whitelexi:

I'm a rather orthodox minded man and based on the fact that i'm the true son of my father, my answer would be a resounding NO. I would prefer to provide for my family and earn my respect that way, there is no restriction on the wife if she wants to work but there has to be a very well defined framework in place as to who is the man and the head of the family. To that effect, the age gap has to be a minimum of 5yrs to start with.

PS: I want my ishi-okuko on xmas day too

_{and no woman drama oh}

My main man, what's good? Oya, let's dissect your comment. I understand you being all orthodox, not wanting to adopt the new western kind of system and all that. If your wife is older than you, does that stop you from earning your respect? If you're younger than your wife you're still the head of the family and nothing has changed that. It won't stop your "isi-okuko" too . As long as you maintain your maturity and treat your wife the right way you should, you'll always get your respect.

If you fail to perform your civic duties in your own home, if you're 20 years older than your wife, you'll still be less than a chaff to her. But I respect your opinion man, you got policy and that's what's up! They say a man's got two things -- his balls and his word.

TheSeeker:

My main man, what's good? Oya, let's dissect your comment. I understand you being all orthodox, not wanting to adopt the new western kind of system and all that. If your wife is older than you, does that stop you from earning your respect? If you're younger than your wife you're still the head of the family and nothing has changed that. It won't stop your "isi-okuko" too . As long as you maintain your maturity and treat your wife the right way you should, you'll always get your respect.

If you fail to perform your civic duties in your own home, if you're 20 years older than your wife, you'll still be less than a chaff to her. But I respect your opinion man, you got policy and that's what's up! They say a man's got two things -- his balls and his word.

whitelexi:

I like the way u ended your above post - very nice. The thing is that everything u've talked about will work if its a babe from any other part of the world, naija babes are different. . . Just as they attach sooooooo much to respect coming with age - [ask a grown naija woman for her age, and on the average you'll get an answer that is in turn a question of its own - u dont get that when u ask a foreigner no matter their age.], they will also only respect u if they know u are well older than they are. . . I guess proper love and proper respect creeps into the picture later when u start providing for her but the disrespect from the initial stages alone can crash the entire relationship if care is not taken.

whitelexi:

I like the way u ended your above post - very nice.  The thing is that everything u've talked about will work if its a babe from any other part of the world, naija babes are different. . .  Just as they attach sooooooo much to respect coming with age - [ask a grown naija woman for her age, and on the average you'll get an answer that is in turn a question of its own - u dont get that when u ask a foreigner no matter their age.], they will also only respect u if they know u are well older than they are. . .   I guess proper love and proper respect creeps into the picture later when u start providing for her but the disrespect from the initial stages alone can crash the entire relationship if care is not taken.

steve49ja:

Can You Marry Someone That Is Older Than You


For what??

Hairat007:



u re only being NIGERIAN dont really blame u lol.

debest1:

hairat wud u marry someone 4 yrs younger than u?

tine:

@ Hairat exactly, when there is love and respect age ceases to matter.