The following tips will guide you to make the decision:
1. Do not be unequal yoked.
Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?

If you are in friendship with someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. If you fall in love, what will you do? Definitely, he will not allow himself to your belief and if it does happens, then, you are the victim. Don’t let the relationship progress to a physical point and then hope you can cut it off later.

2. Put on the armor of God daily.
You need all the help you can get in today’s world. Are you spending time with God? Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of live and security? You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God. The greatest mistake you can make when you can’t beat them is joining them.

3. Put obedience over passion
Not everything we do that’s right, feels good. In fact usually the opposite is true. It feels incredibly good to give in to passion. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. Society tells you to give in to the moment. Christ tells you to be obedience to His word.



4. Physical expression must be appropriate.
Physical touch/intimacy should correspond with commitment (e.g. in a prayer meeting, after church practices etc) this doesn’t mean anything goes even if you are engaged. Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need.

5. Limit must be set mutually.
Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. Mutual boundary keeping reflect maturity. In this present era, where all age longs to have phone, one should not call his soul mate or her heart bit. Limit your passions to control your emotions.
6. Examine your personal motives.
What are your motivations? How does it merit your existence? - Power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection? Make out time to think of all these, how it affects you partner and others.

7. Is there too much physical and too little other?
If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. If you can’t stand the person but have a great physical relationship, rethink the relationship. If you don’t, the result will lead either of the partners to serve the other instead of supporting or providing.
8. Less is better.
If one person is uncomfortable with any type of physical expression, may be touching, calling names (darling, honey etc) don’t do it. You should respect and honor each other. Here, no superior yet. Don’t push a friend to do anything that makes him/ her feel uncomfortable.

9. Be guided by love versus lust.
Love is the fruit of the Holy Spirit. From love comes self-control. Operate in love, not lust. Remember that those who love to live will always die without loving, but those who die to love will one day find love before they die.

10. Allow the Holy Spirit to direct and lead you.
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors that don’t concur with righteousness, stop doing them. That you are relationship with someone does not mean you are already married.
-Dr. Linda Mintle, a family Therapist.

FRIENDSHIP

This is a fact that no man or woman can put a question on, to make it look like a Deceptive Context.

“There is this girl you have been chasing for long. Positively and absolutely, you can’t stop thinking about her. She is the most amazing woman in the world, you are certain of it. There has never been another one like her. Her laughter sounds like delicate tinkling of the finest crystal. Her voice sounds like the music of the heavens. The sight of her sets your heart pounding a thousand beats per minute. You know that if you could just get her, you would be happy forever and you would never want anything else ever again. Maybe you are not even certain if you believe in marriage or soul mates or "The one", but maybe you would make an exception to all of that for her. You would do anything for her.”

Yes! This indeed is a thought for the heart that longs for friendship. All he wants at this point is to get her and nothing more. In this case he moves on to planning how he would get her to be his own. Upon all these thoughts, he would never think of any negative thing for and about her, qualities that may be fit their friendship, instead all he wants is her friendship.

In the same way, she is ready to do anything provided she moves to the mountain even when the mountain could not move to the Mohammad. And then she will say: “after all he is intelligent, handsome; in fact all the girls are dying for him.” Anyway, the road to this mountain cannot be denied to be the confusing and hurting, since love and marriage are inseparable.

However, in a nutshell, let us get the fact. You are in friendship with an incredibly good-looking guy. You both feel the attraction building up. What do you do? How do you do it? What exactly will he/she say? Will she accept me? Etc.

Now is not the time to decide! It’s too difficult to think when passion over takes you. You must decide before you go on the friendship, what your limits will be.

TRUE FRIENDSHIP
How can we find true friendship in this often phony, temporary world? Friendship involves recognition or familiarity with another's personality. Friends often share likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits, and passion.

- Recognition
How can we recognize potential friendship? Signs include a mutual desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that, genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendship involves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or negative criticism.

Relationship
True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, he's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that "good friend." Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each others growth.

Trust
Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.

Accountability
True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

EXAMPLES OF REAL FRIENDSHIP
True friendship stories are found throughout the Bible. In Genesis 18:17-33, we read about God sharing His intentions with Abraham. Abraham responds by telling God his thoughts and feelings about the situation. God and Abraham are able to do this because they trust and respect each other.

First Samuel 20 focuses on the friendship of David and Jonathan. These two men truly cared for each other and had great trust and confidence in one another. David was running for his life from Jonathan's father, Saul. Jonathan recognized that David was innocent. Because of the true friendship they shared, David survived Saul's assassination attempts and went on to become one of Israel's greatest kings.

Real and true friendship involves freedom of choice, accountability, truth, and forgiveness. Peter and Jesus give us this example: Peter, afraid for his life after Jesus is led away from the Garden of Gethsemane, denies knowing Jesus (John 18). As He is led away by His accusers, Jesus casts a look toward Peter that says, "I knew you would deny Me, and I forgive you" (John 21).

Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the "packaging." Genuine friendship loves for love's sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt. Genuine friendship, also called "agape" love, comes from the Lord. The Lord Jesus calls us His friends and He laid down His life for us (John 15).

Relationships in real life involve different levels of friendships, and that's okay. But humans are designed by God for lasting relationships. Often our isolationist society offers only vague, empty relationships. God wants us to have friends here on earth. Most of all, He wants us to be friends with Him!

God's Word tells us that a friend sticks closer than a brother, and that in order for one to be a friend, one must show themselves friendly (Proverbs 18:24). The question is: what type of friend do you desire to be?

Proverbs 18:19 in the New Living Translation says: "It's harder to make amends with an offended friend than to capture a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with iron bars." When we've offended a true friend - whether by breaking a trust or by speaking the truth with love - we risk losing that friendship. We must be careful not to break the trust. But when not speaking the truth will cause greater hurt in our friend's life, we must be willing to sacrifice our needs for those of our friend. That is true friendship.

If we sometimes offend a friend without meaning to, God's Word offers a solution. It's called forgiveness. There is no greater example than the love of God for us. It is so great that He gave His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, in order that our friendship with God might be restored. He did that in spite of the fact that we have offended Him deeply. We have disobeyed His commands, turned our backs on Him, and followed our own path. So the question remains: What type of friend do you want to be? True Christian friendship forgives.

Do you need a friend? God wants to be your true friend. Are you longing for companionship? God is always with you (Hebrews 13:5). Who do you know who needs a true friend today? God wants you to befriend others. He calls us to be His hands and feet in a world starving for true friendship.