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ItsQuinn:
That guy is a crook! Run away from him ....he's not to be trusted. If you're not careful he will just kidnap you and rape you

deathcomestoall:
Hello nairalanders, I would appreciate as much and reasonable responses as possible.

I was going for a party at night on a Sunday so I decided to stop over at Ikeja city mall to pick up a few things before they closed. I was dressed up beautifully for the party so a lot of attention from the guys came. While I was waiting for my friend, a good looking, averaged height guy approached me. We talked for 1 minute and I gave him my number as I was in a hurry. Note: he was the only guy I gave my number as I wasn't even expecting to meet anyone that night. He called me less than two hours later and I told him I would call back because of the noise. I never did though.

He called me several times and we spoke at length for somedays. Like 2 days after he saw me at night, he started saying he wants me to be his girl. I was suprised because I know it's only illiterate guys that act as such. He doesn't look like an idiot, doesn't speak like one. Infact, he went to OAU. I then proceeded to know more about him. I asked his surname, he was very reluctant but told me later. I then asked if he had a gf, he said it's complicated that he's looking for a replacement gf. This is a guy that doesn't know my surname or anything about me. That aside.

He's been asking me to hangout with him. I stay in festac, he stays in Ikeja. He told me to come out at night that I would sleep over at his place. I was not angry cos I've heard such before but I was disappointed because I thought we could be friends. I told him off straight that his action is despicable so he's stringing his gf along and wants to have sex with me. He started with defending himself which I didn't care about.

I decided to see him one night for a few minutes and I told him because I was going to see a male friend. He agreed. When he picked me up, he called about two of his friends to come join us( I have experienced this before sometime last year; I heard it's when when guy wants to show you off to his friends that he's gonna sleep with you, how true is this?).
I was like what is this, even If this is not a date, I was outnumbered and outmatched, they were talking over my head like i wasn't there maybe because I wasn't sleeping at his. I then called my friend to come pick me up. Before I left, he told me if my friend messes up, I should tell him so he would come pick me. Please what does this mean?

He called me and said I embarrassed him infront of his friends. Please he has a gf, I am not dating him. How did I embarrass him? He called me around 2am that day, I didn't pick. Since then his number has been off. He promised m a job, that I the only reason I am still keeping his number.

Now my question is, why would he just see me and judge me so quickly. He obviously sees me as some young woman that is for all the men. This is not the first time I'm experiencing such. It's too much. Many guys want to just have sex without knowing you. I am not a RUNS girl. I don't do heavy makeup or dress or talk indecently. I don't sleep around. I am very hurt that not only this guy but so many other guys are so judgemental of me.

None of them can be plainly friends or help genuinely. They are only interested in my body because I am beautiful. I am very angry. The reason why I am asking this is because, unless a guy tells me what he wants from me point blank, I don't assume anything. Pls don't blame me.

kaboninc:
Now look at this scenerio...

If I had approached you and told you that I want to be friends with you, you would immediately think that I want to have something to do with you - most probably having sex with you. Hence you'll either string me along until you agree or you agree immediately. This is just the general thinking of most ladies and because some guys know this, they capitalize on this and have their way. Same way most guys think that having a string of ladies means they've become conquerors.

Truth be told he wants sex from you...but he used the route most loved by ladies. He wants a fling. And if you appear to be a vixen, he'll want to keep having the fling even in his grave. Yes WE are like that. Yes he disrespects you by not considering your feeling.


I've read a couple of your comments but I just want to let you know that some guys (like us ) we are not just interested in knowing your first name but YOU as a person because we understand what FRIENDSHIP means! And if the odds are for us and there is a need to take that relationship a step further, we'll go for it.

I personally take my time to know more about a lady I've just met (and a guy too for that matter).

Am so sure all the ladies I've pm'ed can attest to that... MizMyColi, Amicable09, Quivah, Mysticgal and others who have deactivated (and angry with me)

deathcomestoall:
I am happy you said 'thinking of most ladies'. I stated it up there that unless a guy tell me what he wants, that's what I would believe. I have male friends. I have guys who have told me from the start that they would have me as their friend and I never thought otherwise. Thnx for your comment though.

deathcomestoall:
I will never allow them visit me. I have cases of guys showing up @ my house uninvited. Besides we met @ a public place. Anything wrong with that?

That means you don't have any male friends you trust enough to visit you, what are you doing with those kind of male friends then?

kaboninc:
Now look at this scenerio...

If I had approached you and told you that I want to be friends with you, you would immediately think that I want to have something to do with you - most probably having sex with you. Hence you'll either string me along until you agree or you agree immediately. This is just the general thinking of most ladies and because some guys know this, they capitalize on this and have their way. Same way most guys think that having a string of ladies means they've become conquerors.

Truth be told he wants sex from you...but he used the route most loved by ladies. He wants a fling. And if you appear to be a vixen, he'll want to keep having the fling even in his grave. Yes WE are like that. Yes he disrespects you by not considering your feeling.


I've read a couple of your comments but I just want to let you know that some guys (like us ) we are not just interested in knowing your first name but YOU as a person because we understand what FRIENDSHIP means! And if the odds are for us and there is a need to take that relationship a step further, we'll go for it.

I personally take my time to know more about a lady I've just met (and a guy too for that matter).

Am so sure all the ladies I've pm'ed can attest to that... MizMyColi, Amicable09, Quivah, Mysticgal and others who have deactivated (and angry with me)

deathcomestoall:
Hello nairalanders, I would appreciate as much and reasonable responses as possible.

I was going for a party at night on a Sunday so I decided to stop over at Ikeja city mall to pick up a few things before they closed. I was dressed up beautifully for the party so a lot of attention from the guys came. While I was waiting for my friend, a good looking, averaged height guy approached me. We talked for 1 minute and I gave him my number as I was in a hurry. Note: he was the only guy I gave my number as I wasn't even expecting to meet anyone that night. He called me less than two hours later and I told him I would call back because of the noise. I never did though.

He called me several times and we spoke at length for somedays. Like 2 days after he saw me at night, he started saying he wants me to be his girl. I was suprised because I know it's only illiterate guys that act as such. He doesn't look like an idiot, doesn't speak like one. Infact, he went to OAU. I then proceeded to know more about him. I asked his surname, he was very reluctant but told me later. I then asked if he had a gf, he said it's complicated that he's looking for a replacement gf. This is a guy that doesn't know my surname or anything about me. That aside.

He's been asking me to hangout with him. I stay in festac, he stays in Ikeja. He told me to come out at night that I would sleep over at his place. I was not angry cos I've heard such before but I was disappointed because I thought we could be friends. I told him off straight that his action is despicable so he's stringing his gf along and wants to have sex with me. He started with defending himself which I didn't care about.

I decided to see him one night for a few minutes and I told him because I was going to see a male friend. He agreed. When he picked me up, he called about two of his friends to come join us( I have experienced this before sometime last year; I heard it's when when guy wants to show you off to his friends that he's gonna sleep with you, how true is this?).
I was like what is this, even If this is not a date, I was outnumbered and outmatched, they were talking over my head like i wasn't there maybe because I wasn't sleeping at his. I then called my friend to come pick me up. Before I left, he told me if my friend messes up, I should tell him so he would come pick me. Please what does this mean?

He called me and said I embarrassed him infront of his friends. Please he has a gf, I am not dating him. How did I embarrass him? He called me around 2am that day, I didn't pick. Since then his number has been off. He promised m a job, that I the only reason I am still keeping his number.

Now my question is, why would he just see me and judge me so quickly. He obviously sees me as some young woman that is for all the men. This is not the first time I'm experiencing such. It's too much. Many guys want to just have sex without knowing you. I am not a RUNS girl. I don't do heavy makeup or dress or talk indecently. I don't sleep around. I am very hurt that not only this guy but so many other guys are so judgemental of me.

None of them can be plainly friends or help genuinely. They are only interested in my body because I am beautiful. I am very angry. The reason why I am asking this is because, unless a guy tells me what he wants from me point blank, I don't assume anything. Pls don't blame me.

kaboninc:
Now look at this scenerio...

If I had approached you and told you that I want to be friends with you, you would immediately think that I want to have something to do with you - most probably having sex with you. Hence you'll either string me along until you agree or you agree immediately. This is just the general thinking of most ladies and because some guys know this, they capitalize on this and have their way. Same way most guys think that having a string of ladies means they've become conquerors.

Truth be told he wants sex from you...but he used the route most loved by ladies. He wants a fling. And if you appear to be a vixen, he'll want to keep having the fling even in his grave. Yes WE are like that. Yes he disrespects you by not considering your feeling.


I've read a couple of your comments but I just want to let you know that some guys (like us ) we are not just interested in knowing your first name but YOU as a person because we understand what FRIENDSHIP means! And if the odds are for us and there is a need to take that relationship a step further, we'll go for it.

I personally take my time to know more about a lady I've just met (and a guy too for that matter).

Am so sure all the ladies I've pm'ed can attest to that... MizMyColi, Amicable09, Quivah, Mysticgal and others who have deactivated (and angry with me)

ucsparks:
Well,, its obviously the way you dress sorry to say.... The way you dress is the way you gon be addressed

mysticgal:
Truth is that most guys are just after the body, so I'd advice the op to select the kind of guts she gives her contact to, if kaboninc is not matured and responsible, trust me I wouldn't be his friend. Set your standards, set your goals and stick to it. No one will kill you if you decide not to give out your contact or answer his calls.
Seems to me like you've got esteem issues because before any dude starts shouting at me, I am pretty sure he'd consider it seriously...
Deathcomestoall, stand your ground, you deserve all the best things in life, you are a goddess worth worshiping, you are beautiful and deserve a good man. Don't fall for him, his money, his love or whatever he seems to be offering. Reject him and move on sweety

deathcomestoall:
I didn't want to reply you but let me say this. Is anything wrong in being frnds with a guy that has a gf. He was the one chasing not me besides he promised me a job. You need to read properly and assimilate before commenting.

Cutehector:
hey pretty, what book is that?

mysticgal:
Hey sweet... The book is called, THE REFLECTIONS OF A MAN by Mr Amari soul, and you can get the book on iBooks, amazon

Cutehector:
wow great. Will just look it up from any of these book sellers on the roadside.

mysticgal:
Are you sure they have a pirated of the book,

ChemicalReaction:
Sometimes, it's not actually the way one dresses..

mysticgal:
Hey sweet... The book is called, THE REFLECTIONS OF A MAN by Mr Amari soul, and you can get the book on iBooks, Amazon.com etc.

Deathcomestoall, this I searched diligently for you...

deathcomestoall:
listen to yourself, a naija girl has no business with with guy as a friend...your statement Is as useless as rubber lips on a woodpecker.

deathcomestoall:
Hello nairalanders, I would appreciate as much and reasonable responses as possible.

I was going for a party at night on a Sunday so I decided to stop over at Ikeja city mall to pick up a few things before they closed. I was dressed up beautifully for the party so a lot of attention from the guys came. While I was waiting for my friend, a good looking, averaged height guy approached me. We talked for 1 minute and I gave him my number as I was in a hurry. Note: he was the only guy I gave my number as I wasn't even expecting to meet anyone that night. He called me less than two hours later and I told him I would call back because of the noise. I never did though.

He called me several times and we spoke at length for somedays. Like 2 days after he saw me at night, he started saying he wants me to be his girl. I was suprised because I know it's only illiterate guys that act as such. He doesn't look like an idiot, doesn't speak like one. Infact, he went to OAU. I then proceeded to know more about him. I asked his surname, he was very reluctant but told me later. I then asked if he had a gf, he said it's complicated that he's looking for a replacement gf. This is a guy that doesn't know my surname or anything about me. That aside.

He's been asking me to hangout with him. I stay in festac, he stays in Ikeja. He told me to come out at night that I would sleep over at his place. I was not angry cos I've heard such before but I was disappointed because I thought we could be friends. I told him off straight that his action is despicable so he's stringing his gf along and wants to have sex with me. He started with defending himself which I didn't care about.

I decided to see him one night for a few minutes and I told him because I was going to see a male friend. He agreed. When he picked me up, he called about two of his friends to come join us( I have experienced this before sometime last year; I heard it's when when guy wants to show you off to his friends that he's gonna sleep with you, how true is this?).
I was like what is this, even If this is not a date, I was outnumbered and outmatched, they were talking over my head like i wasn't there maybe because I wasn't sleeping at his. I then called my friend to come pick me up. Before I left, he told me if my friend messes up, I should tell him so he would come pick me. Please what does this mean?

He called me and said I embarrassed him infront of his friends. Please he has a gf, I am not dating him. How did I embarrass him? He called me around 2am that day, I didn't pick. Since then his number has been off. He promised m a job, that I the only reason I am still keeping his number.

Now my question is, why would he just see me and judge me so quickly. He obviously sees me as some young woman that is for all the men. This is not the first time I'm experiencing such. It's too much. Many guys want to just have sex without knowing you. I am not a RUNS girl. I don't do heavy makeup or dress or talk indecently. I don't sleep around. I am very hurt that not only this guy but so many other guys are so judgemental of me.

None of them can be plainly friends or help genuinely. They are only interested in my body because I am beautiful. I am very angry. The reason why I am asking this is because, unless a guy tells me what he wants from me point blank, I don't assume anything. Pls don't blame me.

ucsparks:
sorry to say but the truth is just bitter, when you reveal your assets from your clothings, all we wanna do is fVck you and get it over with... TRUTH

deathcomestoall:
you know i was reading another post here and I saw your comment. You are clearly obnoxious in a different and worse way. I am sure you are one of those lowlife, halfbred local Nairaland guys with myopic sense of reasoning. Remember this is my thread, getout. Don't let me make a monkey out of you and don't act like a pure bred bastard ok. Last response Ud ever get from me. Now run along.