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| Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by topeorekoy(m): 11:22am On Nov 10, 2009 |
i had this discussion with a female colleague of mine and i am kind of amazed by what she said and just decided to throw it to the house. my claim is that a man is the head of the family and shld be responsible for the upkeep of the home but its the woman's responsibility too. she said a woman is just an helper to the man in raising the kids but i totally disagreed with her because both the man and the woman brought the children into the world and shld both cater for them but the man shld cater more because he is the head of the family. she said a woman will cater for the home based on her on personal decision. i then asked her a million $ question, what will a woman do with her earned cash? she said she'll use it to buy clothes and shoes. also asked her that in an event that am not around and the kids need some stuffs, Her repsonse- i'll pay and collect back the cash from u. in the olden days, men r solely responsible for the upkeep of the house but the do not see the woman as just a mate rather that a partner and a soul mate. really, whats ur take on this? |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by jaybee3(m): 11:27am On Nov 10, 2009 |
This is what i simply don't get. Why do women want us to treat them like our property? Their should be equality and understanding between couples and no set rule for who does what. If the man can afford it then let him fire on but if not the wife should help out and def not expect a refund. money money money, what happens when we all die? the money acquired, shoes and all the worthless things that can be procured on earth def ain't going to be buried so why make it so important? 1 Like |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by whitelexi(m): 11:33am On Nov 10, 2009 |
^^^Needfully so @Poster: Needless to say, women want equality in everything but not responsibilities, naija babes just wanna have fun  Needfully |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by topeorekoy(m): 11:38am On Nov 10, 2009 |
i just told her point blank that i cant marry some1 like her. the man shld cater for the house but a woman shld knw it is also her responsibility rather than see it as an assistance. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by galatico(m): 11:45am On Nov 10, 2009 |
hundred percent respobility should not be layed on the man, cuz in the event of death the woman would suffer, so it's better for the woman too to have something to do, incase the unexpected happens . |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by AYOANU: 12:51pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
The man should not be 100% responsible for the bills, so far the woman is also working she can equally buy somethings in the house without asking the husband. Am married with children and i ask my husband for things that are beyond me, i am working and i use my money to pay some bills without asking my husband, well i guess that some women are too greedy because they believe that the man is the head of the house, all they know is build up money like coco house. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Pharoh: 1:03pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
If both of them are working then the woman should assist the husband without hoping for a refund. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Nobody: 1:30pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
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| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Nobody: 2:41pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Sorry but your friend is one of those bush girls.  what does she mean by refunds? HOWEVER, I don't see how you can call yourself the head when you are trying to drag who pays the bills with the wife. Sorry that's just the sacrifice you have to make. Being a man does not automatically make you the head. It's more about living up to your responsibilities.  |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Pharoh: 2:51pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
stillwater: Should being the head of a family go down to that level? I mean Responsibility[size=1pt] I thought it was a no go area for the ladies[/size] |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Ofcourse not I will help out as much as possible but he knowing I work a 9-5 job shouldnt let me run around like a headless chicken and should help out with house chores and cooking. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by MissyB1(m): 3:33pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
T's a man's responsibilty to be the breadwinner. A woman has her responsibilties too. T's totally up to her to make the decision whether to assist financially or not. The man is the HEAD . . . . .She is a Helper and ought to help VOLUNTARILY. Such a discussion wouldn't come up if they share a Joint Account.  |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by scottN(m): 3:36pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
She should just carry out a survey on how many eligible bachelors support this notion of hers.In fact any man will distance himself from such women not because he can't cater for the family at that moment but imagine what will she do about the family if the man loses his job or is no more.Actually recent statistics showed that after the recent recession more men lost their jobs than women (TIME Magazine).Your friend better wake up 2 d New World Order. Gone are the days of our forefathers and even our parents. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Secretz(f): 3:38pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Missy B: lol |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Godmother(f): 3:39pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
To me its a thing of agreement. A man is supposed to be responsible for the family upkeep, but the woman can assist. There are some clear-cut roles that men and women have in a marriage, like doing the household chores and cooking which is clearly the woman's duties. You wont catch most men going near a kitchen filled with dirty dishes even witha very pregnant wife. It has to do with understanding 1 Like |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by jaybee3(m): 3:46pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Missy B: |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by scottN(m): 3:58pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Missy B:If u like choose not to assist financially or otherwise, only u will bear the consequences when the chips are down 1 Like |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by MissyB1(m): 4:10pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
J.B - The basic thing is; both parties have to identify their responsibilities. When one begins to shy away from his/her duties, Disrespect and trouble set in. When a man know when to bring out money and the woman knows how to treat him right, there wouldn't be any problem as long as no one is being taken advantage of. scottN:Mr, let me worry about that. . . .after all I haven't said I'D assist or not. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by scottN(m): 4:13pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Missy B:Well Madam, the earlier u take a stand on/realize it, the better for you. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Nobody: 4:13pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
*observing* Wont want anybody calling me a gold-digger  |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by MissyB1(m): 4:21pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
scottN: Missy B:Saying - Deciding . . . . .2 different actions. I haven't said doesn't mean I haven't decided.  |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by martin1(m): 4:24pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
it doesn't matter "who." . .if u have"spend." |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Epiphany(m): 4:25pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
These days, it is becoming increasingly difficult (in most parts of the world) for a man to foot all the bills of a home alone. That is why women are increasingly being encouraged to work or do something that brings in some form of income - No matter how little. This in all ways augments the earning power of the home. Una wan kill the man? He will pay all utility bills, fees for kids, vacations, maintain the cars etc. Yes, it is possible for the man to do all these. IF HE IS MEGA RICH. However, if he is a salary earner like millions there is no way he can foot all the bills 2 Likes |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by r231(m): 4:35pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
Ujujoan: hmmmmmm |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by iice(f): 5:37pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
No he must not be 100% responsible. It's both their duty. Whoever has more capacity and capability to take more, should take more regardless of gender. Shopping for clothes and stuff? Are you kidding me? What about the kids? Or saving up for a rainy day? Like surprise him with something nice and thoughtful? This is where the whole 'women empowerment' thing cracks. You want to be taken seriously as an independent person but yet want no responsibility for that independence  2 Likes |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by DrLorenz1(m): 6:32pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
@OP U did well to have told her what you think about her. Ebonyeyes: Hmmnn i go fit marry you so sugarpops? Godmother: Ujujoan: Now i aint saying you a gold digger/but you aint messing with no broke bro iice: ^^^ I second that angry face iice: Wow! Didn't know you could be this romantic. I'm  |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by yeswecan(m): 8:00pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
yes |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by REALTRUTH1: 11:50pm On Nov 10, 2009 |
I can't and I would never marry a woman who does not have a earning capacity to contribute to the home.Likewise, I will never advice any man to do so. The ony condition U should marry a woman who does not have earning capacity is when U as a man have all the money in the world. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Fhemmmy: 12:03am On Nov 11, 2009 |
If the man can afford it, then, there is nothing wrong with the man taking care of all the bills, however, if they both works, and both make money, there is nothing wrong in both taking care of the bills, better for the man to take care of the big bills, like the mortgage, and the bigger ones and the woman take care of small bills like the telephone bills. However, the money belongs to the family. I will suggest the man just leave the money in the account where the wife can access it and take care of the bills with, except if the woman is not prudent enuf and he is a waster. But i will advice the man to make sure he has some money somewhere just for the raining season. |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by Ijam03(m): 12:16am On Nov 11, 2009 |
As long as the man's the head of the family, he shld by all means see 2 the needs of the family nt minding if the wife earns a fortune. Any man who shares payment of bills with his wife is nt worthy of manhood. The wife isnt obligated to pay 4 anytin as lng as the man live. She cn only help. 1 Like |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by bawomolo(m): 12:23am On Nov 11, 2009 |
why is she spending her money on shoes and clothes. has she heard of savings? what happens if your husband loses his job or dies? |
| Re: Must The Husband Be 100% Responsible For The Family Bills? by lorebobo(f): 12:33am On Nov 11, 2009 |
no. a man should not be 100% responsible for the family bills. the woman should help out. as the woman is helping the man with his responsibilities, the man should help the woman too in her responsibilities. scratch my back, i scratch your back. |
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