt you think i can do that

firstking01:
and dnt you think i can do that

Hhahahahahahahahah.... I don't think so u can..

KashyBaby:





Hhahahahahahahahah.... I don't think so u can..

your dnt think so i can??, oya givit a triaL na

KashyBaby:





Don't quote me I'm not talking to u & if ur on t he shoes of that woman I bet u r even worst...so stay in ur lane if u can't contribute to make life bearable...


Nonsense!

A wise person waits to hear the two sides of a story or at least ask some questions important questions to understand what really happened before jumping to premature conclusion.