Hello dear Nairalanders,
My fiance and I are planning to get married, we just want to do the normal rite, paying my dowry and blessings from our parents. But, the problem is my parents, they insist on doing party, my fiance is a Barber, a professional one, and earns close to 50k a month, we want to rent an apartment, we want to furnish it, we want to live a simple life for now, I've tried confusing my parents for them to change their minds, but all to no avail, my in-laws are very good people, I love them so much, and I also love my fiance...
To cut the story short, my fiance told me that we will celebrate our marriage, but maybe after some few months, I've told them this, but they refuse, I don't know what to do, I'm confused.
Please fellow Nairalanders, married men and women, I need your sincere advice.
Thanks for reading.

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If your dad can bring 80% of the cash, no p

If you and your fiancee don't want a party your parents shouldn't force you guys. It's your wedding not theirs. But if they keep insisting you can discuss with them and reach a conclusion that satisfies both of you.

Since your parents want a party and your fiance doesn't earn much...you guys can give them a simple party that will cost less...it all boils down to planning.

I think they're excited you're getting married, and could assist too.

They want it big.. Hit them with the question of sponsorship. If they can sweep everything off with their own money then you shouldn't hesitate to adhere to their want. they want they best for their daughter i could see that.

Obviously you're a beautiful soul, may you always find peace and fulfilment in all your needs and good wishes.

Kindly don't allow anyone to cajole you into leading a superficial lifestyle. . . . Neither by parents nor anyone else. Live conscientiously by doing whatever you deems right and know is right, irrespective of who get dissatisfied or hurt on the other end. Old age doesn't always equal to wisdom (no insult intended towards your parents).

Why revelling for a matriculation while a convocation should be the rightful occasion to celebrate?

I'm their first daughter @ Royalblack

It's your party you can do what ever you want. Serious talk now , who is going to fund this? There is no point starting life as a married couple in debt. If your parents are funding it then then oblige them not may daughters these days make their parents happy.

that's one thing with Africans
they always want a lavish wedding
as if it's an investment

just make them see good reasons

Try convincing your parent not confusing them.