overcomer123:
So i got a small raise recently in the office and am nt sure i should disclose it to her, because i knw if i do, she go dey expect more, but at the same time i feel guilty cos i know she always prays for me and my job. I feel i hv an obligation to disclose every to her.

You be Mugu?? , you think sey any woman fit prayer for you without anything to gain out of it?? Keep 99% of everything confidential from a woman, be it your gf/wife... For your mind now, na her prayer dey work for u.

LynnPetra:
Don't disclose it to her ooooo.
This is the best time to save and not to waste biko.
Some women don't understand that it's what comes after the marriage that matters. This is the best time to lay a solid foundation for kids yet unborn. Personally, I don't think I will accommodate more than 40 persons on my white wedding. I rather pay for a conference room for 50 guests.
Let her continue to pray, you will get a far more better promotion. Honey moon no dey finish. You guys can still travel as many times as possible to celebrate love.



On a side note.
2 million on a one week honeymoon in this recession. I be strong igbo girl proper. I go tell honey to wire the money enter my account, after which I will rewire 800k to his account, "Honey I don collect my honey moon money, the remaining na ya own, if you won ficck, my toto dey bedroom dey wait"

BlackMbakara1:
You know the type of woman you have, it's out of anybody's place to say tell her or not. You know what is good to do...

tellwisdom:


You be Mugu?? , you think sey any woman fit prayer for you without anything to gain out of it?? Keep 99% of everything confidential from a woman, be it your gf/wife... For your mind now, na her prayer dey work for u.

Swissheart:
You have to sit her down and explain everything on your mind to her. Let her know your fears concerning the family's finance. You can't keep your financial informations from her for life,so the earlier She is called to order the better for the family. Tell her there is an increase and it is going into savings.


I recommend The Book Marriage And Family Life by W.F Kumuyi.

overcomer123:
I and my woman have been dating for like5 years now, we are currently doing counseling, we are cool and all and we love eachother deeply. there is one area however we are yet to fully explore, this has to do with finances, we both work and both know how much each other earns. I earn more than her and do more of the spending which is cool she also does some spending on me and buys me stuff. We also have different spending habits, she likes to take care of herself, am more of the buy only what is needed type of guy. Not stingy or a miser, but i can be prudent with money.

Now to the issue i recently noticed she is not as prudent with money as i expect, we have our wedding next month and she doesn't hv much savings, she always wants to buy and buy, its like she has this very high expectation of me. how we are going for honey moon overseas. where as me i hv other plans, Na God hand every dey. i believe we shd save and probably get a land. and not just waste it, honeymoon oversea for a week in the US wont be less than 2miliion for the both of us, that money can be used to buy a car for her.

So i got a small raise recently in the office and am nt sure i should disclose it to her, because i knw if i do, she go dey expect more, but at the same time i feel guilty cos i know she always prays for me and my job. I feel i hv an obligation to disclose every to her.

so my question is how do couples handle finance, do you do joint account or keep the finances coded.

founts:
Do not disclose to her buh let her feel the impact and Enjoy the dividend of faithfulness and loyalty in a relationship #Justsayingnoni

overcomer123:


That what i thought of doing.

overcomer123:


am nt asking for u to tell me , am asking how do couples handle finances do they share or

Swissheart:
You have to sit her down and explain everything on your mind to her. Let her know your fears concerning the family's finance. You can't keep your financial informations from her for life,so the earlier She is called to order the better for the family. Tell her there is an increase and it is going into savings.


I recommend The Book Marriage And Family Life by W.F Kumuyi.

drnoel:


Ur ranting was childish and uncalled for.

foolish boi....Are we living the same life? Must everything be of your own taste??

tellwisdom:


foolish boi....Are we living the same life? Must everything be of your own taste??

LynnPetra:
Don't disclose it to her ooooo.
This is the best time to save and not to waste biko.
Some women don't understand that it's what comes after the marriage that matters. This is the best time to lay a solid foundation for kids yet unborn. Personally, I don't think I will accommodate more than 40 persons on my white wedding. I rather pay for a conference room for 50 guests.
Let her continue to pray, you will get a far more better promotion. Honey moon no dey finish. You guys can still travel as many times as possible to celebrate love.



On a side note.
2 million on a one week honeymoon in this recession. I be strong igbo girl proper. I go tell honey to wire the money enter my account, after which I will rewire 800k to his account, "Honey I don collect my honey moon money, the remaining na ya own, if you won ficck, my toto dey bedroom dey wait"

overcomer123:
I and my woman have been dating for like5 years now, we are currently doing counseling, we are cool and all and we love eachother deeply. there is one area however we are yet to fully explore, this has to do with finances, we both work and both know how much each other earns. I earn more than her and do more of the spending which is cool she also does some spending on me and buys me stuff. We also have different spending habits, she likes to take care of herself, am more of the buy only what is needed type of guy. Not stingy or a miser, but i can be prudent with money.

Now to the issue i recently noticed she is not as prudent with money as i expect, we have our wedding next month and she doesn't hv much savings, she always wants to buy and buy, its like she has this very high expectation of me. how we are going for honey moon overseas. where as me i hv other plans, Na God hand every dey. i believe we shd save and probably get a land. and not just waste it, honeymoon oversea for a week in the US wont be less than 2miliion for the both of us, that money can be used to buy a car for her.

So i got a small raise recently in the office and am nt sure i should disclose it to her, because i knw if i do, she go dey expect more, but at the same time i feel guilty cos i know she always prays for me and my job. I feel i hv an obligation to disclose every to her.

so my question is how do couples handle finance, do you do joint account or keep the finances coded.