german007:

@Poster.

Very interesting question.

Im 28 yrs old and currently engaged.


Iv been with my partner for 7 years.  7 long years.

Il cut a long story short.


Be honest and open with your partner, Never make them mistrust you.  Learn to be forgiving and understanding.  Be a good listener.  Be like your partner's best friend.

Hope that helps.

Ekpoma1:

Thank so far for your comments.besides all those things mention,are we not leaving out something here, i mean puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.

Ekpoma1:

Thank so far for your comments.besides all those things mention,are we not leaving out something here, i mean puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.

iice:

Communication, understanding, compromise, honesty, will and honor

Ekpoma1:

is it possible to have all that above in a relationship?

iice:

But of course.  .  .

german007:

ekpoma

What exactly is your current predicament sir?

What is your main concern?.


Regards

Ekpoma1:

Nothing actually, you see alot of break up here and there.Is really a thing of great concern for me, I just want make it right when is time for to cross that bridge.

Ekpoma1:

i think puting our relationship in God's hands.just a suggestion though.

TheSeeker:

It doesn't really take a lot to make a relationship work but I think the main thing is commitment. You need to have that before your relationship can move any close to working. Commitment will make you go the extra mile to put in your best in a relationship.

When you have commitment, you go for communication. You obviously can't communicate if you're not committed because you could care less.  After this comes honesty. I want to believe that when you communicate, you do so in all honesty or it won't be a hearty discussion.

Another is patience. Dealing with a partner -- young or old, mature or immature -- is like having to do with someone you have never met just as it was back in your elementary school days. It takes a lot of them for some people to adjust to who they are dating and it could be pretty short for some. You have to know also that the comfort-level of each person varies, and the rate at which others integrate perfectly into their new dates depends on a lot of factors. Don't get mad when you have to repeatedly spell out your do's and don'ts to your partner, and don't lose your patience when your girlfriend wants you to pet her all the time, both when necessary and unnecessary.

Commitment, communication, honesty, patience, then comes another, sacrifice.

Sacrifice can mean different things to different people in different and diverse situations. The most important thing is, in every relationship make good use of your head and do what's right. Your heart at some point may not convey a correspondingly valid message with your heart. Right at this juncture, you'll need to use your brain to fathom what's right. You can't possibly ask your girlfriend or fiancee to drop her dreams of wanting to be a nurse because you think she may not have time in the future for the family (you and your kids), and it'll be foolish for her to walk out on her path to a rosy career because of what 'harm' you think it might do to the future you both are planning.

blandyne:


If i understand you clearly, u mean without commitment a relationship can't work or succeed. What is commitment to u? The reason i'm asking it's because nowadays people have different definitions for commitment. Some says commitment it's when the man actually propose to u and make everybody know that you're the one he wants to marry. Other sees commitment as when a man agree to date you and only you even though he did not propose yet.

Nevertheless i'm so glad to read your post. Most men dont understand it, when a woman say the word commitment to them they perceive her as being possessive, desperate, wanting to drag them down the aisle no matter what.

blandyne:

@ Theseeker
Thanks for your reply. You're so danm right. Like i always say you must have a goal in everything you do, even simple tasks as drinking water which your goal will be to satisfy your thirst

Your goal by insulting someone is to hurt them, the effort to insult (even when you don't want to) is the commitment.

dizzywezzy:

On a serious note is sex rily rily important? Can a relationship work without it? n on a scale of 1-10 hw important is sex?