He has a habit of trying to exchange spit when we kiss. The first time he did it I was very very disgusted. He just deliberately tried to put so much spit in my mouth when we were kissing and I spat it out again and wiped my mouth angrily because I was disgusted.

I assumed that he is not so good at kissing that first incidence thats why he did it.

Only for him to openly ask for it again another time, like some months after the first attempt. He said I should spit in his mouth while we were kissing and I told him I cannot do that I don't like such things.

He asked again. Two other times and I repeated the same answer that I cannot do such things.

I am getting disgusted with this man if he brings it up again I will flare up. What kind of dirty and disgusting request is that?

Am I overreacting or is this spitting thing actually a normal fetish thing with some guys?

Your fiance? Not your boyfriend? You had better calm down-and have a sit down with him. If that really disgusts you that much or else your marriage will either be unhappy or wont last long.

Caprigal:
He has a habit of trying to exchange spit when we kiss. The first time he did it I was very very disgusted. He just deliberately tried to put so much spit in my mouth when we were kissing and I spat it out again and wiped my mouth angrily because I was disgusted.I assumed that he is not so good at kissing that first incidence thats why he did it. He asked again. Two other times and I repeated the same answer that I cannot do such things.

oh my! what the f**. its kinda disgusting. i think you should try and explain your hatred for that kinda thing to him. you shouldn't just flare up, keep telling him day by day maybe someday he's gonna realise you are no fan to that disgusting thing. dont just flare up, since he is your fiance and not just a bf, biko, oko won lode. make him understand.

My dear, it's not once nor twice, and u still refer to him as fiance, you better have a rethink, broken "courtshipS" is far better than one broken marriage.
This small thing can be a monster after marriage.
My 50 cents.

Run as fast as your leg can carry you. He has repeated his request a number of times, so he seems to really wants what you dislike. Run, run and run

You see the problem with our naija women.... You dey wait 'til when una dey kiss before remembering that you're not into spitting or whatever it's called (I'm sure there is an official name for it somewhere bcoz everything has a name now).
You have to sit him down,have a heart-to-heart with the niggah and see if he doesn't cut down on the fetish-centric requests.
no be to just FLARE UP every time coz him fit vex one day,tear you slap.
Then two months later,you go turn to feminist because men are so cruel and domineering.

nonjebose:
Run as fast as your leg can carry you. He has repeated his request a number of times, so he seems to really wants what you dislike. Run, run and run

Run to where? must every xter cause a brk up? That means she'll forever be running bcoz no one is 100% complete. I believe some attitude are changeable and new ones learned

Op to say the least, that act of his his is dirty, but chill. You can sort it out, discuss with him, make him understand how you dislike it, if he's reasonable and loving, he'l listen and change.

mercichoco:
Run to where? must every xter cause a brk up? That means she'll forever be running bcoz no one is 100% complete. I believe some attitude are changeable and new ones learned

At what point would he change? Op said she has expressed her dislike towards the idea a couple of times, yet guy would not relent. If it is what she can tolerate she would not be using the word " disgust" nor bring up the issue in the first place. If the man showed signs of changing, it would not be lost to the lady

Thanks everyone for your advice, I appreciate your help.


I have considered breaking up but the man has other attributes that I think I want in my future husband like he is very forgiving and easygoing and he is God fearing. But the spit thing irritates me so much. I have told him before that I don't like it so why is he still bringing it up?

I have a feeling he will want to force me to accept it after marriage because I noticed that even after I complained that I don't like spitting he was cunningly still trying to put spit in my mouth when we were kissing.

The whole thing is disgusting. I avoid french kissing him these days because when that strange desire overcomes him he will start trying to sneak some spit into my mouth because he is hoping to gradually make me like it.

Next time, just kukuma pour your spit into a cup and give him to drink since he enjoys the taste of spit so much.

My girlfriend does that, don't see the big deal, when you are kissing, are you not exchanging fluids already,

Madam OP he is your fiance, its not everything about him that you will like, you have to compromise on some. Saying no and calling it disgusting to his face aint healthy at all.

Just saying

Caprigal:
He has a habit of trying to exchange spit when we kiss. The first time he did it I was very very disgusted. He just deliberately tried to put so much spit in my mouth when we were kissing and I spat it out again and wiped my mouth angrily because I was disgusted.

I assumed that he is not so good at kissing that first incidence thats why he did it.

Only for him to openly ask for it again another time, like some months after the first attempt. He said I should spit in his mouth while we were kissing and I told him I cannot do that I don't like such things.

He asked again. Two other times and I repeated the same answer that I cannot do such things.

I am getting disgusted with this man if he brings it up again I will flare up. What kind of dirty and disgusting request is that?

Am I overreacting or is this spitting thing actually a normal fetish thing with some guys?

Have you asked him why he does that?, and what was his response?

firstking01:
Have you asked him why he does that?, and what was his response?

No.
Anytime I refuse he immediately says ok and we end the subject.

I am even ashamed to have a conversation about that type of thing. What am I going to say?

"Please baby lets not spit saliva in each others mouth its unhygienic?" Why am I even talking to him about it in the first place? Normal people are not supposed to like things like that.

vani86:
My girlfriend does that, don't see the big deal, when you are kissing, are you not exchanging fluids already,

Madam OP he is your fiance, its not everything about him that you will like, you have to compromise on some. Saying no and calling it disgusting to his face aint healthy at all.

Just saying

I can't compromise, thats how perversion starts.

Today it will be spit. Tomorrow might be piss or $hit. I can't.

Caprigal:


No.
Anytime I refuse he immediately says ok and we end the subject.

I am even ashamed to have a conversation about that type of thing. What am I going to say?

"Please baby lets not spit saliva in each others mouth its unhygienic?" Why am I even talking to him about it in the first place? Normal people are not supposed to like things like that.

Well, since you 've spoken to him about it i think it's only human for him to adjust that's if he truely loves you, but if you think you can't cope with him then quit the relationship.

lie

Disgusting

Men and their weird fetish fantasy.

Your fiancee you say??

Girl, you tried it. You so ratchet. Now listen and listen good!!!!!

Why wait for this man to propose, then decide you dont like way he kisses you?

Una never kissed before proposal?

Perhaps you are finding ways to sabotage this relationship or its cold feet.

My sister, no man is perfect. If this man pleases you and treats you well otherwise, can you not find a way to overlook or compromise or manage this "fetish" of his. In relationships, sometimes you have to do things you dont neccesary like or want; so long it is not jeopardizing your life or morality or principles.


If you dont like this mans spit ( which i consider his way of intimacy with you), then you will not likely like his man juice (cum) and not likely to go down on him-unless your man do not like or is okay with not getting mouth action, which i highly doubt!!!

Better make a list of things you like about this man and check it twice before tossing him! But go ahead if you cant live with his fetish, be warned tho! Grass wont be greener on the other side of fence. The next guy may beat you instead of spit in your mouth.

Consider yourself counselled! You are welcomed!

Seriously I will feel bad at that. So disgusting. I had an experience when a gal used yoghurt while kissing. I threw up on her.
Tell your man that it isn't your fancy.

Btw:

I had an ex who had this fetish. He would rather want me to form a huge pool of saliva and pour into his while kissing. It was a turn on for him and so i did it!!!!' Tho i told him and i will not want to receive his pool of spit but i gave him mine and it was a compromise we made and it worked!!

At first i thot it gross and weird but.....

In time, i came to accept it especially since it made him happy. I found it extremely hot, sexy and endearing and quite passionate.

Keep an open mind!

And find a middle ground! You may come to like it.

Xiadnat:
Btw:

I had an ex who had this fetish. He would rather want me to form a huge pool of saliva and pour into his while kissing. It was a turn on for him and so i did it!!!!' Tho i told him and i will not want to receive his pool of spit but i gave him mine and it was a compromise we made and it worked!!

At first i thot it gross and weird but.....

In time, i came to accept it especially since it made him happy. I found it extremely hot, sexy and endearing and quite passionate.

Keep an open mind!

And find a middle ground! You may come to like it.

Eeeeeewwwwww
that is sooooooo groosssssss!!!


No wonder you want me to overlook what my fiance is doing.


Eeeeewwwwww

obyno1011:
Seriously I will feel bad at that. So disgusting. I had an experience when a gal used yoghurt while kissing. I threw up on her.
Tell your man that it isn't your fancy.

Tell me about it. The thought alone makes me want to vomit.

And he want me to swallow it too.

He actually wants to spit into somebody's mouth and watch them swallow it.

**pukes violently**

creepy

Have you asked him why he does this stuff... It might be too much porn you know

@op

I can imagine what he will do if you let him suck you down there...

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