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I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 11:54pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
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Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Vinshu(f): 11:54pm On Sep 27, 2016 |
Too long but let me take my time to read since I have secured the FTC Spot. Would modify after reading and summarise for others. Summary:- Alright guys. Here is the summary. He found a first time potential Slut on the street on his usual street time outs. And fell in love with the little girl because she was young and he was her first client. She fell in love first and they have had a wonderful relationship thus far. He changed her life from a drug addicted hoe to a responsible woman. And he felt his days on the streets looking for sluts for a night stand are over. Suddenly she leaves for Lagos to see her father without packing anything along with hope of coming back to him and she never comes back! He is heartbroken. That's the summary. My Opinion:- I feel your pain. what you mentioned you didn't provide full details. When she rejected your offer to take her back, did she give a reason? If she did, can you share? Who knows she may still love you but family stuff you know. I'm a woman and I know women more than you do. If she intended to leave for good, she won't go without her things. She would take all. For her to leave without them means she actually intended to return. The dad talking to you means the dad was involved. Maybe he brainwashed her or told her something or did something that made her stay. If he didn't, he won't talk to you. It's not his concern. I suspect the dad either held her down for one reason she may or may not have told you because you didn't care to ask maybe out of anger. I get it. Try to hear her out and give her time. If she is yours she would come back. And believe me, for a woman to fall in love with you FIRST, and have unprotected sex with you the first time meeting you. it's genuine. That's too much even for a player at that age. The love is real. But I would say "move on"!. Because I can imagine what you would have done at her place when you delivered her things. Whatever you did if out of anger would have spoiled things. So no hope. Unless you stayed cool which I doubt you did. Coz if you're cool, you wont post this yet. 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by finalbosss1(m): 12:03am On Sep 28, 2016 |
poster abv will type smtin stupid,she's ah sadist 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Strahovski1(m): 12:06am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Poster above is right about poster above poster above what was that... Anyway op I feel your pain. I've passed through it before. Take heart, be a man and move on.. Let's see what the sadist above has to say Modified--- For those saying he tried to cage her you are wrong. You guys are looking at it as if he just kidnapped a girl and kept in his house. That is not true. Read the story well. Even the sadist above use the word "potential slut" meaning that she was not yet a Slut. She was about to be and he was her FIRST client. And she loved him FIRST. What else do you want him to do? We dont choose who we love. Our hearts choose themselves. Love is truly blind.What matters is how u change the person to be a good person which he did and I applaud him for that. But about caging her, that is wrong. The girl was unfair to leave him just like that. 20 years old is not a baby that cannot make a choice of her own. If she didn't like his actions she could have told him. And do you expect such a guy like that to leave her to roam free ? Take for example you find a child stealing then u punish the child for stealing and to ensure the child doesn't steal again u give the child anything he wants. Are u not going to still be close to the child to ensure he doesn't steal when u are not there? At least for a while? So that's the case of op and d girl. He kept her with himself so that she won't go back to the old life. Not that he would leave her alone and shout he has a girlfriend meanwhile she is in club. I get his point coz ive passed through it. He just used brute force to change her and what matters is it worked according to him. She changed. So what do u guys mean by cage? Ok he should leave her to be fvcking around yes ? What I see here is the father brainwashed her as Vinshu said above. The father said some thing to her that made her leave. Because if she never plan to return she would have taken her stuff. 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by FrankLampard: 12:06am On Sep 28, 2016 |
I smell BoiledEgg |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by dharay99: 12:10am On Sep 28, 2016 |
I don't read long crap, Neeeeeeeexxxxxxxt... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 12:24am On Sep 28, 2016 |
dharay99: Use a laptop. It's not long. Your phone is too small that's why it appears long. It's not my fault |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 12:25am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Thanks. You are right it's too late. I was so angry I and the dad ended in a fight and I left with anger and heartbreak. So its over. Vinshu: |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Vinshu(f): 12:26am On Sep 28, 2016 |
BoiledHead: I'm sorry |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by tellwisdom: 1:12am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Nicca, u failed me...Rule no1 in a relationship- "Do not love". It's a sin. Give her a good treat and that's it. Don't go beyond, man The only woman permitted to be loved is your mom. She's the only one who will stand by you, no matter the circumstances. Even ur wife will get tired of you someday but your mom?? Mbanu . Don't repeat that mistake again 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Kakamorufu(m): 6:34am On Sep 28, 2016 |
sorry ehn. e dey happen. u shlda not trust d bitch. my babe go do Nysc for north. na I'm she change character since. Buh am still alive acting cool and not brooding over some bitchrs who give zero Bleep about u |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Nobody: 6:51am On Sep 28, 2016 |
the story nor still lemme understand. what's her explanation for leaving and back to her parents house? |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by firstking01(m): 7:34am On Sep 28, 2016 |
An ashawo will still remain an ashawo, e dey their blood. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by ikp120(m): 8:22am On Sep 28, 2016 |
I am glad to hear that she finally found a way out! **Dancing happily on the thread** First of all, you tried to cage her like one of your property, which she was not. Secondly, you feel that your spending on her gives you a right of way; bro remember you changed her life from being a prostitute to a better lady... There are only 2 classes of people that spending on gives you a right of way on: Prostitutes and your wife. Thirdly, you even fought with the dad over her. Na wa o; but I understand though. My advice: First, quit being possessive. When you possess a lady, and she feels trapped, when she sees a way of escape, she will be gone faster than you can blink an eye. Even if you do heaven and earth for her, give her enough liberty. Secondly, do your homework and get her phone and social media contacts. She really loves you, but her dad did a neat job and you were really possessive. Thirdly, send her recharge card without letting her know it is you. Fourthly, call her and talk with her like a friend. Fifthly, schedule a meeting with her and apologise for the way you treated her that pissed her off. Remind her of how she made you a better person. Tell her that you have learnt your lessons. PS: I know you will be like "but I deserve better than that ". Bro you don't deserve nothing because she has a will of her own. She is no longer within your beck and call, therefore if you still want her, you have to switch mood and get her back, else forget about her and move on. GOODLUCK! 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by CAPSLOCKED: 8:33am On Sep 28, 2016 |
MY CONCLUSION BASED ON WHAT YOU JUST NARRATED IS THAT YOU'RE A REALLY F00LISH PERSON. I WONDER WHY YOU DIDN'T INCLUDE THAT IN YOUR ATTRIBUTES. IT SHOULD BE PRESENT EVEN IN YOUR CV. THE WORD "F00LISH" CAME INTO EXISTENCE SPECIALLY BECAUSE OF YOU. JUST LOOK AT THIS...... BoiledHead: UNPROTECTED SEX WITH A PEDDLER? AND EVEN WENT ON TO PLAN MARRIAGE WITHOUT CONFIRMATION OF HER HEALTH STATUS? NOW YOU'RE CRYING FOUL AND CALLING WOMEN ALL SORT OF NAMES, WHEN YOU'RE THE ONE WHO TOOK CHARGE AND CAUSED YOUR OWN MISFORTUNE... BOILEDHEAD, YOU DULL. 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by waywardpikin: 8:36am On Sep 28, 2016 |
BoiledHead, one single brain you no get. You mean to tell me you fell in love with a ho.oker?? You let a 19/20 year old turn you into a vegetable? Moronic i.diot 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Nobody: 8:38am On Sep 28, 2016 |
maybe u did something that she didnt like and she dont know how 2 tell u..
try asking her what the problem is and resolve it 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by mulattoclaro(m): 8:45am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Guys are the cause of their own problems. When will you guys ever realize that once a Hoe is always a Hoe. Why send money on a girl you're not married to? Don't you guys ever learn anything? 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Nobody: 10:09am On Sep 28, 2016 |
tellwisdom:I pray u end up marrying someone worse than you.... EWU |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Nobody: 10:22am On Sep 28, 2016 |
BoiledHead:young man women are not wicked ,there is nothing like a good wife or girlfriend .i think your major problem is that you are an introvert from your write up one can easily deduced that fact.you need to associate not just with people but the right people ,you need to know life is never straight ,you need to come back on your feet and change your lifestyle maybe go to clubs,confrences and just socialize with people. you are not the only one who has an heart that has been broken,, i ,if you go back to your oldways you are not any better than her (the lady who dumped you)infact she will be better than you atleast she isn't going back to her oldways, |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 10:28am On Sep 28, 2016 |
I think you are the fool here... what part of my post did I mention that I didn't confirm her health status? and if I patronise prostitutes it doesn't make me less of a man. so get a life fool CAPSLOCKED: |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 10:33am On Sep 28, 2016 |
You sound just like the father... I tried to cage her? are you for real? A girl who was begging me to take her to my place? If you were in my shoes would u just leave such a girl on her own so she can go back to those things behind your back? A girl that even the grandma ask if I want to marry her. I did not tell her not to go to school. I did not tie her with rope.. everything she did was out of her own free will. oh u wanted me to leave her to be free so that one night she would go to club I won't know? Even her mum was ok with her staying with me.. so what are u saying? A girl with a past like her own needs close supervision. not to be left free like a normal girl until she has proven to change. Evan her friends who were cultists maltreated her.. she used my influence in then police to arrest them.. so I should leave her with cultists to live with? don't b3 an ungrateful person. u sound like one ikp120: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by schumastic(m): 10:49am On Sep 28, 2016 |
this land is for sale, any interested buyer cus this post is hitting fp |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by bamisepeters(m): 11:03am On Sep 28, 2016 |
I don't think she is done with you, there is still more to it. She obviously did not have the intention on leaving you, something transpired that you must know which you did not allow. Please if you love her genuinely let her talk and you do the listening, i can assure you that things will return to normalcy. |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by tellwisdom: 11:04am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Trudiee(f): 11:08am On Sep 28, 2016 |
its really sad.. from all you typed, you showed love.. and made this girl a better person, inwardly and outwardly. but eh, i smell a rat. that girl still loves you. she quit drugs and that life because of you, she asks for forgiveness when she offends you. the first poster could be right. her dad would not have gotten involved if he didnt say something to her. or maybe he didn't say anything. maybe someone else said something. so let me get this straigh.. she just up n left like that? no signs? so sorry |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by sauceEEP(m): 11:30am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Op the babe truly loved you but she was compelled to quit the relationship by her family. But why would you cohabit with someone your not married to for so long? That's wrong, forget the issue of monitoring her which you gave as a reason, its wrong considering her age. The truth of the matter is that her family felt awkward about the cohabitation so they deviced a means to pull her off your grips. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by ikp120(m): 11:30am On Sep 28, 2016 |
BoiledHead: Bro cool down and take a bottle of chilled coke. I really hail you for being generous. You had her all these while because she needed your help and as you posted, her family were not in good terms with her. Now everything has changed, and she can now leave her normal life without depending on you. She now has a choice, which she never really had while she was with you because he that pays the bills pulls the strings. Bro money got her to you, but this time around you have to get her without money, because she doesn't need your money as she did before. You tried but it does not work that way. She was desperate but now she is no longer that way. I have dated a girl like that in school. She had issues with her dad so he quit paying her bills, hence he started dating this guy who had the ability to pay bills. But I asked her out (she said she was single ) and we started dating. Then I dug into her phone and found out that she had a bf at home. I felt bad, but didn't burst out. I stopped calling her. She sensed the distance and confronted me. She told me that she had no one, that the guy I saw in her chat was a guy that was taking good care of her. He bought her an Infinix note phone of 40k+. She said she still loved him. So I advised her to stay with him. While we remained friends. Bro you did well, but you have to know that things have changed. She can make her choice now. |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by lolu20: 11:35am On Sep 28, 2016 |
heartbroken for girl wey u don yansh.stupid |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 11:40am On Sep 28, 2016 |
ikp120: No you are still wrong. This is a girl that clearly told me she never needed my money when I asked her the question. A girl that told me several times how much she wanted her future to revolve around me. A girl that went as far as telling her grandma and mum she has found a soul mate she is happy with and both mum and grandma got to.know.me. what are we talking about? If she never loved me she won't have done all those things. I know she loved me. Anything she did she always sought after my advice on that thing. It's more than what you think. The only major thing I know I bought for her was her phone(50k) and a teddy bear. Nothing more. So how much is that? A girl that sees millionaires even richer than me everyday in club that she goes? Before she finally met me and decided to "huslte"? Why didn't she follow them? Even my friend told me same.thing. I have tested her secretly and she passed my tests. She would even come home to tell me guys that made passes at her with their SUV and Cars. I don't expect you to understand. Even when she told me she won't come back with me she cried as she said it. So your point is baseless. What hurt me most is the fact that she just decided to leave me without warning. Although she begged me she would come back to me but come back when? Only God knows the things she would be doing in that Lagos that may be unholy. I was at peace when she was with me and my eyes on her. Not when she is far that is why I ended it. You talk of her family reuniting.. they did not reunite when she was on the streets? Even the mum appreciated me but the dad did not. The dad that divorce and marry another woman? That one is a dad? He forgot his daught er for years.. then one day he saw her on Facebook. Her pics she posed with me in a flight. He remember he has a daughter. Useless man. When she was a Slut he did not know he had a daughter. Abeg talk truth where truth dey 1 Like |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by BoiledHead(m): 11:43am On Sep 28, 2016 |
Trudiee: She told me before she was going to meet her dad and I know. Coz the dad saw her on Facebook and got interest in her again after abandoning her for 4 years. After he had seen the fruit of my labor. He called her to just visit him. I know. I even gave her money for transport. Only God knows what he told her. Where was he when I was working? When I don work finish.. make his ashawo daughter a human being.. he remember his daughter. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Heartbroken! My Girlfriend Left Me After Everything. How Do I Handle This? by Malayy(m): 1:39pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
I swear, this op no get self value and worth.. if I were you, I would yansh yansh and yansh her, then throw her away.. a hoe is always a hoe.. |
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