Reason 1. Lack of attention and intimacy:
How long can you go without receiving love and attention before you look somewhere else? Some can go for only days or weeks, and others can go for years. However, in general, women need and desire intimacy, physical touch, and mental and emotional attention.

If you are not receiving this from your husband or boyfriend, it will only be a matter of time and you may seek it from another i.e. a caring guy friend, the attentive guy who feeds your emotional needs at your workplace, or the hot trainer at the gym. Women deprived of attention, compliments, and compassion; usually have emotional affairs. That doesn't mean it won't lead to sex, but initially they crave the attention and compassion that has been absent from their relationship.

Reason 2. Revenge:
Being cheated on is a very difficult act to forgive. For those of you who have been cheated on, you know how awful it feels. You feel deceived, hurt, angry, sad, numb and even violated. It also affects your self-esteem. At the moment, you find out your man cheated, your whole body begins to shake, you begin to sweat, your stomach drops, and you feel nauseated.

Clearly, it negatively affects your relationship, your mood, behavior, and your ability to trust the cheater ever again. When you have been cheated on, some of you may want to get revenge by making them feel the way you felt. This can lead you, to do the cheating next. The biggest truth is that cheating never solves a relationship problem. Communication, assertiveness and increasing passion and romance in your relationship are a much better solution.

Reason 3. Bad sex:
Women need to feel desired and experience REAL orgasms during sex. If women are getting bad sex, not enough sex, non-emotional sex, or "wham-bam-thank-you-mam" sex, you may eventually lose interest in the relationship and look elsewhere for GOOD sex! This creates a temptation to seek sexual or emotional satisfaction elsewhere. In my opinion, it's best to communicate your needs to your man with the hopes that he will step it up a notch. You can do this on your own or with the help of a sex therapist.

Reason 4. Weight loss/plastic surgery:
Male attention increases quickly after a boob job, a butt implant or weight loss, and so does your self-confidence. With all this male attention, your temptation to cheat rises, and it takes more self-control to resist some of those male offers. Once you realize other guys want you, your desire to act on it may have you feeling euphoric. However, be careful, act wisely and make your pros and cons list.

Reason 5. Financial independence:
When you feel financially dependent on your husband or boyfriend, it's more difficult to speak up in arguments or leave the relationship. The fear of being alone and financially unstable keeps you in a one-down position. Now that women make their own money, enjoy working, and are good at it, the need to stay in an unhappy relationship is not necessary. That feeling of power and independence can be like seeing the red carpet laid out for you; all the way to those other fish in the sea.

Reason 6. Low self-esteem:
When you feel insecure about yourself, you have a need to seek validation from others. This can be in the form of sexual, emotional, or intellectual attention. When you don't love or value yourself, you may project that onto the person you are in a relationship with, and believe they don't love or value you. Even if your husband or boyfriend loves you greatly, you still may cheat because you find it hard to accept their unconditional love. I suggest reading one of the many self-help books out there on building your self-esteem, or get some counseling to help improve self-confidence.

Reason 7. Feeling under-appreciated:
When you are in a relationship, you like to please your man. Cooking a romantic dinner, buying sexy lingerie, and listening with your heart, are just a few ways you may show your love and appreciation. So what happens when you don't hear "thank you, please or I love you.” Holidays and birthdays come and you don't receive anything meaningful, nothing at all, not even a verbal acknowledgment. We all have thresholds, and once yours is reached, you may decide to act on a "thank you, please, or I love you" coming from another direction. Let your man know he may lose you if he continues to take you for granted.

Reason 8. Bored:
He doesn't spray on that good smelling cologne anymore, his clothing is wrinkled, stained or way out-of- date. When he comes home from work (assuming he has a job), it's the same old thing; "what's for dinner"? When the weekend comes, he says he's tired and just wants to relax at home, or go out to the same sports bar you go every weekend.

The routine is the same over and over again. You are no longer on the same page. You barely have anything in common. You are feeling emotionally distant from him. You find yourself looking at other prospects and fantasize about being with someone else. You begin to feel excited (something you haven't felt in "forever" just thinking about it.

There are many ways to spice up an old, tired relationship. Boredom is something that can be resolved with a little, or sometimes a moderate amount of effort. It requires both of you introducing new ideas and behaviors, and some spontaneity. Be sure of what you want.


Culled From Palmchat

Nope. You can't blame them

Modified : After reading op; I say why not just move on. Nothing justifies hurting another person. If you can't be blamed for cheating then change your man.

Dimples999:
Nope. You can't blame them

But everyone will be accountable for their actions.

modsRbastard:

But everyone will be accountable for their actions.

Yeah. You're right

Dimples999:
Nope. You can't blame them

Modified : After reading op; I say why not just move on. Nothing justifies hurting another person. If you can't be blamed for cheating then change your man.

How many men can handle breakup?

ibibiofirstlady:
How many men can handle breakup?

A lot more than those who can handle a cheating partner.

To cheat is a waste of time. If you have no respect for the man and you're in the relationship for some personal gain that you can't do without then at least be honest with yourself don't use those excuses up there.

But karma is wicked so don't cry when it's your turn.

Dimples999:


A lot more than those who can handle a cheating partner.

To cheat is a waste of time. If you have no respect for the man and you're in the relationship for some personal gain that you can't do without then at least be honest with yourself don't use those excuses up there.

But karma is wicked so don't cry when it's your turn.

Well said, nothing justifies cheating.. Leaving is way better than hurting that person intentionally.

ibibiofirstlady:
How many men can handle breakup?

I do, I did handle it. Don't know how much more I can take. I don't know why people have to cheat for a breakup. If you're tired of the relationship just simply put it out and go your way. It's hard enough that you have to leave...don't add salt to injury.

Meanwhile... Your comment only affirms that men are more committed and love more in relationship...if not, why would it be so hard to handle a breakup.

ha

Dimples999:


A lot more than those who can handle a cheating partner.

To cheat is a waste of time. If you have no respect for the man and you're in the relationship for some personal gain that you can't do without then at least be honest with yourself don't use those excuses up there.

But karma is wicked so don't cry when it's your turn.

I disagree Dear. That a woman cheats doesn't mean she wants breakup. And some men will never take breakup, they see it as betrayal

modsRbastard:


I do, I did handle it. Don't know how much more I can take. I don't know why people have to cheat for a breakup. If you're tired of the relationship just simply put it out and go your way. It's hard enough that you have to leave...don't add salt to injury.

Meanwhile... Your comment only affirms that men are more committed and love more in relationship...if not, why would it be so hard to handle a breakup.

I don't think you have experienced seeing the girl you love just walk away

Laveda:


Well said, nothing justifies cheating.. Leaving is way better than hurting that person intentionally.

I know right, the things listed in the op should be deal breaks rather than a reason to cheat.

ibibiofirstlady:
I disagree Dear. That a woman cheats doesn't mean she wants breakup. And some men will never take breakup, they see it as betrayal

And cheating is what if leaving is betrayal

There is no valid reason for cheating. Either get out of a relationship or don't commit if you are allergic to commitment. Relationships come with expectations fidelity being one of the main ones. If you are running low in that department go solo.

Dimples999:

And cheating is what if leaving is betrayal

Nobody get caught, nobody get hurt

Raine80:
There is no valid reason for cheating. Either get out of a relationship or don't commit if you are allergic to commitment. Relationships come with expectations fidelity being one of the main ones. If you are running low in that department go solo.

It isn't as easy as you make it sound

ibibiofirstlady:
Nobody get caught, nobody get hurt

Girl you baaadt

I don't have it in me to cheat. I'm too emotional and too lazy to keep up with my lies.

Dimples999:


Girl you baaadt

I don't have it in me to cheat. I'm too emotional and too lazy to keep up with my lies.

Boys think only them deserve variety, you know good can can always turn bad... Baad baad

ibibiofirstlady:
I don't think you have experienced seeing the girl you love just walk away

Been there, different scenerio. It's one of the most traumatic and psychologically depressing moment. Hence why i said it's hard enough that she had to leave but cheating to facilitate the leaving is the salt to injury.

Look...I've loved and I've lost. Dated a beautiful girl who sees through my BS, we stood by each other for 7yrs of a blissful relationship. I was privileged to make her a woman... If you know what that means; but I had to let her go when when I realized I couldn't give her what she wanted at the moment; tho she told me she would wait for me cos I had only graduated at the time; but depression took her over with mounting pressure from her family and friends to marry cos she wasn't getting any younger.

I love her so much but I couldn't bear the thought of bringing a child into this world without a better life than I have. I promised my unborn child they would have it easy when they come so I refuse to rush into that matrimonial life.

Today.... She's married and she calls me once in a while, but she's still very bitter that we part and blames me for it but I don't blame her cos I understand. I keep my emotions from her cos I want her heart be with her husband.

Dimples999:


Girl you baaadt

I don't have it in me to cheat. I'm too emotional and too lazy to keep up with my lies.

I love you already ... Let me help you with the pinshure

Nope.. Why should we blame them. We should throw them a party and give them awards. Nonsense OP advocating for cheats.

There is no excuse under the sun for cheating. If for any reason you are not happy in any relationship, the only solution is to walk. Cheating is for people who are morally bankrupt and with low self esteem.

Stop disgracing the good people of Ibibio land.

Dimples999:

And cheating is what if leaving is betrayal

Disloyal lol I don't know what point she's trying to buttress ooo, what happened to calling a spade a spade

modsRbastard:


Disloyal lol I don't know what point she's trying to buttress ooo, what happened to calling a spade a spade

She's young and pretty and I think she got hurt maybe. But she'll understand one day

modsRbastard:



I love you already ... Let me help you with the pinshure

I'm telling you ain't na body gat tyyyme for that

I got a full time job

modsRbastard:


Been there, different scenerio. It's one of the most traumatic and psychologically depressing moment. Hence why i said it's hard enough that she had to leave but cheating to facilitate the leaving is the salt to injury.

Look...I've loved and I've lost. Dated a beautiful girl who sees through my BS, we stood by each other for 7yrs of a blissful relationship. I was privileged to make her a woman... If you know what that means; but I had to let her go when when I realized I couldn't give her what she wanted at the moment; tho she told me she would wait for me cos I had only graduated at the time; but depression took her over with mounting pressure from her family and friends to marry cos she wasn't getting any younger.

I love her so much but I couldn't bear the thought of bringing a child into this world without a better life than I have. I promised my unborn child they would have it easy when they come so I refuse to rush into that matrimonial life.

Today.... She's married and she calls me once in a while, but she's still very bitter that we part and blames me for it but I don't blame her cos I understand. I keep my emotions from her cos I want her heart be with her husband.

very touching indeed but that is different boo

Dimples999:


She's young and pretty and I think she got hurt maybe. But she'll understand one day

I hope she does sooner, else her glory hole will suffer ehn. Cheating to get back at your man is not an excuse to be HOE .

ibibiofirstlady:
It isn't as easy as you make it sound

It is if you do not allow social rules to dictate your marital status. If not then this is when a couple bitterly unhappy with each other start looking elsewhere. They stay together because its viewed socially acceptable to maintain what's in actual fact a facade of a relationship. Compatability is not viewed as an important aspect when pairing these days and that's the problem.