Fhemmmy:

He said, he told the wife to be then, that he had no job, not now

Okay! But even at that, if the wife was ready to stick with him when he had no job, why can't he give her the things she wants now that he can afford them?

She was dere when he was broke, now that he has money she has truned to a gold-digger!

rubi:

The highlighted statement is striking me I have a red flag on that I can tolerate her demand but adding that statement  Your intelligent might be played

Fhemmmy:

good to hear

I cant beleive you guys feel sorry for this dude! What are the chances that a woman will want to divorce her hubby cos he refused to buy her a car. There's obviously more to this story than he's telling!!

Igodieo:

woooow ujujoan or whatever be you name I nor need your advice.

Oh please!! I dont even have any advice to offer you. But dont expect my pity either. 

ujujoan,what is the problem with you and the igodieon

chiejik:

ujujoan,what is the problem with you and the igodieon

me ke? problem with him? I dont have any at all!

I just dont like it when people try to blame others for their mistakes!

Ujuojan, why would the wife now said "no more love" all cos the dude is not giving in for her demands?

Fhemmmy:

Ujuojan, why would the wife now said "no more love" all cos the dude is not giving in for her demands?

Seriously, a woman that agreed to marry him even when he had nothing! Do you really think she would say that ? I dont! The guy's not tellin the whole story!

Ujujoan:

Seriously, a woman that agreed to marry him even when he had nothing! Do you really think she would say that ? I dont! The guy's not tellin the whole story!

well, i hate to plant what has not been planted by the farmer.

Ujujoan, Please chill for the poster. i understand your need to try to reason the issue out, but your reasoning is actually comming out as an attack! who cares if hes making up stories, just give him advice if you feel the need to.

@ Poster,

If your wife wants a divorce because she doesnt get what she ask for on time, then there are many ways to handle the matter. but if she says she doesnt love you anymore, then i'd advice you find out how the love went out the window and what you can do to run after it. but before i say grant her divorce, i really need to know the reason you are in america & she is in nigeria. she cant love you when shes seen you only 3 times since you've been married and you guys dated online for 2 years!

you will agree with me that it is difficult to love what you dont know!

A

Aproko:

Ujujoan, Please chill for the poster. i understand your need to try to reason the issue out, but your reasoning is actually comming out as an attack! who cares if hes making up stories, just give him advice if you feel the need to.

@ Poster,

If your wife wants a divorce because she doesnt get what she ask for on time, then there are many ways to handle the matter. but if she says she doesnt love you anymore, then i'd advice you find out how the love went out the window and what you can do to run after it. but before i say grant her divorce, i really need to know the reason you are in america & she is in nigeria. she cant love you when shes seen you only 3 times since you've been married and you guys dated online for 2 years!

you will agree with me that it is difficult to love what you dont know!

Thanks for your advice Aproko , arrangement was being made for her to join me, We've only been married for 7 months and it takes a while to get all the papers sorted.
You won't believe she is a Nigerian celebrety. I will do everything to protect her career so please don't ask for her name.

^^ you want us to guess her name abi.


This internet and claim claim sha.

tpia.:

^^ you want us to guess her name abi.


This internet and claim claim sha.

All I have said is nothing but the truth. I have seen a counsellor and analyse the whole Issue and now arrived at a conclusion.

I want to thank all those that have contributed positively to this thread. As with all things you will always get one bad apple and you can guess who that person is,    Everyone is entitled to their opinion. God bless

there is more to this story!
am a woman, and i do not think a woman can just open her mouth and tell the man she said I DO to 7 months ago that she does not love him anymore.

how long did u date her? u told her u didn't have a job b4 marriage and after marriage she is asking of a car and Bb . may be she discovered u were lying to her abt ur financial status

was it a long distance relationship?
what kind of people are aropund her? i think u guys need to talk!

whitesturd:

I cant afford to believe this, how will a reasonable woman want to get a divorce cos of a goddam car.i am

me too am

modupsie:

there is more to this story!
am a woman, and i do not think a woman can just open her mouth and tell the man she said I DO to 7 months ago that she does not love him anymore.
how long did u date her? u told her u didn't have a job b4 marriage and after marriage she is asking of a car and Bb . may be she discovered u were lying to her abt your financial status

[b]was it a long distance relationship?[/b]what kind of people are aropund her? i think u guys need to talk! me too am

If every woman is like you then there will be no problem in the world, I suppose. People are different.
It was a distance relationship, u did not read the whole thread ?
She is surrounded by a host of Nigerians, she believe she is making it now. When I met her she did not have a job as well. I helped to relunch her career.

Marriages these days. People don't give a flipping Bleep no more. That's really scary.

Anyway, she was probably attracted to you because of the gifts you drowned her in initially( I suppose) but she don't seem to be getting all that anymore.
When the gifts flow in it's hard to tell true love.

I'm not saying gifts ain't good but sometimes it's good to cut down and 'live normally' just to see how things will go.

So, after divorce who will hold the marriage certificate or are they going to return it to the church?

Aproko:

Ujujoan, Please chill for the poster. i understand your need to try to reason the issue out, but your reasoning is actually comming out as an attack! who cares if hes making up stories, just give him advice if you feel the need to.

I really dont care if it comes out like an attack! His story is a slight on his so-called wife. He portratyed her to be shallow and inconsiderate and as a woman, I'm angry. I know he's not a saint himself!! I'm sure if the wife was on NL we'd hear a whole different story entirely.

tby:

@Ujujoan

U get problem abeg. All u did was attack. Every staty he makes is a lie in your book. he asked for advice. U go bashin. wetin be your own?

Abe go jor!

@poster,

You made a big mistake marrying such a greedy devil. Please grant her the divorce and look for someone better. There are good girls in Naija from good homes. Do your homework properly and pray to God for guidance. Stay away from divorced women or those with complicated lifestyles. Most of them have too much baggage and view life from a skewed perspective. Be very careful with women with kids from a prior relationship, they tend to have some attitude issues.

Good luck.

RichyBlacK:

@poster,

You made a big mistake marrying such a greedy devil. Please grant her the divorce and look for someone better. There are good girls in Naija from good homes. Do your homework properly and pray to God for guidance. Stay away from divorced women or those with complicated lifestyles. Most of them have too much baggage and view life from a skewed perspective. Be very careful with women with kids from a prior relationship, they tend to have some attitude issues.

Good luck.

that is soo unfair! Dont make it look like divorce is a crime! I know a lot of good divorced women. Better that most of us never-married!

It's more like a contract.

Ben-10:

It's more like a contract.

How could it be a contract, when only one person knows what he/she was doing?

JUST BELIEVE HER IF SHE SAID SHE IS NOT LOVING YOU AGAIN. I LEAVE THE REST TO YOUR IMAGINATION

lannre:

JUST BELIEVE HER IF SHE SAID SHE IS NOT LOVING YOU AGAIN. I LEAVE THE REST TO YOUR IMAGINATION

Lol to that

Ujujoan:

that is soo unfair! Dont make it look like divorce is a crime! I know a lot of good divorced women. Better that most of us never-married!

Uju,

I know there are some good ones, but studies show that divorced people (men and women) are more likely to divorce again - they've tasted blood and are comfortable with it.

If the woman is there for the money and she can't get it anymore then let her go. What's the point of keeping her when you know she's there for money? (As long as the story is genuine)

Just let her go if not you will leave to regret it all your life!
Her mind is not in that marriage.

RichyBlacK:

Uju,

I know there are some good ones, but studies show that divorced people (men and women) are more likely to divorce again - they've tasted blood and are comfortable with it.

GBAM

lmao @ pc guru