It is somewhat generally believed that one of the biggest achievements of men and women alike, is when they are domiciled abroad and are working or at least have permanent sources of income.
The expectation thereof would be that the couples with such working statuses ought to be fulfilled and happy together. But that is not often the case in some homes in the United States.

The February 2016 case of a 49-year-old Muhammadu Ighomigho who committed suicide after shooting to death his 44-year-old ex-wife, Nnenna Ogbonna, in the state of Maryland, is one of those catastrophes taking place in the United States. Such tragic end is not unconnected with the reasons which are discussed below:

1. Tax refund: A federal tax refund is basically a refund from the Internal Revenue Service (IRS) because you paid more in taxes than you owed for the year. This can happen if too much money is withheld from your paychecks (called withholding tax) and it adds up to more than your total tax liability for the year. In general, the more money that is withheld from your wages throughout the year, the greater your tax refund may be because you’ve essentially overpaid the IRS. Everyone in US looks forward to filing for tax every year. Most families get so much refund which they inject into investments back in Nigeria. Thus when couples are doing things separately, there’s bound to be greed in the sharing of the refund. The fight becomes intense if the couple is separated but have children together. This is where Muhammadu and Nnenna mentioned above come in.

2. After helping her get to US: Some men get frustrated when the women or the wives whom they had helped get to the United States begin to treat them badly as is widely reported that women brought from nothing in Nigeria to everything in America go haywire when “their eyes don tear”.

3. Alienation of affection: In some cases, these men who indulge in killing their spouses believe that when the women may have seen beyond them, they become unfriendly to them (the husbands). The love they once proclaimed, the promises they once made, all shrivel to irrelevance.

4. Women empowerment: One of the things that scares a Nigerian husband is the empowerment of their wives. Their dream is to be author and finisher of the fate of their families. Not that they do not want the progress of their wives, but they want to always be at the top. They want to always say “yes I carter for my family”. That is one of the things that make a man. But when nature contradicts his yearnings, he believes he is doomed. Of course in a country like the US where women are given enormous power and rights against that of the men, a woman with the slightest inclination to go wayward will definitely break loose.

5. Respect: Every African man demands respect as one of the features of his wife. Respect ought to be reciprocated though. But in some cases, a man does not care if he respects his wife or not. It is learned that a woman is the most respectful and disrespectful gender depending on how she is treated. Some wouldn’t mind taking nonsense from the man while others would. This is why David Ochola killed his wife, Priscila Ochola, in Hennepin, Minnesota, some time back in 2014. After killing her, David called the police and allegedly told them that he had killed the woman who messed up his life and that he was tired of being disrespected. For disrespect, he sent her to early grave leaving two children behind.

6. Emasculation: Because the woman takes care of the bills in the house, and probably the man isn’t employed, one day the wife will speak out. When the home gets heated up, he is afraid to vehemently scold her for the fear of being ejected from the house if she eventually calls the police. In his own house, he is no longer the man. There are men who are currently suffering this fate. Some others have been ejected from the house. Even though they do not live in the house, they still pay the mortgage or the rent as the case may be, they are mandated to pay for the upkeep of their children. The system will not mind whether the man feeds not to talk of being housed. We all know that when frustration sets in, something bizarre may take place.

7. Loss of self-esteem: Some factors like systematic punishment (unemployment), failing to meet fatherly standards, being on the receiving end, absence of affection from wife and children, and many others can lead to the loss of a man’s self-esteem. Sometimes he feels the wife has instigated the children against him.

8. Cheating: The irony about this is that it is easier for a woman to cheat on her husband in the US than in Nigeria. There have been cases of women cheating on their men. But when a man cheats and he is caught, he is doomed. There are very few cases where those who killed their wives dwelled on the reason of cheating. But on the other hand, although there are several inaccurate sides of the story, it was reported in April 2015 that Temitope
Adebamiro, a Nigerian mother of 2 based in Delaware, brutally murdered her husband, Adeyinka Adebamiro. She claimed that her husband cheated on her with multiple women including her sister and their nanny’s daughter.

In a nutshell, is it possible for this to be the other way round? Where the women kill their husbands for the reasons mentioned from 1-7 above? There may be such cases but very rare judging from US media and police reports. There are many Nigerian men serving jail terms in the US for killing their wives. While some are serving specific years, others are “jailed for life”.
For instance, in 2007, it was reported that one Kelechi Charles Emeruwa ambushed and sliced the throat of his estranged registered nurse wife with a kitchen knife. He is currently serving life jail term according to reports.

With all the killings and the many troubles going on in many Nigerian families home and abroad, it is ideal to first consider the life of a human and the children that may be left behind before taking an erratic action to take a life. Anger only destroys and can never build. It is also a good thing for couples to have respect for one another. No matter what the troubles are, stop agonizing and start organizing. If peace is not engendered the family will be endangered.

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Hmmm! The point that almost flared me up if that you struggle to work and survive in America, finally being able to bring your wife and kids to the states. Then westernization opens your wife's eyes and then she believes you are no good for her anymore. Kids go wayward and you lose your job. Heaven knows that hell will know no bounds when I unleash fury! Walahi. I need to go shower right now, I'm already paranoid just thinking of it

I am sorry but I have to ask.........................
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Who them epp?

Where the Bleep did that come from?

Talking about who them epp

Ariel20:
I am sorry but I have to ask.........................
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Who them epp?

Where the Bleep did that come from?

Talking about who them epp

your questions are wrongly asked, doesnt follow this context and also horrific . if u have nothing gud say, must you comment?
ho my gosh, many Nigerians of nwadays are naturally daft.

she cannot be helped

My brother ehhhh

funmijoyb:


your questions are wrongly asked, doesnt follow this context and also horrific . if u have nothing gud say, must you comment?
ho my gosh, many Nigerians of nwadays are naturally daft.

she cannot be helped

Your foolishness is intriguing.

Sighs....Na wa ooo..

It's interesting that you reasons tend to put the victims (mostly women) at fault in their deaths
A real man controls himself and not resort to violence if he does not get his way or achieves what he believes society expects of him