yvelchstores:
well from my point of view, marriage has made me a better person, I am more tolerant and understanding. Op I think u shld knw that d chchallenges marriage brings are suppose to make us better ppl generally. Looking for a perfect spouse is near impossible so then u will hv to work on and with your spouse,becoming a better person in d process. Love is beautiful.

Mindfulness:


I just love you.

Marxxx:
I have the impression that you are married. At first didn't you find it awkward? I mean the togetherness thing? What about the things you enjoy doing alone? Did you have to sacrifice some habits or lifestyle in order to accommodate your partner? Maybe I didn't realise I will get married until recently.

olymurphy:
Our first year was not easy for us cos we courted for just three months. It was after the wedding that both of us realised that we were hot tempered and so many other imperfect characters.
But we started learning each other's character though it got to a point that we almost called it quit but he was not ready to give up and I too was trying to make it.
But right now, we now understand each other very well that we communicate even without talking just by looking into each others eyes.
Finally marriage is a very beautiful thing if you married the one meant for you.
It's been 7 years and still counting
Don't give up

jashar:

You Don't Have To Get Married. It's No Big Deal.

fem29:


Luv u too hun

Marxxx:
Awwwww....you made me laugh @ "before you ask I am already married". wow I appreciate your write up. Seriously I do. But what about the transition? What are those things you gave up? Are there things you long for but you can't have/engage in them because you are married? How did you find the "concept of family"...Ensure you take great care so that there will be less poking...I am yearning to read ur post.

yvelchstores:
oh yes I sacrificed. I don't like much kitchen work,my spouse has a big appetite, I had to adjust. Love is responsibility and sacrifice. This is d love in marriage, stepping up, doing things u ought to do rather than tins u want. On d really nice side, it's good to knw someone is there for u always...

fem29:


Ur welcome dear.

Well my transition was pretty tough. I pretty much gave up my whole life. Had my kids v soon after marriage. Twins. And there were health challenges. I've pretty much given up my whole life for my kids I've had very little support. Was pretty intense.

I wasn't very prayerful and I really feel that really had an impact on all that happened. So please get more prayerful and closer to God right from now.

You will have to give up a lot eg like free time, socialising time, you know just time to just relax and be. But you will be gaining a lot too.

Marxxx:
You!!! I thought the spirit of God has made you pass over this topic. I hope your twin doesn't get here. People have a wrong impression about you when you are not married I know what am talkin about from work place to family. As you approach the peak of your career you need a good Network. Oftentimes people are not comfortable with you holding meetings and private discussions with their spouse when you are not married...and management loves it when when you have something to look after.....let me not type much...I know you are joking and troublesome...go joor

jashar:



See ya head like egg.
And I'm being serious though. Forget societal pressure et al oooo. Your life is your life.
In case you get married out of pressure and the wifey ends up being unhappy, who will the people blame in the end?
Live your life to the best of God's ability. On the last day, no special marks for being married. Instead sef, the way you treated your spouse can even give you negative marking.

Aside: if I wanted Dyt, I would have mentioned her.
But I didn't.

Enjoy.

Marxxx:
you just did... ...

Oooops. Don't worry, she won't come. But he might.

jashar:


Oooops. Don't worry, she won't come. But he might.

Marxxx:
you are funny

jashar:


G'night.
May You Find What You're Looking For.

Marxxx:
Alright dearest take care. Get to the bus station early so that you won't have to trek 10miles...and for the "egg head", that is another topic for another day...

Marxxx:
I understand your intent. Do you think I can't get copious notes from the Internet about marital issues? I could meet a counsellor and arrange for an appointment. When I need info about anything I like to get it from the targeted source. Your ideas were amazing but the topic wasn't generic it was made for a targeted class. Perhaps you didn't notice you really wanted to contribute and I thanked you for it. But you came up with this "Joe bomb". Hmmmmm...well that is what makes us different from other species of the human race. Even when we defy rules and our attention is called we flare up..."I wanted posts from married people" simple. I do not care if you have a phd in marriage proceedings as long as you ain't married just do the needful...

Marxxx:
I learned a lot. Thanks...tell the kids marxxx says hello...I hope you are very strong now? I believe in God. Thanks

Swissheart:
I am not however it doesn't mean I don't have an idea of what I am saying. My parents are.

Marxxx:
You!!! I thought the spirit of God has made you pass over this topic. I hope your twin doesn't get here. People have a wrong impression about you when you are not married I know what am talkin about from work place to family. As you approach the peak of your career you need a good Network. Oftentimes people are not comfortable with you holding meetings and private discussions with their spouse when you are not married...and management loves it when when you have something to look after.....let me not type much...I know you are joking and troublesome...go joor

jashar:

Oooops. Don't worry, she won't come. But he might.

Natascha:
OP I know the feeling

Im a woman, and I dont want children. Neither do I want to get married.

Children and Marriage will just cramp my whole being, Lock me down, inhibit my freedom and rob me of my identity.

Im not anti-kids, I don't hate kids. I just dont want them. I dont need children to make me feel like someone. Im already someone