I got married three years ago and had a sixteen month old son whom I loves so much. Everything was going on fine until hubby lost his job and the family started depend on my petty business for survival.
I never gave him a reason to worry over his joblessness but discovering that am pregnant despite using contraceptive is killing me.
He want me to keep the baby but am total against it.
I know this is a trying period and things will be better but having another child under this circumstantances is what I can't deal with.
Tell me, am I wrong to opt for abortion?
Am I wrong to place my little boy before any other thing?
Ur advise will help me make the right decision.

I may b wrong... but I can't blame u... building a family needs proper planning... face ur only little kid for now sis.. n give him d very best..

but abortion is dangerous n its a sin too.... so choose wisely...

Children come with their own blessings , you maybe passing up the opportunity to have the world's next Steve Jobs,cos of current circumstances .

Don't abort
It might cause delay in future
For
2kidz God will provide

Korex10:
Children come with their own blessings , you maybe passing up the opportunity to have the world's next Steve Jobs,cos of current circumstances .

true talk. At OP i ll advise you go with this

biazarre:
I may b wrong... but I can't blame u... building a family needs proper planning... face ur only little kid for now sis.. n give him d very best..

but abortion is dangerous n its a sin too.... so choose wisely...

Thanks for ur contribution

Korex10:
Children come with their own blessings , you maybe passing up the opportunity to have the world's next Steve Jobs,cos of current circumstances .

DAT is what hubby said but is not an easy task.
Thanks alot.

Donald7610:
Don't abort It might cause delay in future For 2kidz God will provide

Ok. thanks

Ahmed0336:
true talk. At OP i ll advise you go with this

Thanks alot.

I can imagine what you are going through but please manage and keep the child. Go for a more reliable contraceptive method after birth, failure rate is too high with oral contraceptive.

It may be tough but I'll say you should keep the baby.Have faith in God that He will provide.
Tell your hubby to try his hands on something.It may not be what he wants at this moment but it will bring in some income for the family.

Keep the child, it won't cost much to do so. We can do your antenatal care via the Internet, when it is time to deliver just PM me your address, we can do it free of charge. Me i dey fear the rate of infertility and complications after termination of pregnancy which is quite alarming nowadays...

Byvan03, thorpido and thearchangel. Thanks alot.

This is one tricky issue, I won't advice you not to or to abort, the choice is entirely yours, you know where the shoe pinches more than anyone here. Just weigh your options well and make sure you and your husband agree on something for posterity. Good luck.

How serious has your husband been in terms of looking for a job?

People can't just say God will provide without the practical aspect of it... U are the one pregnant, u are the one running the business, if u put to bed, who will take care of where the income is coming from assuming he was still jobless. or are u gonna deliver and start working the next day?

I did not say u must abort but u have to weigh in the two sides and find out which one is ok for u...

The family should focus more on how to get a job asap.


What would you do in the event that you/hubby lose a job after 3-4 kids? Would you terminate a living child because of job loss?

In fact, you should be happy. Hubby has about 8-9 months to search for another source of income.

I don't see how having an abortion will help your case.
If you got pregnant even with contraceptives, it means the child was meant to be born.
Simple.
When it was "sweeting" the "2 both of you", you did not think of the possibility of pregnancy?
Stop PHOCKING. Period!
You go born TRIPLETS next I swear.
Nothing as poisonous as the AKAMU of a JOBLESS MAN.


So your husband still has time for bedroom activities with joblessness?
How DID his pehnis get erect?
Even you too dey shake waist too?
Awwwwwww . . . . . . Very Romantic!

Shior!

You and hubby need to be practical and adapt to the situation at hand
What are his prospects of finding another job? Is he looking and is he hardworking and ready to tdo anything legal to bring money in for his family?

I won't advise abortion for a number of reasons but your hubby has to roll up his sleeves and get his hands dirty.
You also need strength because you may need to rely on your business for a while
I pray that it all works out for you all

Hmmmm, I really feel 4 u.. I know of s/o going tru d same situation. What dey re going tru, I won't wish dat 4 my enemy self.

Dere is 2 side of a coin. I can't tell u 2 abort d baby BC I can't tell what d future will hold 4 u...and also 4 d baby if u decide to keep it. Talk 2 ur hubby in a nice way, if he can put pride aside he will definitely succeed. Make sure u dont give him room dat u can provide 4 everything, if nt sorry is ur name BC he will just relax and dere is nothing u can do Dan 2 b quarrelling...

I just pray God turns ur story 4 gd.Think deep b4 u take any decision,I wish u well my dear so cheer up

KanwuliaExtra:
I don't see how having an abortion will help your case.
If you got pregnant even with contraceptives, it means the child was meant to be born.
Simple.
When it was "sweeting" the "2 both of you", you did not think of the possibility of pregnancy?
Stop PHOCKING. Period!
You go born TRIPLETS next I swear.
Nothing as poisonous as the AKAMU of a JOBLESS MAN.


So your husband still has time for bedroom activities with joblessness?
How DID his pehnis get erect?
Even you too dey shake waist too?
Awwwwwww . . . . . . Very Romantic!

Shior!

Ever funny.

Good to see you.

freecocoa:


Ever funny.

Good to see you.

Thanks my dia!
Good to see you too.
Everybarry don BUHARIZE with the change of HUNGER!

KanwuliaExtra:

When it was "sweeting" the "2 both of you", you did not think of the possibility of pregnancy?
Stop PHOCKING. Period!
You go born TRIPLETS next I swear.
Nothing as poisonous as the AKAMU of a JOBLESS MAN.

But this is horrifyingly true o. If they do a statistic of children born in multiple births and correlate it to their parents' financial standing, there is a big chance it will show that the lower the income, the higher the chance of having multiple births naturally, without Scientific intervention. Even in countries: the richer the country, the lower the birthrate, poorer countries will be conceiving triplets naturally, anyhow. Or to quote my evuls sister "shey you want twins, ehnn tell Himself to quit his job and become a driver or labourer. You will deliver triplets sef "

Onegai:


But this is horrifyingly true o. If they do a statistic of children born in multiple births and correlate it to their parents' financial standing, there is a big chance it will show that the lower the income, the higher the chance of having multiple births naturally, without Scientific intervention. Even in countries: the richer the country, the lower the birthrate, poorer countries will be conceiving triplets naturally, anyhow. Or to quote my evuls sister "shey you want twins, ehnn tell Himself to quit his job and become a driver or labourer. You will deliver triplets sef "

KanwuliaExtra:


Thanks my dia!
Good to see you too.
Everybarry don BUHARIZE with the change of HUNGER!

No be small thing o my sister.

freecocoa:
No be small thing o my sister.

Even NL don chop CHANGE!
Muchechecheche

KanwuliaExtra:


Even NL don chop CHANGE!
Muchechecheche

Na NL chop am pass sef.

Mindfulness, what say you?

I don't know why I'm eager to read the unconventional response you might bring here.

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stories that touch.


I pray your hubby gets a job soon.


direct him to nairaland job/vacancies section too.


this is like the worst time to have kids.

pls my dear... I can imagine how u feel, but for that child to still be dia despite d attempt to remove it, it means dat God is in control n he knows d future of the child n how great d child will be. Good luck with ur decision.

I'm not sure you need strangers opinion. . .

Your body, life and marriage.

If I were in your shoes, I'd keep the pregnancy though. Reasons:
Hubby is at home now so he can handle the homefront(no need for help or nanny) when baby arrives.

I'd love to get done and over with pregnancy and birthing fast so we can enter the raising stage. The earlier, the better.

Unless it's a rape, teen pregnancy, life threatening or unmarried jobless lady with an unwanted pregnancy , I'm totally against abortion.

Joavid:
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stories that touch.


I pray your hubby gets a job soon.


direct him to nairaland job/vacancies section too.


this is like the worst time to have kids.

@bolded,are you speaking specifically of her situation or are you saying people shouldn't have children at this period?

ifyalways:
I'm not sure you need strangers opinion. . .

Your body, life and marriage.

If I were in your shoes, I'd keep the pregnancy though. Reasons:
Hubby is at home now so he can handle the homefront(no need for help or nanny) when baby arrives.

I'd love to get done and over with pregnancy and birthing fast so we can enter the raising stage. The earlier, the better.

Unless it's a rape, teen pregnancy, life threatening or unmarried jobless lady with an unwanted pregnancy , I'm totally against abortion.

Hmm,that will be okay with a woman who has a hands-on hubby.