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Am I Wrong? by Glassdoll(f): 8:39pm On Dec 08, 2016
I just got into a relationship, about a month (or so) with a guy who is not close to me. You could call it a long distance relationship.

Before this guy, my exs had just one problem with me; they said I lacked emotion. Not that I didn't love them, but that I had a tough way of showing it, so I decided to soften up with this new guy. I do all I can to show him I am always there, yes I may not have all that (for constant international calls) but I try to reach out at all times through Whatsapp and sometimes, Videocalls.

Here's the problem. I feel he is taking my constant show of care for granted. I text him and he takes time to reply, most time he says he's busy, other times he would say he was distracted or that his phone was not with him. Almost as if I throw myself out there or reach out to hold him and he stands and stares from a distance.

Sometimes he is hot, he acts all loving and says the nicest things.

Sometimes he is cold, he acts withdrawn, almost as if he was forced into the relationship.

Now I don't want that. I love him, yes, but most times I feel he just likes me. As if he's forcing himself to be with me.

He said I should try to "uncomplicate" him but it's not easy and part of me wants to give up on him and tell him to go to hell. I mean, I have my own personal life to figure out.

I am tired of the silence and cold shoulder.....and sudden switch to warmth and love.

Please, am I wrong? Am I doing something out of place?
Re: Am I Wrong? by herzern(m): 8:40pm On Dec 08, 2016
*Couqhs..
Re: Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 8:42pm On Dec 08, 2016
The person below the person below the person below me is an oponu omo.

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Re: Am I Wrong? by TrapHedges(m): 8:42pm On Dec 08, 2016
herzern:


Bruh you ignored my mention earlier, lol how u doing
Re: Am I Wrong? by yomi007k(m): 8:44pm On Dec 08, 2016
Babe....if u wud tell ur bf to go to hell from d bottom of ur heart den ......im scared.


Didnt u guys form a friendship part?


because I notice ppl just date ds days n dey aint friends no more.....


I dnt knw

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Re: Am I Wrong? by Borbrisky: 8:44pm On Dec 08, 2016
Leave him alone and go allow other guys in. This life is too sweet to hold on to a man.

Oshey baddest

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Re: Am I Wrong? by Glassdoll(f): 8:46pm On Dec 08, 2016
yomi007k:
Babe....if u wud tell ur bf to go to hell from d bottom of ur heart den ......im scared.


Didnt u guys form a friendship part?


because I notice ppl just date ds days n dey aint friends no more.....


I dnt knw
I didn't, please read well.
Re: Am I Wrong? by yomi007k(m): 8:46pm On Dec 08, 2016
grin



Shout out to bobrisky and aniker....



Have a wonderful evening lovely people.
Re: Am I Wrong? by yomi007k(m): 8:47pm On Dec 08, 2016
Glassdoll:
I didn't, please read well.

Well .....being friends wud help



U guys need to take it slow n get to know each other.
Re: Am I Wrong? by herzern(m): 8:48pm On Dec 08, 2016
TrapHedges:


Bruh you ignored my mention earlier, lol how u doing

TBH bruh..

I replied it,You just have to believe me,I went to search the thread now,I quess it's been hidden.

Bruh...My post on that thread has no hidden feelinqs.

I'm sorry if yhu find it offensive tho.


Dork!!!! grin
Re: Am I Wrong? by TrapHedges(m): 8:50pm On Dec 08, 2016
herzern:


TBH bruh..

I replied it,You just have to believe me,I went to search the thread now,I quess it's been hidden.

Bruh...My post on that thread has no hidden feelinqs.

I'm sorry if yhu find it offensive tho.


Dork!!!! grin



Hahahaha no sweater bro, was just kidding yu know, wats gud
Re: Am I Wrong? by herzern(m): 8:57pm On Dec 08, 2016
TrapHedges:


Hahahaha no sweater bro, was just kidding yu know, wats gud

I'm cool FAM.

Hustlinq hard.The economic condition is really unfriendly.

How about your end??
Re: Am I Wrong? by TrapHedges(m): 8:59pm On Dec 08, 2016
herzern:


I'm cool FAM.

Hustlinq hard.The economic condition is really unfriendly.

How about your end??



same here fam, government done left us glued to hustle Lol, bless up brah!
Re: Am I Wrong? by Lisaflex(f): 9:02pm On Dec 08, 2016
Op, if u r tryn ds hard ryt nw (dating phase) n he isn't atleast meeting u half way cos he's busy(as he claims) , wot do u fnk will happen if u guys end up married? (more responsibilities=more busy = probably speak 2 u once or twice in a week) Cn u live lyk dt?....If it doesn't feel ryt, it isn't ryt....I fnk u shld step bk 4 a bit, see if he steps up or nah,reassess fnz n decide wot u wnt

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Re: Am I Wrong? by herzern(m): 9:07pm On Dec 08, 2016
TrapHedges:


same here fam, government done left us glued to hustle Lol, bless up brah!


LOL.

I heard there will be some sort of an election in PH dheez weekend.

Are you votinq?.
Re: Am I Wrong? by jelil01: 9:16pm On Dec 08, 2016
Madam, distance relationship is poo.


________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________


Get a guy close to u, show him same or better love.....

And enjoy

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Re: Am I Wrong? by Aniker(f): 9:17pm On Dec 08, 2016
yomi007k:
grin



Shout out to bobrisky and aniker....



Have a wonderful evening lovely people.
Really? Watcha mean??
Re: Am I Wrong? by yomi007k(m): 9:18pm On Dec 08, 2016
Aniker:
Really? Watcha mean??


I saw u guys viewing ds thread....

So I decided to shout out.
Re: Am I Wrong? by Glassdoll(f): 9:24pm On Dec 08, 2016
Lisaflex:
Op, if u r tryn ds hard ryt nw (dating phase) n he isn't atleast meeting u half way cos he's busy(as he claims) , wot do u fnk will happen if u guys end up married? (more responsibilities=more busy = probably speak 2 u once or twice in a week) Cn u live lyk dt?....If it doesn't feel ryt, it isn't ryt....I fnk u shld step bk 4 a bit, see if he steps up or nah,reassess fnz n decide wot u wnt
yomi007k:


Well .....being friends wud help



U guys need to take it slow n get to know each other.
But I don't want to lose him sad

That's my fear.

What if I let go and he doesn't reach out?

What if he lets go too?
Re: Am I Wrong? by Aniker(f): 9:24pm On Dec 08, 2016
yomi007k:



I saw u guys viewing ds thread....

So I decided to shout out.
Okay..
Re: Am I Wrong? by yomi007k(m): 9:31pm On Dec 08, 2016
Glassdoll:
But I don't want to lose him sad

That's my fear.

What if I let go and he doesn't reach out?

What if he lets go too?

Ok...im jus saying spend more time getting to know him . Wen he is busy. Wen he likes to hang out...


I personally get busy n during dt period I dnt wana be disturbed. If bae calls den, I may not picko or call back till hours later.

But during d time I scheduled for her, its all lovey- dovey...


So u see im somewat like ur bf....

My babe has given me some space n I bounced right back...



If he truly loves u, he wont leave u..


I can bet on dt.
Re: Am I Wrong? by samuelson06(m): 9:39pm On Dec 08, 2016
I don't support long distance relationships.
Re: Am I Wrong? by Yuneehk(f): 9:46pm On Dec 08, 2016
You wrote that he acts like he was forced into the relationship. If I may ask, who asked who out

This is going to be hard but how about you try not calling him/reaching out on social media and see if he tries to reach out. You can NEVER be too busy for the one you love. If he doesn't call/text after a while, something's wrong.

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Re: Am I Wrong? by Lisaflex(f): 9:54pm On Dec 08, 2016
Glassdoll:
But I don't want to lose him sad

That's my fear.

What if I let go and he doesn't reach out?

What if he lets go too?


I knw it cn be hard 2 walk away 4rm a r/ship u had such high hopes 4,bt its better nw dan a messy divorce l8r...If he doesn't reach out,he doesn't want 2 be wt u(Ur suspicion is confirmed n no need 2 walk on egg shells anymore) ,n i assure u,being wt sm1 who doesn't lv/want u is d hardest fn(it never ends well)...Wt tym, u'll feel unappreciated,den resentful n finally hatred 4 dt person...D ball is in ur court

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Re: Am I Wrong? by Glassdoll(f): 10:06pm On Dec 08, 2016
Yuneehk:
You wrote that he acts like he was forced into the relationship. If I may ask, who asked who out
This is going to be hard but how about you try not calling him/reaching out on social media and see if he tries to reach out. You can NEVER be too busy for the one you love. If he doesn't call/text after a while, something's wrong.
yomi007k:

Ok...im jus saying spend more time getting to know him . Wen he is busy. Wen he likes to hang out...
I personally get busy n during dt period I dnt wana be disturbed. If bae calls den, I may not picko or call back till hours later.
But during d time I scheduled for her, its all lovey- dovey...
So u see im somewat like ur bf....
My babe has given me some space n I bounced right back...
If he truly loves u, he wont leave u..
I can bet on dt.
Lisaflex:



I knw it cn be hard 2 walk away 4rm a r/ship u had such high hopes 4,bt its better nw dan a messy divorce l8r...If he doesn't reach out,he doesn't want 2 be wt u(Ur suspicion is confirmed n no need 2 walk on egg shells anymore) ,n i assure u,being wt sm1 who doesn't lv/want u is d hardest fn(it never ends well)...Wt tym, u'll feel unappreciated,den resentful n finally hatred 4 dt person...D ball is in ur court
Thanks guys.

Let's see how this works out sad
Re: Am I Wrong? by TrapHedges(m): 10:09pm On Dec 08, 2016
herzern:



LOL.

I heard there will be some sort of an election in PH dheez weekend.

Are you votinq?.



Lols vote what? Over my dead body bro, I wont my vote won't even count
Re: Am I Wrong? by Tajbol4splend(m): 10:25pm On Dec 08, 2016
Excuse me OP, you said "I love him", in one month and that has started happening even though you dont regularly see each other, is it that you had had a crush on him b4 he came to you, I don't understand how love could have developed that much, sorry if I've been sorta outta line.
Re: Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 10:28pm On Dec 08, 2016
Tiny23:


The person below the person below the person below me is an oponu omo.

My tiny baby wink the only pleasure baby I know on nairaland smiley
Re: Am I Wrong? by mofeoluwadassah: 10:34pm On Dec 08, 2016
My sis,u dont av 2 tie urself don wit a guy u dont knw if u wil spend d rest of ur life wit,if he's acting somehow jxt let him b for nw
Re: Am I Wrong? by opsylojay(m): 10:53pm On Dec 08, 2016
karma
Re: Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 6:43am On Dec 09, 2016
Jarizod:


My tiny baby wink the only pleasure baby I know on nairaland smiley

is you okay?Is you?




Morning.
Re: Am I Wrong? by Nobody: 7:51am On Dec 09, 2016
Tiny23:


is you okay?Is you?




Morning.

Morning my darling.. I hope ur night was filled with the pleasure of a solid konnddo wink

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