Actually I came across this piece somewhere and decided to share with fellow nairlanders.

VIRGINITY WITHOUT EXTRA OIL

A lot of ladies complain that guys walk away
from them simply because they refused to
give them sex, some are even tempted to give
away their virginity just to keep the guys.
Let me be very blunt here. Virginity may not be the real reason the guys go away. Yes, no
doubt, there are several guys who want sex,
and if they don’t get it, they walk away. The
problem may not be with the virginity or the
sex. The story of the Ten virgins in the Bible
reveals that both the wise and foolish were virgins; the
other five were not refused from seeing the
bridegroom because they were virgins or
because they lost their virginity, but because
they were foolish; they were called foolish
because they had no EXTRA OIL. Most ladies don’t have any EXTRA OIL to
sustain any relationship. While many brag
about their virginity, that is all they have to
offer, they forget that virginity ends the night
after the wedding, but EXTRA OIL is what will
keep the marriage going. If a man asks a lady for sex and she says NO,
the man can walk away if what he really
wanted was sex and also, if that is all he
thinks the lady can offer him. A man may not
come to a lady for sex but along the line, he
may be tempted to ask for sex, if the lady turns him down, the man may still stay in the
relationship, if he sees other things that are
valuable to him but if he doesn’t, he may walk
away.
Before you think guys are walking away
because you are a virgin, look inwardly. Some ladies who brag about virginity are somewhat
timid, some impolite, uncultured and
aggressive. Why would a guy stay with such a
lady? Some ladies do not have manners, some
do not have much upstairs, some are not
social, some are dull, and maybe the best thing they have is their hips, nice backside,
nice breast and nice lips, and so when a guy
comes because of all the physical shapes and
wants sex, if he is turned down, he walks away
because there is nothing else
interesting about the lady. Most men now are even scared of marrying
such virgins. Their fears prompt them to want
to test before
they discuss marriage because many ladies
who got married as virgins have caused their
husbands to be looking elsewhere because they are too naïve on bed.
However, you don’t need to test to be sure she
will be good, you can know a lady who will be
good at home and bed by her decent
conversation, by the level of knowledge
acquired, by her quest/zest passion for knowledge and by God’s leading. I know of
many ladies who are still virgins, they have
great relationships, they have many friends
around them, you may not even know they are
still virgins
unless they tell you. Do not break your virginity because a guy wants to walk away,
unless you don’t have anything else to offer in
the relationship. It is not all about virginity,
work to build up virtue. Virginity is good, but
to your virginity, add knowledge, add EXTRA
OIL….“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith, virtue; and to virtue, knowledge;
And to
knowledge, temperance; and to temperance,
patience; and to patience, godliness, And to
godliness, brotherly kindness; and
to brotherly kindness, charity.” 2Pet. 1:5-7. Virginity or no virginity...,do you have any
Extra oil to sustain a relationship?
Ponder on this, my distinguished ladies!!!

God bless the writer