Dear Bunmi,

I'm currently engaged and my fiance is requesting that I have sex before marriage with him otherwise he would forfeit the wedding which is in two months time.

I'm scared! If I agree to have sex with him, will he run away before the wedding? Can I trust him?

These are the questions on my mind please help me!!!

I've heard of people who get dumped after agreeing to have sex with their boyfriend/fiancé
I really love him and I don't know what to do.
Thanks.

Nicole
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Have you guys had sex before?if not,your fiance doesn't love you if he can't wait for just two extra months.

give him wah he want...

Maybe he thinks if you are not having sex with him you are probably doing it around the corner with someone else.....we guys quickly make such conclusion. Many guys can do no sex before marriage but the fear is always ' what if someone else is drilling her badly while I'm waiting like a fool'....that's the reason we always want to fvck our fiancee so that one idiot won't be doing it for us

Believe you me....those secret helpers can be merciless on the pvssy. hammering it really hard. its an ego boost for them, since they know she will be marrying soon

In law of contract.... There's wat is called concensus ad idem

Are you a virgin? If no, then something serious is wrong with you.



After sleeping with all those efulefu boys, then you no wan give your fiance, abi? You see your life?

just fu*k her

If u are not a virgin give it to him

you must be .... .

You guys are engaged, so there shud be no reason for yu holding on to yur pu**y , allow the poor guy enjoy you before he ends up with anoda woman.

Ur on drugs!!!! Plz tell me ur a virgin he has tested n comfirmed it himself, if not

Why is he in a hurry ?

It's just two months away

Firstly, How long have you guys been in courtship? Secondly, He should be patient since he has already been. I suspect he has ulterior motive for wanting quick sex. If he cannot wait let him go to blazes.

dearbunmi:
Dear Bunmi,

I'm currently engaged and my fiance is requesting that I have sex before marriage with him otherwise he would forfeit the wedding which is in two months time.

I'm scared! If I agree to have sex with him, will he run away before the wedding? Can I trust him?

These are the questions on my mind please help me!!!

I've heard of people who get dumped after agreeing to have sex with their boyfriend/fiancé
I really love him and I don't know what to do.
Thanks.

Nicole
Via Facebook

Click below to see my response
http://dearbunmi.com/fiance-wants-sex-marriage/

Do you have any relationship questions?
http://dearbunmi.com/send-your-story

In cases like this, i loveto imagine myself in such situation and ask what id have done.


From your post, its possible you a virgin (primary, secondary or tertiary) or you have core moral values of adhering strictly to your descions. i can also decipher that you probably have not had sex with him because you are scared he'd hit and run.

In summary, if this was my case right now, I would try and convince him to wait since its just two months away (why the rush?). If he still insists id ask him to do as he pleases and if he eventually calls it off.....#noregrets

In cases like this, i love to imagine myself in such situation and ask what id have done.


From your post, its possible you a virgin (primary, secondary or tertiary) or you have core moral values of adhering strictly to your descions. i can also decipher that you probably have not had sex with him because you are scared he'd hit and run.

In summary, if this was my case right now, I would try and convince him to wait since its just two months away (why the rush?). If he still insists id ask him to do as he pleases and if he eventually calls it off.....#noregrets

If you 've had sex with him before then i'd advice you continue having sex with him, but if you 've never had sex with him before pls stand your ground.

lilyqueen:
Why is he in a hurry ?
It's just two months away

Mtchewww...

my sister don't trust all these naija guys....dia ritual too much
there is more to it sis...

eniwhy:
Firstly, How long have you guys been in courtship? Secondly, He should be patient since he has already been. I suspect he has ulterior motive for wanting quick sex. If he cannot wait let him go to blazes.

So far, you're the only one who's said anything reasonable. I'm astounded by all the comments above yours.

Naija, which way? Just imagine comments up there!

Whether or not you've had sex with him before, stick to your guns as long as you're abstaining for the right reasons. If he decided he won't marry you just because of that, then let him go.

Maychang:
In cases like this, i loveto imagine myself in such situation and ask what id have done.


From your post, its possible you a virgin (primary, secondary or tertiary) or you have core moral values of adhering strictly to your descions. i can also decipher that you probably have not had sex with him because you are scared he'd hit and run.

In summary, if this was my case right now, I would try and convince him to wait since its just two months away (why the rush?). If he still insists id ask him to do as he pleases and if he eventually calls it off.....#noregrets

Thank you for this

You urself arnt to be trusted.. He has proposed, set a wedding date, ready to have u as his wife and yet you are still holding back. Are u sure u have a hole or sexually ok? Pls don't give him his worst nightmare on ur wedding night

you won't try that my friend!

Maychang:
In cases like this, i love to imagine myself in such situation and ask what id have done.
From your post, its possible you a virgin (prima[b][/b]ry, second[b][/b]ary or tert[b][/b]iary) or you have core moral values of adhering strictly to your descions. i can also decipher that you probably have not had sex with him because you are scared he'd hit and run.
In summary, if this was my case right now, I would try and convince him to wait since its just two months away (why the rush?). If he still insists id ask him to do as he pleases and if he eventually calls it off.....#noregrets

[ abegi whch one b primary, secondary or tetiary virgin?

Aregs:
[ abegi whch one b primary, secondary or tetiary virgin?

primary virgins have never had sex.

secondary virgins are those that iv not had sex in a long time e.g 5- 10 yrs and above. at this stage, the vagina would become tight.

Tertiary- id define this category as those who have lost it , sexually active but when they want to settle down, they claim not to want sex or claim they are virgins.


now u get it right?

drealbobo:
You guys are engaged, so there shud be no reason for yu holding on to yur pu**y , allow the poor guy enjoy you before he ends up with anoda woman.

They are engaged but not married. op let him wait till you get married.

KingRex1:
You urself arnt to be trusted.. He has proposed, set a wedding date, ready to have u as his wife and yet you are still holding back. Are u sure u have a hole or sexually ok? Pls don't give him his worst nightmare on ur wedding night

why do you guys take pleasure in giving people wrong advice. Let the guy wait till they are married. Two months is not two years.

let the nigga wait. The way people go crazy about sex I begin to wonder.