What do women really want from men?

dat thing!

sex

money

Lies

what we cant give.

examples

Love and honesty.

dint ur mother teach u boi!
they want it all, ur time, money, house,
ur job, ur position, ur entitlement, everything.
they even want your life.
lol

but i gave ma life 2 christ

biola44:

but i gave ma life 2 christ

thats the problem bro, christ is a man. she wants that spot too!

she shd come n get it!

they want everything they can not eb satisfied

Love and respect, All which seem to be lacking with young men these days who just want to use and abuse

and wat do they give in return?

di.cks

commitment

What women want in bed, ahhhh, the mysteries of the keys to the female mind and her sexuality, are highly
sought after by many, including we women! We women don’t even know this stuff! Is it technique, is it
size, is it endurance, is it a cute little thing you all do with that towel trick we all pretend we’ve
never seen, is there a drug that will unleash our inner slut, and if so, where do we get that pill…what
is it that turns us females on! And half of us don’t know EITHER…so here we go…the magical mystery tour of
female sexuality coming up…or how to get her to wear just high heels when she takes out the trash at YOUR
house! And do it with GLEE! And maybe, just maybe, every week. But, guys, you have to be very very good
first!

First and foremost gentlemen, it really isn’t a size issue, although you all almost wish it was, because
then you’d understand it at least. And it isn’t endurance and it isn’t technique, although technique
is pretty important, oh yes is it, my oh my oh my!…But the first stop on our magical mystery tour, is the
female mind, that mysterious confusing place the keys reside in, the location of the holy grail, hidden deep
with in every woman, is the first place we shall visit. And with this, begins the solutions to it all.
You must enter her mind, and lead her to this new place, by the hand and gently. It isn’t a quick trip
and it takes time and patience. You have to lead the way, as every self respecting Don Juan knows, you are
the guide and the leader, and in this one thing, you have to lead, or you won’t ever get there gentlemen,
with many women. And for those of you, who have women who don’t ever seem to want to, this is how you fix
that. And guys, there isn’t a woman out there that hasn’t faked it at least once in a while, although I
will probably get flamed for that statement, it is what they all tell me, however…

Here’s a side note to consider: Women don’t envy joysticks, men just WISH they did, and like so many
things in life, the theory is bass ackwards…Men envy pussy’s, it’s PUSSY ENVY in reality! And all men all
want one (or more, fess up guys! Or more! Most of you would take two, cause they’re small, and maybe one to
go to snack on later, it’s true, if you could, you’d all have harems and I, at least, know this!) of their
very own…that LIKES them and WANTS them, even CRAVES them at times, ooh, yes, all boys want one of
THOSE!…so once upon a time, someone decided to market the philosophy that women envy joysticks and that they
all want one, in the hopes it would convince women they did, and they then WOULD want a PENIS (or
more, lol) of THEIR very own, and all you men would have a wonderful life. And to men, life would be soooo
simple and so perfect, if all women craved cock like men crave pussy, just think men? Of how wonderful life
would be with this hungry insatiable slut waiting for you to give her more of your precious fluids and
begging for your pleasure wand, but in reality, nothing would ever get done, because all we would all
do is Bleep, Bleep Bleep, and that’s why it doesn’t happen that way! And yes I’m serious! No work would
get done, no buses would run, there’d be no power, we’d all still live in caves and we’d die young and
very happy, although a bit hungry and chilly from lack of food and heat. It is just yet another example of a
typical male solution to the problem of females unpredictability and unfathomability and why there are
two sexes, because without both, the world would be incomplete. If women only ran the world, we’d all shop
full time and you men would do nothing by paint as we changed from pink to cream to I think that beige is
too deep, to pale hints of yellow, not canary mind you, and not lemon, more a shade above cream. If men
only ran the world, women would wear pig tails and garter belts and we wouldn’t need transportation,
because we wouldn’t ever leave the house because all any of us would ever do is, Bleep Bleep Bleep, so
inessence, there is balance in having some of both for all of us. And there is away to get it (well at least
some) guys. It is not however a one step solution, nor is it easy to come by as many of you have figured out
by now.

Women think in great swooping circles, and for all of you who think I’m a man, this should end that question
for you. I am a woman, and as such, I do think in curves and arcs and round abouts. All women do, and we
hide things even on ourselves and we don’t know, we really don’t, even if we think we do, and yes we will
argue, and we often do, and in some ways we do know, but we’ll never tell you what we do know, so we don’t
always know what we think we do. Got it? See? I am female…! I can do that all night and day, round and
round I go! Only a woman could! And yes we do get a bit confusing. But you men often confound us with your
logic and reason too.

The reason we are so damned confusing is, in a nutshell, we even confuse ourselves, period. We don’t
fake being confusing, we are so good at it we don’t even know how to unconfuse ourselves, or to stop being
confusing to anyone, or that we are in fact confusing! We’ll tell you we aren’t confused, YOU are, and you
know you are, you just can’t seem to get us to understand that you really are, because we are. Did I
make that clear enough? And IF no one teaches us about our sexuality, it remains this great mystery to us
all, with varying degrees of response or the lack there of, in any of us. We don’t know what it is, or
how to deal with it, or even how to control it, and some of us did get lucky and have a sexual mentor or
mother who gave us direction, but most of us didn’t. So, to gain control of a woman’s sexuality, you must
work with her mind, and for those of you who weren’t planning to go up that far, that’s what it takes to
reach her sexual responses, so in some ways, it is about being figuratively large enough to reach her
mind, if not with your physical attributes, your intellectual ones, and it is as simple as that.
Metaphorically speaking, that is what the size thing is really about, you got to go up that far guys! And
yes this is complex, because women’s minds aren’t simple places, let alone easy to delve into, and it is
easy to get lost in the maze we all have in our little brain cavaties, as most of you have long since figured
out! A woman’s mind can be beautiful but it can be filled with all sorts of crazy stuff too. To get
through that, is to reach what represses her and in so doing, help set her free from that repression that
keeps her from being the sexually aware creature all women can be.

Did I make that clear enough? Because yes I think in great swooping circles. And anyone who walks
continuously in a circle gets lost. And they get dizzy and they make no progress at all, which is very
typically female, we’ve done it so long, it feels very normal to us to spin round and round, and we women
understand this in each other, so we really think it’s you guys who are sort of confused and don’t get it.
You have to teach us to go straight just as we show you how to bend some.

Not everyone does have the same level of passion with in them, some people have TONS of it, repressed or
not, others have very little. Many are in between somewhere, and libidos are part of the entire response
system network, But if she or HE isn’t aware of how much they have, or if those responses are repressed,
they have even less interest or willingness to engage in pleasurable sexual activities, because they aren’t
all that pleasurable. Most can be improved on however with some of these techniques and the knowledge of how
to generate and increase those responses from inside the person, via techniques and pre-intimacy and even
through romantic evenings and fun interactions that couples learn to use to get the blood bubbling and the
fires started with in them.

We’re the one’s who won’t stop and ask for directions, not you men! Men ask directions all the time, and the
only time we women won’t run off at the mouth is when it’s about what we wish you’d do in bed, so we don’t
give you those directions and then we blame you for getting lost! The problem is we don’t know either. No
one tells us. We either aren’t really sure what we do want, OR we’re sort of scared and nervous and caught
up in all the myths that we’re supposed to be naturally sexual and hot, and if we say, oh hey, I’m
not all that sexual and hot, we become less of a woman even in our own minds, we women brag to each other
even about how sexy we are, it is very much like men and their bravado with each other. We all want to be
sexually coveted, we all wish and believe we’re the studs! We project it to other women even that oh yeah,
we had hot sex last night, let me tell ya! And to then address it with words, is beyond many women. We can
talk, we can’t talk about that, cause THEN you’d KNOW! Which if you know, we do, and if we do, then we have
to think about it, and if we think about it, we’ll have to worry, and if we worry, you REALLY aren’t
going to get any, because we’ll want to go wash the floor so we get what’s worrying us off our mind! Got
that? Any of you still doubt I’m female? I can talk like this for fifty pages without taking a breath or
injecting punctuation, uh? I can too!

We worry about your inadequacy thing if we tell you that God if you’d only use your hand TOO, and we feel
INADEQUATE and shy, or we’re into this good girls will and bad girls don’t thing and we aren’t even sure if
we should respond, or if that then makes us bad. So, you fellas have to do it for us. And listen to our
little hints and metaphors and sort through it all to figure out what we’re saying, or no slut tonight guys!
Sorry, we don’t know how to let her out! We’re not even sure we want to let her out! So if you want her
to come out you have to do it. You want to be our master and our friend, our lover and our salvation,
well than take the damned wheel and drive! But for heavens sake find out where we need to go first. This
is not an easy thing to find without some pre planning and a pretty good idea of what you need to find and
do. Or we’d all have figured it out by now! DUH!

Women, have brought up the theory of pre-intimacy, that age old, ok, I’ll pre-intimacy ya baby , solution to it
all, and we do need pre-intimacy, we ALL do, and gentlemen if you don’t believe that you aren’t doing it right,
seriously. We women aren’t men, our sexuality is internalized, not externalized like a man’s is. And
the art of lovemaking isn’t about instant gratification it’s about delaying that gratification
and letting it build, its riding it like a rollercoaster, thru dips and hills and whooshing down
a drop while the screams are forced from our lungs, it’s talent, it’s technique, but it’s also and art
that goes far beyond having orgasm as it’s only goal, it’s pleasure, pleasure, and sensations combined with
feelings and thoughts and deeds. It’s communication between two bodies on a primal level and it’s love and
uniting as one. And guys, if you try it you will like it, this whole pre-intimacy delaying thing is very VERY
fun for you too. There is nothing to hurry about, and for those that feel they must, take care of it
yourself then, if that’s all it means to you!

It is essential for a female, although there are times, when she DOESN”T need it, after she’s learned
how to be sexual, but NOT before. pre-intimacy is more than fifteen minutes, it can be more than an hour, it
can be more than four nights straight, gentlemen! And if you have a woman in your life, who says, all she
wants to do is cuddle, by golly you may be looking at six weeks of pre-intimacy to break through that block she
NEEDS you to get through, and no, you aren’t getting any during that time. Life can be harsh, but at the
end of that tunnel can be a lot of darned fun. And what the hell at least you’ll walk around looking
dazed for awhile, even if you’re lower lip does tremble a bit!

THAT is fore play. And with time, and technique, you can cut it down to even fifteen minutes on the right
night, but not until her sexuality is unleashed. Bottom line, you have to find the slut within and then
unleash it to be able to have her loose at your house on command, and any well trained dominant on this site
knows this.

Now, I hate to overstate what would appear to be obvious, but guys, GIRLS aren’t boys. Now that sounds
pretty simple in theory, but it isn’t. You need to keep that in mind too…Women react differently then men
do, we need different things to feel good, and we like different things than you men do in bed. PERIOD. And
if you argue that or fight it, well, don’t even complain she isn’t in the mood. A lot of those things
are things you will enjoy too, but, you have to unleash that sexuality before you get any of those. It
is abit like having to unzip your pants, but in essence, our sexuality isn’t that easily accessible
for anyone, whether we wear panties or not. And I don’t care if she’s 18 or 80, that’s the answer. And
if you don’t like the answer, well, I’m sorry, I can’t change the facts and the reality of it, I can just try
to explain it. I didn’t plan this infrastructure and interactive platform, I just understand it better than
I once did. I can operate it now.

I have read sex books and how to books, and erotica and stories, I have looked for solutions causes, ideas
and formulas, and no one ever addresses the problem from the stand point that things and life isn’t
normal, for everyone and all, and that sexuality is very repressed in modern American women, and to
unleash it you must find away to undo that repression. The premise is that every woman should indeed have a
sexual on button, and does, it’s like the power of positive thinking or ostriches hiding their heads in
the sand, if we don’t talk about it and tell everyone it doesn’t exist, MAYBE it’ll go away, and won’t
exist! So we’ll just say every woman is indeed ready to leap forth into her sexuality with a small modicum
of touching, a glass of wine, a lingering kiss and smile, and that normal women like sex instantly and
take to it like a duck to water. And it ain’t so guys.


And if your spouse hands you this, she is trying to tell you something she can’t figure out how to say any
other way. She’s saying oh yeah, this is so right on, at last…help me, please and we can indeed do whatever
you want and this is what I need. And guys you may have to hand it to her to read. And then listen as she
shyly says, well, yeah there’s some good stuff in it, um, what’s on TV? Cause that’s how women deal with sex
when it’s in their face, they are afraid to discuss it! It confuses them, makes them blush, and they are
frightened to ever say, oh Hey, I’m frigid! So are you like ok with that? That would be a bit like men saying
Oh hey, I’m impotent, no big deal, wasn’t big enough anyway! OH yeah THAT’ll happen, you betcha! Well we
feel the same way, frigid women aren’t sexy! We aren’t cool, we’re what you all hate and fear and go yuck
about! So we, at least in our minds, refuse to accept the problem and without that, we can’t solve it.

As every man reading this yells NO! Well, she isn’t sure what to say then. Honey, I”ve been faking it for
the last four years isn’t real easy to spit out and it isn’t any easier for you men to handle! The reaction
to THAT statement will be a lot of recriminations and self doubt and storming about and anger! Sex is very
very difficult to discuss for people.

Faking it is lying and we do it, because if we don’t you won’t let up on us, and somewhere in there, we all
have to get some sleep. Sex is giving too, and we love the intimacy and the giving and it does give us
pleasure to do that for you and for ourselves. We like the touching and the sense of fun, we don’t really
mind that we don’t have an orgasm and we don’t want to lose what we have already or upset you fellas. Hell
guys we even try to laugh at the towel trick thing you think is so cute! (That is so dumb fellas, it really
is pretty damned corny!)

We women and you men are besieged with these images we are supposed to compare ourselves to and live up to,
and if it were that easy, none of those images would have any value. We see slinky black dresses on
perfectly coiffed blondes with sultry lips languishing lazily on billboards, we see Madonna dressed in her
undies on stage, we see Brittney gyrating hips suggestively while the crowds go wild with desire, and
we listen to men, you smile when you see a tight young butt on a bicycle and claim you’d follow that across
America, you tell us you like see through and grin like fools when we put it on, but it doesn’t DO the
same thing for us, that it does FOR YOU. We do it to please you and hope somewhere in there, the magic will
just come down from the heavens and hit that button called hot, and warm us right the hell up and curl our
hair and our toes and cross our ever loving eyes and make us purr for hours after. Guys you make US cum
well enough and we will do anything for you! So there is a flip side to this coin about the stuff I write.
The man who makes us scream for hours in ecstasy we will do anything for you, and any woman who denies
that, hasn’t screamed for hours yet. OH and the kids? What kids? I sent them out to the neighbors, get your
butt in this bedroom DAD. NOW. Do that AGAIN. Think I’m kidding? HA! Try it and find out!

Men know what they find sexy. They find full pouty lips sexy, they find fiery temperaments sexy, they
find willowy and sweet sexy, they find lots of attitude sexy, they find innocent eyes looking up at
them with adoration and trust sexy, they find sultry sexy, they find smokey eyes sexy, they find a
confident strut sexy, a bold stare sexy, they find eye contact held a bit long sexy, they find naked women
and almost naked women and women in baseball caps and women in shirts and women in jeans sexy, and in
actuality, men find milk sexy. On the right day! Men can get in the mood over a $1.95 Burger! Women however
can’t. Men are far more readily visually stimulated into sexual arousal than women are. Women don’t even
know what arouses them at times, it’s often the thought of intimacy, of knowledge and sharing and
meeting of the minds and souls as well as bodies. As such, both have their strengths and reasons to exist.

We women are so repressed, we barely STILL see naked male bodies as attractive, and even in the media that
so invades our daily existence, men are rarely seen COMPLETELY naked, they are seen partially and rear
view naked, or? When we see full frontal male nudity, it’s often in a spoof or comedy, and half the guys we
see, in magazines and ads, really aren’t that sexy to us. We like MEN, not shaved boys with fake tans, a
plastic smile and four pounds of hairspray? We love Mel Gibson, and Sean Connery and manly men, with hair
and craggy faces and passionate eyes and an intelligent playful toughness and a soft side they
often hide but show us so occasionally on the screen. We like the bravery and chivalry in one, we like how
gallant a man can be. We react to these things even more than the physical appearance.
We grew up with Clint Eastwood and John Wayne and men who were strong and kind, ethical and moral and
somewhat arrogant and stood tall above the others. They protected us, and secretly saw beneath our outer
coverings to the women we all are within. We like polish and insolence, we like tight jeans and curved
firm butts, we like bad boys in leather jackets with brooding sultry mouths, we like the soulfulness of the
rock star and the sensitivity of the artist in all of you, we like the contrasts men offer us, the tough and
the tender, the rough and the smooth, the wild and the tame, we like how men ARE as much as how they look. We
aren’t men. What we do is wish we had one who was all
man for us. We like the contrasts to our feminity and
we like the sense of masculinity that has all but gone
out of style. We like men who puff up at us and act
strong, we like that they give in to us, and love us
enough to change or agree, we love being your
princesses and your goddesses and we love being on
your pedestals, but we also need to be the LovePeddler and
the fantasy and the woman you crave carnally. We are
attracted to things that are male, but more with all
our senses, not just the visual. We are more sensually
attuned to males then they often are to us. And men
like things like how we look and smell, and it often
takes time before they can sense more than just visual
attraction as a stimulation for them.

Male bodies are a bit shocking to us, and we’re not
even sure why you all like women’s bodies! Our
repression runs very deep gentlemen. And you then show
us a picture of some perfect lithe teenage model and
say wow, this one’s nice and we run and hide in the
closet all but in tears, knowing we can’t compete! It
may get you hot, but all it does is upset us, that you
don’t and never will want us, because we don’t look
like her. And we don’t always realize that all you
were doing was hinting that you do have school girl
fantasies about cheerleaders and pompoms and you just
wish us to play that role for you at times.

You men love your joysticks, even as you suspect we
don’t, and in some ways we really aren’t sure what to
do about those, we aren’t. You play with them and even
as little boys you’re fascinated, but they’re out
there for you to play with! Our pleasurable and sexual
parts are hidden away and when WE put our hands in our
panties, we get our hands slapped and severely scolded
and told that’s BAD and DIRTY! Yours were much more
convenient to play with for you and we were very
sensitive to not just the actions of being corrected,
but the attitude that to like those feelings or touch
those body parts was a bad thing. Besides, guys are
somewhat allowed to play with theirs, women are told
not to! So when we first see, the one eyed monster,
the snake, the tube steak, your little brain, willy,
peter, dick, your mighty cock, your best friend, your
love muscle, your submarine, or your towel rack, we’re
not quite sure what to make of it. Often fellas the
first time we see one, is when one of you “whips it
out” so to speak. And we do stare in amazement, we do,
as in wow, so THAT’s what that is, huh…amazing!

To us it looks pretty damned big, whether our hands
are small or not, and you’re going to do what with it?
Put it where, and while you worry it isn’t big enough,
we are sort of going THAT IS not GOING TO FIT, OH MY
HEAVENS YOU ARE NOT! Don’t you pee with that thing?
That’s a little much to swallow, and you want us to do
what? Taste it? Kiss it and make it spit? Oh my! And
this is what love is? It comes as quite a shock to
most women guys, it really does. And we may swallow
hard a few times before we ever learn to swallow. And
then when you treat us, like ours is a bit strange and
nasty, and sort of eye it with a combination of
distaste and distrust, we really aren’t sure we even
want to do this stuff, do you blame us? So if you drop
your drawers and some woman sort of goes, want to play
Monopoly tonight, this is why? We aren’t used to
things sexual, or male sexuality and you have to allow
us to get used to them

Being a girl is a little tough! We’re supposed to be
nice and sweet and pure and innocent and clean and
pleasant, and unlike boys, we haven’t talked about
bumping uglies and doing the deed and getting down and
dirty and funky, we talk about shopping and how you
behave instead, but then you want us to get down and
raunchy with something we’re not sure we even like or
may never have seen before, and you name it all these
strange things like it is alive, and may do heavens
knows what too?

Guys show each other, they strut about nude, they take
showers in gym, they laugh about each others equipment
and packages, and in all, they’ve had a bit of time to
get used to having a penis, so please gentlemen, give
us a few minutes to make friends with yours. We do
need to contemplate this thing you have hanging out
there, just like you once did, and being female means
we like to take time to consider it all, but once we
figure out it is a source of great enjoyment for US
TOO! We’ll like it as much as you do. I promise. Penis
envy may not be the result, but penis love and
adoration may. Now if this is a bit shocking to you
men, and if it is hard for you to accept or if you are
frowning going, no this is 2003! Women have seen
joysticks, women don’t think this stuff! And what’s all
this crap about they aren’t even sure they like our
bodies, this woman has no clue! Well, that’s why we
can’t tell you this stuff. Because how you react to it
isn’t comforting to us, and we just want some
understanding and comfort that’s all, and oh yea this
is so what we think!

And we want to appeal to you men! Women all have some
urge however subliminal to appeal to males, in some
way or another, we do want your attention on us. Even
subliminally, sexual attraction is so strong and so
powerful that, we still feel it for you, repressed or
not, whether we’ve gotten used to your maleness or
your bodies or your minds, we still want you, and we
want you to not only WANT us we want you to figure it
out for BOTH of us, because dumbie, you’re the damned
man! You lead we follow, this is like dancing and
that’s the rules, someone has to lead, and we aren’t
sure how to even! And in all those fairy tales, you
lead us to the promised land, and you are our
salvation and our pleasure guide, and after we submit
to you, we give you our souls and our hearts and our
bodies and our minds, so if you want all that, you
have to do some work first. And if the answer is I
just wanted to get laid, well, fine, we’ll just lay
here, and you do what ever it is that feels good to
you, like a bad Victorian novel, but you can’t have
our sexuality with out doing the work! It just doesn’t
happen and we can’t help it! And we’d really rather
you did know this, cause great sex is damned FUN!

We do want your attention and your interest, and we
want to be sexy! We want you to think WE are
attractive, and the ages old dance of the sexes is
about attraction and chemistry and sexual attuning,
and even if we don’t understand all of it, some has
gotten through to us very loudly and clearly. Men like
sex, sexy women have more fun. We all know you like
sexy and we all want to be sexy for you to enjoy and
like and we want to appeal to you, even if just so
you’ll open jars for us! So we put on our sexy
clothes, and we put on our make up and our high heels
and we strut our stuff, and try not to trip and we
wear those RIDICULOUSLY UNCOMFORTABLE garter belts
(thank the heavens for thigh highs! Amen!) we take off
our clothes, we put on short skirts, we do what ever
it is we think we’re supposed to do to be sexy and
please you guys. But it doesn’t work! We don’t feel
sexy, we don’t reach our own sexuality by putting on
clothes or make up, and when they say that sexy is a
thought and a sense of excitement, it really is, and
outfits are only skin deep sexy if we do feel even
that, and until we can reach inside ourselves to where
that sexuality lies dormant, it may turn you GUYS on
but it doesn’t do much for us. And in the end we are
at least as disappointed as anyone and we have no clue
how to fix it ourselves. We wanted the white horse
guys! We want to fly in the arms of the angel, we want
to feel bliss. We wanted to feel and enjoy and be? And
it didn’t happen, and we aren’t sure why, or what to
do and so we often just go to sleep, figuratively,
like Rip Van Winklemisses…and smile at you benignly
with out passion and only say Not tonight dear, ok?
I’m tired tonight, honey. Saturday night, ok? I have a
headache. Good night, smooch! Love ya dear, and turn
over like the dormant creatures we’ve become and go
right to sleep. We don’t even know what we’re missing
and subliminally that is a bit of what we say to you
at a time like that, you don’t know what you’re
missing either. Sleep time, and all us good little
peoples are sound asleep in here, you might as well
nod off too.

So if you want to know why you aren’t getting any,
listen up and pay attention, cause you can fix this,
and we so WISH you would! But we’ll never ever tell
you that. We’ll tell you your dick is too small before
we’ll ever admit we don’t enjoy it like we think we
should. And hell yes we blame you, for one, you also
blame yourselves, you do, any man out there will
immediately say, well I’m a good lover! My woman loves
what I do in bed, for another the books and songs do,
from I want a man with a slow touch to That don’t
impress me much, that won’t keep me warm at night,
everything tells you hints of what we need, it does,
and you guys do try to figure it out, I know you
do…but you don’t understand the size and depth of the
problem and it is not simple to deal with, or there
wouldn’t be a problem! Gentlemen if you want us to be
sexual and open to you, then show us the way, and for
a third reason, we’re conditioned to believe you are
supposed to handle this for us, from romantic movies
to fairy tales, the man is in charge, he rides a white
horse, he carries her off in his arms to make her his
own, we grew up on that stuff fellas, we want the full
meal deal, we do, and you can skip the white horse, if
you make us scream for twenty minutes in pleasure, in
fact if you make US cum well enough, we’ll do ANYTHING
you WANT! and it does say men are supposed to know
this stuff, so we agree, and in reality we aren’t sure
whose at fault and we are really hoping it is you,
because if it isn’t, it’s us. We don’t know how to
solve this by ourselves, and we don’t want to be a
FRIGID woman or asexual or sexually dysfunctional or
have no libido or any of that, any more than a guy
wants to think his dick isn’t big enough. And without
your help we can’t get there fellas, so…pay attention.
We don’t know how to! You have to figure it out and
show us, and here is how, if you really want to know.
Take a deep breath, be strong, and here goes, we
aren’t past the worst of this yet, if you wish to be
enlightened, you may find the door to the realm of her
sexuality and passions. Just like Raoul showed me
where it was, and he was so right, as he always is!
Well, maybe not QUITE always. But mostly. More often
than I am anyway. Even he admits he isn’t perfect, ALL
the time…and I”ll tell you he is most of the time.

It is somewhat simple. Inside us all is a little girl.
And that little girl does not become a woman until the
man she chooses to be her prince, kisses her awake.
Yes it is romantic, and it’s a bit oversimplified but
it’s also the truth. To many of us, as we’ve learned
to look at sex clinically and objectively we’ve
forgotten the absolute magic of it, and we’ve
discounted that magic and we’ve lost respect for it,
and so therefore it has eluded many of us, because we
don’t even know that without that magic, there is
nothing special about sexuality, it is just a
biological function. And females do not have to orgasm
to have sex or to enjoy it. They do have to have the
magic to feel that sense of pleasure, and that is the
truth fellas. Women guard the magic in the world, we
have that thing called intuition and with it we can
see into a man’s soul. We need that magic to make his
life joyful, it is as simple as that. And yes I will
get more specific, before you all start dousing people
with fairy dust.

We women learned from stories and reading, fairy tales
and church, we learned from other women who knew as
little as we did, women don’t know enough to teach
each other about sexuality, we whisper and
misinterpret and we aren’t sure, so a lot of what we
hear isn’t very accurate. We can talk about SEX, we
can discuss our bodies, we spend hours talking about
monthly cycles and our hormones, but when it comes to
things like ORGASMS or pleasure, or fantasies, we
don’t talk much, to anyone at all. Not to each other,
not even to ourselves and DEFINITELY not to you men.
We’ll smile and agree on that subject, oh boy howdy,
we aren’t gonna fess up to nuthin’ honey! Who ever
believes women can’t keep a secret, is foolish. We
have kept the secret of our own sexuality so
completely, and so long and so well, we have lost
track of it ourselves, and have no clue it’s inside us
all. And men don’t know, unless they are told any more
than we women do. And because of this, the key to the
realm was hidden and lost, and we aren’t even sure
where it is, or how to use it. And all men secretly
long to have a holy grail to seek and find, well
here’s the grail guys! And even Indiana Jones had
sense enough to realize it is a gift in itself, more
precious than diamond and gold, and simple in
construction. And to sup from the cup of sensual
pleasure is the salvation we all seek and our reward
on earth that makes us believe we are in heaven, amen.


Only men will try to figure it out, and only because
at the light of that tunnel is sex. Lots of very hot,
erotic, exciting sex. And men will do ANYTHING for
that. And perhaps nature did have a good plan after
all, for men seek and hunt and think and we women wait
and nurture and share, and together we become more
than either is alone and better than either can ever
be by themselves. It is the holy grail a male seeks
and his instincts will send him on the quest for
sexual fulfillment and erotic stimulation far more
intently than we timid females would ever try to
achieve it, we just sort of shrug it off and get a
vibrator IF we even do that! So you men are therefore
the ones who will happily do the work needed to in
fact find the on button for the woman in their lives,
for the benefits they will receive, for the joy it
will bring, like the gift it is to us all. Gentlemen,
if you do this correctly, you will benefit from it, as
will we. You will earn the undying gratitude of the
woman you do this for. You will enjoy her and she you.
And the faking of orgasms will indeed become a dying
art.

Women need to be understood and loved and they need to
feel safe and relaxed before they can unleash their
own sexual beings. This does not mean they have to BE
in love, it does mean they have to feel cherished and
special. To get her to be the slut she can be, you
have to remember, she wants to be a monogamous slut,
one man’s slut, not just a common slut. You must prove
to her she is a lady you both care about and respect
and she has to trust you to allow her to be not only
who she is, but can be and that you not only want
this, but need it and will love her even more for it.
You have to teach her it is ok to be passionate and
sexual with you. You not only have to teach her to
respect and love your body but her own.

Once, the prescribed theories were, no sex prior to
marriage, no sex outside of marriage, and no casual
sex period, and when we did away with those traditions
in the spirit of moral freedoms or to some it’s
defined as moral decay, and lost those customs, we
lost something very important. In that were safety
limits, boundaries we could trust and lean on, and
knowledge that we weren’t going to end up cast away or
misused for just loving you as men. And no, I’m not
even espousing that people return to a very rigid
tradition and repressed societal interference with our
own pleasures, I am not. If marriage was all it took
to solve the problems between men and women, you men
would drag us to the damned alters in droves! But in
between the old way and the new, should be a solution,
that sexuality can exist without morality restricting
it into oblivion through narrow minded prejudices and
archaic notions about moral purity meaning the
banishment and denial of sexuality and pleasure.

What I am saying is that there was some sense to those
traditions, that they were in fact once, based on good
theories for human beings, that they gave us good
structure and balance and that knowing the rules and
knowing people play by them brings safety and sanity
to a powerful set of feelings. The magic and respect
that human sexual exchanges deserve have been
forgotten, ignored and way laid for a very long time,
and we pay the price by having meaningless sex, and
sexually dysfunctional people everywhere, who really
aren’t sure what it’s about, is it pornographic,
immoral, or just intensely unusual to have passionate
sex with a few creative elements? Or is THAT the norm
rather than the prescribed theory that we’ll all get
fat at 40 and quit doing that silly stuff, cause we
love each other too much to need it anymore? Sex
should not be ruled by Middle America, and it should
not be dictated to us by churches, who really compete
with sex for Sunday morning attendance. And to that I
will add, never learn about sex from someone who
doesn’t at least like it! Is this such a difficult
thing to understand? You don’t ask your minister how
to fix your car either! Unless he’s also a mechanic,
that is!

Sex is special and as such, should be treated with
respect and our sexuality should be treated with
dignity and reverence for the beauty and joy it truly
is and should be. It should be revered as being the
magic it is. It’s the glue that binds two wildly
different sexes together into one, and makes them
better together than apart. It is more important than
the chores or work or any distraction, and what it is
is communication of souls and spirits and hearts, it’s
primal and basic and animalistic, but it’s also a gift
we were given in our creation. It is communing with
each others bodies, and it is supposed to be very
exciting and very pleasurable. It should definitely
rank ABOVE watching television, EVEN football,
gentlemen!

And whether your beliefs include marital vows or
religious benedictions prior to this union of two
people isn’t the point. The point is, it should be
meaningful and special and between two people who at
least like and respect each other! Sex is more than
just a biological function, and the tradition that men
will and still do say whatever they have to get it
FROM women, is part of why women are taught to repress
their own sexuality, so they don’t fall for every line
from every guy who hands them one!

Sex deserves respect, and understanding and education
and effort, and a lot of us put more effort into
learning about which car we wish to buy prior to
purchasing it! And every male who uses and discards
women like they’re condoms, and treats them with
disrespect and a virtual receptacle for their own self
involved pleasure and convenience and believes they
have no value and are unworthy of respect contributes
to this problem over all. If you treat women like they
are stupid for liking sex, giving affection or
trusting what you say, well, you can hardly blame them
for not wanting to be that sort of person. And when
one does it to a few, we all hear and we all see how
he treats and humiliates her for giving him SEX. And
oh yeah we notice! And gentlemen women have long
memories and we take notes. SO, it has to be reversed,
for women, before they can instantly hit an on switch,
as much as we wish we could? We can’t hit that easily
or quickly ourselves. And no, we’ll never admit that?
That’s part of the problem, because we also believe
sex is totally natural and comes to us naturally, and
if we aren’t sexual and passionate, we either have a
lower libido, or there is something innately wrong
with us, for not being “normal” so we swear we’re fine
with it, and we all but convince ourselves we are! And
this is a very widespread problem and a lot of women
‘fake” orgasms rather than EVER admit they don’t have
one! And that is so common, I don’t know a woman that
hasn’t faked at least some. We even mischievously work
harder at being good at faking those, then we do, at
learning how not to need to! And that is feminine
logic definitively if I’ve ever known it! Makes sense
to us guys! And no, most of us haven’t even a clue
why!

Women need to be told and shown it is ok, to be a
sexual creature. Too many years of disrespect for
sexual women, too many men who dis the “easy” girl at
school, too many people saying, oh don’t get a
reputation! Have taken their toll.

Society has labeled sexually active women as tramps,
losers, whores, sluts, bitches, fallen angels, will
die in abject poverty from disease and pestilence, are
cheap trashy and live in trailer courts, and in
essence, who in the hell would want to be one of those
willingly! Society shakes it heads sadly when women
fall from grace, and sighs, what man will want her
now, she likes sex! And gentlemen you are as guilty of
these misconceptions and double standards as anyone
and partially why we’re so confused. Do you want sex
or not, is sort of what we end up wondering.

Men don’t MARRY sexual women, because they want a good
mother for their kids! They marry the woman who isn’t
sexual, who is prim and proper and soft spoken and
then ten years later sort of wonder why she stopped
putting out. She’s a nice girl is why, you chose the
most repressed one you could find is why, so you could
raise nice repressed daughters of your own. Guys, if
you want a lady in the living room, and LovePeddler in the
bedroom, you may need to teach the one to be both. And
although you all seem to think it’s easy to teach that
chilled and virtuous woman to be fiery and passionate,
in fact, some people never do embrace passion
willingly and won’t learn to be sexual. It is easier
to teach one manners and how to dress properly, by the
way. Part of that is most of them will gladly make
that change for you. And some of the ones who appear
so sweet and pure, in fact, may never be able to be
sexual at all, and may not even like men very much.

Our society does this to women, and we all do our part
to make those rigid restrictions a very real problem.
Women aren’t allowed to talk dirty, it’s very
unladylike to swear or to talk about sex, or like sex,
is it really any wonder women repress their own
sexuality? And part of this whole women’s movement has
been about sexual freedom from repression, we want to
like sex and have it in our lives. Other cultures like
it, and value it and even teach it to people without
worrying they’ll misuse sexuality or abuse it. It’s
ours that is very adamant that sexuality is a disease
and an evil, and as such, I guess I wonder who made
those rules and decisions for all of us, and why, if
this is evil, were we all born to be able to have this
pleasure.

Whether its Puritannism, Victorian, or whereever it
all started, somewhere along the line, people didn’t
want women to be sexual, perhaps they were afraid we’d
be TOO sexual and they would run off and screw our
tiny little brains out! And no man wants to share a
woman he cares about! And before the age of birth
control and antibiotics it was a way to insure your
child was indeed your own and that you didn’t get
incurable disease, which STD’s once were. Male
possessiveness is as primal as anything we deal with.
Men guard their pussies, because if they don’t, some
other man will steal her away, and men like having
their own pussy! She makes his life BETTER, she greets
him at the entrance to cave with a cool drink, she
puts curtains on his windows, she tans his hides into
new clothes for him, she keeps him warm at night and
she brightens his life with a smile, she makes him
laugh as she figures things out, and she amazes him by
what and how she learns. And in that, selfish and
somewhat overbearing protective rationalization, that
women were in fact possessions, women were put to
sleep, very much like Snow White was, so that when her
Prince arrived, he could awaken her with a kiss and
she would only want him ever more, having been guarded
well and still chaste and pure, the spring from which
only he gets to drink, sweet and gentle, clean and
good.

The tale of the seven short guys and the Monogamous
slut, was so cleaned up to get that G rating, some of
us missed that they do a lot more than kiss, after he
carries her off to his castle. And if the tale were
remade in an X rated version, he darn near drags her
to that castle impatient to ravish her completely and
mark her as his own for eternity, branding her as his,
plunging into her ravenous mind and eager body until
she’s nothing but responses and nerve endings. Lucky
girl! So is there an airline that flies to this land,
because I would book a trip. Really I would.

There are two approaches to reaching a female’s sexual
release triggers, to find her repressed sexuality, and
unleash it. One is through tenderness and patience,
gentleness and knowledgeable touching. It’s
encouragement for her to be sexual, it’s teasing and
teasing and more teasing and oh even more teasing,
it’s making her beg for it and then saying, not
tonight honey, let’s just cuddle. Men, she is showing
you what she needs the only way she knows how. TEASE
the living daylights out of her, until your eyes cross
and your testicles turn NAVY BLUE, she needs your self
denial more than you can ever imagine to get through
this, and it is worth it for you both, it really is.
And oh start up again tomorrow, do not let her have
it! Do not. And when you come home to this soft
glowing pleasing sweet enticing begging woman, who all
but leaps upon you for more, when the glow reaches her
skin, her eyes, and her hair, tease her a few hours
more and tenderly take her, and yes, it may take
several weeks. At least three or four nights. Well you
guys did ask, and this is the answer. This is what
women want desperately and have no clue how to tell
you because, you’ll get the same look on your face and
frown you have from reading this now. It’s that dumb
way you all go HUH, no way?! That makes it hard to
tell you these things. Seriously. Patience and belief
are important.

Once there was a courtship ritual, that was very much
standardized through out time. It involved getting to
know each other, it was often chaperoned by others, so
that no sex could take place! It was once called
dating in this country, although we’ve all but done
away with it, sadly. It’s a dance, it swerves, it’s
rhymical, it advances it retreats, it’s step here,
step there, follow now turn, dip and spin, and in it
men lead. And that is the key to unlocking women’s
sexual responsiveness and passion. Those old courtship
rituals, weren’t about bringing her flowers, they were
about learning her mind, showing her you care, earning
her trust and teasing her into awakening,
figuratively, literally and metaphorically. There are
reasons those customs evolved, because older wiser
people knew that women could not just jump into the
rack and be happy happy joy joy with it all.

And the recipe for sexual pre-intimacy and the ability to
awaken a woman’s sexuality is in the above. It is a
dance, it does go on for some time, it does involve
things like learning to trust and building that trust
and it is about proving to her who you are and why she
does want to love you.

And she will adore you forever, and for a time, you
will need to tease her like this ongoingly, but it
won’t be long before she begins to develop the early
stages of that disease you men all wish she’d get of
I-wanna-cock-now. It wont. Sex is a journey, and it
starts slow for women. After awhile, they start to go
faster, and they’ll keep up. After more time, they’ll
all but drag you along, and eventually, if all else
fails, she’ll carry you if she has to, but you have to
do the first part! Or it doesn’t happen!

She can’t help it gentlemen, and very very expensive
sexual dysfunction clinics do this, and teach this
“delaying” technique to bring out a woman or a man’s
mental blocks or repressions preventing their
enjoyment and active participation in sexual
pleasures. You can do this yourselves at home. In some
ways this works like building pressure behind the
figurative dam, that any repression literally hides
behind and that pressure, through arousal and physical
excitement, builds to the point where it has to be
released, where it breaks free and all but explodes
very much like a dam that’s burst. And the older she
is, and the longer that repressive dam has built up,
the more it will take, and part of her will not be
able to help you do this, the part that built that dam
to begin with. The part of her, that through teaching
of parents and societal influences, believes pleasure
is wrong, that sex really isn’t important nor should
it matter. It can be overcome, but it isn’t something
fifteen minutes of pre-intimacy or touching the right spot
is going to accomplish. You have to enter her body
through her mind, and help her unlock the door to her
sexual responses gently, with compassion and with
understanding and the belief that oh yes you can, and
oh yes she wants you too. She just may not be able to
admit that. With knowledge, skill, understanding and
trust, lots of erogenous zone play, and teasing
delaying the gratification to the point she can’t
control her own mind, a little manual stimulation and
she will go off like a rocket into space, and once
she’s learned how and what it’s like, she’ll get right
with the program, honest. I am one. I know. And with
more experimentation you can expand on this and build
a truly pleasurable intimate life long adventure with
your woman.

This will be continued in the next chapter-and I am
not a trained or degreed professional of any sort in
the arts and sciences of humanity, nor do I profess to
be such. Some of my instructions may be somewhat
flawed or incomplete, nor espoused as popular belief.
I read a lot, I learned and then Raoul showed me the
way, like it was simple! So good luck to all of you
who have read this far with interest, and the next
chapter will go into more on this subject.

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What women want in bed, ahhhh, the mysteries of the keys to the female mind and her sexuality, are highly sought after by many, including we women! We women don’t even know this stuff! Is it technique, is it size, is it endurance, is it a cute little thing you all do with that towel trick we all pretend we’ve never seen, is there a drug that will unleash our inner slut, and if so, where do we get that pill…what is it that turns us females on! And half of us don’t know EITHER…so here we go…the magical mystery tour of female sexuality coming up…or how to get her to wear just high heels when she takes out the trash at YOUR house! And do it with GLEE! And maybe, just maybe, every week. But, guys, you have to be very very good first!

First and foremost gentlemen, it really isn’t a size issue, although you all almost wish it was, because then you’d understand it at least. And it isn’t endurance and it isn’t technique, although technique is pretty important, oh yes is it, my oh my oh my!…But the first stop on our magical mystery tour, is the female mind, that mysterious confusing place the keys reside in, the location of the holy grail, hidden deep with in every woman, is the first place we shall visit. And with this, begins the solutions to it all. You must enter her mind, and lead her to this new place, by the hand and gently. It isn’t a quick trip and it takes time and patience. You have to lead the way, as every self respecting Don Juan knows, you are the guide and the leader, and in this one thing, you have to lead, or you won’t ever get there gentlemen, with many women. And for those of you, who have women who don’t ever seem to want to, this is how you fix that. And guys, there isn’t a woman out there that hasn’t faked it at least once in a while, although I will probably get flamed for that statement, it is what they all tell me, however…

Here’s a side note to consider: Women don’t envy joysticks, men just WISH they did, and like so many things in life, the theory is bass ackwards …Men envy pussy’s, it’s PUSSY ENVY in reality! And all men all want one (or more, fess up guys! Or more! Most of you would take two, cause they’re small, and maybe one to go to snack on later, it’s true, if you could, you’d all have harems and I, at least, know this!) of their very own…that LIKES them and WANTS them, even CRAVES them at times, ooh, yes, all boys want one of THOSE!…so once upon a time, someone decided to market the philosophy that women envy joysticks and that they all want one, in the hopes it would convince women they did, and they then WOULD want a PENIS (or more, lol) of THEIR very own, and all you men would have a wonderful life. And to men, life would be soooo simple and so perfect, if all women craved cock like men crave pussy, just think men? Of how wonderful life would be with this hungry insatiable slut waiting for you to give her more of your precious fluids and begging for your pleasure wand, but in reality, nothing would ever get done, because all we would all do is Bleep, Bleep Bleep, and that’s why it doesn’t happen that way! And yes I’m serious! No work would get done, no buses would run, there’d be no power, we’d all still live in caves and we’d die young and very happy, although a bit hungry and chilly from lack of food and heat. It is just yet another example of a typical male solution to the problem of females unpredictability and unfathomability and why there are two sexes, because without both, the world would be incomplete. If women only ran the world, we’d all shop full time and you men would do nothing by paint as we changed from pink to cream to I think that beige is too deep, to pale hints of yellow, not canary mind you, and not lemon, more a shade above cream. If men only ran the world, women would wear pig tails and garter belts and we wouldn’t need transportation, because we wouldn’t ever leave the house because all any of us would ever do is, Bleep Bleep Bleep, so inessence, there is balance in having some of both for all of us. And there is away to get it (well at least some) guys. It is not however a one step solution, nor is it easy to come by as many of you have figured out
by now.

Women think in great swooping circles, and for all of you who think I’m a man, this should end that question for you. I am a woman, and as such, I do think in curves and arcs and round abouts. All women do, and we hide things even on ourselves and we don’t know, we really don’t, even if we think we do, and yes we will argue, and we often do, and in some ways we do know, but we’ll never tell you what we do know, so we don’t always know what we think we do. Got it? See? I am female…! I can do that all night and day, round and round I go! Only a woman could! And yes we do get a bit confusing. But you men often confound us with your logic and reason too.

The reason we are so damned confusing is, in a nutshell, we even confuse ourselves, period. We don’t fake being confusing, we are so good at it we don’t even know how to unconfuse ourselves, or to stop being confusing to anyone, or that we are in fact confusing! We’ll tell you we aren’t confused, YOU are, and you know you are, you just can’t seem to get us to understand that you really are, because we are. Did I make that clear enough? And IF no one teaches us about our sexuality, it remains this great mystery to us all, with varying degrees of response or the lack there of, in any of us. We don’t know what it is, or how to deal with it, or even how to control it, and some of us did get lucky and have a sexual mentor or
mother who gave us direction, but most of us didn’t. So, to gain control of a woman’s sexuality, you must work with her mind, and for those of you who weren’t planning to go up that far, that’s what it takes to reach her sexual responses, so in some ways, it is about being figuratively large enough to reach her mind, if not with your physical attributes, your intellectual ones, and it is as simple as that. Metaphorically speaking, that is what the size thing is really about, you got to go up that far guys! And yes this is complex, because women’s minds aren’t simple places, let alone easy to delve into, and it is easy to get lost in the maze we all have in our little brain cavaties, as most of you have long since figured out! A woman’s mind can be beautiful but it can be filled with all sorts of crazy stuff too. To get through that, is to reach what represses her and in so doing, help set her free from that repression that keeps her from being the sexually aware creature all women can be.

Did I make that clear enough? Because yes I think in great swooping circles. And anyone who walks continuously in a circle gets lost. And they get dizzy and they make no progress at all, which is very typically female, we’ve done it so long, it feels very normal to us to spin round and round, and we women understand this in each other, so we really think it’s you guys who are sort of confused and don’t get it.
You have to teach us to go straight just as we show you how to bend some.

Not everyone does have the same level of passion with in them, some people have TONS of it, repressed or
not, others have very little. Many are in between somewhere, and libidos are part of the entire response
system network, But if she or HE isn’t aware of how much they have, or if those responses are repressed,
they have even less interest or willingness to engage in pleasurable sexual activities, because they aren’t
all that pleasurable. Most can be improved on however with some of these techniques and the knowledge of how
to generate and increase those responses from inside the person, via techniques and pre-intimacy and even
through romantic evenings and fun interactions that couples learn to use to get the blood bubbling and the
fires started with in them.

We’re the one’s who won’t stop and ask for directions, not you men! Men ask directions all the time, and the
only time we women won’t run off at the mouth is when it’s about what we wish you’d do in bed, so we don’t
give you those directions and then we blame you for getting lost! The problem is we don’t know either. No
one tells us. We either aren’t really sure what we do want, OR we’re sort of scared and nervous and caught
up in all the myths that we’re supposed to be naturally sexual and hot, and if we say, oh hey, I’m
not all that sexual and hot, we become less of a woman even in our own minds, we women brag to each other
even about how sexy we are, it is very much like men and their bravado with each other. We all want to be
sexually coveted, we all wish and believe we’re the studs! We project it to other women even that oh yeah,
we had hot sex last night, let me tell ya! And to then address it with words, is beyond many women. We can
talk, we can’t talk about that, cause THEN you’d KNOW! Which if you know, we do, and if we do, then we have
to think about it, and if we think about it, we’ll have to worry, and if we worry, you REALLY aren’t
going to get any, because we’ll want to go wash the floor so we get what’s worrying us off our mind! Got
that? Any of you still doubt I’m female? I can talk like this for fifty pages without taking a breath or
injecting punctuation, uh? I can too!

We worry about your inadequacy thing if we tell you that God if you’d only use your hand TOO, and we feel
INADEQUATE and shy, or we’re into this good girls will and bad girls don’t thing and we aren’t even sure if
we should respond, or if that then makes us bad. So, you fellas have to do it for us. And listen to our
little hints and metaphors and sort through it all to figure out what we’re saying, or no slut tonight guys!
Sorry, we don’t know how to let her out! We’re not even sure we want to let her out! So if you want her
to come out you have to do it. You want to be our master and our friend, our lover and our salvation,
well than take the damned wheel and drive! But for heavens sake find out where we need to go first. This
is not an easy thing to find without some pre planning and a pretty good idea of what you need to find and
do. Or we’d all have figured it out by now! DUH!

Women, have brought up the theory of pre-intimacy, that age old, ok, I’ll pre-intimacy ya baby , solution to it
all, and we do need pre-intimacy, we ALL do, and gentlemen if you don’t believe that you aren’t doing it right,
seriously. We women aren’t men, our sexuality is internalized, not externalized like a man’s is. And
the art of lovemaking isn’t about instant gratification it’s about delaying that gratification
and letting it build, its riding it like a rollercoaster, thru dips and hills and whooshing down
a drop while the screams are forced from our lungs, it’s talent, it’s technique, but it’s also and art
that goes far beyond having orgasm as it’s only goal, it’s pleasure, pleasure, and sensations combined with
feelings and thoughts and deeds. It’s communication between two bodies on a primal level and it’s love and
uniting as one. And guys, if you try it you will like it, this whole pre-intimacy delaying thing is very VERY
fun for you too. There is nothing to hurry about, and for those that feel they must, take care of it
yourself then, if that’s all it means to you!

It is essential for a female, although there are times, when she DOESN”T need it, after she’s learned
how to be sexual, but NOT before. pre-intimacy is more than fifteen minutes, it can be more than an hour, it
can be more than four nights straight, gentlemen! And if you have a woman in your life, who says, all she
wants to do is cuddle, by golly you may be looking at six weeks of pre-intimacy to break through that block she
NEEDS you to get through, and no, you aren’t getting any during that time. Life can be harsh, but at the
end of that tunnel can be a lot of darned fun. And what the hell at least you’ll walk around looking
dazed for awhile, even if you’re lower lip does tremble a bit!

THAT is fore play. And with time, and technique, you can cut it down to even fifteen minutes on the right
night, but not until her sexuality is unleashed. Bottom line, you have to find the slut within and then
unleash it to be able to have her loose at your house on command, and any well trained dominant on this site
knows this.

Now, I hate to overstate what would appear to be obvious, but guys, GIRLS aren’t boys. Now that sounds
pretty simple in theory, but it isn’t. You need to keep that in mind too…Women react differently then men
do, we need different things to feel good, and we like different things than you men do in bed. PERIOD. And
if you argue that or fight it, well, don’t even complain she isn’t in the mood. A lot of those things
are things you will enjoy too, but, you have to unleash that sexuality before you get any of those. It
is abit like having to unzip your pants, but in essence, our sexuality isn’t that easily accessible
for anyone, whether we wear panties or not. And I don’t care if she’s 18 or 80, that’s the answer. And
if you don’t like the answer, well, I’m sorry, I can’t change the facts and the reality of it, I can just try
to explain it. I didn’t plan this infrastructure and interactive platform, I just understand it better than
I once did. I can operate it now.

I have read sex books and how to books, and erotica and stories, I have looked for solutions causes, ideas
and formulas, and no one ever addresses the problem from the stand point that things and life isn’t
normal, for everyone and all, and that sexuality is very repressed in modern American women, and to
unleash it you must find away to undo that repression. The premise is that every woman should indeed have a
sexual on button, and does, it’s like the power of positive thinking or ostriches hiding their heads in
the sand, if we don’t talk about it and tell everyone it doesn’t exist, MAYBE it’ll go away, and won’t
exist! So we’ll just say every woman is indeed ready to leap forth into her sexuality with a small modicum
of touching, a glass of wine, a lingering kiss and smile, and that normal women like sex instantly and
take to it like a duck to water. And it ain’t so guys.


And if your spouse hands you this, she is trying to tell you something she can’t figure out how to say any
other way. She’s saying oh yeah, this is so right on, at last…help me, please and we can indeed do whatever
you want and this is what I need. And guys you may have to hand it to her to read. And then listen as she
shyly says, well, yeah there’s some good stuff in it, um, what’s on TV? Cause that’s how women deal with sex
when it’s in their face, they are afraid to discuss it! It confuses them, makes them blush, and they are
frightened to ever say, oh Hey, I’m frigid! So are you like ok with that? That would be a bit like men saying
Oh hey, I’m impotent, no big deal, wasn’t big enough anyway! OH yeah THAT’ll happen, you betcha! Well we
feel the same way, frigid women aren’t sexy! We aren’t cool, we’re what you all hate and fear and go yuck
about! So we, at least in our minds, refuse to accept the problem and without that, we can’t solve it.

As every man reading this yells NO! Well, she isn’t sure what to say then. Honey, I”ve been faking it for
the last four years isn’t real easy to spit out and it isn’t any easier for you men to handle! The reaction
to THAT statement will be a lot of recriminations and self doubt and storming about and anger! Sex is very
very difficult to discuss for people.

Faking it is lying and we do it, because if we don’t you won’t let up on us, and somewhere in there, we all
have to get some sleep. Sex is giving too, and we love the intimacy and the giving and it does give us
pleasure to do that for you and for ourselves. We like the touching and the sense of fun, we don’t really
mind that we don’t have an orgasm and we don’t want to lose what we have already or upset you fellas. Hell
guys we even try to laugh at the towel trick thing you think is so cute! (That is so dumb fellas, it really
is pretty damned corny!)

We women and you men are besieged with these images we are supposed to compare ourselves to and live up to,
and if it were that easy, none of those images would have any value. We see slinky black dresses on
perfectly coiffed blondes with sultry lips languishing lazily on billboards, we see Madonna dressed in her
undies on stage, we see Brittney gyrating hips suggestively while the crowds go wild with desire, and
we listen to men, you smile when you see a tight young butt on a bicycle and claim you’d follow that across
America, you tell us you like see through and grin like fools when we put it on, but it doesn’t DO the
same thing for us, that it does FOR YOU. We do it to please you and hope somewhere in there, the magic will
just come down from the heavens and hit that button called hot, and warm us right the hell up and curl our
hair and our toes and cross our ever loving eyes and make us purr for hours after. Guys you make US cum
well enough and we will do anything for you! So there is a flip side to this coin about the stuff I write.
The man who makes us scream for hours in ecstasy we will do anything for you, and any woman who denies
that, hasn’t screamed for hours yet. OH and the kids? What kids? I sent them out to the neighbors, get your
butt in this bedroom DAD. NOW. Do that AGAIN. Think I’m kidding? HA! Try it and find out!

Men know what they find sexy. They find full pouty lips sexy, they find fiery temperaments sexy, they
find willowy and sweet sexy, they find lots of attitude sexy, they find innocent eyes looking up at
them with adoration and trust sexy, they find sultry sexy, they find smokey eyes sexy, they find a
confident strut sexy, a bold stare sexy, they find eye contact held a bit long sexy, they find naked women
and almost naked women and women in baseball caps and women in shirts and women in jeans sexy, and in
actuality, men find milk sexy. On the right day! Men can get in the mood over a $1.95 Burger! Women however
can’t. Men are far more readily visually stimulated into sexual arousal than women are. Women don’t even
know what arouses them at times, it’s often the thought of intimacy, of knowledge and sharing and
meeting of the minds and souls as well as bodies. As such, both have their strengths and reasons to exist.

We women are so repressed, we barely STILL see naked male bodies as attractive, and even in the media that
so invades our daily existence, men are rarely seen COMPLETELY naked, they are seen partially and rear
view naked, or? When we see full frontal male nudity, it’s often in a spoof or comedy, and half the guys we
see, in magazines and ads, really aren’t that sexy to us. We like MEN, not shaved boys with fake tans, a
plastic smile and four pounds of hairspray? We love Mel Gibson, and Sean Connery and manly men, with hair
and craggy faces and passionate eyes and an intelligent playful toughness and a soft side they
often hide but show us so occasionally on the screen. We like the bravery and chivalry in one, we like how
gallant a man can be. We react to these things even more than the physical appearance.
We grew up with Clint Eastwood and John Wayne and men who were strong and kind, ethical and moral and
somewhat arrogant and stood tall above the others. They protected us, and secretly saw beneath our outer
coverings to the women we all are within. We like polish and insolence, we like tight jeans and curved
firm butts, we like bad boys in leather jackets with brooding sultry mouths, we like the soulfulness of the
rock star and the sensitivity of the artist in all of you, we like the contrasts men offer us, the tough and
the tender, the rough and the smooth, the wild and the tame, we like how men ARE as much as how they look. We
aren’t men. What we do is wish we had one who was all
man for us. We like the contrasts to our feminity and
we like the sense of masculinity that has all but gone
out of style. We like men who puff up at us and act
strong, we like that they give in to us, and love us
enough to change or agree, we love being your
princesses and your goddesses and we love being on
your pedestals, but we also need to be the LovePeddler and
the fantasy and the woman you crave carnally. We are
attracted to things that are male, but more with all
our senses, not just the visual. We are more sensually
attuned to males then they often are to us. And men
like things like how we look and smell, and it often
takes time before they can sense more than just visual
attraction as a stimulation for them.

Male bodies are a bit shocking to us, and we’re not
even sure why you all like women’s bodies! Our
repression runs very deep gentlemen. And you then show
us a picture of some perfect lithe teenage model and
say wow, this one’s nice and we run and hide in the
closet all but in tears, knowing we can’t compete! It
may get you hot, but all it does is upset us, that you
don’t and never will want us, because we don’t look
like her. And we don’t always realize that all you
were doing was hinting that you do have school girl
fantasies about cheerleaders and pompoms and you just
wish us to play that role for you at times.

You men love your joysticks, even as you suspect we
don’t, and in some ways we really aren’t sure what to
do about those, we aren’t. You play with them and even
as little boys you’re fascinated, but they’re out
there for you to play with! Our pleasurable and sexual
parts are hidden away and when WE put our hands in our
panties, we get our hands slapped and severely scolded
and told that’s BAD and DIRTY! Yours were much more
convenient to play with for you and we were very
sensitive to not just the actions of being corrected,
but the attitude that to like those feelings or touch
those body parts was a bad thing. Besides, guys are
somewhat allowed to play with theirs, women are told
not to! So when we first see, the one eyed monster,
the snake, the tube steak, your little brain, willy,
peter, dick, your mighty cock, your best friend, your
love muscle, your submarine, or your towel rack, we’re
not quite sure what to make of it. Often fellas the
first time we see one, is when one of you “whips it
out” so to speak. And we do stare in amazement, we do,
as in wow, so THAT’s what that is, huh…amazing!

To us it looks pretty damned big, whether our hands
are small or not, and you’re going to do what with it?
Put it where, and while you worry it isn’t big enough,
we are sort of going THAT IS not GOING TO FIT, OH MY
HEAVENS YOU ARE NOT! Don’t you pee with that thing?
That’s a little much to swallow, and you want us to do
what? Taste it? Kiss it and make it spit? Oh my! And
this is what love is? It comes as quite a shock to
most women guys, it really does. And we may swallow
hard a few times before we ever learn to swallow. And
then when you treat us, like ours is a bit strange and
nasty, and sort of eye it with a combination of
distaste and distrust, we really aren’t sure we even
want to do this stuff, do you blame us? So if you drop
your drawers and some woman sort of goes, want to play
Monopoly tonight, this is why? We aren’t used to
things sexual, or male sexuality and you have to allow
us to get used to them

Being a girl is a little tough! We’re supposed to be
nice and sweet and pure and innocent and clean and
pleasant, and unlike boys, we haven’t talked about
bumping uglies and doing the deed and getting down and
dirty and funky, we talk about shopping and how you
behave instead, but then you want us to get down and
raunchy with something we’re not sure we even like or
may never have seen before, and you name it all these
strange things like it is alive, and may do heavens
knows what too?

Guys show each other, they strut about nude, they take
showers in gym, they laugh about each others equipment
and packages, and in all, they’ve had a bit of time to
get used to having a penis, so please gentlemen, give
us a few minutes to make friends with yours. We do
need to contemplate this thing you have hanging out
there, just like you once did, and being female means
we like to take time to consider it all, but once we
figure out it is a source of great enjoyment for US
TOO! We’ll like it as much as you do. I promise. Penis
envy may not be the result, but penis love and
adoration may. Now if this is a bit shocking to you
men, and if it is hard for you to accept or if you are
frowning going, no this is 2003! Women have seen
joysticks, women don’t think this stuff! And what’s all
this crap about they aren’t even sure they like our
bodies, this woman has no clue! Well, that’s why we
can’t tell you this stuff. Because how you react to it
isn’t comforting to us, and we just want some
understanding and comfort that’s all, and oh yea this
is so what we think!

And we want to appeal to you men! Women all have some
urge however subliminal to appeal to males, in some
way or another, we do want your attention on us. Even
subliminally, sexual attraction is so strong and so
powerful that, we still feel it for you, repressed or
not, whether we’ve gotten used to your maleness or
your bodies or your minds, we still want you, and we
want you to not only WANT us we want you to figure it
out for BOTH of us, because dumbie, you’re the damned
man! You lead we follow, this is like dancing and
that’s the rules, someone has to lead, and we aren’t
sure how to even! And in all those fairy tales, you
lead us to the promised land, and you are our
salvation and our pleasure guide, and after we submit
to you, we give you our souls and our hearts and our
bodies and our minds, so if you want all that, you
have to do some work first. And if the answer is I
just wanted to get laid, well, fine, we’ll just lay
here, and you do what ever it is that feels good to
you, like a bad Victorian novel, but you can’t have
our sexuality with out doing the work! It just doesn’t
happen and we can’t help it! And we’d really rather
you did know this, cause great sex is damned FUN!

We do want your attention and your interest, and we
want to be sexy! We want you to think WE are
attractive, and the ages old dance of the sexes is
about attraction and chemistry and sexual attuning,
and even if we don’t understand all of it, some has
gotten through to us very loudly and clearly. Men like
sex, sexy women have more fun. We all know you like
sexy and we all want to be sexy for you to enjoy and
like and we want to appeal to you, even if just so
you’ll open jars for us! So we put on our sexy
clothes, and we put on our make up and our high heels
and we strut our stuff, and try not to trip and we
wear those RIDICULOUSLY UNCOMFORTABLE garter belts
(thank the heavens for thigh highs! Amen!) we take off
our clothes, we put on short skirts, we do what ever
it is we think we’re supposed to do to be sexy and
please you guys. But it doesn’t work! We don’t feel
sexy, we don’t reach our own sexuality by putting on
clothes or make up, and when they say that sexy is a
thought and a sense of excitement, it really is, and
outfits are only skin deep sexy if we do feel even
that, and until we can reach inside ourselves to where
that sexuality lies dormant, it may turn you GUYS on
but it doesn’t do much for us. And in the end we are
at least as disappointed as anyone and we have no clue
how to fix it ourselves. We wanted the white horse
guys! We want to fly in the arms of the angel, we want
to feel bliss. We wanted to feel and enjoy and be? And
it didn’t happen, and we aren’t sure why, or what to
do and so we often just go to sleep, figuratively,
like Rip Van Winklemisses…and smile at you benignly
with out passion and only say Not tonight dear, ok?
I’m tired tonight, honey. Saturday night, ok? I have a
headache. Good night, smooch! Love ya dear, and turn
over like the dormant creatures we’ve become and go
right to sleep. We don’t even know what we’re missing
and subliminally that is a bit of what we say to you
at a time like that, you don’t know what you’re
missing either. Sleep time, and all us good little
peoples are sound asleep in here, you might as well
nod off too.

So if you want to know why you aren’t getting any,
listen up and pay attention, cause you can fix this,
and we so WISH you would! But we’ll never ever tell
you that. We’ll tell you your dick is too small before
we’ll ever admit we don’t enjoy it like we think we
should. And hell yes we blame you, for one, you also
blame yourselves, you do, any man out there will
immediately say, well I’m a good lover! My woman loves
what I do in bed, for another the books and songs do,
from I want a man with a slow touch to That don’t
impress me much, that won’t keep me warm at night,
everything tells you hints of what we need, it does,
and you guys do try to figure it out, I know you
do…but you don’t understand the size and depth of the
problem and it is not simple to deal with, or there
wouldn’t be a problem! Gentlemen if you want us to be
sexual and open to you, then show us the way, and for
a third reason, we’re conditioned to believe you are
supposed to handle this for us, from romantic movies
to fairy tales, the man is in charge, he rides a white
horse, he carries her off in his arms to make her his
own, we grew up on that stuff fellas, we want the full
meal deal, we do, and you can skip the white horse, if
you make us scream for twenty minutes in pleasure, in
fact if you make US cum well enough, we’ll do ANYTHING
you WANT! and it does say men are supposed to know
this stuff, so we agree, and in reality we aren’t sure
whose at fault and we are really hoping it is you,
because if it isn’t, it’s us. We don’t know how to
solve this by ourselves, and we don’t want to be a
FRIGID woman or asexual or sexually dysfunctional or
have no libido or any of that, any more than a guy
wants to think his dick isn’t big enough. And without
your help we can’t get there fellas, so…pay attention.
We don’t know how to! You have to figure it out and
show us, and here is how, if you really want to know.
Take a deep breath, be strong, and here goes, we
aren’t past the worst of this yet, if you wish to be
enlightened, you may find the door to the realm of her
sexuality and passions. Just like Raoul showed me
where it was, and he was so right, as he always is!
Well, maybe not QUITE always. But mostly. More often
than I am anyway. Even he admits he isn’t perfect, ALL
the time…and I”ll tell you he is most of the time.

It is somewhat simple. Inside us all is a little girl.
And that little girl does not become a woman until the
man she chooses to be her prince, kisses her awake.
Yes it is romantic, and it’s a bit oversimplified but
it’s also the truth. To many of us, as we’ve learned
to look at sex clinically and objectively we’ve
forgotten the absolute magic of it, and we’ve
discounted that magic and we’ve lost respect for it,
and so therefore it has eluded many of us, because we
don’t even know that without that magic, there is
nothing special about sexuality, it is just a
biological function. And females do not have to orgasm
to have sex or to enjoy it. They do have to have the
magic to feel that sense of pleasure, and that is the
truth fellas. Women guard the magic in the world, we
have that thing called intuition and with it we can
see into a man’s soul. We need that magic to make his
life joyful, it is as simple as that. And yes I will
get more specific, before you all start dousing people
with fairy dust.

We women learned from stories and reading, fairy tales
and church, we learned from other women who knew as
little as we did, women don’t know enough to teach
each other about sexuality, we whisper and
misinterpret and we aren’t sure, so a lot of what we
hear isn’t very accurate. We can talk about SEX, we
can discuss our bodies, we spend hours talking about
monthly cycles and our hormones, but when it comes to
things like ORGASMS or pleasure, or fantasies, we
don’t talk much, to anyone at all. Not to each other,
not even to ourselves and DEFINITELY not to you men.
We’ll smile and agree on that subject, oh boy howdy,
we aren’t gonna fess up to nuthin’ honey! Who ever
believes women can’t keep a secret, is foolish. We
have kept the secret of our own sexuality so
completely, and so long and so well, we have lost
track of it ourselves, and have no clue it’s inside us
all. And men don’t know, unless they are told any more
than we women do. And because of this, the key to the
realm was hidden and lost, and we aren’t even sure
where it is, or how to use it. And all men secretly
long to have a holy grail to seek and find, well
here’s the grail guys! And even Indiana Jones had
sense enough to realize it is a gift in itself, more
precious than diamond and gold, and simple in
construction. And to sup from the cup of sensual
pleasure is the salvation we all seek and our reward
on earth that makes us believe we are in heaven, amen.


Only men will try to figure it out, and only because
at the light of that tunnel is sex. Lots of very hot,
erotic, exciting sex. And men will do ANYTHING for
that. And perhaps nature did have a good plan after
all, for men seek and hunt and think and we women wait
and nurture and share, and together we become more
than either is alone and better than either can ever
be by themselves. It is the holy grail a male seeks
and his instincts will send him on the quest for
sexual fulfillment and erotic stimulation far more
intently than we timid females would ever try to
achieve it, we just sort of shrug it off and get a
vibrator IF we even do that! So you men are therefore
the ones who will happily do the work needed to in
fact find the on button for the woman in their lives,
for the benefits they will receive, for the joy it
will bring, like the gift it is to us all. Gentlemen,
if you do this correctly, you will benefit from it, as
will we. You will earn the undying gratitude of the
woman you do this for. You will enjoy her and she you.
And the faking of orgasms will indeed become a dying
art.

Women need to be understood and loved and they need to
feel safe and relaxed before they can unleash their
own sexual beings. This does not mean they have to BE
in love, it does mean they have to feel cherished and
special. To get her to be the slut she can be, you
have to remember, she wants to be a monogamous slut,
one man’s slut, not just a common slut. You must prove
to her she is a lady you both care about and respect
and she has to trust you to allow her to be not only
who she is, but can be and that you not only want
this, but need it and will love her even more for it.
You have to teach her it is ok to be passionate and
sexual with you. You not only have to teach her to
respect and love your body but her own.

Once, the prescribed theories were, no sex prior to
marriage, no sex outside of marriage, and no casual
sex period, and when we did away with those traditions
in the spirit of moral freedoms or to some it’s
defined as moral decay, and lost those customs, we
lost something very important. In that were safety
limits, boundaries we could trust and lean on, and
knowledge that we weren’t going to end up cast away or
misused for just loving you as men. And no, I’m not
even espousing that people return to a very rigid
tradition and repressed societal interference with our
own pleasures, I am not. If marriage was all it took
to solve the problems between men and women, you men
would drag us to the damned alters in droves! But in
between the old way and the new, should be a solution,
that sexuality can exist without morality restricting
it into oblivion through narrow minded prejudices and
archaic notions about moral purity meaning the
banishment and denial of sexuality and pleasure.

What I am saying is that there was some sense to those
traditions, that they were in fact once, based on good
theories for human beings, that they gave us good
structure and balance and that knowing the rules and
knowing people play by them brings safety and sanity
to a powerful set of feelings. The magic and respect
that human sexual exchanges deserve have been
forgotten, ignored and way laid for a very long time,
and we pay the price by having meaningless sex, and
sexually dysfunctional people everywhere, who really
aren’t sure what it’s about, is it pornographic,
immoral, or just intensely unusual to have passionate
sex with a few creative elements? Or is THAT the norm
rather than the prescribed theory that we’ll all get
fat at 40 and quit doing that silly stuff, cause we
love each other too much to need it anymore? Sex
should not be ruled by Middle America, and it should
not be dictated to us by churches, who really compete
with sex for Sunday morning attendance. And to that I
will add, never learn about sex from someone who
doesn’t at least like it! Is this such a difficult
thing to understand? You don’t ask your minister how
to fix your car either! Unless he’s also a mechanic,
that is!

Sex is special and as such, should be treated with
respect and our sexuality should be treated with
dignity and reverence for the beauty and joy it truly
is and should be. It should be revered as being the
magic it is. It’s the glue that binds two wildly
different sexes together into one, and makes them
better together than apart. It is more important than
the chores or work or any distraction, and what it is
is communication of souls and spirits and hearts, it’s
primal and basic and animalistic, but it’s also a gift
we were given in our creation. It is communing with
each others bodies, and it is supposed to be very
exciting and very pleasurable. It should definitely
rank ABOVE watching television, EVEN football,
gentlemen!

And whether your beliefs include marital vows or
religious benedictions prior to this union of two
people isn’t the point. The point is, it should be
meaningful and special and between two people who at
least like and respect each other! Sex is more than
just a biological function, and the tradition that men
will and still do say whatever they have to get it
FROM women, is part of why women are taught to repress
their own sexuality, so they don’t fall for every line
from every guy who hands them one!

Sex deserves respect, and understanding and education
and effort, and a lot of us put more effort into
learning about which car we wish to buy prior to
purchasing it! And every male who uses and discards
women like they’re condoms, and treats them with
disrespect and a virtual receptacle for their own self
involved pleasure and convenience and believes they
have no value and are unworthy of respect contributes
to this problem over all. If you treat women like they
are stupid for liking sex, giving affection or
trusting what you say, well, you can hardly blame them
for not wanting to be that sort of person. And when
one does it to a few, we all hear and we all see how
he treats and humiliates her for giving him SEX. And
oh yeah we notice! And gentlemen women have long
memories and we take notes. SO, it has to be reversed,
for women, before they can instantly hit an on switch,
as much as we wish we could? We can’t hit that easily
or quickly ourselves. And no, we’ll never admit that?
That’s part of the problem, because we also believe
sex is totally natural and comes to us naturally, and
if we aren’t sexual and passionate, we either have a
lower libido, or there is something innately wrong
with us, for not being “normal” so we swear we’re fine
with it, and we all but convince ourselves we are! And
this is a very widespread problem and a lot of women
‘fake” orgasms rather than EVER admit they don’t have
one! And that is so common, I don’t know a woman that
hasn’t faked at least some. We even mischievously work
harder at being good at faking those, then we do, at
learning how not to need to! And that is feminine
logic definitively if I’ve ever known it! Makes sense
to us guys! And no, most of us haven’t even a clue
why!

Women need to be told and shown it is ok, to be a
sexual creature. Too many years of disrespect for
sexual women, too many men who dis the “easy” girl at
school, too many people saying, oh don’t get a
reputation! Have taken their toll.

Society has labeled sexually active women as tramps,
losers, whores, sluts, bitches, fallen angels, will
die in abject poverty from disease and pestilence, are
cheap trashy and live in trailer courts, and in
essence, who in the hell would want to be one of those
willingly! Society shakes it heads sadly when women
fall from grace, and sighs, what man will want her
now, she likes sex! And gentlemen you are as guilty of
these misconceptions and double standards as anyone
and partially why we’re so confused. Do you want sex
or not, is sort of what we end up wondering.

Men don’t MARRY sexual women, because they want a good
mother for their kids! They marry the woman who isn’t
sexual, who is prim and proper and soft spoken and
then ten years later sort of wonder why she stopped
putting out. She’s a nice girl is why, you chose the
most repressed one you could find is why, so you could
raise nice repressed daughters of your own. Guys, if
you want a lady in the living room, and LovePeddler in the
bedroom, you may need to teach the one to be both. And
although you all seem to think it’s easy to teach that
chilled and virtuous woman to be fiery and passionate,
in fact, some people never do embrace passion
willingly and won’t learn to be sexual. It is easier
to teach one manners and how to dress properly, by the
way. Part of that is most of them will gladly make
that change for you. And some of the ones who appear
so sweet and pure, in fact, may never be able to be
sexual at all, and may not even like men very much.

Our society does this to women, and we all do our part
to make those rigid restrictions a very real problem.
Women aren’t allowed to talk dirty, it’s very
unladylike to swear or to talk about sex, or like sex,
is it really any wonder women repress their own
sexuality? And part of this whole women’s movement has
been about sexual freedom from repression, we want to
like sex and have it in our lives. Other cultures like
it, and value it and even teach it to people without
worrying they’ll misuse sexuality or abuse it. It’s
ours that is very adamant that sexuality is a disease
and an evil, and as such, I guess I wonder who made
those rules and decisions for all of us, and why, if
this is evil, were we all born to be able to have this
pleasure.

Whether its Puritannism, Victorian, or whereever it
all started, somewhere along the line, people didn’t
want women to be sexual, perhaps they were afraid we’d
be TOO sexual and they would run off and screw our
tiny little brains out! And no man wants to share a
woman he cares about! And before the age of birth
control and antibiotics it was a way to insure your
child was indeed your own and that you didn’t get
incurable disease, which STD’s once were. Male
possessiveness is as primal as anything we deal with.
Men guard their pussies, because if they don’t, some
other man will steal her away, and men like having
their own pussy! She makes his life BETTER, she greets
him at the entrance to cave with a cool drink, she
puts curtains on his windows, she tans his hides into
new clothes for him, she keeps him warm at night and
she brightens his life with a smile, she makes him
laugh as she figures things out, and she amazes him by
what and how she learns. And in that, selfish and
somewhat overbearing protective rationalization, that
women were in fact possessions, women were put to
sleep, very much like Snow White was, so that when her
Prince arrived, he could awaken her with a kiss and
she would only want him ever more, having been guarded
well and still chaste and pure, the spring from which
only he gets to drink, sweet and gentle, clean and
good.

The tale of the seven short guys and the Monogamous
slut, was so cleaned up to get that G rating, some of
us missed that they do a lot more than kiss, after he
carries her off to his castle. And if the tale were
remade in an X rated version, he darn near drags her
to that castle impatient to ravish her completely and
mark her as his own for eternity, branding her as his,
plunging into her ravenous mind and eager body until
she’s nothing but responses and nerve endings. Lucky
girl! So is there an airline that flies to this land,
because I would book a trip. Really I would.

There are two approaches to reaching a female’s sexual
release triggers, to find her repressed sexuality, and
unleash it. One is through tenderness and patience,
gentleness and knowledgeable touching. It’s
encouragement for her to be sexual, it’s teasing and
teasing and more teasing and oh even more teasing,
it’s making her beg for it and then saying, not
tonight honey, let’s just cuddle. Men, she is showing
you what she needs the only way she knows how. TEASE
the living daylights out of her, until your eyes cross
and your testicles turn NAVY BLUE, she needs your self
denial more than you can ever imagine to get through
this, and it is worth it for you both, it really is.
And oh start up again tomorrow, do not let her have
it! Do not. And when you come home to this soft
glowing pleasing sweet enticing begging woman, who all
but leaps upon you for more, when the glow reaches her
skin, her eyes, and her hair, tease her a few hours
more and tenderly take her, and yes, it may take
several weeks. At least three or four nights. Well you
guys did ask, and this is the answer. This is what
women want desperately and have no clue how to tell
you because, you’ll get the same look on your face and
frown you have from reading this now. It’s that dumb
way you all go HUH, no way?! That makes it hard to
tell you these things. Seriously. Patience and belief
are important.

Once there was a courtship ritual, that was very much
standardized through out time. It involved getting to
know each other, it was often chaperoned by others, so
that no sex could take place! It was once called
dating in this country, although we’ve all but done
away with it, sadly. It’s a dance, it swerves, it’s
rhymical, it advances it retreats, it’s step here,
step there, follow now turn, dip and spin, and in it
men lead. And that is the key to unlocking women’s
sexual responsiveness and passion. Those old courtship
rituals, weren’t about bringing her flowers, they were
about learning her mind, showing her you care, earning
her trust and teasing her into awakening,
figuratively, literally and metaphorically. There are
reasons those customs evolved, because older wiser
people knew that women could not just jump into the
rack and be happy happy joy joy with it all.

And the recipe for sexual pre-intimacy and the ability to
awaken a woman’s sexuality is in the above. It is a
dance, it does go on for some time, it does involve
things like learning to trust and building that trust
and it is about proving to her who you are and why she
does want to love you.

And she will adore you forever, and for a time, you
will need to tease her like this ongoingly, but it
won’t be long before she begins to develop the early
stages of that disease you men all wish she’d get of
I-wanna-cock-now. It wont. Sex is a journey, and it
starts slow for women. After awhile, they start to go
faster, and they’ll keep up. After more time, they’ll
all but drag you along, and eventually, if all else
fails, she’ll carry you if she has to, but you have to
do the first part! Or it doesn’t happen!

She can’t help it gentlemen, and very very expensive
sexual dysfunction clinics do this, and teach this
“delaying” technique to bring out a woman or a man’s
mental blocks or repressions preventing their
enjoyment and active participation in sexual
pleasures. You can do this yourselves at home. In some
ways this works like building pressure behind the
figurative dam, that any repression literally hides
behind and that pressure, through arousal and physical
excitement, builds to the point where it has to be
released, where it breaks free and all but explodes
very much like a dam that’s burst. And the older she
is, and the longer that repressive dam has built up,
the more it will take, and part of her will not be
able to help you do this, the part that built that dam
to begin with. The part of her, that through teaching
of parents and societal influences, believes pleasure
is wrong, that sex really isn’t important nor should
it matter. It can be overcome, but it isn’t something
fifteen minutes of pre-intimacy or touching the right spot
is going to accomplish. You have to enter her body
through her mind, and help her unlock the door to her
sexual responses gently, with compassion and with
understanding and the belief that oh yes you can, and
oh yes she wants you too. She just may not be able to
admit that. With knowledge, skill, understanding and
trust, lots of erogenous zone play, and teasing
delaying the gratification to the point she can’t
control her own mind, a little manual stimulation and
she will go off like a rocket into space, and once
she’s learned how and what it’s like, she’ll get right
with the program, honest. I am one. I know. And with
more experimentation you can expand on this and build
a truly pleasurable intimate life long adventure with
your woman.

This will be continued in the next chapter-and I am
not a trained or degreed professional of any sort in
the arts and sciences of humanity, nor do I profess to
be such. Some of my instructions may be somewhat
flawed or incomplete, nor espoused as popular belief.
I read a lot, I learned and then Raoul showed me the
way, like it was simple! So good luck to all of you
who have read this far with interest, and the next
chapter will go into more on this subject

longthing

@fakaay,
and dats far to much to ask.
u can't have it all dem ladies shud know that.

Same as what Men want from woman - Mutual respect, commitment,
liking,and a sense of humour coupled with a responsible behaviour.

@ Tranngirl, the poster said 'What Ladies Want' not 'Write a Book on What Ladies Want'

This image will tell u everything, someone posted it on my thread

All that women want from us men is

Our money and our semen!! they kant live without both of dem!~