Hi all,
My marriage is less than a year old and I have a permanent in-law that lives with us. She is a pain in the ass and gets really irritating. The worse part of the whole saga is the fact that she doesnt like it whenever we have a guest around, even my own siblings. Its really getting on my nerves and each time i discuss it with my husband,we end up arguing over it and I dont want it to cause a hitch for my marriage. Not forgetting that she has her good points too but its frustrating when you know there is no way out for now!!!!
Am considering getting a househelp soon but can u imagine her kicking against the idea because she doesnt want anyone to share the tiolet and bathroom with her? She nags and complains each time a guest uses the restroom??
I know our culture kicks against chasing inlaws especially if they have been staying in the house before the new wife gets into the house!!! Please advice. Thanks

I feel you,
I could only think of da ff:
1. Begin to lobby for a bigger appartment- kids might soon come being the ammunition.
2. Cajole or stylishly make her do more house work, ask very nicely with a warm smile, buy her things to show your love so when you ask it would be difficult to refuse you, this would make her see the need for a house help.
3. Discussing with your hubby might be futile, becos think about it, what can he possibly do.
4. When she complains about the toilet, if ur hubby is arround, voice out the need for a bigger appartment so she would be more comfortable, your hubby might get the message.
Good luck