hi everybody, i was trying to go out with a boy and i read an article on nairaland that says make friends with the person first before telling them how you feel, so we were great friends but now he's seeing another girl while i'm online, the worst thing is he's always like teju you are my friend tell me what girls like, what is the great gift idea, i tried to be patient or even go with the flow and accept fact that i'm the looser and be their friends until yerstaday that that stupid boy said they want to make porny video and i should handle the camera and i was so angry i would kill him if i had gun(well not really) but now i really want to get that girl out of the way and tell him how i feel after all these days, i'm a teenage mother of 19 i have a lot on my mind but i also want to feel young sometimes and loved. what should i do, they think i'm their best friend and i'm sooo not

hmmm if he gat a girl, already, itz not the girl's fault. just accept it like that. Maybe he likes you as a friend and that is just about it and accept it like that. As of being the camera guru, itz ur choice. if u want, you do it or leave it. Just kool down and see how things goes aite. I have alot of male friends (I happen to be closer to males) but there r some of them within these groups that even if they ask me out, I wouldn't say yes. Good luck sha

U can still let him know,is not late girl,put it to him in a way he will understand.OKie.

This is the boldest thing i've heard someone say on this site. i think the mistake was waiting in the first place or following what u saw on nairaland cos they're meant for different scenarios. Anyways, the problem at hand is a dicey one, I'd say, stay close to them, especially the guy. Dont do silly things to please him though eg holding the camera and sorts.
Be his friend and just be there. Things happen, he will notice it someday if u r meant to be. Otherwise, u were not meant to be. Good Luck with that

i agree with u whitelexi this is really a bold post.well teju this is so sad,but u should have followed Ur heart when u felt u feel something for him instead of following what nairaland says.as whitelexi said its for diffrent scenarios.all am going to say to u is wait around for him to come around.be his friend but don't do stupid things like holding the camera and all that shit.just be nice to him and if u really want him,take advantage of the situation when he is having a fight with his GF.am sorry guys if its wrong but sometimes we just have to be wrong to get whats right.

U can't force Nature.

Dont force urself into sth u wud regret later.
why dont u look for another boy?
ya

that friend of yours must be really sick. what does he take you for?