Mindfulness:


Obviously, there is no law that makes it illegal for women to take on their husband's name.
Whatever the law says, is definitely not that it is illegal to drop your maiden name and take on your husband's name solely.


You are free to dig up the law. Let's see if the law is about women having a choice or women having no choice other than keeping their maiden name.


If the law states that it is illegal to take on your husband's name without including your maiden name, then we have criminals in parliament, music industry and football in Greece and also in town halls, in which officials have changed women's names to their husband's names.

There is a law enacted in 1983 in Greece stating that women should retain their birth name legally until death.

You have already seen it and confirmed it, assuming you still know how to make use of technology...but the denial you feel admitting to yourself that I knew this and you never did, is exactly what is eating you up.

Acidosis:


Yes, it is compulsory to pay bride price to a Nigerian family. It is our Culture.

So why all the cries about it? You can tell your bride's family you ain't interested in paying.

And the Western Ideology is actually changing one's name to the husband's after marriage not the other way round. Only some women of recent have started doing things otherwise. Some men even change their names after marriage, it's nothing so rigid.
The only good reason I see for changing to the husband's name after marriage is for mere identification

HaneefahRN:



Like changing one's name after marriage wasn't borrowed. Who knows how things were done back then?
It is her choice, it's her identity.

I do, and you would too if only you read up on it.

Knowledge and learning is for everyone.

CRACKHAUS MY MAN, WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR BRAIN CELLS ON A TEENAGE ATTENTION SEEKING LICKING DESPERATE NAIRALAND WIVES CLUB ASSES? THE BOY HAS A GAME PLAN AND IT'S TO HIT IT OR GET SOME DOLLARS.THE HUSTLE IS REAL.A GOOGLE INFORMED PERSON FORMING CAPTAIN SAVE A HOE ANYTIME HE SEEMS DEM LADIES PACKED ON A THREAD HOPING TO IMPRESS THEM WITH HIS DICTIONARY WRITING SKILLS AND GOOGLE KNOWLEDGE EVEN IF IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.

MEN OF FAMILY SECTION PLEASE IGNORE THE ATTENTION ASS LIKER TEEN, ARGUE WITH MEN!
BloodyCrook YOUR ATTENTION IS NEEDED,TERMINATOR.

francis18:
CRACKHAUS MY MAN, WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR BRAIN CELLS ON A TEENAGE ATTENTION SEEKING LICKING DESPERATE NAIRALAND WIVES CLUB ASSES? THE BOY HAS A GAME PLAN AND IT'S TO HIT IT OR GET SOME DOLLARS.THE HUSTLE IS REAL.A GOOGLE INFORMED PERSON FORMING CAPTAIN SAVE A HOE ANYTIME HE SEEMS DEM LADIES PACKED ON A THREAD HOPING TO IMPRESS THEM WITH HIS DICTIONARY WRITING SKILLS AND GOOGLE KNOWLEDGE EVEN IF IT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE.

MEN OF FAMILY SECTION PLEASE IGNORE THE ATTENTION ASS LIKER TEEN, ARGUE WITH MEN!
BloodyCrook YOUR ATTENTION IS NEEDED,TERMINATOR.

Oh you mean that Darkenrebel persona...

I'm honestly shocked as to how anyone who is sane will seriously be asking how the US is trying to force homosexuality down everyone's throat, and debating it confidently

It's obvious something isn't right with whoever that is.

crackhaus:

Anyone who can seriously pretend not to know how the US is trying to force other countries into accepting the gay lobby should not even be argued with

Bla Bla. Provide hard facts, not figments of your imagination. Only reason you think I am not to be argued with because I am exposing the loopholes in your wrong-headed assertions.

it's obvious you're one of the many nutters on here who live completely inside their own heads and are not in touch with the reality of the real world.

Keep this up and you just might win yourself a Nobel Prize for 'always taking off point' before December

When you mentioned Greece and Rome, were you not responding to my quote about how homosexuality isn't a Negro construct?
Are Greece and Rome in Africa? So of what relevance is listing them owing to the statement that homosexuality isn't a Negro construct?

As I said I was only making instances, however tangential they might have been. Any smart person would have gotten the point, rather than acting persnickety over details.

Abeg be gone, make I see road..

You quoted me first. I should be the one telling you to go away. . . . . . .


wait for it . . . . . .


Be gone!!

crackhaus:

I do, and you would too if only you read up on it.

Knowledge and learning is for everyone.

I really don't care enough to start searching for an history of how women must drop their father's name after marriage outside Western influence.

To me this is a non-issue

crackhaus:

There is a law enacted in 1983 in Greece stating that women should retain their birth name legally until death.

Should or can?
Because many Greek women drop their maiden name and take on their husband's name. The evidence is clear.

You have already seen it and confirmed it, assuming you still know how to make use of technology...but the denial you feel admitting to yourself that I knew this and you never did, is exactly what is eating you up.

I am not the person on this forum who is not open to learning and makes every debate about winning so it's not eating me up. and I have even admitted that I didn't know about the laws in Italy so I wonder how you made this conclusion.

But I have also shown you famous Greek females who have dropped their maiden names to accept their husband's name so what are we still discussing?

crackhaus:

Oh you mean that Darkenrebel persona...

I'm honestly shocked as to how anyone will seriously be asking how the US is trying to force homosexuality down everyone's throat, and debating it confidently

It's obvious something isn't right with whoever that is.

Of course something isn't right. Something went wrong the moment internet became affordable for even rodents and sea urchins to purchase with their monthly stipend given them by their parents.

That fellow can kiss the devil's ass just to get a high five.

crackhaus:

Anyone who can seriously pretend not to know how the US is trying to force other countries into accepting the gay lobby should not even be argued with - it's obvious you're one of the many nutters on here who live completely inside their own heads and are not in touch with the reality of the real world.

When you mentioned Greece and Rome, were you not responding to my quote about how homosexuality isn't a Negro construct?
Are Greece and Rome in Africa? So of what relevance is listing them owing to the statement that homosexuality isn't a Negro construct?

Abeg be gone, make I see road..

GOOGLE KNOWLEDGE BROTHER,GOOGLE DON TIRE FOR THIS BOY HAND.HE IS GETTING THE LADIES ATTENTION WHY NOT?
PLEASE FORGET THE TEENAGE DONT EVEN QUOTE HIM,DESPERATION AND HUSTLE IS REAL.IF YOU SEE THE KID YOU ARE ARGUING WITH,YOU WILL SHOOT YOURSELF.

What's the essence of this argument? What will it do to resuscitate Nigerian dying economy?
If you as a woman like keep your father's name, who cares? If you like hyphenate, it's your choice.

HaneefahRN:


I really don't care enough to start searching for an history of how women must drop their father's name after marriage outside Western influence.

To me this is a non-issue

That is not what you should read up on.

You said that even taking one's husband name could be a borrowed culture, because we can't know what was happening in the very old days.

And I said you can know what happened in the very distant history of Nigeria by reading to know what was and was not, generally speaking.

HaneefahRN:
How does wanting to keep one's father's name relate to feminism

Anything some guys don't like these days must be tagged feminism and in negative light. People have various reasons for whatever they do, your points a, b, c might have nothing to do with it. Is it your name or theirs?

The questions the OP raised have a lot to do with personal choice, nothing more, nothing less.

Any woman who wants to shed her maiden name can do so, if she likes. Its entirely up to her husband and her.

crackhaus:

Oh you mean that Darkenrebel persona...
I'm honestly shocked as to how anyone will seriously be asking how the US is trying to force homosexuality down everyone's throat, and debating it confidently

I asked you to tell me how they were shoving it down our throats and instead you were saying stuffs like: 'Because a gay man sued a dating site. Because a gay couple filed a law suit'. . .bla bla bla

Is this how you argue?

Debating any further with you would have cost me to lose some brain cells for sure.

It's obvious something isn't right with whoever that is.

Stop getting emotional. You were asked to state your points, instead you upchucked a melange of unconvincing and unrelated flim-flam. I didn't buy your talks and so something must be wrong with me? Grow up, buddy.

LMAO SEE THIS CLOWN LOSE SOME BRAIN CELLS INDEED FOR JOBLESS TEEN BOY?
GROW UP?? HE DIDNT JUST SAID THAT,OR DID IT?
THIS BOY IS THE BIGGEST CLOWN ON NAIRALAND,SEE WHAT POVERTY DON COST.HE ADDS BUDDY?? ABI BODY OR AM I GOING BLIND?

joseph1832:
The questions the OP raised have a lot to do with personal choice, nothing more, nothing less.

Any woman who wants to shed her maiden name can do so, if she likes. Its entirely up to her husband and her.

Yeah. That is what I'm talking about to. It's a choice. They are painting it like it's a bad thing if a woman chooses to retain her maiden name.
If she likes she can shed it, if she likes she makes it a compound one, some people even use their husband's first name rather than family name. She owns her identity.

The post was obviously to paint women who retain their father's names in bad light.

speciallymade:
What's the essence of this argument? What will it do to resuscitate Nigerian dying economy?
If you as a woman like keep your father's name, who cares? If you like hyphenate, it's your choice.

People are here discussing how it became a thing in Nigeria to want to keep maiden names, it is an enlightening discussion.

Same way you argue about friend-zone and girlfriends on romance section with no direct effect on the Nigerian economy.

crackhaus:

That is not what you should read up on.

You said that even taking one's husband name could be a borrowed culture, because we can't know what was happening in the very old days.

And I said you can know what happened in the very distant history of Nigeria by reading to know what was and was not, generally speaking.

Alright. I grab now. Of course.
I only spoke in relation to the issue too, not outside that.

joseph1832:
Of course something isn't right. Something went wrong the moment internet became affordable for even rodents and sea urchins to purchase with their monthly stipend given them by their parents.

That fellow can kiss the devil's ass just to get a high five.

Lol..

darkenedrebel:


But this has and is still practiced in some parts in Ghana. I cannot remember the names of the tribes now, but in those tribes in Ghana, the man takes up the woman's name. It's not necessarily a 'western ideology' as you put it.

Its not true

iamord:
Its not true

LMAO YOU CATCH AM? HE READ IT ON GOOGLE FORGIVE THE TEEN .

Mindfulness:


It's your opinion and you are entitled to it. You can go about it this way once you find a female you want to marry.

I believe that the fact that a man has no sons and one of his daughters decides to keep her father's name is understandable, too.
I also understand that some women feel very strong about their family's name and wouldn't want to give it up. They have been carrying this name for decades and for one reason or another love it. What's so bad about it?

Take your meds and quit drooling all over me.

HaneefahRN:


Yeah. That is what I'm talking about to. It's a choice. They are painting it like it's a bad thing if a woman chooses to retain her maiden name.
If she likes she can shed it, if she likes she makes it a compound one, some people even use their husband's first name rather than family name. She owns her identity.

The post was obviously to paint women who retain their father's names in bad light.

The problem with today's men and woman have always been their failure and inability to ask pertinent questions.

For instance, how will my wife keeping her maiden name, or using my surname make us happy? Or live happily ever after?

joseph1832:
The problem with today's men and woman have always been their failure and inability to ask pertinent questions.

For instance, how will my wife keeping her maiden name, or using my surname make us happy? Or live happily ever after?

Thank you so much!

Making non-issues a big deal

darkenedrebel:


Bla Bla. Provide hard facts, not figments of your imagination. Only reason you think I am not to be argued with because I am exposing the loopholes in your wrong-headed assertions.



Keep this up and you just might win yourself a Nobel Prize for 'always taking off point' before December



As I said I was only making instances, however tangential they might have been. Any smart person would have gotten the point, rather than acting persnickety over details.



You quoted me first. I should be the one telling you to go away. . . . . . .


wait for it . . . . . .


Be gone!!

You are here again with your plans. Before anything let me point you to hard facts.

When Nigeria enacted the anti-gay laws, the BBC reported that Nigerians who didnt support gay was a whooping 89%, then it asked the question why would a country so overwhelmingly against homosexuality pass the law?

And the BBC answered that question all by itself: because the West is trying to arm twist African government into accepting it as part of fundamental human rights .


When Ghana sought to pass the antigay laws, David Cameron the disgraced UK prime Minister told Ghana in no uncertain terms that food grants, aids and benefits will be stopped!!! More than 70% of Ghana's budget is dependent on Western aid.


Darkenedrebel, I know your sole purpose is to get warm and comfortable with elderly women so you can scam and betray them like you did in Romance section and got busted. The shortest way to achieve this is to support and endorse questionable polices and conventions.

You claimed to be 19 years of age, but a close look at your activities shows you stalk and suck up to older females in their 30's.

You don't know anything beyond movie lines and Google abuse.

In 2014 gays in great Britain were just 2% of the population yet they are forcing Africans to institutionalise gay. That doesn't tell you anything of course.

You're only looking for a dollar from some lonely, love-beaten elderly woman here.

Cc Crackhaus
Francis18
Joseph1832
Iamord

crackhaus:

People are here discussing how it became a thing in Nigeria to want to keep maiden names, it is an enlightening discussion.

Same way you argue about friend-zone and girlfriends on romance section with no direct effect on the Nigerian economy.

ook pele.. Keep up the good work

crackhaus:

Lol..

hey crackhaus...I wish to solicit for ur support/vote for falconey for mr nairaland 2016, i'm sure u would be impressed with his threads wen u visit his profile for review. I look foward to a favorable reply from you dear. Thanks so much...sorry I intruded on ur post

HaneefahRN:


Thank you so much!

Making non-issues a big deal

Exactly. Its the very thing that is wrong with this country.

crackhaus:



Take your meds and quit drooling all over me.

If I were drooling all over you, you would say 'yes ma, amen' even to feminism.

Anyway, it's a pity people are unable to have civil discussions here. The thread has changed into something else again.

Mindfulness:


Thanks.

No law as far as he is aware, most women keep their father's name and compound it with the spouses surname especially if there are children.
But most commonly, women retain their maiden names, his grandma still goes by her maiden name even though she has been married since she was 16. They do this for convenience and retaining the identity they were born with. Not something new as a consequence of feminism as your mate would like to imply.xx

iamord:
Its not true

Really? I read it in a book written by Asare Konaduu long long time ago. I'll clarify when I have the chance.

HaneefahRN:


So why all the cries about it? You can tell your bride's family you ain't interested in paying.

And the Western Ideology is actually changing one's name to the husband's after marriage not the other way round. Only some women of recent have started doing things otherwise. Some men even change their names after marriage, it's nothing so rigid.
The only good reason I see for changing to the husband's name after marriage is for mere identification

Do you have a younger sister? Can I boycott the price and still marry her?


Meanwhile, changing to the husband's name is not for mere identification. In fact, that is the only thing that shows a woman is married aside the material ring which can be worn and purchased by anyone. Every other frivolous activities including the millions spent on a Saturday, jollof rice, aso ebi and wedding gown, are the actual mere.