thorpido:
Yes,you're over reacting.Firstly, why did you decide to involve her mother?Proposals are done with individuals involved or you could have friends organise with you.
Secondly,you're getting married to her and not the mother so why are you angry with the one you plan to marry.
Just get over it.

flyken:
Hello nairalanders, I will make this as simple as possible.

As a guy, it took you 4 months to put together a well deserving marriage proposal to your significant other. A lot of brain work, energy for chirographer, creativity and of course the $$ part of it. In hope to make it as surprise as you can.

Now being skeptical about telling her parents or not. Finally you decided to hint her mom just to make it even more surprise to her seeing her mother that day.

You called her (her mom) to inform her about the about the proposal, she somehow felt like you should have come to the house to tell her about it instead of a phone call. Cool you asked her the best time to come over as long as your girlfriend is not home to hear the conversation. She told you she will get back to you but never did, after a few calls to her mom and no response you decided to move on with the proposal without her present after she's not a priority in this aspect.

Fast forward after the engagement you realize that her mom actually told her you're proposing to her, how would you feel? This is hurting me so much and I have made it known to her and as we speak I am thinking about calling off the engagement. I can't stand her mother right now for this and other reasons. I love my girlfriend but I feel like I wasted my time with every damn thing.

Am I over reacting or making big deal out of nothing?

gykes:
no, you're not over reacting.


You are being childish. Calling off the your engagement over such trivial issue smh..


I honestly think your gf deserves a more mature man because you just showed how unready you are for acting in such manner and even asking such a question.

Sempumping:
overreacting is an understatement .....You want to call off your engagement because your bride to be 's mum told her about your plan to propose?



This your story is a Lie. ...if it is true ,See a doctor, priest ,herbalist. ..(whichever u believe in)

flyken:


Says a dumb broad...

Sempumping:



So immature .....it's obvious you are not ready for marriage .Try again after 10yrs


Ode

thorpido:
Yes,you're over reacting.Firstly, why did you decide to involve her mother?Proposals are done with individuals involved or you could have friends organise with you.
Secondly,you're getting married to her and not the mother so why are you angry with the one you plan to marry.
Just get over it.

Danfuster:



he is not overreacting, he's foreseeing what might/is to come. Don't forget when you marry someone, you marry that person's whole family as well.

In any relationship you are, never ever compromise for all that little signs cos they're the handwritting on the wall.

At OP: It is only mature and diplomatic for you to discuss this with her mom and when I say discuss... I mean "communicating".. Remember, " there are no bad wives, only bad in-laws"

This is really deceptive, I wonder what it'd be like when trying times are here and you report your wife to her mom, she'd probably tell you "I'll get back to you, let me talk to her" and she won't get back to you just like she did here whilst condoning her daughters nonsense instead of scolding her.

Be wise bro... Never ever doubt your instinct.

thorpido:
While I agree you need to pay attention to even little things while dating,i still say he is over reacting in this case.
How do you tell a woman you want to marry the daughter and she should keep it from the daughter?It's a s good as told.He shouldn't have involved her family at all.
He needs to have a talk with the mother as you said.

flyken:
Hello nairalanders, I will make this as simple as possible.



Am I over reacting or making big deal out of nothing?

frozenSun:


That's not cool. The girl's mom really fu'cked up the element of surprise and ruined a perfect moment.

you are not over reacting bro... anybody who takes planning and surprises very seriously would know how it feels.

when u feel u are surprising someone and the person just watches u do all ur wahala cos ur plan has been know all along then it can make u look real foolish.

sorry bro. this ain't cool but just forget it so u don't get too upset and shoot ur mother in law.

come on now bro... breathe in, breathe out and let it go. u will not remember the old woman's mess up forever but u will always remember that you left the one you say you love JUST because of an old woman who couldn't hold her mouth. please don't blame the woman either. some men are worse than that woman.

this might just be the devil's way of trying to stop you from wedding the girl u say u love.

Aquariann:


Cc. Danfuster.

We need more of fellas like you guys on this forum.

I wonder why supposed grown folks can't just do without insulting people online.

frozenSun:


That's not cool. The girl's mom really fu'cked up the element of surprise and ruined a perfect moment.

you are not over reacting bro... anybody who takes planning and surprises very seriously would know how it feels.

when u feel u are surprising someone and the person just watches u do all ur wahala cos ur plan has been know all along then it can make u look real foolish.

sorry bro. this ain't cool but just forget it so u don't get too upset and shoot ur mother in law.

come on now bro... breathe in, breathe out and let it go. u will not remember the old woman's mess up forever but u will always remember that you left the one you say you love JUST because of an old woman who couldn't hold her mouth. please don't blame the woman either. some men are worse than that woman.

this might just be the devil's way of trying to stop you from wedding the girl u say u love.