LorDBolton:


[s]Well I've really learnt sha...

You're the first doc i've ever met who's sounded unintelligent.

She shouldn't have played God? Wow! Guess what? Your kids will show u pepper!

No be curse, ingratitude dey ur blood thus whatever you're doing for ur kids today when you're old they'll tell u point blank that even if u didn't send them to school, feed them, protect them they'll still make it in life.

As for acidosis no prizes for guessing you're not exposed @ all, read up on the term adaption. U can even ask google the relationship between adaptation n survival. [/s]

Acidosis:


OP was simply trying to pass a moral message.

She lost her dad at age 7, how could she have gotten the courage at age 7 to advise her sister?

Somewhere on this thread, she said she sponsored herself through school, maybe Uni (of course, her sister must have helped in her own way).

For her to have come out openly on Nl, I want to believe she never really loved the nature of her sister's job. Perhaps, she never had that courage to talk to her sister. It could also be that she never knew the nature of her sister's job until...

There's more to this issue than mere emotions.

TonyeBarcanista:

If you read my first post on thread(that you first quoted), I spelt it clearly that the OP's family INCLUDING her mother and the HIV Sister failed the Lady. Their acceptance of her vice and appreciation of the proceed of her immorality was a direct endorsement of her action.

Secondly, we need no prophet to know that she was into PROSTITUTION, and she contracted her HIV from it. Else, how could a young lady without legitimate income make such sweet money? (as then was).

As for OP, while I blame her family including all matured siblings (as then was), I may not fault her. This is because, she was a kid during that period and in African families the kids have no say. She did mention that she worked to sponsor her schooling. Calling her hypocrite is absolutely inappropriate but it is your right to form your own opinion.

Masikay:


[b][/b] LADIES. Know your limit.

Lol... So she became a prostitute to help and the thanks she gets is this? And your'e saying if she didn't you all will have still turned out okay... Wow...

So your children will come and tell you that even if you didn't provide food shelter clothing and education, they would have still turned out okay... Crap. Serious crap.

I get the Op is just trying to advice and all... But nah. You don't use someone who worked hard for all of you as an example. Biko. The girl tried. If not for her, they would have been nowhere. Nowhere.

But... This life sha.. You Bleep for them... They will say even if you didn't do it we would have been okay. You don't Bleep for them... Chai!!! Lazy idiot! See how all her younger ones are suffering.

Even if you walk in water they will say Yu no sabi swim... Abg...

TonyeBarcanista:
What kind of question is this? is the sister now a destiny decider? Are they the first to be poor? Let me tell you, no condition is ever permanent. Immorality is no excuse.


Doesn't make sense one bit. As long as I earn legitimately and sponsor my kids, such story that touches the heart won't surface.


I am not aware of any hard work that the HIV sister did for OPs family. All I see is someone that attempted the cheap way out and is now facing the consequence.


Any family that advises one to take to social vices or immorality just to escape survival will live to regret it along with the subject that allowed his/herself to be used.

TonyeBarcanista:
What kind of question is this? is the sister now a destiny decider? Are they the first to be poor? Let me tell you, no condition is ever permanent. Immorality is no excuse.


Doesn't make sense one bit. As long as I earn legitimately and sponsor my kids, such story that touches the heart won't surface.


I am not aware of any hard work that the HIV sister did for OPs family. All I see is someone that attempted the cheap way out and is now facing the consequence.


Any family that advises one to take to social vices or immorality just to escape survival will live to regret it along with the subject that allowed his/herself to be used.

Acidosis:


OP was simply trying to pass a moral message.

She lost her dad at age 7, how could she have gotten the courage at age 7 to advise her sister?

Somewhere on this thread, she said she sponsored herself through school, maybe Uni (of course, her sister must have helped in her own way).

For her to have come out openly on Nl, I want to believe she never really loved the nature of her sister's job. Perhaps, she never had that courage to talk to her sister. It could also be that she never knew the nature of her sister's job until...

There's more to this issue than mere emotions.

TonyeBarcanista:

Excuse me, please how is the story gender based?

Acidosis:


These folks nearly reduced my I.Q. Thanks for the comeback.

They actually believe a sister or brother will "work hard" for 20+ years to SOLELY train the OP and her family.


*Age 7 - Till date (Op is now a Doc) is about a 20 year journey.

TonyeBarcanista:
My brother from Okunland, please don't sweat it. Our brethren here are only trying to be sympathetic with the woman.

Caracta:


LADIES know your limit.

Masikay:


Ewo o!!!! ... No vex biko.

Acidosis:


These folks nearly reduced my I.Q. Thanks for the comeback.

They actually believe a sister or brother will "work hard" for 20+ years to SOLELY train the OP and her family.


*Age 7 - Till date (Op is now a Doc) is about a 20 year journey.

TonyeBarcanista:
Oops, I think the title is in relation to the story. Lol....

Masikay:


OBVIOUSLY. She didn't become a prostitute solely for the purpose of her family. My guy... Is she not a human being too? She shouldn't have cared for herself abi? She should have slept with all those people just to provide for someone who ended up using her as bad example right?

Okay okay. No excuses. She wouldn't go to heaven and tell God that it's because of her pple she did what she did and be allowed to enter heaven. I get that. But doesn't she deserve a little more than being used as an example on nairaland? Yu sef, think am.

Caracta:


Asked the OP to clarify. Title and presentation is just off IMHO. And I still don't get the limits part. May our loyalty not be tested (or how did BRF say it again?)

drbolade:
Well I may be wrong but that is how I feel right now.All I wish and I want is my sister to regain her health back. And don't make it sound as if we were bunch of lazy bone feasting on her hustle. I practically sponsored myself through university, every weekend I traveled from Ife to Ikire for a menial job that pays #1200 to pay my bills.

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

Latty88:


So what is your point now?

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense

Nancy2016:
I think I know what the OP is trying to say. Yes he's grateful for all the sacrifices his sister made in order to take care of the family, but when he sees the sister's current status, he feels she should have also thought about herself. We have people abroad who live in what can be termed as slums, they work all kinds of hours so that they can save money to send to their families back home. Some of them rarely treat themselves because they feel it would take away from their savings.
I remember a story of a Ghanaian who was found dead in the attic of a home. This guy died with thousands of pounds but his lifestyle was that of a pauper. He was building a home in Ghana. Guess who is living in the house he built and living a lavish life, his younger brother.
Going back to the OP's story, his sister should have done what she could but also put herself first from time to time. A wedding isn't important and university students should work part time to take care of their personal needs.

sisisioge:


Checkengine checkengine my battery eventually gave o, not one bit of light left for matches to heaven. I guess I can't save the world after all No vex biko.

drbolade:
Last weekend we Celebrated mumssie in her 4 bedroom bungalow built by our first born to mark her 70th birthday; nice music, good food, nice wine etc. and I look at some years back when things were extremely difficult. I lost my dad when I was in primary 2 age 7yrs, our first born was in his final year in university.

Things were extremely difficult and that was how my sister comes in a dad figure.I can not mentioned all her good deed towards the family but let me just site some instances.

My sister single handedly sponsor our second born wedding, she sponsor our third born through university and on many occasion she used to feed the family. We used to called her mother Theresa.

Unfortunately some years back she was diagnosed of HIV yeah you heard me right and she became the ghost of her former self. Now to the glory of God everybody is doing fine and I keep thinking who knows if my sister did not try to play god probably everybody would have eventually turn out good though things might even be more difficult then. Though we are still one big happy family despite her status but how i wish...

Ladies please don't play God over your siblings do your best not at your own expense