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Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by saintade01(m): 7:59pm On Apr 12, 2018
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Mariangeles: 8:11pm On Apr 12, 2018
saintade01:
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?
If you don't teach your younger children how to respect the older ones, how do you expect them to learn?
If you don't set them straight now, it will be harder for you later in life!
Teach your child the way he should go...

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by saintade01(m): 8:15pm On Apr 12, 2018
Mariangeles:
If you don't teach your younger children to how to respect the older ones, how do you expect them to learn?
If you don't set them straight now, it will be harder for you later in life!
Teach your child the way he should go...

OH I forgot to mention it. Most times he's been beaten and scolded for his actions but he keeps doing it coz he knows the older is too calm.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Mariangeles: 8:23pm On Apr 12, 2018
saintade01:


OH I forgot to mention it. Most times he's been beaten and scolded for his actions but he keeps doing it coz he knows the older is too calm.
If you keep correcting him, he'll change eventually

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by thesicilian: 8:46pm On Apr 12, 2018
The part I like about all boys is when you tell them it's time to take your bath, and this one runs this way and the other runs that way. Overall it's fun.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by saintade01(m): 9:35pm On Apr 12, 2018
thesicilian:
The part I like about all boys is when you tell them it's time to take your bath, and this one runs this way and the other runs that way. Overall it's fun.

Hehehehe that one is a whole lot of thread on its own grin grin grin

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by blank(f): 2:45am On Apr 13, 2018
thesicilian:
The part I like about all boys is when you tell them it's time to take your bath, and this one runs this way and the other runs that way. Overall it's fun.

I thought it was only me! The only person running to the bathroom is the toddler.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by stacyadams: 2:50am On Apr 13, 2018
Let the older one beat the younger one up on a good day...otherwise em no go get respect ..he gats man up

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by QSola: 7:28am On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?

This is happening presently in my house. Just that my younger son is shorter but he torments my older son and i sometimes make sure the older one beats him back or collect the toys forcefully too because it is now affecting him emotionally

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Ishilove: 7:50am On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?
Let them fight, they are boys. That is the only way the elder will establish his seniority. When the younger gets his little butt whupped, he will learn to fear and most importantly respect his older brother.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by saintade01(m): 8:06am On Apr 13, 2018
stacyadams:
Let the older one beat the younger one up on a good day...otherwise em no go get respect ..he gats man up

Ishilove:

Let them fight, they are boys. That is the only way the elder will establish his seniority. When the younger gets his little butt whupped, he will learn to fear and most importantly respect his older brother.


The problem is the older can hardly fight. He even cries first in the fight.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by damtan(m): 9:48am On Apr 13, 2018
Just laughing as I'm reading through the thread. so my mum had gone through a lot training 3 boys all by herself.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by bebanky: 10:27am On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:


OH I forgot to mention it. Most times he's been beaten and scolded for his actions but he keeps doing it coz he knows the older is too calm.

Keep up with that...my younger daughter of 6 does same to her elder sister who is 8.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by bebanky: 10:29am On Apr 13, 2018
[quote author=Ishilove post=66668072]
Let them fight, they are boys. That is the only way the elder will establish his seniority. When the younger gets his little butt whupped, he will learn to fear and most importantly respect his older brother.[/quote

No...the should not fight nothing... Whats the difference between 4 and 2? Almost nothing expecially if the 2 yrs old is big.The mum has to be the one to step in and put the boundary.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by bebanky: 10:31am On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:





The problem is the older can hardly fight. He even cries first in the fight.

You have to step in at every time and put the younger one in his place

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Ishilove: 10:38am On Apr 13, 2018
bebanky:

The difference between 4 and 2 is the difference between 6 and 4, 8 and 6, 10 and 8, 12 and 10, 14 and 12 and so on.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by chii8(f): 10:41am On Apr 13, 2018
I have three boys... Initially, I was having this same issue as the op but I encouraged the boy to stand up for himself because he's the senior and I started putting the oldest boy in charge of stuff like he shares snacks for others, etc. The second boy Will always complain but he's starting to get use to having a senior.

No/b

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Ishilove: 12:08pm On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:





The problem is the older can hardly fight. He even cries first in the fight.
Then you have to step into the fight and put the younger one in his place.

That's the beauty of having male children. You get to act umpire in wrestle mania

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 12:48pm On Apr 13, 2018
Ishilove:

The difference between 4 and 2 is the difference between 6 and 4, 8 and 6, 10 and 8, 12 and 10, 14 and 12 and so on.

No, not the same. You think this is all about algebra and maths?

4 and 2 are kids yet. They see themselves as mates. No amount of correction will change things. The 2 will never see the 4 as senior. Solution: parents should treat them fairly, equally. You buy same things for both.

8 and 6 ( and higher) - this is when you begin to let the 6 know that 8 is senior. Buy one big snack, tell the 8 to cut into two and take the biggest. Buy 5 fruits, divide it to 3 and 2, tell the 8 to pick first. He will pick 3 fruits, if he picks 2, scold him. Also, let 8 help 6 in doing his homework. Let 8 choose the channel to watch on TV. Each time, always reiterate that 8 is senior but don't overdo it. Sometimes, you can allow the junior some privileges (like choosing TV channel) by reiterating that he is a baby of the house and should be pampered. Get the senior to agree with you.

As they grow older, the junior will automatically programme himself, because the senior will OBVIOUSLY show maturity in most things,especially homework, housework, spelling, use of phone and PCs, etc

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 3:14pm On Apr 13, 2018
sammydirectly:


No, not the same. You think this is all about algebra and maths?

4 and 2 are kids yet. They see themselves as mates. No amount of correction will change things. The 2 will never see the 4 as senior. Solution: parents should treat them fairly, equally. You buy same things for both.

8 and 6 ( and higher) - this is when you begin to let the 6 know that 8 is senior. Buy one big snack, tell the 8 to cut into two and take the biggest. Buy 5 fruits, divide it to 3 and 2, tell the 8 to pick first. He will pick 3 fruits, if he picks 2, scold him. Also, let 8 help 6 in doing his homework. Let 8 choose the channel to watch on TV. Each time, always reiterate that 8 is senior but don't overdo it. Sometimes, you can allow the junior some privileges (like choosing TV channel) by reiterating that he is a baby of the house and should be pampered. Get the senior to agree with you.

As they grow older, the junior will automatically programme himself, because the senior will OBVIOUSLY show maturity in most things,especially homework, housework, spelling, use of phone and PCs, etc
perfect ans

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by saintade01(m): 4:41pm On Apr 13, 2018
Ishilove:

Then you have to step into the fight and put the younger one in his place.

That's the beauty of having male children. You get to act umpire in wrestle mania

grin grin grin Na real wrestle mania.

But whenever we beats the younger one for the elder, he feels cheated.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by saintade01(m): 4:45pm On Apr 13, 2018
sammydirectly:


No, not the same. You think this is all about algebra and maths?

4 and 2 are kids yet. They see themselves as mates. No amount of correction will change things. The 2 will never see the 4 as senior. Solution: parents should treat them fairly, equally. You buy same things for both.

8 and 6 ( and higher) - this is when you begin to let the 6 know that 8 is senior. Buy one big snack, tell the 8 to cut into two and take the biggest. Buy 5 fruits, divide it to 3 and 2, tell the 8 to pick first. He will pick 3 fruits, if he picks 2, scold him. Also, let 8 help 6 in doing his homework. Let 8 choose the channel to watch on TV. Each time, always reiterate that 8 is senior but don't overdo it. Sometimes, you can allow the junior some privileges (like choosing TV channel) by reiterating that he is a baby of the house and should be pampered. Get the senior to agree with you.

As they grow older, the junior will automatically programme himself, because the senior will OBVIOUSLY show maturity in most things,especially homework, housework, spelling, use of phone and PCs, etc

Thanks for this great response. But don't you think waiting till when they're 6 and 8 before correcting this notions is rather late as kids of these days learn so fast. (imagine that 2 year old playing Temple Run)

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 6:03pm On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:


Thanks for this great response. But don't you think waiting till when they're 6 and 8 before correcting this notions is rather late as kids of these days learn so fast. (imagine that 2 year old playing Temple Run)

Let them deal with it by themselves before age 5 or 6. They are still very young.

Your fair handling is the major foundation you want to build.

Concerning the smart young geniuses... Well, it's the emotional intelligence and cultural values we are talking about here. Only parents must instill those. Nobody else can give your child the home training they need to build their future on, not even their teachers or books or their IQ.

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Ishilove: 7:27pm On Apr 13, 2018
sammydirectly:


No, not the same. You think this is all about algebra and maths?

4 and 2 are kids yet. They see themselves as mates. No amount of correction will change things. The 2 will never see the 4 as senior. Solution: parents should treat them fairly, equally. You buy same things for both.

8 and 6 ( and higher) - this is when you begin to let the 6 know that 8 is senior. Buy one big snack, tell the 8 to cut into two and take the biggest. Buy 5 fruits, divide it to 3 and 2, tell the 8 to pick first. He will pick 3 fruits, if he picks 2, scold him. Also, let 8 help 6 in doing his homework. Let 8 choose the channel to watch on TV. Each time, always reiterate that 8 is senior but don't overdo it. Sometimes, you can allow the junior some privileges (like choosing TV channel) by reiterating that he is a baby of the house and should be pampered. Get the senior to agree with you.

As they grow older, the junior will automatically programme himself, because the senior will OBVIOUSLY show maturity in most things,especially homework, housework, spelling, use of phone and PCs, etc
And after all your plenty plenty epistle, did the age gap increase or decrease? That's my whole point

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by tokrizy: 8:37pm On Apr 13, 2018
my mum gave birth to 4 boys and she coped..she trained us well infact d parent's in our compound that ve got girls became jealous because we know how to cook and we are very very very very respectful to d core..mama u trained us well..if u are seeing this jst knw u are d best mother ever i love u like how i wan take describe am self..so much luv 4 u ma..*kisses* ..respect we ve got 4 each other still flows till date..we put BROTHER b4 we call names..till date.lemi stp here ooo..

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by IYANGBALI: 8:40pm On Apr 13, 2018
Let the big boy stand up for himself and teach his younger brother a very big lesson, no one can set him free but himself. Leave them alone and see things sort out themselves

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Nobody: 8:42pm On Apr 13, 2018
grin

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Buharimustgo: 8:45pm On Apr 13, 2018
saintade01:
I have a situation right now where the younger bullies his older brother.

He is 2 and the older is 4, but because he's almost the same height with the older one and a bit fatter, he uses every opportunity to ride his brother. Though the older is calm and homely, very gentle and highly intelligent, he even takes care of this younger one as a big brother but this boy will forcefully collect foods, drinks, toys and even his bigger bicycle from him.

I sometimes tell the big brother to beat him and stand up to him whenever he comes with his bullying but that most times results into fights and I don't like seeing them in wrestlemania.

Please parents with similar issues how do you tame them?

I have the same situation, but u must always make it clear to the younger one that the older one its just tolerating him,some times spank him to reset his brain

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Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by kalu61(m): 8:49pm On Apr 13, 2018
damtan:
Just laughing as I'm reading through the thread. so my mum had gone through a lot training 3 boys all by herself.
same here but my mum oh boy na soldier we turn am to
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by Emotionss: 8:50pm On Apr 13, 2018
Bro that one na normal thing na.
Re: Parents With 2 or More Boys How Do You Cope? by oyetunder(m): 8:52pm On Apr 13, 2018
with moderate cains...all things are possible.

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