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Holywizard:
u re a fool. ur guy's background speaks for itself

Ebullient07:
I'm trying to see things from deir perspective but wat if they're wrong

Ebullient07:
I appreciate all you've said bro, your line of reasonin has really bin helpful. God's will be done. Thanks a lot

Ebullient07:
This is my first post on nairaland and I'll make it as short as possible. I want pieces of advice on an issue that is bothering me so much.I have been dating this young man for about four years, precisely when I was in my 2nd year in the Univ. My parents got to know about the relationship in my 4th year thru my youngest brother, they kicked against it outrightly and asked that we ended whatever was between us. I cried so much because this is someone who I'm comfortable with. He isn't stable financially yet but even at that, he is almost done with the completion of his personal building project. He is not a graduate but he speaks and write fairly well in English (he is quite intelligent but circumstances thwarted his academic ambition) and honestly I'm not disturbed one bit about his educational background. I made him understand my parents were against the relationship but we continued cos I believed they'd change their stance with time. Just last week, things went out of control when they got to know we didn't stop when they asked us to. They gave the following reasons:
(i) we stay in the same area (his elder bro lives down my street with his wife)
(i) His parents are separated/he's from a polygamous family
(iii) His brother's wife has some mental issues (some people are saying she's being disturbed by spirit husband)
In summary, they said they don't have anything against him as a person but they his family background and people's wagging tongues in the street and church is putting them off. They said our rel is not giving them any joy whatsoever. My grandma has talked to them on several ocassions but all efforts proved abortive. I'm sad about the whole thing and can't stop crying and thinking.

Ebullient07:
Mr whoever you are, I won't toe that line of hurlin insults with you.