bukatyne:


Beats her? Proud and non-caring?

Could it be that was how he saw his parents behave and he is not necessarily bad?

Is he a husband that believes in providing? Does he provide financially?

You can ask questions for Africa sha

OP what makes you think we care about your opinion on 'all' women?
If you had to meet one woman to reassure yourself that good women still exist, then the problem is you. Not the other women you've been meeting who you think are bad.

We are inundated with news of horrible things men do everyday. Rape, kill, ritual killings, robberies, violence, drugs, 419....to name a few.
Yet every sensible person knows that good men still exist (and many of them too).

You as a matter of fact have not questioned the existence of good men ever despite knowing that many men are capable of unspeakable horror. Yet you have the nerves to hold a prior opinion that good women are scarce. Joker.

Examine yourself well.

O my darling

cococandy:
OP what makes you think we care about your opinion on 'all' women?
If you had to meet one woman to reassure yourself that good women still exist, then the problem is you. Not the other women you've been meeting who you think are bad.

We are inundated with news of horrible things men do everyday. Rape, kill, ritual killings, robberies, violence, drugs, 419....to name a few.
Yet every sensible person knows that good men still exist (and many of them too).

You as a matter of fact have not questioned the existence of good men ever despite knowing that many men are capable of unspeakable horror. Yet you have the nerves to hold a prior opinion that good women are scarce. Joker.

Examine yourself well.

crackhaus:
[size=30pt]SMH[/size]

I know the reason for shaking your head .
honesty I know and me too Dey suprise.

you go +, they go against.

you go -, they go against .

cococandy:
OP what makes you think we care about your opinion on 'all' women?
If you had to meet one woman to reassure yourself that good women still exist, then the problem is you. Not the other women you've been meeting who you think are bad.

We are inundated with news of horrible things men do everyday. Rape, kill, ritual killings, robberies, violence, drugs, 419....to name a few.
Yet every sensible person knows that good men still exist (and many of them too).

You as a matter of fact have not questioned the existence of good men ever despite knowing that many men are capable of unspeakable horror. Yet you have the nerves to hold a prior opinion that good women are scarce. Joker.

Examine yourself well.

what makes you think I give a sh* t about you .
it is my opinion and I don't recall asking you for validation.
rather than seek for my time, I think you need to.respect my opinion and mind yours .
"fowl"

examine yourself .

Dcholeric:

I know the reason for shaking your head .
honesty I know and me too Dey suprise .

you go +, they go against.
you go -, they go against .

My brother I taya..
I honestly wanted to offer my own contribution on the matter, but after reading through the pages I nor con even know where or how to chook leg again.

There is a spirit in Nairaland...seriously.
Like some peeps really just need to stay off the site for a long time to detox and regain themselves completely... I TELL YOU!

We all have different definitions of a good woman. These definitions depend on what you are really searching for in a woman....I am searching for my own type of good woman and the hunt is getting

Dcholeric:

what makes you think I give a sh* t about you .
it is my opinion and I don't recall asking you for validation.
rather than seek for my time, I think you need to.respect my opinion and mind yours .
"fowl"

examine yourself .

Umm you're the one spouting rubbish about women. I'm a woman. That makes it my business.

Chicken

efemenaslectura:
O my darling

Jux imagine dis OP

Don't give up. We are many
Make sure to redefine your own good woman to fit the reality of the day.

Marxxx:
We all have different definitions of a good woman. These definitions depend on what you are really searching for in a woman....I am searching for my own type of good woman and the hunt is getting

Almost everyone has a demon inside them, they just need the right stimuli to ptobok that dekon, although some people have mastered ways of taming their demons. That being said everyone has a good on the they just need the right atmosphere to fully express that good. The measure of ones character as good or bad is totally subjective to the observer. What you term bad could be someone's ideal. Plus op you are terming this woman absolutely good just from words of her mouth, you forget ppl tend to show you what they want you yo see, live with them and observe them closely b4 you can asertain their true nature. Not just from a peripheral observation

armyofone:
Don't give up. We are many
Make sure to redefine your own good woman to fit the reality of the day.

your sense of humour is awesome..."to fit the reality of the day" pls elucidate...I couldn't grasp the phrase...

cococandy:

Jux imagine dis OP

That was sambarry. Iya wura
aka efemenaslectura

Mahalo
I'm a gal of few words. Just look at it or read it deeply, do some ruminations and interpret it your own way .

Marxxx:
your sense of humour is awesome..."to fit the reality of the day" pls elucidate...I couldn't grasp the phrase...

armyofone:
Mahalo
I'm a gal of few words. Just look at it or read it deeply, do some ruminations and interpret it your own way .

lol...you are very funny. Reminds me of a book I read in High school "He was a man of few words and a gentleman on the highway"...I have looked at it in 3D I think I have an inkling of what you meant..." A lady of few words"...how are you tonight?

I'm good and you...?

Marxxx:
lol...you are very funny. Reminds me of a book I read in High school "He was a man of few words and a gentleman on the highway"...I have looked at it in 3D I think I have an inkling of what you meant..." A lady of few words"...how are you tonight?

armyofone:
I'm good and you...?

I wish I could say the same...No Power No Pms...got 10ltrs for 8k yesterday...and today I couldn't find the black marketers...I had to leave the house and lodge somewhere

SAMBARRY:
ok

You only see what you want to see ....

praying for all to be well.

Marxxx:
I wish I could say the same...No Power No Pms...got 10ltrs for 8k yesterday...and today I couldn't find the black marketers...I had to leave the house and lodge somewhere

armyofone:
praying for all to be well.

Why are you betraying sleep?

cococandy:

Jux imagine dis OP

the only thing I imagine is you/frog.

frog please go to bed.

Dcholeric:

the only thing I imagine is you/frog.

frog please go to bed.

toad

aforti:
Almost everyone has a demon inside them, they just need the right stimuli to ptobok that dekon, although some people have mastered ways of taming their demons. That being said everyone has a good on the they just need the right atmosphere to fully express that good. The measure of ones character as good or bad is totally subjective to the observer. What you term bad could be someone's ideal.

Great submission.

Taming one's Demons is what people call a ticking time bomb. Humans need to learn the art of letting out their true emotions and let go of societal perception. Yes taming ones bad side is perfect for the optics but bad for your wellness.
Recently talking about breathing yoga with a friend as a way of letting off steam from everyday stess and dealing with life difficulties (such as dealing with some everyday & inavoidable and irrational people scattered on this God's green earth).

And what is bad to you may be my best option. So get that. Variety is the spice of Life.

And I so agree with Byvan03 , from marital perspective ; behind a virtuous woman is always a great and understanding man.

When a good person ( as majorly portrayed) is pushed to the wall, then you have a beast, hopefully these same people will defend her character to strangers then.

but that's not my business coz I won't take shait from anyone and it doesnt matter what strangers think. Children are watching and laying good example instead of embedding the art of being a doormat is a good option. Especially in this day and age.

Another angle is ; The problem we have as humans is what society think and how our character is portrayed. I attended a seminar and read inspirational books, but positivity seems to be the key ingredient and common attribute of bring a GOOD PERSON inside and out. what really matter is how you feel about yourself as human. Your positive self will automatically attract people's acceptance and approval of your character. People will get to know the real you through your positiveness.That's just it. Trying TOO hard is just a facade and fake.
*****




When will spring sprung here

cococandy:
toad

e pain am

ok bye forever froggy.

byvan03:




Only God knows who is pure in heart . The human hearts are deep waters, who can know it? No one really knows anyone, you only know what they want you to know and see what they want you see.

I totally agree with this..

The human heart is tooooo deep.

These days my prayer is to become pure in heart FIRST cos people may see me as good meanwhile the bitterness,jealousy and hate that resides in there is just being suppressed.

I believe there is some sort of good in everyone as well and try to look at that however 'goodness' is subjective. If you ask 100 people what they think a 'nice' person is you would probably get '100' answers with most placing 'how' the person treated or made them feel at the core of their judgement. That in itself is not bad ( I believe in treating people how you would want to be treated) however it just goes to show that 'perceptions' of 'being good' by others is not in itself the sole determninant that one is a 'good person'

Forgive my rambling

damiso:


I totally agree with this..

The human heart is tooooo deep.

These days my prayer is to become pure in heart FIRST cos people may see me as good meanwhile the bitterness,jealousy and hate that resides in there is just being suppressed.

Tooooo deep I tell you!

Ewuro4 on point!

byvan03:




Tooooo deep I tell you!

let me share this personal story..

I generally see myself as a happy go lucky person and I can genuinely say that I cant think of one human being in this world that I hate. I could dislike your behaviour but I try not to waste my energy hating. I am happy when good things happen to others and try not to dwell too much on the negative aspect of other people behaviour.

A couple of months ago, a friend told me about something that she was about to do. In all honesty, said friend could be extravagant and tends to sometime spend above her means. I asked if she really needed this thing and if she felt it was a priority at this time and she did not listen to me and went ahead to get it. A few months down the line she ran into financial trouble and confided in me. I tried not to rub it in at the time and tried to be a supportive friend but you know what in my heart I felt justified In my heart I was saying 'when you don't listen to people nko ntoor see yourself now ' I said all the right things in front of her but my heart was saying something else( justified or not). Along the line I have shared those same thoughts in a non confrontational way but at the very moment when she was saying it my the natural human instinct of feeling 'right' came into play. At that point I appeared like a 'good' friend but my heart was saying otherwise. I have eventually shared what was in my heart but it cannot the change the fact that her 'perception' at that time was very different from what my heart was saying at the time.

That's why my sincere prayer is to be pure in heart. Even more so than what people 'percieve' me to be.

Marxxx:
Why are you betraying sleep?

Hi, I sent you a PM. I will like to ask you some questions. Kindly respond. Thanks.

damiso:


let me share this personal story..

I generally see myself as a happy go lucky person and I can genuinely say that I cant think of one human being in this world that I hate. I could dislike your behaviour but I try not to waste my energy hating. I am happy when good things happen to others and try not to dwell too much on the negative aspect of other people behaviour.

A couple of months ago, a friend told me about something that she was about to do. In all honesty, said friend could be extravagant and tends to sometime spend above her means. I asked if she really needed this thing and if she felt it was a priority at this time and she did not listen to me and went ahead to get it. A few months down the line she ran into financial trouble and confided in me. I tried not to rub it in at the time and tried to be a supportive friend but you know what in my heart I felt justified In my heart I was saying 'when you don't listen to people nko ntoor see yourself now ' I said all the right things in front of her but my heart was saying something else( justified or not). Along the line I have shared those same thoughts in a non confrontational way but at the very moment when she was saying it my the natural human instinct of feeling 'right' came into play. At that point I appeared like a 'good' friend but my heart was saying otherwise. I have eventually shared what was in my heart but it cannot the change the fact that her 'perception' at that time was very different from what my heart was saying at the time.

That's why my sincere prayer is to be pure in heart. Even more so than what people 'percieve' me to be.

Damiso I don't know if I responded to this before but I read it once again. This story is so like everyday human heart. Do you think humans can really defeat that " I told you so " part of us? E go hard mehn...

PresVA:
Were you thinking good women don't exist? There are good women as well as good men....

I pity those who believe or allow the negative stuffs they read on nairaland to influence them..

..exactly.