it was just like a film to me ,wen my fiancee became jealous over a stuff his male neighbor bought for me,is not like I didn't tell him about that stuff but because of over jealousy,he started beating me and calling me all sorts of names,and he really beat hell out my body,saying i shouldnt have collected it,because the guy is making advances at me and he knows that, now he is asking me to forgive him that it was the devil,he didn't know wen he did that,and promised never to do that again.
pls what should I do now,because I have really lost some love and respect for him,and I can't stand his sight anymore,I really need a matured advice now ,because we r even planning on getting married soon

beat am back!
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Na Igbo guy ba? Na them dey get jealous that quick.
But to be candid, una never marry, him dey beat you to stupor, what if una come marry, that time he will definitely feels he "owns" you and will not only beat you but might end up maiming you! Gbam!
He who has ears, let him hear.

Run for your life

You see yourself his making advances and you still collected the gift, leave your fiancée na if you even get the mind rubbish

NO...COS THIS TIME HE ONLY BEAT U...NEXT TIME HE MAY BREAK UR RIBS OR BLIND UR EYES.

Never you remain in an abusive relationship. Someone who loves and knows you very well will have TRUST in you.

I can't stand an abusive relationship its damn sickening

Op signs of insecurities .. He is threatened .. Why?
U told him , whats the biggie really he should be letting the neighbour know , oga nothing u fit buy this chic she's mine . ( attitude)
But now his beaten you .. Yes it might stop you from accepting gift but he will do it again ..

Thats not love some guys wont even tough a lady whether she cheat oh etc , they give her middle finger n chuck her out . So for him to beat u ... Gurl begin reevaluate .

Hope you haven't got kids with him .. makes leaving a little harder but make sure u do get out of that relationship. If it is his first time i have seen some guys never do it again but its rare ..

One time a beater,always a beater

All this silly ladies be asking silly question..

Abeg lawma....

d guy might b trying to deliver u from d spirit of longer-throat.

D neighbour is making advances at u nd u knw it yet u still stupidly went ahead to collect gift frm him.my dear u re d cost of ur predicament,ur guy did wot I he tout was rite.wunt u b jealous if u see him collecting gift frm ladies? Xcept u dnt love him den u wunt b jealous.

Jst forgive him.he beat u up bcs he loves u so so much nd mind u dnt do it again.

If you think you cant start all over again quit,go ahead with the relation if can tolorate him.

gentlesinna:
D neighbour is making advances at u nd u knw it yet u still stupidly went ahead to collect gift frm him.my dear u re d cost of ur predicament,ur guy did wot I he tout was rite.wunt u b jealous if u see him collecting gift frm ladies? Xcept u dnt love him den u wunt b jealous.

Jst forgive him.he beat u up bcs he loves u so so much nd mind u dnt do it again.

if I really wanted something secret from the neighbor,I wouldn't have told him about the gift,I would have kept it to myself,but because I don't want to keep any secret from him, that was y I told him,I wasn't expecting him to even hit me because of gift,because gift is meant to be accepted, is just a gift,and if there was any other thing wrong he sees ,he would have told me peacefully than beating me,and after the deed has been done,y is he regretting it,y is he begging,why?I think he doesn't trust me that's his problem.

ugovivy:
it was just like a film to me ,wen my fiancee became jealous over a stuff his male neighbor bought for me,is not like I didn't tell him about that stuff but because of over jealousy,he started beating me and calling me all sorts of names,and he really beat hell out my body,saying i shouldnt have collected it,because the guy is making advances at me and he knows that, now he is asking me to forgive him that it was the devil,he didn't know wen he did that,and promised never to do that again.
pls what should I do now,because I have really lost some love and respect for him,and I can't stand his sight anymore,I really need a matured advice now ,because we r even planning on getting married soon

thought you were looking for a serious relationship that would lead to marriage and you got one but is obvious you are not ready for the marriage itself.

you know his neighbor is making advances towards you, why did you collect the gift? a simple no thank you would have been better.

your fiancee is wrong for hitting you and once a beater always a beater except self disciplined guys that choose not to walk that part again.

you both need to seat down and talk cus is obvious he is insecure and doesn't trust you.
let him know you can't be in an abusive relationship and the next time he does it, you will walk out of the relationship.

You shoudn't have collected the gift in the first place. That was really wrong. However, if you forgive him two things can happen : he will either stop beating you or he will continue to beat you.

If he stops, good for you but if not two things will happen. It's either he kills you or you lose your eyes. If he kills you, good for you but if you lose your eyes two things can happen. It's either ...............

If you can forgive him, then do. and move on. we all deserves a second Chance. But, make sure you get him to sign an agreement that any day he Lay's his hand on you again, you will do a drastic thing to him.




But, if you can't forgive him..., then let go of the relationship.


For me, I fear a violent man pass snake sef.

U were wrong to accept a gift from ur neighbour knowing ur fiance is the jealous type.

That said, I dont think you want to wait for the next round of pummeling before you get your ass outta that relationship. U are alive to receive his apology now. There is no guarantee for same next time.

RUN!!!

ugovivy:
it was just like a film to me ,wen my fiancee became jealous over a stuff his male neighbor bought for me,is not like I didn't tell him about that stuff but because of over jealousy,he started beating me and calling me all sorts of names,and he really beat hell out my body,saying i shouldnt have collected it,because the guy is making advances at me and he knows that, now he is asking me to forgive him that it was the devil,he didn't know wen he did that,and promised never to do that again.
pls what should I do now,because I have really lost some love and respect for him,and I can't stand his sight anymore,I really need a matured advice now ,because we r even planning on getting married soon

Don't get married to the beast please cos he will definitely turn you into a punching bag once married.... Don't forsake your happiness and wellbeing just because of marriage.

SEETHEM:
You shoudn't have collected the gift in the first place. That was really wrong. However, if you forgive him two things can happen : he will either stop beating you or he will continue to beat you.

If he stops, good for you but if not two things will happen. It's either he kills you or you lose your eyes. If he kills you, good for you but if you lose your eyes two things can happen. It's either ...............

please what's wrong about it? I have a neighbor that insists on changing my tecno into iphone5...I politely declined though. Should I go ahead and collect the phone?

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Cos He will continue to beat shit outta you...

his MALE neighbor buyin u tins, hear urself@ OP. Who knws Wat's goin on btw u 2? u won't tell us dat part oooo. Idiot

ugovivy:
it was just like a film to me ,wen my fiancee became jealous over a stuff his male neighbor bought for me,is not like I didn't tell him about that stuff but because of over jealousy,he started beating me and calling me all sorts of names,and he really beat hell out my body,saying i shouldnt have collected it,because the guy is making advances at me and he knows that, now he is asking me to forgive him that it was the devil,he didn't know wen he did that,and promised never to do that again.
pls what should I do now,because I have really lost some love and respect for him,and I can't stand his sight anymore,I really need a matured advice now ,because we r even planning on getting married soon

Forgiving is often if not always beneficial to all involved party(ies).
Continuing with the relationship is another ball game all together...
The very moment your partner hits you with his/her fists...He/she has crossed the forbidden line, always difficult to stop.

ugovivy:
it was just like a film to me ,wen my fiancee became jealous over a stuff his male neighbor bought for me,is not like I didn't tell him about that stuff but because of over jealousy,he started beating me and calling me all sorts of names,and he really beat hell out my body,saying i shouldnt have collected it,because the guy is making advances at me and he knows that, now he is asking me to forgive him that it was the devil,he didn't know wen he did that,and promised never to do that again.
pls what should I do now,because I have really lost some love and respect for him,and I can't stand his sight anymore,I really need a matured advice now ,because we r even planning on getting married soon

is that the first time he's beating you?

Fedayeen:
Never you remain in an abusive relationship. Someone who loves and knows you very well will have TRUST in you.

I can't stand an abusive relationship its damn sickening

I have 'known' and 'trusted' several women in my young life and where did it get me? No guy has any right whatsoever to beat a lady though. Actually a sign of weakness.

He is a violent man, this type will drive you mad if you marry him. He will certainly beat you again and again and again. Beaters don't change, don't end in a divorce due to domestic violence. You are dealing with a psychiatric patient.


In your future relationship please have sense , stop collecting gifts from other men if you are in a committed relationship with someone else. No man has the right to hit you, even your husband. You are not a child!

thought you were looking for a serious relationship that would lead to marriage and you got one but is obvious you are not ready for the marriage itself.
you know his neighbor is making advances towards you, why did you collect the gift? a simple no thank you would have been better.
your fiancee is wrong for hitting you and once a beater always a beater except self disciplined guys that choose not to walk that part again.
you both need to seat down and talk cus is obvious he is insecure and doesn't trust you.
let him know you can't be in an abusive relationship and the next time he does it, you will walk out of the relationship. [/quote]


Excuse me? Sit and talk ? And tell him she can't be in an abusive relationship? Isn't that something couples talk about at the earliest stages of relationships where you spell out things u can tolerate and those you cannot. If they already did this, it means he already knew yet he went ahead to disobey her principle. Which means sitting on the same issue a second time wouldn't be sensible, as he would only repeat the disobedience.

Shii i really dont wanna read ur story

He beats u?

Nd u want advise?

wow amazing

firstking01:
is that the first time he's beating you?

yes,this is the very first time,and he is still begging up till now,and called his friends to beg and also bought some stuffs for me just to cool me down but am still boiling inside

ugovivy:


yes,this is the very first time,and he is still begging up till now,and called his friends to beg and also bought some stuffs for me just to cool me down but am still boiling inside

my problem is, he went too extreme beating you for the very first time,,,,who knows what the next one will be like...but i'd suggest you lerrit qo, buh qive him a stern warning never to try such aqain or you'd be qone for qoodt...i hate women beaters.

What kind of love makes one wanna destroy the object of one's affection? I still don't get it.

When a boy wanna marry a little girl. That's ur case. Women never learn anything. You claim to wanna be with man A, but still want the attentions of man B, still want man C to ask you out, so you can tell man A all about them and also repeat process of telling B and C about the boyfriend I love man A.

Please my dear, call off the wedding till you are tired of men or they are tired of you. Then when you are in a relationship with a man heading to marriage. You will face that squarely rather than courting the attention of other men and justifying it with I told him about it.

The day you and neighbour will sleep with each other, please will you also tell him?

Damn dullards everywhere