my name is tommy this is my story when I was in secondary school I never date or take any girl seriously never sleep with anyone just friends .
I got admitted to a college still a Virgin after my second year I met a girl in which I pretend not to like we became friends in the process after 2 years , our department went for a course in another state by that time one of my friends asked me to give him the girl ( her name is toyin) in which I accepted I introduce them together and they start dating I feel so unhappy at the time but I move on forget about it.

At the end of the programme she called me and tell that she have broke up with the guy because she doesn't want to have sex with the guy in which I was feeling like I just won a lottery immediately I told her I do like her and I want to date her in which after 8 months of me walking around begging caring she finally agree to me .

We started dating after 6 months we have sex it was great . I was happy because I want to marry her because it was both our first time . We hide our relationships among her friends and my friends back then but we continue dating after our graduation at the college . Both of us went back to our parent house by that time I haven't introduce her to my family and she hasn't done so either . After our graduation 6 months later I introduce this her to my parent and she did so .

my result came out, I had an extra year so I had to go back to college to finished my studies while she is living at home with her parent and she got a job . Our communication was ok because she visit me every weekend while I was in school.

I finished my extra year went back to my parent while she was working . One morning I called her that I want to come to her work place she agree with me so I went there to visit her . When I got there I notice that she likes a guy at her work place , I didn't say anything that day just thought it is work stuff. The second week I went there again I notice that too I finally asked her that , she should be careful about the guy, that the guy wants to date her she abused me that how did I know that am I God, I told her it is body language I can sense it . later on about 3 months she finally told me that she is going to date the guy that we can become friends in which I feel so sad and it was very painful . All my life I never date anyone or even cheat on her for the past 3 or 4 years I have dated her , I feel so sad thinking she played me all this while .

I move on with my life got admission to the university by that time I feel so bad I couldn't date anyone I finally turn to prostitute, go to club pick a girl sleep with the person you know how it goes. I couldn't love anyone . During this time I do called her beg her to come she refuse I can't move on but later on after 8 months she called me that we need to talk , when we meet she explained to me that she still love me that the guy isn't like me and she is pregnant for him in which she asked for my assistance to remove the pregnant in which I refuse at first but later on I told her it's her decision .

we start dating, she got admission too into the university so everything seems ok but to be I don't trust her completely after 4years I finally move out of the country , in which I start a new life , after me in another country for 4 months she said she wants us to get marry I said I wasn't ready but I feel like I should satisfied her so I did agree for introduction only . In which they do it without me been there. In another country where I stay I didn't sleep with anyone for duration of 8 months because I was trying to get myself together after what I have been through ... she called me 9 months been away that she slept with someone again but nothing serious just sex. I feel so sad but I told her I forgive right now my sleeping with bitches was turn on again I start continue doing it in oversea but it is one night stand not prostitute After 14 months been away I finally process our visa and she came to visit me I was happy I stopped the one night stand and feeling I should get close to my future. she told me that she has stopped all those behavior in which I doubt but I love her nothing I can do to change that . After 1 months she complain that why is it that I like clubbing too much I respond it is part of me now and there's nothing I can do to change that but I am trying. later on she said we should have a baby in which I object at first but later on agree because I know I am not getting younger we had a baby I was happy when she give birth to the baby she makes me the happiest man on earth .

Right now I met another foreign lady and I fall in love with her I never plan for it to happen but it just happen and she is pregnant for me too. Right now I feel I do make a mistake in which I haven't in all my life except for sleeping with prostitute and doing my night stand . toyin now sees her message and call her abuse her but the other lady that got pregnant for me didn't reply the messages just silent about it.

I need advise what to do please ?

should I tell toyin that someone else is pregnant for me and I want to marry both of them ?

I do love both of them

Youre a very confused person and u need knocks on ur head to reset ur brain. Why waste precious time with Toyin when u can clearly see the writings on d wall?

StPete:
Youre a very confused person and u need knocks on ur head to reset ur brain. Why waste precious time with Toyin when u can clearly see the writings on d wall?

I don't know how to refused someone or say no that's my mistake

mylife2019:



I don't know how to refused someone or say no that's my mistake

Then u hav to leave wit it. BTW, be like say Toyin toto dey sweet u pass

mylife2019:



I don't know how to refused someone or say no that's my mistake

Then u hav to live wit it. BTW, be like say Toyin toto dey sweet u pass

StPete:


Then u hav to live wit it. BTW, be like say Toyin toto dey sweet u pass

no comment but thanks for the advise

This story is fiction

lilyqueen:
This story is fiction

it is reality

This fellow is so confused

You need to use condoms. Or better still, abstain. That's your solution

Ishilove:
This fellow is so confused

You need to use condoms. Or better still, abstain. That's your solution

thanks

MadNeSs

Hmmmmn,in my opinion I think you only told the story of you and Toyin so that you wouldn't be blamed. It's your word against hers and this story is one sided but if your story is true, here is my opinion. For crying out loud, you had a choice and you chose something you felt you were comfortable with. She dumped you without prior notice for a guy she met in her working place and got pregnant for him and then she came back to you asking you to help her with an abortion(which IMO is very wrong), the innocent baby wasn't yours. I just hope you didn't "render your assistance " because you didn't specify if you did or not, so I wouldn't conclude. She told you about all her sexcapades and you had a choice to walk out of the relationship or stay and make it work but you chose the latter and I want to believe you weren't under any pressure and you weren't held at gun point to make a choice, so you told her you forgave her but you turned to having sex with prostitutes Is that your definition of forgiveness, I as a person, I hate cheating and I am not a fan of people who do, if you can't deal with something, you get out of it rather than putting up with something you can't deal with and living in pretence. She talked you into having a baby and you agreed, so you both decided to bring a child into your relationship, although I don't have kids but I feel having kids mutually isn't something you just think of overnight and then you carry it out, if two adults can sit down together and discuss about having a baby, you must be ready to be committed and responsible, so that means you should have stopped considering a date with someone else( corrections are welcomed if you feel I am wrong) and do everything within your best to make your union a success so that your baby can have a happy life with both parents. So now you have fallen in love with a Yankee babe and you have also put her in a family way too and now you want to marry both of them . In the same country or Toyin will be in Nigeria and the Yankee babe will be with you in the country ? Don't gamble with your life, a foreigner especially non Africans are not into polygamy and to my best knowledge I think it's an offence in some countries. You're the architect of your dilemma and not Toyin, you had a choice and you chose, so deal with it. I will not tell you to dump Toyin and I will not tell you to abandon your second baby mama, you just gotta be a man and be a responsible Father to your kids, a responsible husband to one of the ladies and a responsible baby daddy to the other lady . Choose wisely .

Prettiepearlz:
Hmmmmn,in my opinion I think you only told the story of you and Toyin so that you wouldn't be blamed. It's your word against hers and this story is one sided but if your story is true, here is my opinion. For crying out loud, you had a choice and you chose something you felt you were comfortable with. She dumped you without prior notice for a guy she met in her working place and got pregnant for him and then she came back to you asking you to help her with an abortion(which IMO is very wrong), the innocent baby wasn't yours. I just hope you didn't "render your assistance " because you didn't specify if you did or not, so I wouldn't conclude. She told you about all her sexcapades and you had a choice to walk out of the relationship or stay and make it work but you chose the latter and I want to believe you weren't under any pressure and you weren't held at gun point to make a choice, so you told her you forgave her but you turned to having sex with prostitutes Is that your definition of forgiveness, I as a person, I hate cheating and I am not a fan of people who do, if you can't deal with something, you get out of it rather than putting up with something you can't deal with and living in pretence. She talked you into having a baby and you agreed, so you both decided to bring a child into your relationship, although I don't have kids but I feel having kids mutually isn't something you just think of overnight and then you carry it out, if two adults can sit down together and discuss about having a baby, you must be ready to be committed and responsible, so that means you should have stopped considering a date with someone else( corrections are welcomed if you feel I am wrong) and do everything within your best to make your union a success so that your baby can have a happy life with both parents. So now you have fallen in love with a Yankee babe and you have also put her in a family way too and now you want to marry both of them . In the same country or Toyin will be in Nigeria and the Yankee babe will be with you in the country ? Don't gamble with your life, a foreigner especially non Africans are not into polygamy and to my best knowledge I think it's an offence in some countries. You're the architect of your dilemma and not Toyin, you had a choice and you chose, so deal with it. I will not tell you to dump Toyin and I will not tell you to abandon your second baby mama, you just gotta be a man and be a responsible Father to your kids, a responsible husband to one of the ladies and a responsible baby daddy to the other lady . Choose wisely .

thanks for your advised but I am not one sided I wrote the whole truth except that I am a cheerful giver, I made a mistake facing the consequences.

lilyqueen:
This story is fiction

My dear I agree with you. In addition, how come some one that is or that had stayed overseas cannot write a good english. He kept on using present for past. Abeg I don't believe the post.

kashamyanat:
My dear I agree with you. In addition, how come some one that is or that had stayed overseas cannot write a good english. He kept on using present for past. Abeg I don't believe the post.

bad English sorry for it , but it is the truth

Its a sad reality but I'll be blunt. Ur an azzhole for what u did. That said, make up ur mind on who u prefer and stay with her but make sure u take care of all ur kids. U owe both women an explanation for ur fckup.

No more mindless waka waka going forward!

Creamish:
Its a sad reality but I'll be blunt. Ur an azzhole for what u did. That said, make up ur mind on who u prefer and stay with her but make sure u take care of all ur kids. U owe both women an explanation for ur fckup.

No more mindless waka waka going forward!

thanks I appreciated your input thanks

kashamyanat:
My dear I agree with you. In addition, how come some one that is or that had stayed overseas cannot write a good english. He kept on using present for past. Abeg I don't believe the post.

This is really funny

You are been wussy with pu**sy.

she finally told me that she is going to date the guy that we can become friends in which I feel so sad and it was very painful . All my life I never date anyone or even cheat on her for the past 3 or 4 years I have dated her , I feel so sad thinking she played me all this while .

I move on with my life got admission to the university by that time I feel so bad I couldn't date anyone I finally turn to prostitute, go to club pick a girl sleep with the person you know how it goes. I couldn't love anyone

And this is the root cause of bad boys hardened hearts. Ladies take note!

mylife2019:



thanks for your advised but I am not one sided I wrote the whole truth except that I am a cheerful giver, I made a mistake facing the consequences.

You're welcome. And yeah you're a cheerful giver . But when things like this happens, you don't dwell on the past, instead you face the present. I pray you find a solution soon. God bless ya!

Prettiepearlz:

You're welcome. And yeah you're a cheerful giver . But when things like this happens, you don't dwell on the past, instead you face the present. I pray you find a solution soon. God bless ya!

yeah I agree with you one of my mistake is that I do dwell in the past but thanks I really appreciate it .

mylife2019:


yeah I agree with you one of my mistake is that I do dwell in the past but thanks I really appreciate it .

You're welcome. But is Toyin also residing with you in the country presently?

Prettiepearlz:

You're welcome. But is Toyin also residing with you in the country presently?

yeah but the other lady is living in another state same country

Which kind English be this one? Na Jamaica you travel go?

mylife2019:

yeah but the other lady is living in another state same country

You are reaping the fruits of your WEAKNESS . . . Enjoy!

mylife2019:


yeah but the other lady is living in another state same country

Okay the best thing is for you to come out straight to both of them. Tell them both about each other, i.e tell Toyin about the lady pregnant for you and tell the other lady, you already have a child. Which country is it precisely?

Prettiepearlz:

Okay the best thing is for you to come out straight to both of them. Tell them both about each other, i.e tell Toyin about the lady pregnant for you and tell the other lady, you already have a child. Which country is it precisely?

usa

mylife2019:


usa

Ok, all the best

Prettiepearlz:

Ok, all the best

Thanks

Op Hmmmmmmmmmmm, u sure say u entered university?

Kaira333:
Op Hmmmmmmmmmmm, u sure say u entered university?

no I pass through it . bad English doesn't means I am bad at studying thanks for your input .