chaircover:

Femi How now.

You are right; being a good husband is not just about paying for all the bills and that is one thing a lot of women forget to check out before saying I do.

How does he treat you when you are ill, how does he treat the people around you, your family, and even you?

Is he a man of integrity, how is the so called money used to pay the 100% bills made in the first instance? (some people build mansions with ill gotten gains and expect to live there in peace with their family) Is he sensitive to your emotional needs, is he a good listener, is he dependable etc and so many other qualities that makes a man a real man.

Money is much easier to make than to change a lousy husband.

Nethacker don't mind Femi. He is a naughty boy LOL

Femi are you sure you are already taken? I have nice women looking for good husbands o! - They seem to be in short supply at the moment

Nwamama1:

An advice to my fellow girls,NEVER on this earth depend only on your husband to take the family responsibilities alone cos later later you will bear the consequences and bear the burden and suffering alone

love you all

bawomolo:

ships noble prize to chaircover.

ftmom:

Teminio


Did you ever consider that contributions to the household by either husband or wife are not only meaningful when they are monetary?

Has it ever occured to you that some households can live a good life on a single salary so that the glorified "housemaid" can concentrate more on the kids?

Don't know your situation but sure hope a time of enlightenment will come when you realise how ignorant you sounded.

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I'm not working right now so my hubby is 100% responsible but if I had an income, sure I would contribute.

In some dual income households, one person pays all the bills and the other income income goes towards savings/investments/wealth accumulation so if a woman is not paying bills it does not necessarily mean she's spending her money on designer bags.

Ultimately, what is important is what the couple has decided between them.

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I second that angry face

Wow! Didn't know you could be this romantic. I'm

LOL i call it practical. Like someone said, what happens if he dies or some emergency comes up?

ftmom:

So what is stopping you from having an income?
If you have little kids that you are taking care of and making sure homefront is all good and well, then, you are already contributing, cos if yo have to hire someone to do all that, it wont be cheap.
However, if you are just home watching soap opera and your husband is wishing that you are get a job, and yet you dont wanna get a job, cos a single income could do the job, then, you are just plain lazy and shd get off your lazy boy couch and do something to contribute into the upkeep of the home.

The topic clearly said "bills" so it's about raw cash, you'll note in my statement that I already said contributions need not be monetary.

Not sure where all the your husband wishing u could get a job and you don't want to came from Are we on the same topic or Sir, are you confusing me with someone else?

As for watching soap operas, nah, sleeping all day is much better

Seriously, couples decide what works for them, calling someone a glorified housemaid is just rude and ignorant, apologies to those who agree with that ignorance.

bandely:

@Poster, spend her money on clothes and bags right?

Silly Girl/Colleague

chika98:

Everyone should know their place when it comes to bills. A man may pay all the bills and still treat you like crap! Paying the bills doesn't make a good husband. There are other things that are of extremely importance than paying all the bills. A woman should be able to help out and not spend on her money on clothes unless otherwise specified by the spouse.

Fhemmmy:

Well said, but a man shd not cos he is paying all the bills treats the woman like crap, that aint nice.

chika98:

Yup. . some men treat their woman like that because they feel they've given her everything she wanted. There isn't any need to sit and talk or even show any affection. Notice I said "some".

hammer07:

why do some women think or talk like this? things are different now, the cost of rent,vehicle maintenance,school fees,feeding,clothing etc has gone through the roof yet one woman will say she wants to be buying shoes and bags? :othats just pure selfishness >:( some women are subtle about it but they still do the same thing, y'all can't imagine how hurt a man feels when your partner tells you how she wants to buy this lace and send this amount to her friend and follow her friends to dubai, knowing fully well the pressing financial needs of the family? are they insensitive or just plain nuts?(talking from personal experience!)

Fhemmmy:

So is their income . . . .so that is no arguement.

chika98:

Everyone should know their place when it comes to bills. A man may pay all the bills and still treat you like crap! Paying the bills doesn't make a good husband. There are other things that are of extremely importance than paying all the bills. A woman should be able to help out and not spend on her money on clothes unless otherwise specified by the spouse.

Fhemmmy:

I think there is a need to learn so much about marriage.
Chaircover, i don miss you on this family section oh, so stay around i beg.
I am too busy with biz that women wont find me attractive . . . . .
I know me and me know me as well , if you know what i mean.

!amebo no1:

my dear we are talking about men here and not boys

Sbeauty:

The man should be 100% responsible for the bills. God created Women to be helpers not the head of the family.

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Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills?
« #78 on: Yesterday at 11:38:34 AM »

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a woman who is not ready to contribute in the marriage is not fit to marry,

gone are those days when a man take full responsibility, now its 50/50 or 60/40,

if a woman earns far more, she should oblige in taking more of the responsibilitties, women want equality in everything, but when it comes to responsibilities they will find excuse,

if the woman i want to marry is not ready to comtribute, she is on her own,

she must show signs of ability to take responsibility during relationship, if not, OYO, , Maga no they pay again,



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Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills?
« #78 on: Yesterday at 11:38:34 AM »

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a woman who is not ready to contribute in the marriage is not fit to marry,

gone are those days when a man take full responsibility, now its 50/50 or 60/40,

if a woman earns far more, she should oblige in taking more of the responsibilitties, women want equality in everything, but when it comes to responsibilities they will find excuse,

if the woman i want to marry is not ready to comtribute, she is on her own,

she must show signs of ability to take responsibility during relationship, if not, OYO, , Maga no they pay again,



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Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills?
« #78 on: Yesterday at 11:38:34 AM »

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a woman who is not ready to contribute in the marriage is not fit to marry,

gone are those days when a man take full responsibility, now its 50/50 or 60/40,

if a woman earns far more, she should oblige in taking more of the responsibilitties, women want equality in everything, but when it comes to responsibilities they will find excuse,

if the woman i want to marry is not ready to comtribute, she is on her own,

she must show signs of ability to take responsibility during relationship, if not, OYO, , Maga no they pay again,

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