Kimoni:
I saw your signature...do you mean girlfriend or wife?

Raumdeteur - pls check out this gentleman's signature. I remembered the stories you shared on boys thread when I saw it.

raumdeuter:


Asking some women for money is the easiest way to know your family and life history

talk2alabama:
What sort of rubbish is this..... it's his choice whether to assist in chores or nad... afterall he is d breadwinner...

cococandy:
Best punishment.
Do what you can and let him fester in the remaining filth (that's if it doesn't bug you too).
It's not possible to be hands on with everything in the house especially if you work and have more than one kid.
So some days,you do some leave some.
Once in a while let his favorite shirt stay in the washer for days until he needs it and can't find it because you were too busy with other stuff to remember washing it.
Some days make his dinner very late until he realizes he needs to chip in to help move the ministry forward.
Somebody cannot come and go and die (this grammar still makes me laugh ).

Disregard if you guys have an arrangement where only you keep the home and he brings in the bacon.

Kimoni:


Hahahhahaha

I've had to perfect these skills overtime o

When I had my first baby, hubby said "no nannies", he still wanted Mr and Mrs (who Mr and Mrs epp ) alone in the house and wanted us to use the crèche option instead for LO. But it wasn't convenient for me because we both not closing early in a very demanding industry so we had a situation where LO was always the last to leave the crèche and a caregiver had to stay with her till I got there when others had long left. The lady wasnt finding this funny at all and it was written all over her face. My constant lateness was increasing her own time in traffic and impacting negatively in her home. I had to do something fast since hubby still didn't see the need for it; he felt since we were paying heavily for late picking which was in their policy, all was well. I knew all wasn't well.

Besides that, I wasn't getting the much needed rest over the weekends, I was always tired on Monday mornings I knew I had to devise creative means to have my way. Somebody cannot not come and die like you rightly said.

So I did exactly those things you highlighted and much more. I also started spending long hours in the market every Saturday (wetin I dey buy biko) just to leave both of them at home alone for long hours. You need to see the helplessness and relief on his face when I get home. On one of those fustrating days, I asked him gently and sweetly if we could get a help, he quietly said yes. Well who cares - quietly or boldly, all I neede was a Yes!!! so I got a live-in nanny and life has been sweet after that.

So sometimes, a woman man gotta do what a woman man gotta do

Lady K, I like this ur strategy oo. These are the type of silent punishment OP is looking for.

Anas09:

Why should he do the dishes? There are lots of other things for him to do around the house. Why the dishes? Let him be the handyman fixing broken stuff around the house.
Doing dishes should not be an issue in the home, except you are sick or heavily pregnant.

Anas09:

My Husband no go wash plates for my house lai lai. Thats not fitting for the King. My husband is my King.

thelish:


For my village, king n queen nor dey wash dishes oo. That's why they have maids.
KING VS QUEEN. LOL

thelish:


For my village, king n queen nor dey wash dishes oo. That's why they have maids.
KING VS QUEEN. LOL

Anas09:

True, even for my village na so too. But now, nah husband and wife matter oo. Some women want their husbands to dey do minial house chores, for weytin? How many of us dey house wey the plates go plenty too much for me to wash? If plates plenty, na plenty people don use them, den those people go wash plates, not my own King.

thelish:


Abeg who dey break d stuff everyday?
Una just dey find lazy things to do.
Hope he can still fix a broken TV? lol
Na joke I was joking ooo

thelish:


Hahahaha. funny u.

Anas09:

Some dey fix broken TV dear. Mind was fixed.

thelish:


We are talking of everyday chores in the house not fixing of some things that get broken once in decades

Anas09:

Babe, na how my house go dey I dey talk nah. My husband no go wash plate for my house. But if him want help me sake of say, me i dey sick or something something sha Ooo. No wahala, but for me to say, because you dey chop, make you sef wash the plate, Mba

Anas09:

True, even for my village na so too. But now, nah husband and wife matter oo. Some women want their husbands to dey do minial house chores, for weytin? How many of us dey house wey the plates go plenty too much for me to wash? If plates plenty, na plenty people don use them, den those people go wash plates, not my own King.

Anas09:

Babe, na how my house go dey I dey talk nah. My husband no go wash plate for my house. But if him want help me sake of say, me i dey sick or something something sha Ooo. No wahala, but for me to say, because you dey chop, make you sef wash the plate, Mba

Blackfire:



*smiles again*

thelish:


Ok ooo. lol

Anas09:

What's sweeting your heart sir?

Anas09:

But babe eh, you know say nah woman dey hold marriage? Men dey like children if you locate their mumu button. All you need do, na to locate the button and know wen and how to tap am. Just dey tap.

Blackfire:


mumu button kwa?
* takes cover*

oloriooko:

In these days of scarce househelps, a man that truly loves the wife and is responsible needs not to be told to help the wife with chores, on the other hand, the wife must be wise in managing this scenario.
No woman is a slave to any man so in the absense of househelp, the man must help and the kids must be trained to help too

The woman should never think of punishing the man if he does not help rather talk things out with your spouse. If a man loves a woman, he can do anything for her. Wish you the best

Blackfire:



mumu button kwa?

* takes cover*

Blackfire:


when i see intelligence +independent mind in a beautiful damsel... Is just wow to me.

So i smile.

Or i shouldn't smile at a beautiful artistic work of creation?

Anas09:
Yes, Mumu button na weytin dey sweet the man belly.

Anas09:

How do you know the damsel is bitiful?

Ibelong2God:
Seduction is the most potent force at a woman's disposal, especially when dealing with her husband

Mindfulness:


Know what you want and marry the right person.
The problem is that women believe that they can actually tolerate this behavior that makes them look all worn out by the age of 40 because they feel a need to rush into marriage and then they suffer. Or they believe that they can change a man with such an attitude and then they suffer.

If you got married to a man who is not interested in a fair division of labor that will serve not only him but also you, well, you have a choice to stay or to [size=14pt]leave[/size].

If you stay:

- ask him nicely for help
- get a help
- put up with a less well-organized and clean home

RiloKiley:

She should divorce the man because he doesn't do house chores??
Are you married?