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Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by FlirtyKaren(f): 8:05am On Nov 25, 2016
Media personality Toke Makinwa has survived a whole lot. At the age of 8, she lost her parents in a house fire.

As an immature teenager, through her twenties, she fell in love with a man who would nearly ruin her life - with a sex tape, side girlfriends. A man that almost drove her to commit suicide by drinking Dettol after he cheated, got babymama pregnant, their wedding crashed and the story blew into a huge international scandal.

Toke Makinwa now has a soon to be released book – On Becoming in which she shared her incredible survival story and it has been an interesting and eye-opening read so far!

Toke says it “is not a tell-all but a must tell. Here are some MUST-READ excerpts.

The Discovery
I got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. “Maje, you can’t keep lying. What is going on?
He walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing, like he is
having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’.
I fall to the ground. My head….
‘What’s she having?’
‘A boy,’ he says.
‘How long have you known?’
‘I’ve always known…. It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says.

The Wedding

“Finally, I thought. He chose me! He has stepped up and he’s finally ready to make us a priority.
It was my wedding day.
I was happy, yet I was waiting for something to happen. Maje had disappointed me three times before. We would pick a date to go to the wedding registry and he would call it off…. We had discussed eloping, but he’d never committed to any plan.
It wasn’t until we shared our first dance to John Legend’s ‘All of Me’ that I finally believed that it had happened.
We got back together (after a quarrel because Maje took ‘an ex’ to a party he bluntly told Toke he wasn’t taking her to and he and the ex were ‘touching freely and kissing’)…
Maje invited me to Abuja…. As I was putting away my things I saw all kinds of feminine items – earrings on the dresser, sanitary pads in the drawer….”

The Other Woman

“Who was that girl?” I asked
“That’s that girl”
“Which girl?”
“The girl I told you about. Her friends are always calling me to say she really likes me and has a crush on me. Her name is Anita.”
“So that’s the Anita girl they say you are dating.”
“I’m not dating her. How can I date someone that is always saying ‘can I come and see you? I’ll bring my friend that you think is cute’?”
I accepted Maje’s explanation and concluded that Anita was not important. So I’ll be with Maje and she’d call and I’d tell him, “The girl that has a crush on you is calling.” And it would be nothing.

The Sex Tape and Bleaching

“At some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex. This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I thought, and so I obliged.
But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want the tape to get into the wrong hands….
I dragged the file back to his desktop, and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was not me…. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita.
Watching that video, all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing back.
I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”

Breakups and Makeups

Months passed and I still couldn’t find a job (in London). And I was still heartbroken. Maje and Anita were officially an item, and I stalked them on Facebook. Maje would put her picture up and they would write on each other’s walls.
…one cold night as I got off the bus, I got a Facebook message from Maje. It read: ‘I miss you and I cannot deny or hide it, come back to me’.
We started talking again… I convinced myself that he had changed.
Maje and I had been together for nine years, on and off, at this point, and it had been an unending cycle of hurt and betrayal. Every time we took ten steps forward in our relationship, we took fifty back. Each time I gave up and let go, Maje would come after me and hold on so tightly till I gave in.

Another child

… there was a 70-day fasting and prayer programme at my church. I joined in: I was praying for Maje and I. On the final day, I prayed and asked God to reveal why Maje and I couldn’t find peace with each other.
…I opened my email address and typed Maje’s email address in. I had no idea what his password was but I was determined to get into his account…. I went through email after email until I found pictures of a boy that looked exactly like Maje….

Contemplating Suicide

I was sitting in the bedroom one day. There was a bottle of Dettol in the bathroom and a thought came, very strong, “Just drink it and die. What’s the point? The whole world is laughing at you right now. Just end it.”
Faith
The devil finds a way to fill your head with lies when you have just gone through a period. These lies can make you question everything, including the very purpose of your existence. Lies like:
‘You’re not good enough’
‘This is the best thing that could have happened to you and now it’s falling apart’
‘This will end you’
When this lies came, God’s word provided a much-needed comfort and a reminder of my identity and His plans for me.

Moving on and Healing

Maje hadn’t made it easy for me to move on. He’d begged like his life depended on me staying….
And then there were the outrageous comments:
‘Maje spent X amount of time with Anita so she wasn’t the mistress, Toke was’
‘She didn’t break your home, you did. You came between two people who loved each other by marrying him’.

…. That day’s topic was about making marriage work, and it hit me so hard that I cried like a baby. I wasn’t a virtuous woman; I was a girl! A girl with a daddy-void so large that she had all of her issues and expectations on a man who was still trying to discover his purpose.

All my mistakes became clear to me. I hadn’t lost my marriage to another woman. I had given my marriage to her.

While I’m not sure if I’ll find love again, I am sure of the contentment I have found in a God who’s got my back 100%.

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/11/toke-makinwa-maje-ayida-tell-all-book.html

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Nobody: 8:07am On Nov 25, 2016
Can this lady just move on and leave that man alone... the pity party has to come to an end

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Tallesty1(m): 8:08am On Nov 25, 2016
So what do you want us to do?




And how can you be so unfortunate in life?

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by DIKEnaWAR: 8:12am On Nov 25, 2016
I hope she shares the proceeds of this book with the said Maje. ..and Anita!

If I were them and she doesn't share , then I am suing!


I guess you came between two people that love themselves. A man holds the woman he loves as a standard for other ladies. If Anita were the standard Maje held for you, then you were the impostor in that union.

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Mologi(m): 8:13am On Nov 25, 2016
Move on...cry cry baby.....
Your ex is doing something meaningful with his life...


You have said enough sh*it...

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by FlirtyKaren(f): 8:14am On Nov 25, 2016
lalasticlala

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by skarlett(f): 8:16am On Nov 25, 2016
undecided undecided

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by MackBrooklyn: 8:50am On Nov 25, 2016
We don't _fucking care. Her life, her business!!! angry

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by EMMYLBANKS(m): 9:00am On Nov 25, 2016
aunty thank God you survive, time to learn how to move on

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Mrokonjie: 10:08am On Nov 25, 2016
I don't believe her

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by KingOvoramwen1(m): 10:09am On Nov 25, 2016
angry

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by odinese(m): 10:10am On Nov 25, 2016
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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Tega5t: 10:10am On Nov 25, 2016
Stories

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by baski92(m): 10:11am On Nov 25, 2016
Lol story that touches the heart, but she survived it

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Harryq: 10:12am On Nov 25, 2016
Ok

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Nukualofa: 10:13am On Nov 25, 2016
Ndi ofe and marriage palaver ehn

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by GudluckIBB(m): 10:13am On Nov 25, 2016
There are 3 sides to a story

your side
His Side

...........................And the truth

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by NIJJAking(m): 10:15am On Nov 25, 2016
I discovered something terrible with my neighbor. He was very sick and called a witch doctor to come to treat him at his house. The witch doctor said his case was critical and that he cannot be cured, but the sickness can be transferred to another person. My neighbor accepted. The witch doctor worked on him, and told him, as I am leaving, if anyone opens the door you must say 'tchaa'. And this person will die in your place. The witch doctor left, and my neighbor was waiting for the first unlucky person so as to say 'tchaa', and transfer his sickness to the person and be cured. But the witch doctor discovered that he didn't collect any money from my neighbor for his treatment, so he decided to take the risk to go back to my neighbor and ask. As soon as he opened the door, my neighbor said 'tchaa', the witch doctor said 'retchaa', my neighbor then said 'reretchaa', the witch doctor said 'rereretchaa'. As I am telling you now, the whole quarters are there watching how the two are in 'rererererereretchaa'. . Good afternoon and have a great day

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by jeeqaa7(m): 10:17am On Nov 25, 2016
mbati mbati women just full NL this morning with disgusting stories

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by othenok(f): 10:17am On Nov 25, 2016
Poor Toke! I'm glad she has finally found herself. I sincerely pray she learns from her mistakes and understand that no human being can ever be her source of happiness.

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Ginaz(f): 10:17am On Nov 25, 2016
I pray God gives her strength to move on, I'm starting to like this woman. You won't know the hurts she has been through. Her eyes tells if you look closely. God be with you makiwa.

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Nobody: 10:18am On Nov 25, 2016
That is the mistake most people make. Never put up with a serial cheater in a relationship. A guy that can boldly flaunt his new girl in your face after y'all break up is a baby and undeserving of your attention and time.

Also... Why should any sane person do a sex tape? If he even has an iota of respect for you, he wouldn't ask for a sex tape. And you agreeing just proves how dumb you are. You cannot lose yourself, morals and values just to please a total jerk. Na wa for two of Una!

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by seXytOhbAd(m): 10:19am On Nov 25, 2016
This story is so shitty. So she's trying to tell us that she lightened herself just to compete with that woman And she's blaming it on him

Women, please wake up. If you cannot keep a man, resort to juju lmao

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by wildchild1: 10:20am On Nov 25, 2016
Everyone is saying she should move on, just like that? Yeaa I know it's up to a year or two now but do you guys know what it means to have been with a man for 9-11years? It's not going to be that easy

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Angelinastto(f): 10:20am On Nov 25, 2016
Hmm. I dunno how true this is but if everything up there is the truth then i think you are giving him too much attention and sort of making it obvious you can't move on. Why do you have to do a writeup for him? Yo just succeeded in making him more famous. Alotta people will think you are just pathetic Toke.

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by AyamConfidence(m): 10:21am On Nov 25, 2016
As in I don't get it now...how this one take concern us I mean what manner of fuckery is this

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by passionate88: 10:22am On Nov 25, 2016
afonja
Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by ItsawrapOutfit: 10:22am On Nov 25, 2016
Forgive, try to forget and move on

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Re: Toke Makinwa Reveals How Ex-husband Maje Ayida Almost Ruined Her Life by Nobody: 10:23am On Nov 25, 2016
She really went tru hell,may God save us from these types of husbands

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