Ujujoan:

That's a very unreasonable story

Come oh, must you post a thread on NL

pc guru:

Who are all these liar opening topics just to promote gender bashing.So your wife divorced you cuz you couldn't buy her some stuffs that the biggest lie i've heard. Even sluts that are married don't divorce for that.Only in nairaland

chaircover:

Can you afford these things?

190:

POSTER
your wife is devoricing u cos of things like dis

read
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-333780.0.html#msg4682643

Igodieo:

Yeo @190 you are right. That is exactly what happened.
I think I have got the solution. I have to move on.
She's been married before and has a son. I was trying to save the marriage but she is bent on breaking it.

Ujujoan:

I'm sorry okay? But your story is not convincing enough!! Why would she want to divorce you cos you dont want to buy her a car

If at all what you are saying is true then the only explianation I can get is that for you to be able to afford all those things and decided to marry a woman who's divorced or widowed, den you are a probably divorced or widowed yourself.

I'll bet you are years older than her and you promised her these things just to get her to marry you. Now you are married, you want to dodge!

Igodieo:

Majority of men are older than their wife. That is correct.
I did not promise her anything. There is an assumption in naija ,that when you live abroad you have money.
I am not dodging. I am the one trying to save the marriage.

spikedcylinder:

When you suspect all she needs are material things, there's a big problem.

Ujujoan:

That's because he knows that was what he used to get her, and now he dosent want to give it.

You see, he dosen't care that she misses him or thatshe thinks he dosen't treat her well enough, he just assumed her interest is in material things because that was what he offered in the first place!

Ournaija:

I dont even know where to start from. Bros we need more info about you and her. Give us details of your courtship period and the 7 months of marriage

Igodieo:

I think you just after me. I did not promise her anything. Used to get her? I have been to Nigeria 3 times this year just because of her.

chaircover:

Thank you Ify . . . . that’s why I asked the question if he can afford it.

He says he can so he might as well just buy them if he wants to keep the marriage.

Let him get over this storm first by buying the car and the phone.

To prevent future occurrences of this kind of blackmail from his wife, he has to sit her down and correct any misjudgement that she may have about his true financial standing.

ifyalways:

Na wao for this story
She filed for divorce,u dont want her to go,then get her the darn things now if u can afford it.If u cant afford it or u can afford it but u just dont see urself getting her those things u shld be in your church having a thanksgiving.

Ujujoan:

*roooollz eyez* I'm after you like she's after your wealth abi? Paranoid!

You came to Nigeria to see her cos you wanted to marry her. Dont act like you were doing her a favour!

Igodieo:

Thanks I appreciate this.

Thank You very much. I have one week more to spare before I give up. It is not a do or die affair.

I don't want to marry her we are already married. All your discussions are always gbegy.
Attitude .

Fhemmmy:

If he is divorcing you cos of all these things, then, count yourself lucky and go to church and have a thanksgiving that she is leaving.
However, when you were dating her, did u promise her heaven on earth if you do, then, u are bound by your words.

Igodieo:

Thanks for your advice, Honestly I did not promise her anything. Even at the time of marriage I told her I don't have a job because of the credit crunch. She said we will manage.

Thanks for your advice, Honestly I did not promise her anything. Even at the time of marriage I told her I don't have a job because of the credit crunch. She said we will manage.

Ujujoan:

You don't have a job but you just said you could afford what she was requesting for!

He said, he told the wife to be then, that he had no job, not now

Igodieo:

@ Fhemmmy
Just leave the woman alone. I think because I do respond to her thread that is why she is going on like broken record.
She hasn't got nothing important to say. I have read all her previous contributions she is simply trouble.

woooow ujujoan or whatever be you name I nor need your advice.

Igodieo:

Just been Married for 7 months wife files for divorce.

Reasons.
She is not getting what she wants at the right time.
I have never refused her anything but provide it when i have the means.

Latest request is a FREELANDER.
last request was a blackberry storm, which she has just got.

[b]she says she does not love me anymore.[/b]what should I do people.

rubi:

The highlighted statement is striking me I have a red flag on that I can tolerate her demand but adding that statement Your intelligent might be played

Igodieo:

Thanks for your observation. I am getting stronger with every comment.