[color=#990000][/color]Being in a relationship can be fun or otherwise. It depends on many things which temperament and the desire of both parties(the lady and the guy) is one to consider in line with this article.

It has been seen in many cases that one party experiences abuse in a particular relationship, cases of boyfriends beating up their babes, and cases of girls beating their boyfriends *coughs*, (that doesn't happen often) this happens mostly among students who live 'couples life' on campus.

Issues of boyfriends beating their girlfriends has not only been heard but seen several times in the neighbourhood, the stories(or scenes) are not quite interesting but rather disappointing and disgracing. I cant say it is inevitable because it does happen often than it should. Yes, everything happens for a reason we know, but why do this happen? Owing to individual view, the reason cant just be imagined, but rather guessed or known.

Vividly the main cause of this issue depends majorly on the temperament of the guy (boyfriend), hot tempered guys are most likely to beat their girlfriends more often than the cool tempered ones. They tend to hit their babes at the slightest mistake, especially in a situation where they are seen with another guy, this happens when their temperament is fueled by jealousy.

A friend of mine happened to be a victim of this, she attends night classes but her boyfriend was not comfortable with that. On a fateful night when she went for night reading, she had this reading partner, a guy who assists her in courses she had less knowledge of, this guy was unknown to her boyfriend. That night her boyfriend decided to also go for night class, the lady being someone who feels comfortable around people regardless of the gender decided to rest her head on the guy's shoulder when she felt sleepy...Somehow, her boyfriend saw her in that position, at that moment I guessed he would have hit her, but probably he didn't want to or create a scene, he waited for her to return back to the hostel before dealing with her, on getting to the hostel, still full of anger, he didn't allow her UnCloth herself before he started nagging, before she could complete a sentence she had received a hot slap on her face, the outburst of her cry called the attention of his neighbours.

After making several findings he later discovered they were just reading partners, no strings attached..What a pity, the deed has been done!



More cases have been heard about guys trying to have total control over their woman (dey neva pay dowry oh....some guys ehn) thereby giving them instructions and commands to obey which brings about punishments and beatings when they don't abide to the instructions given to them. This is due to the guys poor impulse control, they cant control their reactions when they are vexed.

However some guys beat up their girlfriends simply because they feel they are entitled to do that, they feel they can so far they are the 'man' in the relationship they make themselves 'gods' over their woman and think they can only be corrected by beating them, making the woman feel inferior, outrageous and ridiculous I say.



I once listened to a man telling Oprah Winfrey in one of her shows how he do beat up his wife, he said it all started six weeks after their wedding just because he saw her dancing with another man. Although he said he couldn't bear what he did and he had to apologize to his wife, but he just could not stop, he continued for about two and half years (as he said) even when his wife was pregnant. He went for several counselling and seminars for married men but could not stop the disgraceful act!

But what then could be the cure?
Written by: Boluwatife Happiness (Bleech Reports)

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