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|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by linearity: 1:18pm On Dec 12, 2016|
The law recognizes both marriages, except that statutory laws that governs court marriages protects ladies more compare to traditional laws that are applicable to customary laws e.g. in cases of asset sharing.
Also, for men intending on living a polygamous life, it is advisable they take the customary marriage route.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by linearity: 1:23pm On Dec 12, 2016|
What do you mean? Traditional marriages are legal and recognized by the constitution. Except you intend saying that, the wife is afraid of her inlaws and wants the equality provided by statutory marriage.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Nobody: 1:59pm On Dec 12, 2016|
Sanchez01:Unnecessary is subjective.
Some people see Registry as unnecessary too, different stroke for different folks
Most churches and couples are forced to redecorate the church to their theme colours while the church would make certain requirements cum requests that are also stressful. Buying gifts just o appreciate the pastor, pack the choir's food, as well as ministers, print church programmes, church photography, etc are just some of the little ways the church drains one's purse.Most churches?
How many times have you been married? And where did you do your survey?
Some big orthodox churches wed 5-10 people every Saturday. I guess all the couples would decorate each pillar. Nice.
The church decoration team handles that Sir.
Church programmes? Not true, they request just one for their archive. Sometimes for the Pastors...
Photographs? Wouldn't you want your photographs? If you don't want, still not compulsory.
You may have to specify the requirements, so far you're throwing around facile assertions.
'Poor people' get married in churches every Sat/Sun, how exactly did they go past these expenses you keep talking of?
Reception is where you entertain your guests and appreciate them. The church wedding is inconsequential just as the certificates issued, but most people don't see this as the trend and competition for church weddings increase with each passing day.Still choice.
Reception is where the money goes down. Budgeting for 150-300 people isn't beans, and can never equal the amount spent in church (that's if you do 'spend').
Ideally, your traditional wedding first, then a registry to formalize the whole thing before the law, entertain your guests and go for your honeymoon if the money is there. You could choose to go for your Thanksgiving or church blessing afterwards. I keep telling people that there was no teaching of church wedding in the Scriptures but we act it out like our lives depend on it.There doesn't have to be teaching of it in the Bible.
Lots of youths fornicate with reckless abandon, then remember the Scriptures when issues like this arise.
If you're such an advocate of the Scriptures, I hope you follow it to the letter.
Another lie, most Pastors don't attend receptions 'cos some activities that take place there might be considered 'worldly' inclusive of the gbedus.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 2:09pm On Dec 12, 2016|
linearity:How is traditional marriage Legal?
whats the legal backing for it?
Even church wedding is not legal let alone traditional marriage,I take it you are not yet married right? some of us talking to you have been married for more than 10 years.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 2:11pm On Dec 12, 2016|
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by linearity: 2:40pm On Dec 12, 2016|
The Nigeria constitution recognizes three types of marriages:
1. Statutory Marriage aka Registry or Court Marriage.
2. Customary Marriage aka Traditional Marriage
3. Islamic Marriage
In all three marriages, one can apply and get marriage certificate from the registry.
All three marriages are legal in Nigeria and most Church marriages help couples to obtain marriage certificates. So churche weddings these days combine both, hence they are legal.
All the three types of marriages differs in application of certain laws e.g. Those in Statutory marriages cannot practice polygamy, but those in the other two can. Asset distribution and inheritance differs also among all three forms of marriages.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Sanchez01: 3:05pm On Dec 12, 2016|
[quote author=PaperLace post=51859839]Interesting response, I must admit. However, you missed a couple of things.
Unnecessary is subjective.Unnecessary is not subjective here, except you are a very religious person who would follow the doctrines of the church and pastor to the latter, while little or no attention is paid to the Scriptures. Again, dogma could be a reason here.
Some people see Registry as unnecessary too, different stroke for different folksThe registry could be unnecessary, but trust me, these same folks run helter skelter should an embassy ask them to provide evidences of their claims that they're indeed married.
Most churches?Okay, so I read this part and found myself laughing. You insisted the couples involved don't 'waste' money to decorate yet they could decorate the pillars. How many bundle of mixed fabrics would they need to achieve that? So the church gives the decorating team a percentage of the church's fund and ask them to willingly buy materials to design the church for the next person who would be getting married or are you referring to old fabrics in the church that are kept and stashed somewhere?
Church programmes? Not true, they request for just one for their archive. Sometimes for the Pastors...I totally disagree with you here. However, if you're right, then it's safe to say you're painting a picture of a 'sharp' wedding. Used programme booklets with different names on them, same old processional and recessional hymnals.Well, going by your post, this is the first time I would be reading of a wedding wherein the pastors alone would have the programme.
Photographs? Wouldn't you want your photographs? If you don't want, still not compulsory.Sure! It would be nice! But you know what else is not? Asking the entire church group to come out one after the other to take pictures with the newly weds. You most times see the list of people at the back of the programme going to 30, sometimes 40.
You may have to specify the requirements, so far you're throwing around facile assertions.How about a specified size of containers or coolers as they are called, indicating how the senior pastor's food and other things must be packed, followed by that of other ministers? Or you want to tell me you haven't witnessed or heard of this before?
'Poor people' get married in churches every Sat/Sun, how exactly did they go past these expenses you keep talking of?True this, they do, but question is 'where'? I stand to be corrected; only Catholic churches do this, perhaps I say theirs is the only one I'm aware of. I was born into the Anglican church, so I know what I'm saying. And the Catholic church does theirs under the guise of 'mass weddings'. Just recently, I heard an announcement over the radio, of a Catholic church calling for the 'poor' who have intentions ofgetting married but do not have money to fund it.
Reception is where the money goes down. Budgeting for 150-300 people isn't beans, and can never equal the amount spent in church (that's if you do 'spend').Just before you digress, I believe our bone of contention was the statutory against the church. Just as I mentioned, the reception is solely to entertain your guests. Receptions are no longer what they used to be. Beyond food and gifts, you tend to see crazy things such as drama presentations, talent hunts and all sorts these days. Regardless, reception is solely based on your strength and not even compulsory. I have seen weddings wherein reception took place at the traditional marriage premises and everyone went home afterwards.
There doesn't have to be teaching of it in the Bible.Unfortunately, you totally missed it here. You shouldn't have even delved into this area. What is the role of the church during weddings? To curb fornication, you think? If yes, have you ever asked why your church would conduct all forms of tests on a couple but would never conduct a virginity test on the woman? Does it not amuse you that pregnancy test would be conducted yet that of sex would just be verbal questioning and not virginity test? Does it not amuse you? How then is the church tackling this, if this is your excuse for church weddings?
Another lie, most Pastors don't attend receptions 'cos some activities that take place there might be considered 'worldly' inclusive of the gbedus.Funny! Do you think this is the reason? Partially, but not the main thing. Like i earlier mentioned, a typical Nigerian pastor would have been sorted in the church. The foods are neatly packed and tucked in the boot of his car before everyone departs. He has done his job and he has been given his food. Attending the reception would only mean he is a glutton.
Have you ever asked yourself the importance of church's wedding? These are copied Western cultures that are now more adopted and adapted far more than Queen Victoria in 1840.
You might be married in the church but know that your marriage is not legal and legally recognized if it is not backed up by the law. Let there be a million parental consent, it still does not mean it is legally recognized.
Traditional Marriage: This is indication that you have all traditional rites of a woman's family and you're considered to be man and wife according to tradition and families. It does not cover the law. Parental consent equals God's blessings. (Read Genesis 24)
Court or Statutory Marriage: This only indicates that you're legally recognized by the law. For someone who skips the traditional marriage for this, it is said that such a man stole a woman and did not do the right thing.
Church or White Wedding: I guess we should say it indicates that one is married before the church, pastor or something
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Nobody: 3:11pm On Dec 12, 2016|
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|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by omololu2020(m): 3:17pm On Dec 12, 2016|
erico2k2:what will i lose?
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by omololu2020(m): 3:18pm On Dec 12, 2016|
miqos02:you can marry another lady in another church
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Maxvasia(m): 3:30pm On Dec 12, 2016|
erico2k2:Lol. Am sure u are just a boy. You will learn. Surely u will. What am not sure of is if u will survive the experience. All the best. And for ur info, i carry a diplomatic passport for the next 10years at least. So i can go anywer in this world just with the snap of my finger. Just so u know. Having said that, i would love to ask.......Any other boring, inexperienced person on this thread lacking in correct self assessment wanna quote me again and show himself?
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Maxvasia(m): 3:34pm On Dec 12, 2016|
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by obidevine(m): 5:34pm On Dec 12, 2016|
I just had my court wedding on the 10th of december at Ikoyi registry, I know what I'm saying
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by duperola(f): 8:03pm On Dec 12, 2016|
obidevine:u took ur family there coz that was what u wanted.what d law states is 2 witnesses as long as they r adults.i still attended one this last sat.the groom's friend was the one that signed for him.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by gfullmoon(m): 8:22pm On Dec 12, 2016|
You are very right, but morally the man is still bound to alimony. But any way most at times, in law emotion and morality are most not admitted but the fact only as justice is blind.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 9:41pm On Dec 12, 2016|
linearity:You failed to answer my question or you decided to ignore it, I asked a very simple question really simple.I said your marriage is only Legal when you sign the Marriage register at the registry. There.There was a reason I made that comment.I do know the various marriage i n Nigeria and which are recognized by law.If you do not get a marriage certificate from the state your marriage is not legal.
I think @ sanchez101 gave a complete answer.plz read
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 9:57pm On Dec 12, 2016|
Maxvasia:well you are entittled to ur opinion, calling me a boy hmm I should take that as a compliment cos wen yu get to my age you might not be lucky to be called a boy, next time look up people stop making assumptions
Diplomatic passport yeah, ahaha Nothing we nor go see for nairaland.
FYI I have lived abroad 17 yrs plus so Diplomatic passport means nothing to me really
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 9:58pm On Dec 12, 2016|
omololu2020:your family which is meant to be the very fabric of our society.If that do not worry you then I dnt know.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Maxvasia(m): 6:26am On Dec 13, 2016|
erico2k2:Lol....i dnt intend trading words with u anyway. But really, when one puts all cards on the table, u will finally realise that there are so many things the society has tied us to in the past that are actually doing more harm than good. Think about it objectively. Going tru the registry is, in the end, harmful to the man but beneficial to the woman. A lot of people have been there and back while some never returned. I may be the son of a Diplomat but that does not prevent me from sharing experiences with those who are open to learning new things. Good morning
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by erico2k2(m): 9:13am On Dec 13, 2016|
Maxvasia:Oga stop this diplomat thing who diplomat epp ?
I'm not new to passports .
Diplomatic passport do t get issued to children of diplomats only the diplomats . Thier wife and kids are subject to immigration controls you can chk the UK website to this effect mayB you think you talking to one of them freshers .
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by ariesbull: 2:28pm On Dec 13, 2016|
You dey mind am
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by ariesbull: 2:32pm On Dec 13, 2016|
The benefits of a Marriage Certificate are
A marriage certificate is extremely helpful in obtaining visas for both husband and wife. Foreign embassies situated in India and also foreign countries that are outside India do not recognize traditional marriages. To prove the matrimony in India’s foreign embassies as well as in countries outside India one needs to get the certificate of Marriage Registration. When applying for partner’s VISA, foreign embassies demand a certificate of Marriage Registration and hence, when a wife and husband would like to travel abroad using a spouse visa they must have a certificate of Hindu marriage registration.
A marriage certificate is a document that provides valuable proof of matrimony. When an unpleasant situation such as a dispute (might be criminal or civil) takes place between husband and wife whether it is related to dowry, separation, maintenance or other issues. A certificate of marriage registration safeguards against denunciation of the wedding by any one spouse.
A certificate of marriage registration enables a spouse in claiming life insurance return or bank deposits in case of demise of the Insurer or depositor without any nominee.
Among married women particularly, a marriage certificate provides self confidence and social security.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by byvan03: 2:43pm On Dec 13, 2016|
No you don't, you need no relatives.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by byvan03: 2:45pm On Dec 13, 2016|
No you don't, relatives presence are not compulsory in a any way.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by obidevine(m): 10:16pm On Dec 13, 2016|
You seem like an argumentative fellow, I'm telling you that they advised us to come with a blood relative as witness, they hold counseling / oath taking every Tuesday at Ikoyi Registry and it was at the oath taking they gave us this advice. I'm really not here to argue.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by byvan03: 10:21pm On Dec 13, 2016|
...And am telling you that whether you brought your relatives or not, the wedding holds accordingly. Be open to new information that you don't know to avoid intellectual retardation. No one is arguing with you .
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by Viking007(m): 8:56am On May 03, 2017|
ariesbull:This is cool.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by ariesbull: 12:25pm On May 04, 2017|
Thats what I did, did not spend up to 30k , will you say I did not marry? I am a man that hates crowd and wify understood it
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by ariesbull: 12:26pm On May 04, 2017|
Dont mind him...what is just needed is witness not relative
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by ABSTRUSE: 10:01pm On Apr 13|
There are just too many uninformed men on this thread. See how they are spitting words ignorantly.
|Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Court Marriage by legendsilver(m): 5:01am On May 14|
Court marriage is for the woman
The man loses totally
If I marry you, I marry you for better for worse. All your life will be fun cus I will love you till the end of days
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