This guest article from YourTango was written by Acinta Monteverde.

If you or someone you care about is in an abusive relationship, there are ways to break away and stop the cycle of domestic violence. I have personally experienced physical and emotional abuse, and lived through the challenges associated with rebuilding my life as the person i am today.

I am here to say that it is not only possible to survive, but it is possible to thrive with the right support and commitment. With these tips, my hope is that you will feel empowered to love yourself.


1. Acknowledge the existence of abuse.

Victims tend to minimize the abuse. Abuse does not have to be physical. It is frequently emotional and/or psychological. You don’t have to wait for broken bones or a black eye before you consider it abuse. Yelling, name-calling, intimidation and threats are all forms of abuse. If you are forced to have sex without your consent, it is abuse and is sexual assault. Ask yourself: “Are you often walking on eggshells?” Keep in mind that most abusers are charming and apologetic after the abuse; there is a honeymoon period. Then predictably the tension builds followed by an explosion. Many women and men stay trapped in this cycle hoping that this time the abuse will stop.

2. Reach out for help.

Fortunately, there are many organizations (local and national) that specifically have the resources to help you. You are not alone! Your friends and family members are not necessarily the best people to help you. They mean well, but they could still be minimizing the abuse or you could jeopardize their safety by obtaining their help. Seek for help from relevant agencies don’t hind in your shell.

3. Use a safe computer.

When reporting the abuser use a safe computer not accessible to the abuser as computer usage can be monitored quite easily. Yes, you need to take precautions so you can be safe before you leave this relationship.

The time to be most vigilant is when the abuser realizes that you are planning to leave him or her. Have a safety plan in place.

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